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is he really boyfriend material?
ok I know i've promised my bf that id never breack up with him, but i need to know, IS he boyfriend material? It seems that EVERY two days, he's allways saying...well you don't need me, and i don't think i can do this anymore.then i remind him that he promised that hed never break up with me. so he stays with me. Well, i'm done with that. Another thing is, yesterday, he compleatly cutt me off. He icnored me, never returned my call, and never even botherd to freakin give a call. NOw in the mean time, my feelings for this one guy are growing stronger, and i know he likes me, but a part of me dosn't wanna let my bf go. So is my bf exactlly bf matereial? Or am I the crazy one here?Cause i just know as his over a year gf, I deserve to have my hand held-huged-and NOT shod off every five mins. Also a call every now and the, and an email, or note when he says he'll write me, and NOT to be yelled at when i ask about it. I'm open to any thoughts. thanks
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If he's treating you like that then most likely he wants some space. You probably deserve to be treated better than that, so I say get out of it now before you fall deeper for your boyfriend. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and three months and kind of feel the same way every once in a while.
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People make all sorts of well-meaning promises, and there's a slight hitch with that. When you promised your boyfriend you'd never break up with him, it was a year ago. People grow older and apart - or older and closer! - but there's no actual way to predict the future.
If you are not feeling cared for or respected, I would suggest you've got some thinking to do. maybe have a thought about what you really want from a relationship. Communication, fun, honesty, trust, and love might be a few things. If you don't feel happy anymore, a promise you made ages ago shouldn't keep you with someone you are not happy with.
It can be hard to make decisions about relationships, particularly when it may mean you have to hurt someone you care about. It's also very awkward! Better to sort out your own mind sooner rather than later, because these things inevitably grow more confusing and painful with time.
I wish you the best.
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Now, keep in mind that this is what i think, you've got to make the decision in the end.
Ask him whether he wants to continue the realtionship, and from the sound of it, he doesn't. Relationships are very difficult to keep going because the couple have to the be dedicated to it and it may be that he doesn't feel ready for this yet.
If he doesn't want to continue it, break up with him. BUT wait for a while because if you go straight to the other guy, it may hurt his feelings even more because he deosn't want to break up anymore that you do, but he doesn't feel ready for this yet.
I hope this helped,
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It sounds like your boyfriend doesn't appreciate and respect you very much. I just got out of a relationship that went on for a year and fell in love. But i think that love went away over a couple of months and we just wanted to hang onto it cause we kept telling ourselves that we couldn't just give up after all this time. So, my advice is to, if he keeps on acting like this, to break it off. It sounds like it's time.
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