ok so theres this guy and we have never talked but i have known him since grade seven, and i have always liked him.now were in grade nine and i think he likes me cuz he has sung to me and he always smiles at me and tries to get my attention. but y wont he ask me out?? is there anyway i could seem like there was no way in hell id reject him?cuz i wouldnt!! and im way too shy to ask him out myself wat should i do?
well your gonna have to put yourself out there... ya know i used to be shy (i mean really really shy) and finally i woke up one day and ask'd my self "why am i shy?" once i ask'd myself that i wrote down reasons as to why i thought i was shy... such as i didn't want to get hurt... i was afraid of ridicule... and other personal things... once i prioritized that i have never looked back since... i feel that your shyness is hindering both yours and his decision to commit to this relationsip... here are a couple of sublte things you could do to make him sort of realize that your interested... because lets be honest we're guys and HA darnit all if we don't screw everything known to man up if the opportunity is given to us... so you have to kind of show him that YEA you are interested... ok here a couple things i look for when i talk to girls.... 1.) first off TALK TO HIM... its hard to carry on a conversation when he is the only one talking... trust me i KNOW i have been on both ends its very depressing... 2.)LAUGH AT THE THINGS HE SAYS... there is nothing more comforting to a dude when we say something funny and in return we get nothing less than a hearty laugh... trust me thats dang sexy... 3.) DON't be afraid to touch him... now im not saying hang all over him... but amid conversation don't be afraid to touch him maybe when your laughing just kind of rest your arm on him for a BRIEF second... trust me it makes us guys feel wanted when a girl touches us (AT LEAST I DO)... 4.) ok almost done ... ASK him to hangout on your own time... trust me this is HARD!!... but it works... and 9 out of 10 he will say yes... even like a movie or something... but don't come out and say "HEY LETS HANGOUT"... actually that might work LOL... but ask him "HEY have you seen this movie yet" "oh you haven't well ya wanna go" trust me i suckered a girl into that trap once before HA HA...but anyway just gets SOME PERSONAL TIME thats the number one thing PERSONAL TIME no matter how you acomplish it .... PERSONAL TIME... ha ha im gonna pound that point home.... PERSONAL TIME...and the last thing i have to say is DON't BE SHY trust me i used to be down that road and now i regret every minute i was...because honestly it sux and i certainly hope that you realize that being shy is difficult
.... I HOPE THIS HELPED
PIECE OUT
-kev
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ok here is the thing i want to have a long relationship but then again i dont. if any one has been in this place b-4 plz help. i just dont kno wat to do thanks.
oh god i think we have all been there... especially me... but best thing to do is take it one day at a time... because the more you want a long term relationship the more you will have expectations of the person you are dating... and you will never be able to reach your standards... but then on the other hand if you go about a relationship thinking that you will prob only be together for like 1-2 months that is no good either....so your best bet... is just to find some one that you truly feel comfortable around and you don't mind spending long peroids of time with... because if you find someone like that then you two are gonna be togehter for a long time... but the key is DON't RUSH anything!!!... but only time will tell if you two end up having a long term relationship or a little fling... but long term relationships are prob the best route to go... because that other person give you stability and... plus the two of you will have such an enjoyable time hanging out all the time.
kev
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hey my boyfriend and I are going out for 3 months and he tells me he loves me.. but he cheated on me by kissing some other chick .. ... so i broke up with him and .. now we are dating again .... do you then he is using me or he really loves me .. i need a guys point of view .... but your self in his shoes..
cheaters are not cool no matter how attractive they are for whatever reason...if he did it to you once he will do it to you again... and obviously you don't mean enough to him for him to have enough self control to not kiss a girl... so you know my answer... break up with him and don't regret it.... cause that is the last thing you wanna do... so break up with him because it will be better for you in ot long run
kev
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I have this guy friend who i never EVER thought as a boyfriend but i also have a boyfriend that i love very much well today my guy friend wrote me a note and gave it to me between classes it said " Would you go out wit me and if the answer is no keep it between us 2" I don no what to tell him and i need some help NOW!!!!
