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So theres this girl which i REALLY like. Shes one year older than me(if u think that matters) she hugs me sometimes, but shes a person who socializes with everyone and hugs many other boys, she has a boyfriend but i really dont care. She really likes my shoes( sea-foam colored all-stars, but my friends say i got it in the woman's section but who cares.) When i first wore them i said they're cute like me, and she laughs and i hear her say yeah! One of her best-friends used to like me and we are just friends now. I need help!! What should i do??
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Honestly dude, I'm sorry. But you should stay away from her.
I know girls like these. And I feel like even if you were to get together or something she'd just end up hurting you in the long run.
I think you should ask yourself how much you like her, and if she's really worth all of it.
Err something.
Good luck though :)
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Would like to know how tell if a girl is attracted to you or interested in you. (link)
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Hey.
In my case, when I like a guy (yes, I'm a female), it's obvious. I can't help it most of the time though. So this is just how I am when I like a guy.
When I like a guy, I look at him. A lot. Even if it's just a casual glance over my shoulder every once in a while. But I'd always find a way to.
When I like a guy, I find excuses to talk to him. Even if it's a really random question or something. I will find a reason to talk to him.
If she looks at you a lot or talks to you a lot, more than a normal girl who's a friend would, then there's probably something there.
Now, i could be totally wrong about that. I'm just speaking from experience.
Also, she'd laugh at a lot of things you said, even your cheesy jokes. Now, in my case, the guy I like right now is hilarious. He makes everyone laugh. But that's beside the point.
To sum all of this rambling up, here it is: If a girl likes you, she'll laugh at what you say. She'll get stars in her eyes when you look at each other. And she'll love talking to you, always.
Ughh this was bad. I know. But I really do hope it helped.. even if it only helped a little.
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Yeah. I understand that part. But he didn't hook up with him. Bc his bestfriend just does it to him. But doesn't even suck his dick til it comes so idk. So you don't think this is considered cheating & I shouldn't be bothered by it? (link)
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I really don't understand what you're telling me. If they didn't hook up, then nothing happened and he didn't cheat on you.
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If he's not leaving you for his friend, then you shouldn't worry about it because nothing bad's going to happen.
..right?
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I would hate it if it happened with another girl. I wouldn't stop crying if it was that way. & he told me. So I'm so glad he did. But if you were in this situation & your significant other did this, what would you do? (link)
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If my boyfriend hooked up with another guy and told me about it, I honestly wouldn't care THAT much. I mean if he told me about it, I'd consider that a lot better than if he didn't. It would bother me a little bit but then I'd think to myself: "well, he actually TOLD me about it..". And I mean it wouldn't really bother me, as long as I was the one he was with, and he didn't leave me for him. I know this probably wasn't the answer you were expecting/wanting, but it's my personal opinion. I hope I helped, and remember, I'm always here if you need anything else! =)
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Why don't you consider it cheating? (link)
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Well, I mean, it IS. But don't you think you'd feel a lot worse if it was another girl? Also, how did you find out about it? Did he tell you or did someone else tell you? I think that if he told you, then it's a lot better than finding out from an outside source. But please, if you tell me more about your situation, I'd love to help you. Okay?
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Is it considered cheating when you're in a relationship with someone & your boyfriend goes off and lets his bestfriend when they're hanging out (they're like brothers; so close) & he let's him make his dick hard & they mess around & give each other handjobs & blowjobs. & his bestfriend has a girlfriend too; just doesn't get to see her. They used to do this all this stuff before they both got girlfriends. (link)
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Well I don't really think it's considered "cheating" but it's not cool to do while their in relationships.
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There's a close friend of mine named Miguel who i reeeeeeeaaaaaaalllyy like. I mean, he gives me butterflies, and makes my heart shiver. He is bisexual and has a boyfriend. He gives me immense mixed signals. WHat do i do? :( (link)
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maybe just try talking to him about it? I don't see what else there is you would do.. I mean considering he has a boyfriend you can't really DO anything about it unless/until you talk to him about it and have him tell you himself if he feels the same way or not.
Obviously, you have to talk to him alone. So no one can hear.
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So I'm a 19 year old college student. I live in my own and have a steady job and I have always dated older men but 25 has always been my cut off age.I recently met this guy that is 27 and we connect on a different level. I am starting to really develope feelings for him but im a little nervous about the age gap? would it be wrong for me to date him? (link)
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If you feel that you "connect on a different level" and you're "really starting to develop feelings for him" then why should the age matter? If you guys like each other and you feel happy with him then why should the age make a difference? Don't you think what you feel dominates over a number?
