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i've liked this guy since i was in seventh grade & i'm a sophomore in highschool now; he's a bit older than me and my parents would kill me if they knew i was hanging out with him.
but i'd been friends with him since i was in 4th grade, and we've been keeping in touch since then.
so we hung out in secret twice, after the 2nd time he asked if i wanted to hook up with him... of course i said yes.
so afew weeks ago, he picked me up from a friend's house and i FINALLY hooked up with him, after all these years of liking him so so so much. he's all i would talk about, think about, and he was just my world. when he dropped me off we even kissed goodbye, too. afterward he said he really enjoyed it and was really glad it wasnt awkward. that just made me insanely happy right?
well after that, he stopped talking to me. we'd make small talk here and there, but nothing's been the same... he doesnt call me sweetheart or anything anymore:(
i even asked him if something was wrong and he totally denied it too. he said stuff like "i've been busy with school and work and everything" and that kind of thing. and after a bunch of one worded responses, he'd ignore me completely, and days would go by with no word from him
(sorry this is so long)
i've been a little stalkerish and he's been going about his normal life, which includes ignoring me now. what should i do? he's literally breaking my heart, i can't get over him i just see him as the perfect guy for me. . . and i'm not interested in anyone else at all. PLEASE help me i'm so sick of feeling depressed all the time.

Guys are pretty notorious for doing this. I just went through this three weeks ago with the guy I liked for three years. I would say just try to not talk to him & give him a little space for a few days, then try calling him again and see if he acts any different. I know its hard but try that & see what happens. I hope he stops ignoring you. I'm not really sure what else to tell you though, since I'm going through the same thing. Sorry I can't be much help, but I hope I helped a little.

I just recently told my guy friend (who is now my boyfriend) that I have feelings for him. So, we decided to be together and there's a huge problem.

This all happened at worse time. He joined the Marines and will be leaving shortly after Thanksgiving. So everything happened pretty darn late. The thing is that I'm not sure if I want to be a military girlfriend or wife. I'm great at doing long distance, but I'm not sure if I'll be great at this. We are both 17 and I just feel so young for this. But I admit my feelings are very strong for him.

I would never convince someone not to follow their dreams, so that's way out. I guess what I'm asking is what to expect when your boyfriend is gone for so long?

Any advice or stories would help.

I'm in the very same situation as you, so don't feel bad. The guy I was seeing just went in the Army in September. We were never boyfriend/girlfriend or anything, but I have really strong feelings for him & I think he likes me.
Anyways, I can tell you that it's going to be hard. You will probably do a lot of crying. It might not really hit you that he's leaving until a few days before. It didn't hit me until the night before. :/
He's going to basic training, right? I'd imagine so, lol. But don't expect to really hear anything from him from about a month. They get one short phone call every Sunday. (That's for the Army anyways, not sure about the Marines, but I think it might be the same.) He can write, but he won't have much time to write while he's there. Trust me, from what my guy told me they get like 2 minutes to eat a full course meal, and they have to wake up at 4 in the morning. I didn't get a letter from my guy until almost a month after he left. But just because he might never call or write, doesn't mean he's not missing you or thinking about you :) Make sure you give him your address and number before he leaves or you won't get to talk to him at all.
Other than that, all I can really say is just bear with him & be there for him. He's more than likely going through the same thing because a lot is about to change for him. He'll be someone totally different where he doesn't know anyone, away from everyone & everything he knows. He won't get to see home for months, depending on what's he's going to do. And if the whole war thing is going on when he gets back, there is a good chance he might be deployed overseas. :/ They told my guy there was an 15% he was NOT going overseas. So yeah, I'd say just stay for him a little while, until you know if you can handle it or not, then make your decision. If you two are meant to be then everything will work its way out. I hope I helped some! :)

hey im a girl
i just wnana kno
why guys do this

1:they like ignore you for a day and then the next they start talkin to you

2:they are so confusin sometiems uthink they like you beccacuse of thyre smile or something
and you neverrealy now
why do they give mixed signals??

Haha
thats all really
:P thanks
PEACE

Ha, I just answered a question like this. But I found this information on a website a while back, and it explains why guys do that whole ignoring you, then not thing.

