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"Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let the pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place."
I'm an optimist. I can find the beauty in anything. I'm creative. I love spontaneity, peace, & parties. I'm the farthest thing from shy. There's not one person on this earth that I don't care about. I like deep conversations, change, & random acts of kindness. Every emotion I feel is ten times as strong as yours. I have alot of empathy for other people. I'm real open minded & liberal. All I want to do is make at least one person's life a little easier. :D
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I've known this guy for about two weeks or so, and recently we've been talking a bit more than we normally do. Well, he told me I was boring. Yes, it's offensive to a point, but I'm afraid that I may come across as boring. When I first start talking to a person I'm not totally comfortable, so I can't think of anything to say, but I don't want to bore him away before I get a chance to become comfortable.
When I'm with my friends I can be very talkative, but I'm just awful at coming up with things to talk about. My conversations always involve a lot of awkward silences. It's awful. =(
Any advice on what to say/do or conversation starters, etc.?
Dude, I never run out of things to talk about. I can start up a conversation with anyone about anything. You just gotta learn to think less and say more. :D Or maybe I'm just impulsive. That's probably it, but anyway.
Things to talk about:
-How you're somewhat shy.
-How you start talking more once you get to know someone better.
-Your taste in music, his taste in music.
-Favorite songs, favorite bands.
-Your day, his day.
-Your weekend, his weekend.
-School, teachers, work.
-Your opinion on drugs, alcohol, etc.
-Favorite movies, new movies that are out.
-Mutual friends, mutual enemies.
-Your family, his family.
-Your problems, his problems.
-Talk about hanging out.
-Volunteering, clubs, sports.
-Finals.
-What you like to do, what he likes to do.
-What you've gone through, what he's gone through.
-What you're doing for Christmas break, what he's doing for christmas break.
You've just gotta be opinionated. Don't worry if he thinks you're "weird." He won't, it shows confidence. Just be open. It won't be viewed as weird. It'll just be thought of as friendly. :D
Good luck! Hope I helped!
K im really confused and need like serious help so here goes
k so i saw this guy in the 8th grade im now in the 11th grade and ever since i saw him and talked to him maybe a few times in grade 9 but only cuz he was sitting beside me in english and we wuld jus causually talk and well i cant stop thinking about him i mean ever since grade 8 i cant think of any other guy then him i dont know why im not even close to him or know him or really talk to him and now i dont talk to him at all because i dont go to his school anymore because i moved after grade 9 to a new skool only about a half hour away from my old school and i still cant stop thinking about him i feel like im going crazy i dont know why i want to get to know him and hang out with him and i really feel crazy because i really dont think theres a such thing as love at first site and honestly i dont think he wuld be interested im not that pretty and ya but hes tall and im tall and my friends go to the same skool as him and a few know him well and stuff and the wierdist thing is he has the same last name as my brothers first name which i dont think means anything and i know this all seems confusing and crazy and makes probably no sense at all but i need help wuts going on why cant i get him out of my head plzz help me or i seriously think im gonna go crazy
Sounds like you like him. (:
Ask for his number and just start casually texting him or add him on facebook/myspace.
Go run, walk, listen to music, etc. Do something to take your mind off him for now.
Relaaax, girl. :D
Good luck!
There's this cute guy I like. The thing is, we're not that close yet. Do you think I should add him on Facebook already or just wait for him to do it or until we're close?
xoxo
Add him.
What's the worst that could happen? Nothing. :D
ok. so i've been with my girlfriend for a very long time now and everything has been to good to be true up until recently. about 2 months ago she cheated on me while she was drunk and i was out of town. i caught her the next day when i saw the hickey on her neck. now im constantly thinking about that and i love her to much to end it. (blah blah blah, theres plenty of other fish in the sea, dont even tell me that im tired of hearing it". but today i've also come to realize that he may have given her an std which i too now have i think.... and still i love her to much to break up with her. so i just want to know. does anyone else think im being a dumbass about it all? you can be honest. i would love to hear it.. it would actually make me feel better to know that we love each other to much and even though she genuinely regrets it and is sorry for ever being stupid enough to risk our relationship, im still being stupid with my decision about to stay with her.
First off, go to the doctor if you think you have an STD. Seriously.