Perhaps you should ask yourself why you're worried about this. If you're questioning it, there must be a reason behind it, maybe even subconsciously. Were you raised to believe big age differences were a problem in relationships?
Like I said. Just ask yourself why you're concerned. You might have an answer. :)
I really hope this helps and I hope you figure this out! Also I could be wrong about all this considering I'm fifteen and it's all just a matter of opinion for me. Regardless, good luck.
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I've been talking to this guy on the internet for seven years and we've been on cam before and shared pictures with one another. Now its been a year since I've seen him and he refused to send me a picture of him. It didn't bother me at first, but when i would ask him he would make up an excuse. Like, ' I don't look good right now ' or ' I have acne' and 'i have a black eye, ill show u when it disappears. This was two weeks ago he said this and i don't know, doesn't a black eye go away in a couple of days? Should i stop talking to this person? Because it seems like he is hiding something from me now. Part of me thinks he is scared to show what he looks like now for some reason, but i don't even care :S (link)
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Well personally, I'd give up. But that's just me. I don't know what to tell you.. I think he might have just changed his mind about wanting to talk to you. I'm really sorry, don't take offense to that, because honestly, I could be 100% wrong.
I don't know him and I don't know what he's thinking. That being said, neither do you. I'd just wait.. eh.. maybe a couple more weeks at the most. But if this continues after a month then DEFINITELY talk to him about and tell him to BE HONEST. Also tell him that his HONEST answer wont hurt you, because that might be his reasoning for not sharing.
Like I said, I could be 100% wrong about this because I don't know him at all. But just keep this little tidbit of an answer in mind.
I hope this works out for you! And who knows? Maybe he did get a black eye and has acne. :)
Feel free to inbox me if you have any more questions :)
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I met a guy back in October.. told him that I wasn't ready for a relationship. Then somehow by staying friends and hanging out.. we are now a couple. He tells me that his life would be bleak and crushed if I weren't in it. I don't feel the same. HE is 29 and I'm 32 years old.
The BIGGEST issue(among others)is I have no physical attraction to him, just void for me. Now when I do see him.. I am constantly getting sick to my stomach because I just can't handle being around him anymore.
To make matters worse.. he's a truck driver at the place I work.. so I'll see him at least twice a week no matter what.
What do I say to break it off without actually haven't to say that "I'm not attacted to you" or that the physical attraction is missing?? I know he's going to ask why.. plus how do I break up with him and still remain decent considering I will have to see him in my work week?
Thank you for your help from the bottom of my heart. -Christie (link)
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Hmmm. Maybe you could just tell him? I'm sorry if you think this is bad advice considering it's what you didn't want to do. I know you said you didn't want to just flat out tell him. But maybe being honest about it would be the best way to go. I mean, you'd feel bad about it, yes. But I personally think that if you just told him the real reason you'd feel a lot better than lying about it or not telling him. He'd be hurt, yes. There's no denying that. But if you don't tell him why, he'd probably wonder about it and wonder why you broke up with him. Wouldn't it be better if he just knew? Again I'm terribly sorry if you don't like this advice. You can rate it a "1" if you want to. I think that'd best though. Just tell him, get it off your chest.
Also tell him that you're sorry and that you guys could still be friends, IF he wanted to. It will be incredibley awkward, but I can't think of any other solutions to that. I'm sorry. But I hope I helped? Just a little?
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18/f, she's 17/f. (never in my life have i ever liked girls like this. i've always been into guys, but she's different)
she came to school at the beginning of the year and i thought she was quite annoying. she thought i was a bitch. recently, we started talking a lot more and we're becoming pretty good friends, i guess. i noticed that i'd get really happy when i see her. i'm always looking forward to having classes with her. i've had a few erotic dreams about her but i never thought anything of them. i never really thought anything about all of this. then, about 2 weeks ago, she got upset during class and started crying. something inside me broke. i couldn't stand to see her upset. i tried to comfort her and get her to stop crying but nothing seemed to be working and it upset me greatly. all i wanted to do was just hold her and tell her everything would be all right. this is when i figured out i was in love with her. now, you might be thinking "no, you're a teenage girl, you just THINK you're in love." and i'm here to say: you couldn't be any more incorrect. i know when i'm in love. i've been in love with two boys my entire life, and i remember when i first felt something for both of them, it was the same exact thing i'm feeling for her, now: i'd do anything for her. literally, ANYTHING. we complete eachother. i care about her life more than mine. all i ever want to do anymore is be close to her.
