Hey I'm wisemen, I'm 15, I'm single, my yahoo i.d. is wiseguy_2011, and I'm always here to help ask anything and I'll try to answer the best i can so that you will be happy. I'm a very peaceful guy so i don't get mad often, any relationship problems ask me, because most likely I've been in the spotlight once. Thanks!
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Basically I have a boyfriend but I just want to be a great girlfriend. Purely for the fact that he's such a great guy and I want him to be happy.
Soo.. any tips on what guys like from girls ? (link)
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They don't really want anything like a gift, if it's a great guy he should love anything you would give him like a great whole day together, or writing him some poem or song. But i guess it also depends on the age range. Hope all goes well!
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I like a 18 yr. old guy. I'm 15. He smokes pot, and cigarettes, and drinks, but he's very considerate friendly and hardworking. We're okay friends. I promised myself once I'd never get involved with a druggie but I find it hard to believe in my mind that he's like the rest of the pot heads. He has plans for life like college and I really like him. I'm just worried that I'll get into bad habits with him. What should I do? (link)
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Well you have to take a good look at his friends, because if you decide to get with this guy, he will start to bring you around them more often and they will more than likely pressure you into bad habits. Sometimes the good ones have a bad choice in friends and you can't help it, but that's only my view. Hope all goes well!
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Like I had dis problem with my girlfriend see I really don't like my girlfriends to drink cause who knows wats gonna happen when they get drunk :( and like my new girlfriend now we been going out 4 3months now and we love each other to death and like she used2 drink but she stopped becuz of me but she is gonna go to dis birthday party dis week 4 her cousin and I know it's gonna be alcohol there but she said she wasn't gonna drink any but her cousins might pressure her or she might just sneek and drink some and I can't go to da party so idk wat to do I'm just scared she might get drunk I told her already but she said she's not how do I know she will never tell :( (link)
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Listen, calm down, you can have a little faith for your girlfriend and believe her. Girls hate it when guys don't believe them and it just makes it worse. If she really loves you then she won't drink. If you love her you can trust her. Hope all goes well!
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ok so I am a preetty girl I know this because I get told so by my friends and family. Also some guys check me out but there is one huge problem! I never get asked out. I mean a guy can flirit with me and stuff but it stays at that it never goes past that. I try to be super nice and I am not stuck up or anything what is wrong with me? Ok so for example this guy has been fliritng with me for about 2 months by that all he does he hasn't asked me out or anything. I know you guys are gonna saythat asking out someone is hard but it is just that I never get asked out why? Please help me does this happen to anyone else or just me? (link)
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No, it's not just you there are other girls like that. But since you are as pretty as people say then they are just intimidated by you because they think you are out of their league and don't have a shot. So it's kind of your job to ask them out because they don't want to get rejected. Hope all goes well!
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okai so ever since i told this guy that i like him he doesnt talk to me anymore. he did the same with his ex after he broke up with her.
the thing is that we where really good friends before all that & he was actually leading me on as well?
but now he just doesnt talk to me anymore which makes me really depressed cause im still in love with him.
i tried talking to him again, i actually wrote him a text wishing him a nice weekend. and then he wrote back saying 'oh thanks to you too. how are you? what are you up to? we havent talked in a while... xo'
so then i wrote him back telling him what im up to & asking him how HE is etc and he wrote 'I'm good (...) we'll see eachother on monday! xo '
so yeah.. today i saw him & he didnt even look at me once. then later on i said hi & he said hi back but that was it.
& then he just stared at me when i was talking to his friend later on (hes also good friends with me) & then just walked by me again without looking at me again.
AND i also know that hes always stalking my myspace (dont ask how)
but he rejected me cause he still has feelings for his ex. i really dont understand this?!
what should i do now? (link)
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Well it's not easy to do but you have to move on from this guy. You can still be friends but if you were friends before and he's acting like this now I wouldn't see him as much of a friend. Just do what he is doing to you except for the stalking part that's a little freaky just kind of ignore him. Hope all goes well!
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Well he is actually my ex boyfriend. I wasn't aware that I was immature. But he says that I behave like I am 10 years old sometimes (not always). That's not why he left me. He just sees me as a friend now. I am 16 years old and have never been called immature :(. Any ideas? (link)
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Your ex obviously doesn't accept you for who you really are someone that likes to have fun once and a while even if it is childish. I guarantee you're mature it's just your not ready to let go of being a kid yet its kool don't freak about it. Hope all goes well!
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im going to this dance with my girlfriend but i cant dance at all and im nervous, what can i do? (link)
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I can't dance either man, but chill the kind of music they play is just something you move to the beat with there is no particular dance for every song. If you know how to slow dance then your basically set. Just tell her if you nervous though and she'll help you out if she's your girlfriend she will care about you. Hope all goes well!
