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am i realy this stupid...
ok. so i've been with my girlfriend for a very long time now and everything has been to good to be true up until recently. about 2 months ago she cheated on me while she was drunk and i was out of town. i caught her the next day when i saw the hickey on her neck. now im constantly thinking about that and i love her to much to end it. (blah blah blah, theres plenty of other fish in the sea, dont even tell me that im tired of hearing it". but today i've also come to realize that he may have given her an std which i too now have i think.... and still i love her to much to break up with her. so i just want to know. does anyone else think im being a dumbass about it all? you can be honest. i would love to hear it.. it would actually make me feel better to know that we love each other to much and even though she genuinely regrets it and is sorry for ever being stupid enough to risk our relationship, im still being stupid with my decision about to stay with her.
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You don't call someone stupid simply because they know how to love. You're being quite generous I might add. it's admirable really. Some guys just let the girl bite off the dust when they feel their ego is stomped.
But my concern is, have you truly forgiven her? It must have been hard to accept that your girl can cheat on you either deliberately or unintentionally. My point is that in order for both of you to have a smooth-running relationship, you should have completely forgiven her. You shouldn't constantly bring the subject of her infidelity and throw it on her face everytime you will have a bout of argument. It just wouldn't be healthy at all.
It's good that you talked it over with her and made things clear that there should not be a repeat of what happened.
I wish you you the best and good luck!
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First off, go to the doctor if you think you have an STD. Seriously.
You don't sound like a pushover. You sound like a good guy. Please don't end up like the person below me, like dictating who she can and can't hang out/talk to. That's ridiculous.
Everyone deserves a second chance in my opinion, no matter what they've done or who they've hurt.
When you're drunk, your judgement is affected. She wasn't thinking clearly. That's an excuse, but it's a good one. If she regrets it, don't hold it against her. She knows she messed up and I'm betting she would give anything to take it all back. She's probably walking on eggshells anytime she's around you. Forgive her, but don't forget.
You said it yourself; everything's been great up until now. Why throw it all away over one mistake?
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somewhere in the back of your mind you will always remember what she did and you will always have your doubts. gone is the safetiness of your relationship and in are the doubts. is she really with her friends? the next time i lleave will hse get drunk and cheat? is that guy friend really just a friend? without trust there can be no relationship.
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Well first off there are plenty of stds that are be treated. So go to your doctors and get tested. Now in my opinion I have been cheated on a lot in the past. and my last boyfriend before I got married cheated on me and it was tough I moved out I didn't trust him anymore. I went to see him one time after I caught him cheating on me and all he did was get me all emontional about he and I and then tried to have sex. I kicked him out my car and left. I believe if you cheat once you will do it again. Being drunk isnt an excuse. I dont think another person should be out drinking unless they are with there boyfriend and girlfriend. I think you are being any other normal person. you may love this person but how much does she love you by having sex with another man?
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wow. i don't know whether you're a good guy, or a push over. my boyfriend would NEVER take me back if i cheated. and i'd NEVER cheat. i dont even TALK to guys. I don't want to risk it. (HE DOESNT TALK TO GIRLS EITHER!) yeah, we trust ourselves, but we dont trust the other people. if she cheated on you and you didnt go to the doctors with her, your fault. but honestly, she shouldnt have cheated & this wouldntve happened, and since when do you let her get drunk with guys while you're out of town!? maybe my boyfriend and i are too controlling over eachother. who knows, but we ARE happy.
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This is yet another sticky situation which may in the end not work out. If you love her that much than go for it love conquers all...suggest counseling maybe or maybe just talk with one another about the situation how you feel and how she feels. I believe if you lvoe someone you'll do anything and everything to make sure that person is yours. Just don't forget about what happened but don't hold it against her either!
Good luck!
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