but the problem with this is i have a boyfriend. we've been together for about 3.5 years. lately, he's neglecting me up the ass. we never hang out. he never calls. i don't have his new number so i can't call him. i'm thinking about dumping him, but i don't want to because what if she doesn't like me back? she's abundantly bisexual, but i'm getting mixed signals. like she'll hang out with me all the time in school and then when i ask her if she wants to hang out over the weekend, she says she'll text me but she blows me off! and i don't wanna risk scaring her away by texting her all the time: "are you there?" "do you still wanna hang out?" "any plans today?" etc. i just really don't know what to do about all this. and on top of everything, I'M STRAIGHT. i've had one other girl crush, but i've always maintained that i could just make out with her at a party or something. to be honest, i really don't like girls at all. they're too much drama and teenage girls are all just a huge wreck. idk what it is i see in this other chick, but i could do anything and everything for her, i would try to be good to her, i'd try my hardest to keep her happy and stay with her, etc. what should i do? (link)
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Woooooowww!! :D I swear almost the same thing happened to me earlier this year. I didn't think I was into girls either, I thought it was just weird! But it really isn't. First off, just let me say that I know this was written a while ago, so I really hope you got rid of your "boyfriend". NOBODY deserves to be treated like that. Second, it would be fine if you asked her if she still wanted to hang out or something. I know why you're worried.. but if you think about it, if she doesn't know how you feel about her, and she thinks you're just friends, then it would be completely normal to ask one of your friends to hang out, am I right? Jeez.. I bet you figured this out already and I'm wasting my time. But I still want to help. All I can say is be there for her. That's the FIRST thing she'd notice, is a friend that's always there for her. Then she'll notice YOU more. She'll think about how much you care about her and want her to be happy, and she'll start to realize how much she cares about you too. Wow I really hope nothing happened already :\ You see, this is why you're supposed to read the dates that the advice was needed BEFORE you start writing 20 paragraphs! haha. But really, I hope everything works out for you!! And if it did already, then great! And if not, I know how you feel. I've already been interested in two girls and I went about those "crushes" completely the wrong way. I hope you don't make all of the mistakes I've made and I hope you have a great life no matter who you end up with!! :D Inbox me if you need help with anything else. :)
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Okay, so i've liked this guy for like legit 3 years. I'm a freshman in high school and he's a sophomore. He's mad popular and really good at sports. He's known that i've liked him ever since he's been in 8th grade and i've been in 7th grade. I like him a lot, and i want him more than anything. And i really wanna get to know this kid, but i'm afraid to say hey to him, or even smile at him. He looks at me constantly, and so do his friends. Sometimes he can't even look away from me, and he gives me mixed signals and looks. What do i do, do i say hi? or no? I'm friends with him on Facebook and whenever he's online i always stare at the screen waiting for him to chat or message me, but he never does. I don't wanna waste my time on him for the rest of my life, i think i may be falling in love with this kid, and i don't even know him. And i see him everywhere. I'm like obsessed, and i don't know why. God gives me tons of signals everyday, but i just am too scared. Is he waiting for me to say hey, or talk to him first? Why would he be waiting for me? he seems like the kind of guy that would never like me, but everyone knows that i like him, even his brother gives me looks. All the girls think he's like mad cute and hot, and he is, but then again other people say he's a tool and such. I just don't wanna believe them. Please help.
