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So, i'm 15 and female. My boyfriend for two months who I'm really starting to develop strong feelings for asked me to give him oral the other night. See, now I'm not prude okay? It's true I've never done that before, but I think it's normal to be nervous about EVERYTHING the first time. Hell, I was nervous the first time i got fingered! I just really don't like the idea of putting a guys penis into my mouth. Like common, thats kind of gross...for all you girls out there thats done it, is it that bad? Also, I don't want to be used by this guy! Like, if I'm open to exploring new things because he wants to, I don't want it to be a situation where we do this stuff and hes bored & leaves, you know? Anyways, do you think I should give in and just try giving him a blow job? There's a first for everything...or shoould i like stand my ground bc its kinda disqusting? hahaha let me know, kthanks, much love <3
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Honestly, being that intimate with someone and having strong feelings for someone leaves you vulnerable. Best way not to get hurt is to communicate your wants, needs, and expectations. If you do decide to go forward with this, make sure it''s because you care about him and are confident he cares for you, and you want to please him and make him happy. I would also research technique so you could BLOW HIM AWAY! Good luck!
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You're right; it's normal to be nervous about everything the first time. Your boyfriend should understand that.
Tell him what you just said. You don't want to be used. You don't want him to get bored and leave you. Tell him those exact words. Well, replace you with I, but you get what I mean. Don't overthink this or you'll back out, but don't do anything you KNOW you don't feel comfortable doing.
I know this might sound super gay, but everytime I'm doubting making some decision, I think of this quote:
"I’ve been thinking a lot lately about taking chances, and how it’s really just about overcoming your fears. Because the truth is, every time you take a big risk in your life, no matter how it ends up, you’re always glad you took it." -- Scrubs
Try it. What's the worst that can happen? Haha, I mean you can just stop if you realize you don't wanna do it. Relaaaax. :)
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umm>> i think that it all depends on you there is a high risk and things but if ur really serious with the guy then go for it
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If you want to give it a try, go for it.
If you feel like you'd be 'giving in' to it, then obviously DON'T.
Sexual activity is not a FAVOUR. It's not something you do to be nice to somebody. It's something you do 'cause you are interested in it.
Frankly, I don't think 'disgusting' is a good reason to stand your ground. (I ate a roach once, much less disgusting then you'd think! Actually pretty cool. So, you never do know until you try.) However, if you don't want to try. Fine. Just let him know:
"Sorry, I'm still nervous about our relationship and waaaay nervous about that. I'm not ready for oral sex."
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