You don't sound like a pushover. You sound like a good guy. Please don't end up like the person below me, like dictating who she can and can't hang out/talk to. That's ridiculous.
Everyone deserves a second chance in my opinion, no matter what they've done or who they've hurt.
When you're drunk, your judgement is affected. She wasn't thinking clearly. That's an excuse, but it's a good one. If she regrets it, don't hold it against her. She knows she messed up and I'm betting she would give anything to take it all back. She's probably walking on eggshells anytime she's around you. Forgive her, but don't forget.
You said it yourself; everything's been great up until now. Why throw it all away over one mistake?
i have been dating my beu for a year and a month and was wondering what i can do to surprise him and rekindle our romance a little?
like sexy ideas for us
and nice gifts or something?
or a good movie we can watch that will make us look at eachother and realise how in love we are? like the notebook but weve seen that a lot so any others? lol
A promise ring! :D
Movies:
A WALK TO REMEMBER!
Ps I love you.
Best movies ever.
my bf and i just started going out. his so cuute and sweet buut not really a good kisser like he opens his mouth too much and too wide and pretty much sticks his whole tounge in my mouth. what should i doooo? oohhh and i want to ask him to the christmas dance...its a turn around dance. i want it to be really cuute. any ideas?? thanks. :] 17/f
Well, there's nothin' you can do about the kissing thing unless you just flat out tell him. I really doubt you'd wanna do that though.
As for asking him out, I had a friend(it was a guy asking a girl, but still) who did this & it was SO cute:
Hopefully he has a car or this is gonna be no help whatsoever. But go out and buy a TON of hershey's kisses and leave a trail going from his door to his car. Get one of those window markers & write "Now that I've kissed the ground you walk on, will you go to the dance with me?" on his car window. OR spend a ton of time spelling it out in hersheys. Then get a friend or call him yourself & tell him to look out his front door & follow the trail.
If your scared of him coming outside & seeing you, just get some friends to go to his house & distract him for you. That's what the person I know did & it worked out so good.
Haha, good luck!
Hi im 18 and im a guy who just recently asked a girl out who i was told likes me, which turns out to be evident anyways. Shes younger than me (16) but all day at school she was making alot of contact and such, and at the end of the day i gave her a long hug and she seemed very much like she was leaning toward giving me a kiss. BUT me of course being not sure if that's what she really wanted, (especially in front of like all of the middle schoolers and our grades....) i sorta slowly backed away and said see you tomorrow...
If anyone has any insight on maybe what she would be thinking right now cause i cant really go back and change that but was that a mistake???
Aw, haha.
She probably just wanted to make sure you were okay with it & expected you to meet her halfway, ya know? You could just go for it & kiss her tomorrow. If she acts awkward, then just apologize. It should be perfectly fine anyway; ya'll are going out afterall.
Like you said, you can't go back and change it though. Good luck :D
So, i'm 15 and female. My boyfriend for two months who I'm really starting to develop strong feelings for asked me to give him oral the other night. See, now I'm not prude okay? It's true I've never done that before, but I think it's normal to be nervous about EVERYTHING the first time. Hell, I was nervous the first time i got fingered! I just really don't like the idea of putting a guys penis into my mouth. Like common, thats kind of gross...for all you girls out there thats done it, is it that bad? Also, I don't want to be used by this guy! Like, if I'm open to exploring new things because he wants to, I don't want it to be a situation where we do this stuff and hes bored & leaves, you know? Anyways, do you think I should give in and just try giving him a blow job? There's a first for everything...or shoould i like stand my ground bc its kinda disqusting? hahaha let me know, kthanks, much love
You're right; it's normal to be nervous about everything the first time. Your boyfriend should understand that.
Tell him what you just said. You don't want to be used. You don't want him to get bored and leave you. Tell him those exact words. Well, replace you with I, but you get what I mean. Don't overthink this or you'll back out, but don't do anything you KNOW you don't feel comfortable doing.