sincerely,
a girl who needs answers. (link)
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Well. That's quite a pickle you're caught in. Let me just say firstly that you shouldn't believe ANYTHING that anyone else tells you. If they say he's a tool, if they say he's not a tool; don't you think YOU should be the judge on that? Even if you really don't know him that well.. what if these people are lying? Secondly, I personally don't think it would be a bad idea to say "hi" to him. You might be surprised. If he ignores you, you shouldn't take it personally; he might just be preoccupied. In my opinion, I'd first smile at him in school or something. THEN I'd say hi to him on Facebook the day after. I know you really really like him and you want him to talk to you NOW NOW NOW, but you don't want to smile AND say hi in the same day, he might be a little weirded out. I'm not saying it's bad idea to do that, you can if you want to; I just wouldn't. If he looks at you a lot... trust me, it's not just because you're looking at him. If he's looking at you, he's looking for a REASON. I'm not sure as to quite what that reason may be, but it's a reason, and it's a good enough reason to get him staring at you. If he had no interest whatsoever, then why would he look at you? Why? Because you like him? No. Just no. That's stupid. No. Listen to me. I've learned from personal experience that if a guy (or girl) looks at you "longingly" then there's something on their mind that's about you. It may be good, it may be bad. But you'll never find out what he's thinking if you don't send two little letters to him on Facebook, now will you? You've liked him for "legit 3 years", correct? And what now? Are you going to like him for another "legit 3 years?" What good is that going to do? Haha. There are so many days I REGRET not talking to people I've liked in the past, and TRUST ME. I can't talk to people I like. But I surprisingly did.. a couple of months ago. At first, he didn't respond. I got scared that he didn't want to talk to me. Then I said it again, and he said sorry, but he was on his phone and he didn't get the first message. So even if he DOES ignore you on the first try, like I said, don't take it personally.. I'm glad I didn't. We've been talking for the past couple of months, and things are pretty good right now. Don't you want that to happen to you? Don't you wanna talk to your one and only love? Do it, you wont regret it.
I hope this helps :) And inbox me if you need help with anything else!! :)
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Okay so I met this guy at a concert, and he asked me for my number and I gave it to him. We then went to eat and we talked for like over an hour. Hes really cool and I like him.
He texted me the next day after we ate, but then he didnt text me again. So I text him after a day or so, and he still answers and has a conversation with me when I do text him.
He works 12 hours a day during the week, so I figured thats why he doesnt initiate the conversation.
But, I initiated the conversation the last couple of times, and I'm wondering if me always starting the conversation is strange? Like clingy? I like him, and I want to talk to him, so I just text him. I'm trying not to overanalyze it and just get to know him.
I'll take guys/girls perspective on this. thank you! (link)
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To be honest, I don't think you're being too clingy. I ALWAYS have the same worry when I talk to this guy I like on FB. But think about it. If you WERE being clingy, wouldn't he tell you? Orrrr ask yourself this. If you were being "clingy" and "bothering" him, then why would he continue to talk to you? It's probably just because you know, HE LIKES TALKING TO YOU. Maybe next time if it happens, ask him if you're bothering him.. and tell him to be honest about it. He probably will be. As I said before, I'm going through pretty much the same thing with a guy I like. I ALWAYS start the conversation, and sometimes he doesn't say anything, but other times we end up talking for over 2 hours. And I thought he was ignoring/avoiding me, so I just flat out asked him, "look do I bother you? Be honest." And he said "not really haha." So I thought maybe he wasn't sure about it, so I asked if he was sure, and he said "positive". I hope (if you DO decide to do that) that the same will happen for you, and you'll discover that you wasted about 10 minutes on Advicenators asking about it. In conclusion, I'm about 85% sure you have nothing to worry about it. Just ask him about it. If you don't feel comfortable doing that, then try it out on him. Don't talk to him for a while.. he may wonder the same thing about you, you never know. But I would personally go with the first one.. I really hope this helps you!! :)
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so i liked this guy for a while. not a big crush, but he was freakin' amazing.. then my bestfriend started liking him, and eventually they went out. So they jut broke up.. and i'm over him now, and started liking someone else who i've had feelings for, but not exactly liked since i was in first grade. and guess what.. she likes him now! and asked him who he liked.. and he said her and not me. So what do i do? :( (link)
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Maybe you just shouldn't tell her who you like anymore..? I mean I know she's your friend, and you should be able to trust her, but in this case if she's doing this to you intentionally then you just shouldn't tell her. OR tell her you like someone that you don't like, and see if she dates him. Just to prove if she's really doing this to hurt you or not. If you try that and she DOES date him, then I would definitely talk to her about it. If it gets worse from there, I'm sorry, but I wouldn't have her as a friend. I know it's probably hard to hear/read, but you can't let this go on forever. If you continue to let this go on, she may even take someone that's a little more than a crush to you, and you might not be able to stop her. So right now, don't think about your Bestfriend.. think about YOU and YOUR future. I really hope this helps! :)
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i cant find anybody that would date me, how can i find somebody? (link)
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be yourself. Trust me. If you dont want to do that, try creating an alias. An alias that has an awesome personality. Like, a little bit of everything. Then, convince yourself that that is who you really are. Once you feel good about yourself, you'll be more comfortable to maybe ask someone out.