"Like a rubber band, some men can pull away periodically to remain close to their partners. Most men go through a cycle of getting close, pulling away, and getting close again. This is like a very hungry person eating a large meal and feeling very satisfied and then not focusing on food for a while until they are hungry again. Once a man satisfies his need for closeness, he turns his attention to work or other interests until he feels the need to reconnect. Like a stretched rubber band, he will automatically spring back after he has taken the time to pull away.

This switching between needing intimacy and independence is instinctual for some men and it can be confusing and painful to a woman. It’s important to learn if it’s a reflection of how the man feels about the relationship or his partner, or has he simply had his fill and is instinctively reaching out to satisfy other goals/ needs in his life.

Typically, once a man has fully experienced feeling independent from his partner, he will instantly become aware of his need for love and intimacy and automatically spring back to the relationship. If he is reacting to this natural process he will pick up the relationship at whatever level of intimacy he left it when he stretched away. It is important to determine if this behavior is normal or is he pulling away for other reasons.

This common and normal behavioral pattern can cause enormous difficulties in a relationship, especially if the woman does not understand why her partner is pulling away. Typically it can cause a woman to worry about the security of her relationship and it can cause men to wonder why she doubts their relationship. All around, if the rubber band theory is not clearly understood, and if a woman does not have helpful secondary support in her life, this issue can cause countless hours of unnecessary worry and turmoil."

How come guys go through spells where they wont talk to you for a week or 2 but then when they do they are like I am tired or just busy? Do they like you or are they trying to ignore you?

Read this. I found it on a website a few months back, but it explains why guys do that. You'll understand a little better. :)

"Like a rubber band, some men can pull away periodically to remain close to their partners. Most men go through a cycle of getting close, pulling away, and getting close again. This is like a very hungry person eating a large meal and feeling very satisfied and then not focusing on food for a while until they are hungry again. Once a man satisfies his need for closeness, he turns his attention to work or other interests until he feels the need to reconnect. Like a stretched rubber band, he will automatically spring back after he has taken the time to pull away.

This switching between needing intimacy and independence is instinctual for some men and it can be confusing and painful to a woman. It’s important to learn if it’s a reflection of how the man feels about the relationship or his partner, or has he simply had his fill and is instinctively reaching out to satisfy other goals/ needs in his life.

Typically, once a man has fully experienced feeling independent from his partner, he will instantly become aware of his need for love and intimacy and automatically spring back to the relationship. If he is reacting to this natural process he will pick up the relationship at whatever level of intimacy he left it when he stretched away. It is important to determine if this behavior is normal or is he pulling away for other reasons.

This common and normal behavioral pattern can cause enormous difficulties in a relationship, especially if the woman does not understand why her partner is pulling away. Typically it can cause a woman to worry about the security of her relationship and it can cause men to wonder why she doubts their relationship. All around, if the rubber band theory is not clearly understood, and if a woman does not have helpful secondary support in her life, this issue can cause countless hours of unnecessary worry and turmoil. "

if your boyfriend calls you at least once a day but then he doesnt does he not like you anymore

It doesn't necessarily mean that.. maybe he's been real busy with stuff, or maybe he ran out of minutes (if he has a prepaid phone) or maybe went over his minutes and isn't able to get in touch with you. Don't worry though, I'm sure he'll call soon.

What are some major turn ons for guys? Are there any special things i should do/try while kissing? or aaanthing? I want to blow my boyfriend awayy.

kiss his neck, lightly rub his stomach or sides.. those are just a few i can think of lol

15/f
Ok... this really is for guys only but if girls want to give an opinion. I just have a question... why do guys not like me. I mean... every girl in my class that is so annoying and so holding a leash on their boyfriends has a boyfriend but not me. And you're probably thinking that i just want to go out because everyone else is. Um... no. I just want that special relationship with the right guy is that too much to ask? Guys just don't like me for some reason, though. I'm not that bad looking.. im not that skinny but not that huge. I have an awesome let loose personality. I'm into stuff like action, comedy, a few chick flick but it's limited... and I love going to games and stuff... idk.. why am i still single?