I know this might sound super gay, but everytime I'm doubting making some decision, I think of this quote:
"I’ve been thinking a lot lately about taking chances, and how it’s really just about overcoming your fears. Because the truth is, every time you take a big risk in your life, no matter how it ends up, you’re always glad you took it." -- Scrubs
Try it. What's the worst that can happen? Haha, I mean you can just stop if you realize you don't wanna do it. Relaaaax. :)
im 16 boy
i have REALLY bad luck with girls. i dunno if its bad luck, or if im doing somethign wrong. its not thatim ugly or fat. im 5'7, medium build, asian. whatever. but i always end up freaking girls out by the stupid things that i say. they said that i go on too fast, and some say too slow. so i tried middle, BUT THAT DOESNT WORK EITHER!
ughhh this is soooo confusing and i feel like giving up on girls forever. help me
please dont give me an obvious asnwer. i want details, long explanations
Um, girls are complicated. I would know.
If you start being obvious about liking us way too soon, we freak out. It takes me a while to start liking a guy, no idea about most girls though. Going too slow just pisses us off, cause it's like.. we get it already, c'mon. Haha, the middle's fine. You just have to find the right girl, that's all.
I don't really get your question? But just don't go up to a girl and start telling her how beautiful she is. She'll be flattered, but she'll be a bit creeped out. Don't ignore her; That's just dumb. Become friends first. Start out with normal conversations. Laugh, loosen up, be easy-going. Joke around. If she drops something, pick it up for her. Do random favors like that, but again, don't try too hard. Find something you both have in common. Compliments are okay once you get to know us more and don't over do it.
We can tell when a guy is trying too hard, so just chill.
Don't go trying to find love. Love'll find you.
Hope I helped? Even though I don't think I did. Sorry! But goodluck! :D
well i had went out with my boyfriend for the first time since we been together and he wanted to kiss bt the point is i havent really kissed a boy like that and i told him and he doesnt know how to teach.so wat should i do
Chill. :D
Every first kiss is awkward.
He knows it's your first kiss. If you completely suck, he'll understand. You'll get better once you get over the first-time awkwardness anyway like everyone else.
So, all you need to do is relax, make sure your lips are soft (chapstick, dude.), & go with the flow. It'll be fiiine.
Gooooooodluck!
15/f
Alright, so this boy I like was flirting with me in 2nd hour like crazy, and so I teased him and gave him a hug and all that, and he grabs my arm to keep me from giving hugs etc. etc. and my friend says "Quit flirting, you can do better than him."
Well I told my mom about it all and she says I gotta be careful or people will call me a slut. (I've not even had my first kiss yet though so that's impossible...)
So..... it's not like this happens everyday, the hugging thing I mean. So, am I still ok as long as this doesn't go on all the time or is my image already not very good?
If someone calls you a slut for hugging a guy, tell them to go a dig a hole.
That's ridiculous. A slut is a girl who sleeps with numerous guys that she's not even going out with.
Your image is fine. Hugging is not bad. Flirting is not bad.
I mean the only thing that can affect your image is if ya'll just have a full on make out session in the middle of class.
Flirting/hugging is FAR from being a slut.
2 weeks ago my fiance and I of nearly 2 years broke up, she said I had become like a brother to her, but we were going to try to work it out. We were already dealing with a lot of stressful family situations as it was. Things were going as well as they could be, until her cousin called her, and said that my parents and I said that she left for a bunch of reasons, none of which were actually mentioned. She got mad at me, because obviously she believes her cousin. We got in an argument, and she said she never wanted to see me again. The next night she called, and we talked about things. After that stuff was ok, until she talked to her cousin again. Then she decided there was no chance for us to get back together. She tried to call later that night, but i had fallen asleep for a couple hours, i didn't want to call her back, and wake her dad up, because he drinks a lot, and I didn't want to start trouble. She got worried that I did something to myself, and had a friend drive by, which I was already up(this was 3 in the morning), and she saw me through the window, now she thinks I'm lying about that. Then someone told her I was going to hurt myself, so she'd come to see me, but I never said it. Now she's deleted all history of me from her life it seems, right down to deleting me from her myspace, and all the pics of us. I really think this is the girl I was meant to be with. Is there any hope of me getting my soulmate back, or did her cousin win? And what exactly might be going through her head?
So her cousin's either just a flat out bitch, or she's jealous for some reason. I'm gonna go with the first one though.
You're her fiance; She should trust you, not her cousin. That's like the foundation of what a relationship is built on--trust. She deleted all you from all of that because she's hurt and just wants to forget about you for the moment. How long ago did the last incident happen? Maybe she just needs some time. Wait a day or two and see if she cools off.