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16/F
So, on with the story! On Halloween night, my friend threw this amazing party. It turned out we were going to watch a really scary movie. I don't do scary movies very well so I was a little bit nervous that I would scream my lungs out in front of everybody. Then a really nice thing happened. A guy that I'm friends with through my friend who threw the party came over to me. We've talked before and we see eachother at school all the time but we never really... "talked." He came over and said, "Don't worry, I don't really do scary movies either. If you want, we can hold on to eachother..." Of course I said yes and he was really sweet throughout the entire movie, and didn't make fun of me when I screamed like all the other kids did. At the end of the night when I had to leave he came up to me and hugged me really tight. The next day another friend came up to me and said "'D' doesn't hug anybody. What'd you do to him?" So life got really busy and he was in the school play and we really didn't have a lot of time to talk, nobody really did, until last night. Last night another one of our mutual friends had a birthday party. It was a bowling party and I suck at bowling. I pretty much gave up after one frame and went to talk to the other kids who didn't want to bowl. He followed me over there. We talked and talked and talked and all through the night. Every time I wasn't talking to him I'd catch him staring at me. Then he'd blush and turn away. The weird thig was, it was like talking to a male version of myself. We were so much alike it was uncanny. When it was time to go, my friend was giving us all in a ride home so we climbed into her van. It's massive but there were still about 13 of us crammed into it. With her being the driver, she decided who was going to sit where. It just so happened that the guy and I had to sit on the floor, facing eachother. He pulled out his iPod and I was like, "Oh no, don't disappear into your own little world!" and he goes, "Oh, haha, I wasn't. I was going to give you a bud." I have really weird shaped ears and earbuds never seem to fit right. I was struggling and he goes, "Here, let me put it in. I just got to get a little closer..." He got close and put the bud in my ear so it actually stayed. This is the funny part. The song he put on was a song from my favorite band. A highly obscure band that nobody I've ever talked to has ever heard of. It was great. We sang all the lyrics and had a great ride home. At the end he hugged me and went off.
Guys, do you think he likes me? I'm not sure if he was being friendly and nice or flirting with me. If you do think he likes me, how do you suppose I go about maybe asking him out?
Thanks so much, I really appreciate your answers!
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I'm a guy and it's obvious he likes you. You both like the same bands, he hugs you and he never hugs anyone else, and you think of him as yourself, just as a guy though. To ask him out I would try and find a song put it on your phone or mp3 and tell him this is how i feel about you and see where it goes. Hope all goes well!
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This is more of an opinion question I guess, but I have NEVER met a guy that is gorgeous but doesn't know it. I've met a few girls that are really pretty and they are confident and stuff, but theyre not conceited and they dont really realize HOW pretty they are. I just wonder if there are any guys out there like that. It just seems that all the guys that are gorgeous are all into themselves and KNOW they look good. It's different from confidence its self-interest. So I was wondering, do you guys think there are any guys out there that are gorgeous but dont really realize it? (link)
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Yes there are those kind of guys out there but you don't notice them because they are probably shy or not confident. Just look around you and see if there are any guys you haven't talked to before and just wonder why not? Hope that helps!
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Theres a guy at my school who likes me hes not the best looking but hes ok hes a little cute hes muscular but not to much and hes a really nice guy. The types i like are goths emos and skaters but hes neither a while ago his friends who are my friends too told me he likes me hes my friend now and now my admirer is used to talking to me i can tell he still likes me and yea he even tries to show off how strong he is and tries to be funny.....So should i give him a chance? (link)
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It sounds like you really want to so why not, because if he is trying to impress you with his muscles that's like asking you out basically, he is really trying to flirt with you and this will be a new experience for you since he isn't someone you usually go for as in clique. Hope all goes well!
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Okay, I've been hanging out with one of my new friends Corey, and I like him ALOT. & He knows too. But I'm not sure if he likes me back. He dated one of my best friends, ( and she's okay that I like him ) and she chills with us all the time. She dated him for a very short period of time, but he didn't tell her he liked her or anything. A friend just hooked em up? I don't know if I should get her to help us? Or should I just ask him hows he feel? Or what? I'm really confused. Thanks in advanced(: (link)
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Don't let your friend help you since Corey didn't really like her it will just be weird if she were there. You should just ask him how he feels about you since there is nothing to lose if he knows that you like him already. Hope all goes well!
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okay i need advice to give to my best guy friend.