Yours truly, confused
just tell the kid no... and tell him also that you still want to be friends thorugh all of it... because the last thing you want is your friendship to be ruined over something dumb like this... so here is what you gotta do...call him up sometime and talk to him tell him everything that is on your mind...it will be hard at first but it will get easier as you go...TRUST ME...talk to him the both of you will feel better about it...i did the same thing to one of my best friends i told her that i liked her... and then the next night she called me up and we had this long dinscussion about how the two of us want t obe friends through it all... i think the most memorable comment she told me was "kevin your the best friend i could ever ask for and i want you to stay that way, i want you to be there 5 years fom now when i have forgotten about my boyfriend and i have moved on to better things...i want you to be there for me, being the best friend that you know how to be"... and ever since then we have been best friends for the past 4 years of our lives and i don't ever plan on changing that for whatever reason... so talk to him and you could even say what she told me... as long as you get the Point across that though you don't want to date him you still want him to be there for you for the rest of your life
kev
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Hello, I'm a 17 year old girl who has a problem, guys. I don't have any self-esteem issues so i agree I'm good looking (many guys think so also), I do really well in school (one of the top ranks), and I am devoting most of my school week time to studying, keeping my grades up and preparing for the SAT. However, on weekends I go out, party , socialize, have fun and forget about school work. So i would have to say my life is kind of balanced although I have a lot of school work. This is just some background information. Now, my problems are guys. I have no trouble getting guys interested/attracted to me without even trying. Most of the boys my age, and those a bit older (i tend to get along better with guys who are 2-3 years older) are interested, maybe cause of my looks, I don't know. Something always goes wrong though. I am the type of girl who likes the chase, who likes guys that are harder to get and have something different about them. I don't like to be an ordinary person. I never have serious relationships, and I am kind of glad because I dont want it to interferre with my school work, but it would be nice to date once in a while. I am not gullible or easily deceived, therefore "sweet talks" or any false attempts don't really work with me cause i can see right through it. However, the two past guys i've been interested in HAVE turned out pretty deceiving. First guy I deeply connected, date went well, but in a few days he decided to "ignore" me at one of our get-togethers/parties and kiss somebody else. Of course I would never put up with that, so the very next day when he tried talking to me I told him off. Second guy had been interested in meeting me for quite a while, and after the "1st guy altercation" we met kind of a double date sort of thing. Everything went well and it was extremely fun, until I found out he's been in a VERY serious relationship with someone for quite a while (but they cheat on each other quite often??? i don't get that). I was glad I was able to stop both cases before getting hurt. What really bothers me is the fact that I couldn't realize the way these guys were (i can usually read everyone) and I still can't clearly see it. It really bothers me I was gullible like that, and that I go for these kinds of guys!! What do u think about this? Sorry its extremely long.!
hey i would really like to answer your question... but i didn't really understand what i was trying to answer...so i understand about all of your altercations and i understand all of that... but when you get this just mail me back and tell me what you would like advice for... just give me a sentence or two... ok thanks a lot...i really wanna help
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my friends and i might be going to the movies and i want to sit next to my crush but i'm scared what should i do? how should i plan this?
lol this is a simple one..just ask if you could sit next to them...or if you are to scared to do that... just walk behind them as you guys file into your seats (that is the sneaky way i have pulled that one several times)
kev
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I like this guy. But my guy friend HATES him and i'm so close to going out with this guy but my guy friend says he'll never talk to me again if i go out with him. my friend is begging me to stop liking him but i like him so much! I don't want to lose my friend but i want to gain the guy i like. what should i do?
you know i always say that "it is better to have a best friend for 5 years then have a boyfriend for 5 months"...i know you don't want to hear this and i wouldn't either if i was in your same position... but i still say take your friend over this guy... because your friend is gonna be there when you need a shoulder to cry on 1 or 2 years down the road... and your "boyfriend" may only be with you for several months of the relationship is good...
good luck
kev
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Alright, well I just broke up with my boyfriend yesterday that I had been dating for 2 months and some days. And we had tried going out like 8 times before and this time it worked out for a while. Well as the relationship went on the attention he was giving me slowed down immensely and he started talking to other girls way more than me and hardly called me anymore and stuff. We talked about it for hours and he didnt change so I finally decided that I could do better. I was pretty happy when I first broke up with him. But then I listened to a song that I used to tell him was to him and tried talking to him online and that upset me and I cried a lil bit but after I stopped talking to him I was better. And he suppesdly still likes me and cares and crap. Should I try and go back out with him or just get over it considering he doesn't want to pay attention to me when he had plenty of opurtunities to change.. thanks xo
i say just get over him it sounds like he is only intereated in you just to say that he has a girlfriend and doesn't really care about how you think in terms of him conversating with other girls and the attention factor that all girls need...so my advice is plain and simple...forget him your probably better off without him anyway
good luck
kev
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I have been friends with this guy since the end of October.. We talk a lot, and at first I didn't like him "that way" but every day I begin to like him more and more. He has told people that he doesn't know who he likes, or he likes 3 people and I'm at the top of the list. My friend told him that I like him (with my permission) and he sort of just blushed and wouldn't answer any of her questions. If I am at the top of his list, and he knows I like him, why doesn't he just ask me out? What should I say to him? Or should I just wait patiently for him to make a move? Thanks
why don't you make the first move...because he sounds like a shy kid... so ask him out i am sure you will be happy when you find out that he will most likely say yes... i don't realy know what else to say... but just take the initiative and ask him out
ke
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okay so ive been goin out with brian for 4 months and i really really really likehim alot i think that i may even b falling in love but im not quite shua cuz i dunno wut love is like buti knoe i luv to spend time with him and i luv to look at him and i luv to talk to him but im scared cuz like i always find my self flirting with everyone! and i hate it! i mean i feel un loyal or w/e wut am i gonna do??! how can i make it stop?