There's still hope. Girls usually believe their friends, and especially relatives, over the person they're with at the time. They should get the other person's side of the story, but they never do that for some stupid reason. I swear I'll never understand that. Anyway, have you tried talking to her cousin? Do that. Ask her what her problem is and set the story straight. If she's mad at you for any reason and that's why she's doing this, apologize. Tell her how much you care about your girlfriend and how much you miss her. Maybe she'll back off and talk to her for you.
If that idea doesn't work and you know for a fact your girlfriend won't believe you, just apologize to her for everything. Write her a really long letter and leave it by her house with a gift or something.
Good luck! :D
Alright. So I'm a 16/F and this is what happened. My boyfriend and I were at a party the other night and we ran into trouble. There was this one other guy there (we'll call him J) and so J, me, and this other girl were just chilling on the couch while my boyfriend was off playing pool or something. So J takes my hand and starts leading me away from the couch and I'm just kind of like okayyy... because I mean, I didn't really know this kid too well but I was just like whatever, he probably just wants to get some food or something. Well he starts taking me back towards this room and I stop outside the door and I'm like "What are you doing?" and J says, "Come in here with me." I started babling like an idiot "What? No, my boyfriend- I- huh?- why?" and he leaned in real close, put his hand on like the small of my back (because I was trying to back away) and whispered "It'll be fun just come on." Weeeell, as you can guess, this looks a little shady. I mean, this guy is still holding my hand, he's whispering in my ear, got his hand on my back, and we're standing in the doorway of a dark room. Which is GREAT timing for my boyfriend to look over and see us. So my bf storms over and he's like "What the he** are you doing?" And I had already pulled away from J but J shoves me behind him and is all like "What's your problem, dude? I'm a little busy right now." Ha, yeah, let's just say that REALLLY pissed my bf off. He gets all up J's face and says "Yeah, with MY girlfriend. Now get the f*$@ away." Well, I myself would walk away right about now, but J's got the doorway blocked so I'm kind of just standing there like a worthless bag of poo, trying to get out when, oh goody, J makes it worse and said something like "Well your girlfriend is obviously a slu* if she was about to come in her with me" and before I could say "I wasn't going in there with you!!", my bf punched J in the face. They start getting into it right there, and a few other guys pull em off of eachother. They both got a little beat up, and the girl throwing the party got all pissed and was like "Get out of here!" So yeah. We got kicked out of the party... I felt HORRIBLE. I mean, like, I just felt so bad. I know I wasn't the one getting into the fight, but I just felt really guilty. Not for getting kicked out of the party but because my bf had like a blackeye and gosh, I just feel horrible, I feel like its all my fault. I mean, like jeez. I apologized like a million times to him, and his parents because they were all "What happened!?!" and ugh. I just feel so bad. My bf says its no big deal and he doesn't get why I feel so guilty but he got hurt and I feel like its my fault. What can I do to make it up to him? Am I being stupid for feeling like this?
Oh, c'mon. Ignore the person below me. What the hell were you supposed to do? Just kick the guy and run away? You already told him no. You didn't even know what was going on. You couldn't even do anything. And you can't exactly just run and get away when your boyfriend shows up because like you said, J had the door blocked. Guys are stronger anyway and if he didn't want you to get past him, he'd make sure you didn't.
Your boyfriend had a right to get mad. Not at you, just at the guy. He coulda handled it better instead of punching him in the face though. Not the best idea. But hey, no one thinks things through when they're pissed off like that. It wasn't a big deal that he took your hand. If someone did that to me that I didn't even really know, I'd think the same thing you did.
Don't feel bad. It's not your fault your they started fighting. You couldn't do anything to stop it. It wasn't your fault. Relaaax. :)
He said it was no big deal and he understands you didn't know what was going on and you couldn't get away. But if you still wanna make it up to him, you could do somethin kinda big I guess, like taking him to a concert or a baseball game or something.
Hope I helped:D
ijust have a quick question: why are(some) guys sweet and nice to you when you're alone and then when they're with their friends and they see you they turn into loudmouthed pigs and then all of a sudden you don't exist but the popular girls do?
also.. why do they think that after they ignore you one day they can go back to being sweeties the next and THEN they wonder why your mad.
please shed some light on the situation for me.
thanks
16/f
I have no idea what your situation was, but I swear I was about to just ask this same question.