He likes this girl A and loves this girl B. well A likes him back and B loves him to. Me and Him are so confused because he doesnt know what to do. Weather to be with A or B. B told him that shes loved him and would b there when he was done with A. I told him if B really meant what she said then go with A. But then he said that he really loved B and then i said it sounded like hed rather b with B. then he said he didnt know because he really like A too. so i dont know what to do im stuck, hes stuck. Hes is also wanting to lose his virginity to one of these girls. please help and im sorry if its long. thanks (link)
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If B is so understanding to let him go out with A then i would go with B because if she is that understanding to let him go with another girl then she can understand the guy and help through all the tough times. Hope all goes well!
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this is kinda long..
so theres this guy that i really like. hes a freshman and im a sophomore and he is 6 months younger than me so i dont mind the age. anyway, we are becoming really good friends but i really really like him but i dont know if i should tell him. hes mormon and i dont know if his family believes in no dating until the age of 16. i do know that hes made out with a girl before so i dont know if that means anything. but i dont want to lose him either.
i was thinking of maybe saying this..
"hey i think im starting to like you but i still want to get to know you more and i dont want our friendship to get awkward"
should i say this? or rephrase it somehow?
i really want to get to know him more and maybe find out if he likes me. but i dont want our friendship to get awkward because i see him almost everyday. oh and id say the message over text because i really cant do it in person
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i would ask him if he has dated anyone before or if his parents let him date yet. Then that should tell u if you can ask him or not. What you thought of saying i don't think i would say it as a text since u and him are close friends just tell him face to face. Hope all goes well!
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15/f
Well i heard this guy thinks i am pretty and he wants to get to know me because one of my friends knows him and is very good friends with him. We will call her (Mayla). Anyways mayla told me all this a week ago because we were off school for winter break. At first, i didn't know who he was, but now i do because i saw him when we came back to school. We came back to school today and i realized that we are in 2 classes together. I want to make a good impression on him because i think he is sorta cute. He isn't the best, and is different from all the guys that i have dated before and usually not my type, but i think he is somewhat cute. Well today to school i wore a really cute black shirt and i painted my nails black to match (i swear i am not gothic, i like bright colors also). So, tomorrow i wanted to wear another cute black shirt that i have and my nails would still be black, but i am afraid he will think i am emo or whatever because a lot of guys i know hate black nail polish. Anyways, im worried about that, so i might just wear this turquoise colored shirt tomorrow. I am still confused on the guy though. I didn't even like him before i knew he liked me (well i really didn't know who he was anyways, but still) and he won't talk to me. All today, he didn't say a word to me. I want him to make the first approach because if he supposedly likes me, that's what he is supposed to do. I won't do it. But if he dosen't i will be sad, because i really am starting to like him kinda. I want to actually talk and get to know him first and text him or something. Anyways, what should i do?? (link)
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I'm a guy just like him shy to talk to someone i like. He could be afraid to approach you, because he might be afraid of rejection. You should make the first move go up to him and say "Hey, I don't think I've talked to you before. What's your name?" Go from there and on the nail polish guys don't think too much of it. Just wear what you are comfortable in. Hope all goes well!
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bottom line:
he calls or texts me maybe twice a week if im lucky
we hang out once a month
and i only see him at school between classes for two minutes once a day
we have been together almost 3 months
but liked each other for over a year
every time i talk to him about how we arent close he gets mad and tells me to end it
what should i do?
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well don't end it right away, because i am sure there is someway to see each other more often then this. Try and work out a schedule and if that fails have a nice talk to him about how you feel and see if you still want to break up with him. Hope all goes well!
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Ok,my problem here is that I've had this crush on this guy for about a year now.In my 8th grade year I told him how i felt about him((which i wish I should've never done))he told me that he did'nt feel about me in that sort of way((even though he would give me signs that he liked me))
All he wanted was to just be friends which was not true either because when I waited for him to add me on myspace((he dosn't have a computer so he has to go to like a friends house))he was on one afternoon I waited for him to add me but instead he did'nt add me.Which got me really depressed that day...
I'm in High school now and I have him in one class&i sometimes see him in the mornings when im on the bus or just walk around campus with a friend of mine.i thought I got over him in the summer but turns out that my feelings are still there ((sadly)).Now on the((I think im not sure..))2nd day of school one of my guy friends were with this really cute guy((lets call him Jack)).On our frist weekend my whole group of friends went to the mall to say good-bye to a guy((that I still dont know very well))who was leaving to Virgina.Well Jake suprised us((mostly me))with a little group of other friends with him((who were mostly girls))who also came to say good-bye.
The whole time at the mall all I wanted to do was to be together with Jake((which I was able to do a few times))What I noticed was that during the whole time when I wanted to get near Jake my crush never even entered my mind&I also felt more happy with him((I know chessy but what can I say?))Also he's the 2nd person to make me smile non-stop((Jake noticed that so I tried controlling myself))
Well a few days ago when me and a few good friends decided to go walking to Starbucks right after school I was talking to one of my great friends((you could say like a bf but i dont like using that term at all))both me and her were talking of some drama that was/is going on in our 'little' group.Well somehow me and ((lets call her Amy))Amy then just changed the topic to my crush then to Jake.
