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we just hooked up and now he's not talking to me
i've liked this guy since i was in seventh grade & i'm a sophomore in highschool now; he's a bit older than me and my parents would kill me if they knew i was hanging out with him.
but i'd been friends with him since i was in 4th grade, and we've been keeping in touch since then.
so we hung out in secret twice, after the 2nd time he asked if i wanted to hook up with him... of course i said yes.
so afew weeks ago, he picked me up from a friend's house and i FINALLY hooked up with him, after all these years of liking him so so so much. he's all i would talk about, think about, and he was just my world. when he dropped me off we even kissed goodbye, too. afterward he said he really enjoyed it and was really glad it wasnt awkward. that just made me insanely happy right?
well after that, he stopped talking to me. we'd make small talk here and there, but nothing's been the same... he doesnt call me sweetheart or anything anymore:(
i even asked him if something was wrong and he totally denied it too. he said stuff like "i've been busy with school and work and everything" and that kind of thing. and after a bunch of one worded responses, he'd ignore me completely, and days would go by with no word from him
(sorry this is so long)
i've been a little stalkerish and he's been going about his normal life, which includes ignoring me now. what should i do? he's literally breaking my heart, i can't get over him i just see him as the perfect guy for me. . . and i'm not interested in anyone else at all. PLEASE help me i'm so sick of feeling depressed all the time.
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Guys are pretty notorious for doing this. I just went through this three weeks ago with the guy I liked for three years. I would say just try to not talk to him & give him a little space for a few days, then try calling him again and see if he acts any different. I know its hard but try that & see what happens. I hope he stops ignoring you. I'm not really sure what else to tell you though, since I'm going through the same thing. Sorry I can't be much help, but I hope I helped a little.
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I have to say that I completely agree with the person before me, and to top it off... I too have had this experience. I dates a guy for almost 8 years off and on... and finally... 8 years later... we had sex. And now... he goes WEEKS without even talking to me, and now its going on almost 3 weeks.
He is a marine, and he is TRULY busy... but make no mistake... if he wanted to make time for me, he could. Even if it is just a little.
Same goes for this guy. Im sorry to say.
Your best bet is to try to move on, hun. Im not saying its going to easy, cause.... its NOT. Trust me, I have been there. But, it gets easier with him and its their loss really.
No worries... everything will turn out ok, hun. I promise. Your still young. Live your life, and move on.
Message me if you need anything else. Best of luck!
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It does sound like you were used. He wasn't too busy to hang out with you before you hooked up. All the mystery is gone. Frankly, in his opinion you have nothing left to offer him. With guys, you should only give a little taste at a time. Your best bet is to move on. I don't mean to sound so harsh so I do apologize. But let's say he just wanted sex with you. He's had it. Now, he will just look to have it with someone else. If he does want love, he will have no respect for you. He will think you are easy and you do this with all guys. Leave him alone. Give him space. Perhaps he will come around. If he does, he may be doing it just to get laid. I just don't see his opinion of you ever changing. As a guy, after you've had sex with a girl, it's kind of like flipping through the tv channels and seeing a movie you've already watched. Guys will just go to a new one. I'm sorry you had to learn this this way but it is a good learning experience.
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Don't give it up so easily.
He never really liked you back, but he was perfectly willing to use you.
Stay away from him. Give it time. There is no fixing this, he is not the guy you thought he was and he is obviously not interested in you. If you keep pursuing him you're only going to postpone the time when you actually have to accept this and get over it.
In the future, make a guy work a little for it. Know that he cares about you before you have sex with him or anything like that rather than having sex and hoping that he likes you after.
"Hooking up" is a terrible idea. Don't do it anymore. Of course he was glad to hook up with you. He got laid. But thats all it was to him.
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