I've been thinking about this for the entire day. I'm pathetic, I know. Hahah ugh.
I HATE that whole ignoring you and then being a sweetie the next day. That's exactly what this guy just did for three weeks. I even tried flat out asking him why he'd be all different and he was like, "I don't?" and laughed it off. Sorry if I'm venting over here instead of answering your question. Haha my bad. I think we have a right though. I mean, you can't just ACT like you like someone and be super sweet and then the next day completely forget about them and go back and forth like that. I don't even think they realize they're doing it though. Or maybe we just overreact. Or both.
As for the whole you-don't-exist thing, they just want their friends to think they're cool. That's all. Yeah, guys suck. Well, not all of em. Just most of them.
I probably didn't help you any, but if I did, woo. :D
Hey
So Im in love with this guy who well call Bob for now..Me and Bob dated twice. I think hes love bipolar if that makes sense..He likes me then he hates me then he loves me then he hates me again...it sucks but i care about him so much!! all my friends are usless so can anyone help me?
I was in that situation a couple weeks ago. You'll just end up stresing yourself out and he'll just keep going back and forth like that unless you talk about it. Try just flat out asking how he feels about you and make sure he knows how you feel. If you've already dated twice, maybe he's just confused. Maybe he's not ready for a relationship even though he cares about you.
I know it's hard cause you care about him so much, but if talking to him doesn't solve things, the best thing you can do would be to move on and find someone else. :/
Good luck and I hope everything works out! :D
being that you are a boy, ill ask you, what is wrong with boys? why do they LIKE to lead girls on and pretend to like them, to already have moved on the next week? i figure, if you dont like someone, then dont act like it. it fucks with peoples heads. anyway, the question is just on my mind, because its happened to me with EVERY boy ive ever had, relations, with. ive concluded that its a boy thing. why?
Aw, hahaha I guess you meant to ask this to a specific person.
It's not just a boy thing. Girls do it too; They just aren't as obvious about it.
Who knows why they do it. Either they're assholes, or they just know you like em but don't wanna hurt your feelings by saying they don't feel the same way. Most guys are just immature in middle and high school.
Sorry about all that's happen with you. You'll find a good guy someday. There's tons out there even if it doesn't seem like it now.
so there is this guy named eric. ive always kinda liked him but i dont know if he likes me too. my friends say he is always looking at me!...but the thing is i dont know if its true..i mean i love my friends to death but i have no idea if he does. so, one night on aim i was gonna ask him out when all of a sudden he said im pretty. i was so happy! but then i chickend out of asking him out, luckily that i did he found out the he had a gf already. should i still tell him i like him. or do i move on? help!! plz!!!
=]
Jesus. Do NOT get one of your friends to ask him. He won't tell the truth, trust me. And don't ask one of his friends. He either wouldn't have told them, or he did and told em not to tell anyone.
If he thinks you're pretty, there's a realllly good chance he likes you. Only thing is, if he has a gf and dumps her for you once you tell him, why wouldn't he do the same thing to you if you were his girlfriend? But if you don't care about that, then I think you should just tell him you like him. Nothing bad can happen.
Good luck!
what happens when YOu love this boy ... but YOu think he doesnt love YOu?? and you ahve tried talking to him about it.. and YOu have tried talking to his friends.. wht do YOu do??
Just flat out ask him if he does.
this is going to sound stupid, but i'm a 14 year old girland i want to find love. i think i have a picture in my mind of the boy i want and i think my standards might be too high because everytime i find something that might have a shot, i push the boy away. should i wait for the right boy and stop looking or the other way around?
Well everyone wants to find love; You're not alone on that one. It doesn't sound stupid to me, but I'm probably just another stupid girl so whatever.
Wait for the right boy and stop looking around.
The other day I gave up looking for the right guy and I was just like, "Whatever, screw guys." A couple hours later I met this really awesome guy and he's completely perfect.
Haha so the point is, just wait. Don't set the standards TOO high though. You'll meet someone sooner or later, trust me.
Gooooooodluck!
How do you know when a guy is just using you?
http://www.wikihow.com/Tell-when-a-Guy-Is-Using-You-for-Sex
#6 is really true.
Or if you wanna know if he likes you,
http://www.wikihow.com/Know-if-a-Guy-Likes-You
Yay wikihow.