flirting is such a casual thing now-a-days... i would not get all bent out of shape... but just don't take the flirting to far... like it is ok to flirt...just make sure that what you do doesn't look wrong... like put yourself in his shoes and if you think that he would be ok with what your doing then go ahead...but the moment you start wondering if you are flirting a bit to much with someone then just stop... that is all i gotta say
kev
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ive been dating this guy for awhile now and were not b/f and g/f but neither of us has been seeing anyone else and only see each other and when im with him hes the sweetest guy in the world and when we go out he shows me off and is always like "thats my baby :)" but at school we dont really see each other except like b4 1st period and during one period change.. and each day i walk past him like seriously 1 foot away from him and no one would be able to tell what we have between us.. and i want to go up to him but i dont know if he wants me to.. cause i dont know his friends and im worried that hes afraid what theyll think of me and him.. but i dont know cause its as much my fault as his that we dont talk at school.. i once asked him if he was mad that i never come up to him and he said no its okay.. some of my friends just say hes shy ( which is true ) and hes not trying to like push me away and others say it sounds kinda suspicious.. but i dont know.. is he ashamed of me or is it that were both too shy to walk up to one another when the other is with friends?
No he is not trying to push you away...people in general act really different in school...because me personally all the girls i hangout with outside of school... but during school we walk by and just say hello nothing more... and i think it is because we are all a little bit timid to act affectionate during school because we are scared of what people think of us...so i say don't worry about it but when you see him in the hall just say hello and keep walking...and don't get frustrated if he doesn't say hello back... because you know that outside of school the two of you are really close...i hope i made sense
hope i helped
kev
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im in love with this guy. weve been going out for almost 9 months. its real love, not just your average 14 year old junk. anyway.. i just totally dont feel like i deserve him. hes way too good for me. he loves me and he wants to be with me, but i just want the best for him. last night i broke up with him because i think he can do so much better. i want him to be with someone that does deserve him. i cant stop crying and i stole his cape (dont ask) and im attached to it. i miss him so much. but weve broken up and gotten back together so many times, it wouldnt be fair if i got back with him now. what should i do? please help me!
umm GET BACK WITH HIM at all costs... actually my friend and i were talkin about something like this the other day... and we decided that when we are dating someone we need to feel like they are much better than us because it makes us feel so special to have them... but i say if you really love him get back together and besides if he feels like he is to good then he will end it...but it doesn't sound like that is the case... i say call him asap before he starts to get over you..because that is one thing you do not want...
good luck hope i helped
kev
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Okie dokie...well maybe someone can help me on this one. I've liked this guy for hmm man I don't even know how long. It's just been a long time! Well I know I've always liked him I don't know if he has always liked me but sometimes he says he stops liking me because I don't talk to him enough. But then randomly he starts to like me again. I try to talk to him more when he says this because I don't want to loose him but then I give up and try and forget about him and not talk to him and stuff but that is when he starts to like me again. This has happened so many times before it's almost predictable that he will come back but I always am scared he won't. The time he just liked me he got me so attached. He told me that he has always loved me and he is always like I'm in love with the greatest thing. The times before he didn't even tell me he loved me!! So I don't know. I miss him so much. I don't think it would help if I talked to him about that because I have tried and he gets mad at me and says YOU NEVER CALL ME ENOUGH OR TALK TO ME and then I tell him I try to but he just doesn't listen. So is there anything I can do to get him back besides saying the same things I have? Thanks :)
ok umm you were on the right track to begin with... talk to him and just keep in touch with him because he is probably really confused about this whole situation also... so i say just keep in touch with him and do the same things you were doing because even if you two don't end up hookin up you will still make a friend out of this whole situation...make sense... and it sounds to me like the two of you get really close and then start drifting apart because the sparks don't fly (dumb saying, i know)... and then after the two of you stop talking he tries to attempt and save it by telling you he likes you...i think i understood what you were saying... ok here is my advice... this next time around talk to him and keep talking to him AND DON't GIVE UP... because us guys like to know we are important... AND start talking to him knowing that you two are only gonna be friends...as hard as it may sound... but start to become friends and start hangin out and doing stuff together and then after a while start making your move on him and see if it will work...(and maybe try talking to him about dating, BUT only if you want to)...and hey if your love life falls through you still have a good friend.. so anyway i know my answer was long winded but i hope i helped
hope i helped
kev
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Ok, so I like this guy and hes my best friends other best friend. And so we havnt MET in person yet, but we talk to eachother a lot and its not dangerous or anything because you know, its my best friends other best friend. Anyways he had sex with this girl the past weekend....and hes 13. It hurt me, but now he says that he doesnt really like her anymore and that if he met me that he would probably like me. But I dont know if I would be able to deal with the fact that he had sex with another girl so recently. SO I guess what Im asking is what would any of you out there do?! Because I really need some help....thanks.