I told her that I thought Jake was cute and that maybe I liked him but I also said I was'nt sure.Amy then said that she too thought Jake was cute but she could'nt say that she liked him since she barely knew him.But this whole week at school during lunch I've noticed that they are usually together now and she does look happy when she is with him.As for me I try dealing to get over my crush which is soo hard.People say im in love or something but I know im not in love with him...i just..can't((love is too much of a strong word for me))...As for Jake I just came to a conlusion that if Amy really starts liking Jake then I better back off.Because if I too start having strong feelings((which I wish I had that option)) for Jake well,drama will unfold and thats the last thing I really want.
All im asking is how to get over my crush???&try being patient and wait for the right guy to come into my life???
i know this sounds like a silly question((& sorry for changing the topic a little or alot))
All i want is to get over my crush but I think my feelings for him get stronger every day... (link)
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It's hard to stop liking someone and it takes a while, but you just need to think about something or someone else for a while and maybe this Jake guy isn't what you thought he was all cracked up to be and you could move on. Hope all goes well!
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so i only have one week left of school and i really wanna talk to this guy. we've never talked before and he's a year above me. he's quite shy and often cant bare to look at me. i can tell that he's nervous. and he often DOES notice me after all. but he only notices me when he's walking by me very close. but when he's far away and i try to make eyecontact he never looks. and he also smiles at my mom when he sees her (she picks me up from school sometimes) and my friends tell me that he often looks at me when i'm totally not looking. i REALLY wanna talk to him soooo badly but i cant because i still dunno if he really likes me. and i've never talked to a hot guy ever in my life, never had a bf and dont have ANY experiences (cos i'm extremly shy, not cos i'm ugly which i'm not :P)
the problem is that he's the same. atleast with me. so what should i do?
ONLY ONE WEEK!!!! :O
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well even if he doesn't like you, you can still talk to him its not against the law so just try and talk to him as a friend or something. Try and see if he has like myspace, aim, or yahoo so you could chat to him over the summer. Just try and get a conversation going in any way, like if you have things in common talk about that. Hope all goes well!
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Im 13 Years Old I've Had Many Bad Boyfriends.This Year I Met A Guy Named Freddy He's 14.I've Liked Him For 10 Months Now.We Really Got To Know Earlier In The Year & EVERYONE Was Saying He Was Into Me.The Day I Was going to Ask Him Out He Started Going Out WIth Another Girl Which Got Me Really Confused because We Started Out So Strong &Had Everythin In Common.Throughout This Year I've Had Many Guys Ask Me Out & I Said No because I Cant Get Over Freddy. Im Still Not Over Him & Now He Is Single & Im Too Scared To Ask Him Out because I Dont Know If He Likes Me Anymore Or If He Ever Did Like Me.Im Really Heartbroken because This Happens To Me Everytime & I Really Think He's The One.I dont Want Another Guy because I See Everything In Him. Now I Hurt Myself.I Began Cutting Myself About 2 Weeks Ago because The Year Is Ending & I Wont See Him Next Year. Im Also Getting Sick Over It Lately I Havnt Been Eating Well & I Cant Sleep & Im Always Crying Or Throwing Up From Crying So Much.I Just Cant Let Him Go.He Doesnt Know Im Upset Or That Im Cutting Myself Really Badly.I Cant Get Over Him I Feel Like Dying Is The Way Outta This Pain That I Feel. How Do I Make It Stop.
If Anyone Wants To IM Me On AIM Its 2:25 AM Right Now & Im Still Up I'll Probually Be Up The Rest Of The Night But Feel Free To IM Me My SN is
XxLuv HaRdCoRexX
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o.k. listen or read whatever the only way out of this pain is ask him that way the cutting, throwing up, loss of appetite, and the crying stops. Just tell him how you feel and hopefully he will feel the same. Hope all goes well! if u want any more advice just drop one in my inbox.
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i like this guy and i am friends with him, he is preppy and as a nice personality. but i dont think i am all that pretty and i want him to notice me. What do i do? help i am a female. teenager (link)
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well if you are friends with him he would have already noticed you and he thinks you are pretty because you are friends with him. you should just be yourself and tell him that i would like to get to know you a little better maybe go somewhere and get something to eat, or see a movie. Hope all goes well!
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im asking you cuz your a guy so.
if you hooked up with a girl or whoevs who you thought was hot, would you care if they were bad at like making out or would you just be like whatever.
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i would be just like whatever because who cares what they're good at you obviously liked them for a reason so it wouldn't matter to me. Hope all goes well!
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