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Okay. See here's the thing. I used to be such a stubborn independ, strong willed girl. You couldn't tell me to do anything, I was crazy. But when I started dating this boy. I think I let him change me... And I think I know the night it happened. I was hanging out with him one night and we were kissing, normal stuff. But then it started getting kind of hot, like I started to press into him more (we were laying down on the couch, I was on top) then he pulled me down so he was on top and started to press into me even harder, it almost hurt. He stopped for a second because I was hesitating now. I apologized and reminded him this was the first time I've ever been this physical with a guy, cuz he was my first boyfriend. He said it's okay and kept going. He started putting his hand down my pants and I pulled it out. A few minutes later he put it down again and I pulled it out. He put it in a third time and I knew, I knew it was wrong for him to keep doing this but somehow I also thought it was okay... I can't even explain it. It's like I shut down and just let him. I let him finger me. Then he stopped and I didn't even notice it but I had started crying. I don't know why I couldn't tell him to stop... I wasn't scared I was just like lost... completely zoned out. I don't know. He didn't notice I was crying and we kept going. He then proceeded to put my hand in his pants and I pulled it away. He asked me for a handjob and I said no. He told me it was okay. The next time we hung out he pulled down his pants and put my hand... well you know where. I started giving him a hj. I don't know why I couldnt' say no!! I started to cry though and we stopped and he hugged me, I just told him I didn't want to go so fast and he said okay. Except everytime we hung out he continued to finger me. When we hit six months I knew something was wrong. It was like this kid had sucked all of my strength out of me. I wasn't myself anymore. And when he asked for a bj I said no but like usual the things he said to convice me stopped seeming ilke convincing and started making so much sense even though I knew it was wrong. He told me things like "it's been six months, I finger you and it seems like that aspect of our relationship is completely one-sided. you should be comfortable enough to do this for me." and I did it... I was shocked with myself. I couldn't believe I was fourteen and doing this. I started crying after but he held me and told me it was okay and that he loved me and I believed him. He could tell me anything and I'd believe him. I don't know how our relationship got like this. Anyway, he dumped four days later. Its been two months since the break up and I know I'm stronger now. But I'm scared to trust myself with liking a guy again. I HATED how pathetic and used my ex made me feel. I HATED being his little slave. I don't ever want that again... I don't know if I can't trust boys or if I can't trust myself... I don't know what to do. How can I get back who I was?? (link)
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wow, That is quite a story! I dont understand why he wouldnt just listen to you. Maybe try doing something you used to do as a kid. Even if its something childish, it will make you feel happy, and maybe that will work. If that wont, I dont know what will.
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I'm a thirteen-year-old rising female freshman.
Back in September, I got my first boyfriend. Let's say his name was Tyler. Tyler verbally, mentally, and emotionally abused me for almost six months before I finally broke it off. The thing is - I know I was wrong to give in to this - I lost my virginity to Tyler. I thought I loved him, and adults around me believed we were in love too, so I don't know, I just felt like I could trust him. I know I was stupid, losing my virginity at thirteen to someone I no longer care about, but I've learned from my mistakes and won't do this for many years.
Now I've got a new boyfriend. Let's say his name is Aaron. I've known Aaron for almost two years now; we've always been close. I'm Aaron's first girlfriend. I love him a lot, and he's the person I trust most in this world. Recently, I accidentally let loose the fact that I have a deep dark secret (that I'm no longer a virgin). He got curious and asked what exactly my secret was, so I told him I trusted him enough that I would tell him by the end of the summer.
I have no regrets about saying I'd reveal my secret to him. I know he'd never tell anyone. What I am scared of, however, is what he'll think of me afterwards. What if he calls me a whore or something? I know that means he doesn't deserve me, that he isn't worth it. But unlike a lot of other people, his opinion means so much to me. I guess I kind of need some reassurance in my decision to tell him. D: (link)
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First off, calm down. If he really loves you, then he wont call you a whore. He'll probably be shocked, but he'll get used to the idea. Hang in there!
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What are ways to find out about a guy friend starting to become attracted to you? (link)
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1.) Ask some of your "mutual" friends.
2.) Look at the signs he gives you. If he smiles more often when you're around then he usually does/did. He may like you.
3.) Just ask him. If you tell him that it wouldnt ruin the friendship, maybe he'll be more willing to talk to you about it.
Hope this helps!
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