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i know what i want but can't find it.
this is going to sound stupid, but i'm a 14 year old girland i want to find love. i think i have a picture in my mind of the boy i want and i think my standards might be too high because everytime i find something that might have a shot, i push the boy away. should i wait for the right boy and stop looking or the other way around?
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Dont totally lower your standards but you need to give the guys a chance. Every girl has that perfect image of the dream guy, but you never know, you might find that while with a guy he becomes a new form of dreamy. And while looking for the boy of your dreams, you might pass up some great guys.
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Well everyone wants to find love; You're not alone on that one. It doesn't sound stupid to me, but I'm probably just another stupid girl so whatever.
Wait for the right boy and stop looking around.
The other day I gave up looking for the right guy and I was just like, "Whatever, screw guys." A couple hours later I met this really awesome guy and he's completely perfect.
Haha so the point is, just wait. Don't set the standards TOO high though. You'll meet someone sooner or later, trust me.
Gooooooodluck!
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I think you should do a little bit of both. You should wait for the perfect guy, but don't rule out dating altogether. Since you're young, you have plenty of time for guys.
You should try dating guys, because people will surprise you. You might find that what you're looking for actually ISN'T what you want, know what I mean? Sure, you'll get a few duds, but if you date guys, it will help you narrow down just exactly what you do and do not want in a guy/relationship.
Now, I'm not saying date your entire school, but if you're interested in a guy and he shows interest back, don't be afraid to test it out.
-Laura (17-f)
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Stop looking. Wait for someone to come to you.
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i think i can help you here.
im going to be honest with you, theres less than a 1% chance you will find "the one" when you are 14 yrs old. there are those few lucky people who grow up with their sweethearts and end up getting married, but its 1 in a million.
if its just a boyfriend you are looking for, stop looking.
best advice i ever got when i was longing for a guy, was "stop looking" once i did, this guy asked me out when I was 16. now I am 21 and he and I are getting married in december!
what happens usually when we want guys to notice us, we try really really hard and that makes us look desperate.
in order for someone to love you, they need to see that you love yourself first! stop trying to get guys to see you and have some fun for a few weeks and when they see how confident you are, a guy will come crawling!
hope this helps! inbox me anytime.
steph 21
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It doesn't sound stupid.I had the same problem as you,but here's what other people told me.Leave the standards aside.You need to like a guy for what he is,not try to change him.You're young,you have time for love and that stuff...Don't push guys away,try to find something you like in them.Btw I forgot to mention,you can try to find love,but true love will always find you.Don't rush with relationships.Be careful who you get with.I got my heart broken,that's why I'm telling you this.And I think you should stop looking for now and enjoy being single.It has its perks!
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