I'm sure you'll get a boyfriend one day. It takes time. I always thought I'd never get a boyfriend because it seemed like no guys liked me or anything.. then in November my boyfriend asked me out. I was wondering if I was dreaming because I thought no one would ever ask me out. lol. But you'll get one someday. =)

okay my friend got fingured by her boyfriend. shes just about 2 weeks late for her period, and she keeps asking me if that could have affected her period track. she keeps thinking shes pregant, but i know that cant be the case. can someone finguring you cause you to skip a period? or any thing? please post and fast with advice!!

Well, her thinking she's pregnant is affecting her period somewhat. It causes stress which delays your period. Tell her not to worry & stress about it. If she's really worried tell her to take a pregnancy test.

I'm 14, soon to be 15. He just turned 19. He's so sweet and calls me baby/beautiful/sweetheart. All that stuff. I like him alot, and he likes me too. We've hooked up }not sex{ and I told my close cousins. They all make fun of me now saying that he's 19 and stuff like that. It really pisses me off because they don't know him. He's amazing and he likes me too. We live 2 hours apart, but I see him when I go up to my cottage. Which is alot. I really like him and I want it too work and so does he. But I want my cousins off my case. Should I tell them that I broke up with him??

IF you have any other advice about my situation I would greatly appreciate anything you have to offer.

Thank you soo much.

Love,
- Ashley

19 is kinda old, but I can't say much cause I'm in sort of the same situation so yeah I see where you're coming from. Just tell your cousins to back off. He may be older & age shouldn't matter all that much. Just make sure not to do anything with him that's bad (like sex) because it's illegal since you're underage & you don't want him thrown in jail.

I am 13 and a girl who has never had a boyfriend and I think think this is my chance.There is this boy who has gone to mostly every school I have gone to(were in the same grade).But I think he likes me.Its like he has been drooping clues like he stares at me all the time with this serious look on his face,he saved me one time(if thats what you wanna call it)because I was walking and I wasn`t waching where I was going so I was about to bump into the wall then he said somthing to me then that made me look up,and his friend heeps on looking at me.So how do I figure out if he likes me without talking to him and can you give me information on how to tell if a boy likes you.

This is kind of hard to answer, lol. I'm not gonna say he does, but I'm not gonna say he doesn't. It differs with guys most of the time. Like there's been two guys I thought liked me and I had friends ask them about me and they both just liked me as a friend. So I can't really tell you if he does or not because guys confuse me. Sorry I didn't give the best advice for this question. =/ lol.

Ok, i am in 8th grade and i am a 13 year opld female (just so oyu know the setting) well anyways my problem is that i have never ever ever in my life had a boyfriend. i know you might be sayi wow big deal, but it is. like almost everyone i know has had/haves 1. i feel weid when people go, oh who is you b/f, or who have you gone out with. idk whatto do. i hate feeling this way, is it wrong that i have never had a b/f, nad what can i do to make me feel better bout my self (qith out actually getting a b/f, cuz dont see that happeneing in the near future.

ps: i rate !!!

I know how you feel. I'm almost 16 and have never had a boyfriend. Heck, I know someone who's 18 and never had a boyfriend lol. I put myself down alot saying I'm never gonna have a boyfriend ever & yeah that's how you'll feel, but I tell myself I will eventually even if I don't feel like I will. It might not happen in the near future but you have plenty of time, lol.

I'm 14 and I've never had a boyfriend. Usually it doesn't really bother me but I've seen so many couples who are younger than me and it makes me feel so sad and worthless. I'm ugly and shy and boring so I suppose no boy will ever want to go out with me, and even if a miracle happened and I did get one, I wouldn't really know what to do or what to say =\ People think I'm weird because I've never kissed a boy or even been out with one, I feel so different and frigid =[ I guess I was made to be single but I just want to know what it feels like to be loved.. How am I ever gonna get a boyfriend when I look like I do and I'm as shy as I am? I like this boy at school but he doesn't really like my friends because they're so immature, so he most likely thinks I'm like them and hates me too - I'm not as immature as them though.. Please help? Thanks xx

Don't feel so bad, I'm almost 16 and I've never had a boyfriend or been kissed either. There's been guys that have liked me or whatever but they never asked me out. But don't put yourself down! I feel like I'm ugly at times, and I'm pretty shy too - I hate doing projects and stuff in front of the class, but if I'm around my friends I talk to them and all. I feel the same way as you alot, even if a miracle happened I still wouldn't have a boyfriend.