i am still shocked he is 13... but i say forget him because if he was interested in you before the fact and then he went and slept with someother chick... he sounds like "A REAL WINNER" (that was sarcasm)....i say forget him i mean if you do say forget it, it is not like you have really lost a lot and it is not like you have met him in person either...i mean it would be better to sy NO now and not be hurt than no later when he does it again and you end up being hurt alot more
hope i helped
kev
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The guy who likes me is one of my best friends' friends i guess and he told her and no one else that he liked me. My friend is VERY trustworthy and she wont tell a secret EVER. And even tho she's my best friend, she wont tell me.
it sounds to me like your friend is being arogant.. because she is the only person who is stopping the two of you from being together... because who knows he could be the man of your dreams...i would definatly tell your friend that she is the one holding back this possible relationship....because knowing this guy unless he is a big puss will be happy she told you when he is going out with you
hope i helped
kev
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at school there is this one guy who i sort of like that isn't popular or anything but he is my ex-bf and im one of those people who is right in the middle with alot of friends and stuff who doesn't dress "showy" or wear a bunch of make-up because i dont dress to impress. anyway a bunch of my friends try to tell me he stil likes me when hes the one who broke up with me because we never talked or saw each other and that he thinks im really hott. i think its all a bunch of bologna but i don't know what i should do. should i ask him about it or just let it go or what?
i say just let it go... he broke up with you in the first place... and it sounds like his only reasons were because you never talked or saw each other....if you ask me those are pretty lame excuses because if you really try you can always spend time with someone whether it is on the phone over the internet or at their house... but those just sound like lame excuses because he messed up... and the worst part is that he is "telling your friends" that he still likes you instead of telling it to your face...i dunno... it sounds like this kid just doesn't try very hard at keeping a relationship going...i mean 1.) it sounds like he never really tried in the first place and 2.) becasue he messed up he is try to mend things up ( which is fine) but he won't talk to you...i say don't do anything....atleast until he makes the first move then see where it goes from there...
hope i helped
kev
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I have a secret admirer ( but my best friend knows who it is). What kind of thing can i have my friend say to this dude from me to let me know who he is? Any ideas? I REALLY want to know who he is, i dont want any dumb answers. Thanks!
wait your best friend knows who it is and she won't tell you...well that is sort of sketchy...i am not to sure what your asking so maybe refine your question and just send me a meesage and i will sty to help ya
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okay, the guy i really like just asked me out. yay. but the down side is hes punk. and im prep. i kno i kno it shouldnt matter. but if i go out with him i kno pplz are gonna look at me different, think im different and treat me different. i cant stand it. i really like this guy help me, should i or shouldnt i go out with him???
you shouldn't worry about it...becasue if people look at you differently especially your friends... that is just wrong... your friends should be there for you even if you are dating someone completely outside of the norm your friends should still have your back... and don't worry what other people say because you have a guy who likes you and friends who will stay by your side...so don't worry about it...but i would talk it over with your friends and tell them how you feel casue if they know your having doubts about them being there for you... it will make you guys even closer... so basically don't worry about either way and tell your friends what is goin through your mind
hope i helped
kev
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people keep telling my crush that we ((him and i)) should go out! he use to talk to me so much and now i feel like we don't talk as much as we use to! he is giving me mixed signals! what should i do?
TALK TO HIM... it never hurts to take the first step especially if you like that person...and try to hang with him as much as possible
kev
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ok so i like this guy at school soooo much and my friend says im in love and i like him soo much id do ANYTHING for this guy!! both of my friends say that he likes me by the way he looks at me sometimes and just because but i know he doesnt. i didnt ask him, but i can tell i dont know why he would like me anyways i want my friend to ask him who he likes and see if its actually me, but i KNOW he wont tell her bc he knows that shell tell me! and im not the type of person to ask him "ok whats the deal do you like me or not" or w/e and so i dont know how to get him to say if he likes me to my friend... i dont think he does but sometimes i have a hope that he does and i just love him!! he knows i like his best friend and my other friend says that hes supicious about me liking me... and that he knows theres something goin on.. so i just need to know how to find out if he likes me! and not lie to my friend! please help!
that got really confusing toward the end...but my only suggetion would be just start hangin with this guy... about all i can say
kevin
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