Since there's a guy you like, why don't you hang out with him and show him you aren't immature like your friends are? He might just end up liking you. This boy that I like just started talking to me recently and we're getting along pretty good. It's like we've been friends the 8 months we've known of each other, lol. So who knows, maybe showing him the real you will get you a boyfriend? =) I hope things get better for you!

i'm forteen and i have never really had as serious boyfrined. Is there something special to look for in a guy? How do i know if hes the right one??? help please

Aww, don't feel bad. I'm almost sixteen and I've never had a boyfriend at all. But I don't think there's really something special to look for in a guy. All girls have different things they look for. I don't even really know what I look for, lol. And I guess when you find the right guy you just know somehow... like I said I wouldn't really know. But good look in finding a good boyfriend. =)

I'm 14/f. I've liked this guy Mark for a really long time. I know that he doesn't like me because he told me who he does like. One of my friends has also seen him with this other girl, they were going out to dinner together. I really want to get over him and move on to other guys that are available but every time i see him I start to like him so much all over again. We're friends and I want us to stay friends but how do I stop liking him. I know he's unavailable, but I can't stop myself. How do I get over him?

I used to have a crush on a Mark as well. =P Anyways, the way I got over him was socalizing with other guys. It may not work immediately since it takes time to get over them, but that's how I got over him. Try reminding yourself you can't have him as of now since he's taken. Also try thinking "I'm over him now" or "I've moved on, and I can't think about him anymore." It'll be hard, but you'll get over one way or another. =)

what do i do? my girlfriends's best friend hates me (or so i think)... (14/m) any advice is good, thank you

Try talking to your girlfriend and find out why she doesn't like you. She might can tell you what it is and you can fix whatever your doing wrong.

Hey, Well there is this guy I USED to like..(Well..I actually still do) but I found out from my best friend who is friends' with the guy I like said that he was talkin' crap about me ... Well I got some1 thats spose to beat him up but he actually beat up 1 of his friends..Well I got news from this 1 guy that talked to they guy I like and he told me that (the boi i like said this)... "Did crystal* say that she was gonna get a gun and shoot me? Well tell her this, Tell her I said that I will get a gun , load it for her then give it to her and see what she'll do with it.." I never said anything bout a gun or shooting anybody!Can you plz help me!
Another thing, I'm really confused alot of my friends says that he likes me .. .but I dunno now I'm not so sure.. I found out he was talking bout me 2 weeks after school started... and well I dont talk to him that much... Alot of times he wanted to talk to me but I chickened out -n- went home... Can u plz help me?
This really scares me!

If you can, try talking to him and telling him that you never said anything about shooting him. If you can't do that, ask someone that's friends with him to tell him that. And try not to chicken out the next time he wants to talk to you. He might be trying to be friends or something.

My birthday is on Nov. 2nd. and my b/f's b-day is on Nov. 4th. so should we celebrate it on Nov. 3rd? Or have 2 seperate celebrations? What would you do?

I think you should have it on the third. =) Or maybe the 5th so it can be afterwards.

im thinkin i want a guy thats a year or two older than i am because that way hes not so immature and hopefully not as prude... but then again.. i dont wanna be made fun of or called a whore for the stupid things ppl will assume.. so i guess i could go for a guy my age.. but isnt it more important what i want then what my friends think... please help! i rate well! x0x0x ~*a*M*y~

Yeah, it's more important what you want than your friends. You shouldn't let them control what you want. And why would you be called a whore? I know a bunch of couples who have about 1 - 3 years between them and their not called whores. But yeah, people will assume because their nosy and all. lol.

ive been goin out with a guy 4 about a month, and we are really boring lol... like the only staes weve ever been on have been 2 the movies.. one time we went out 4 ice cream, but it feels like its the same old same old.. any casual dates that most regular suburbs have that dont cost way 2 much? thx guys mE

If there are any, go to a bowling alley, go ice skating or roller skating, resturants, & places like that.

my ex... i miss him... even tho he was such a big jerk... i need tips on getting over him... any ideas? things to do? ANYTHING. please and thank you. so much. bye all!

It'll take some time. But you can hang out with your friends and do things to take your mind off of him. =)

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