Q: How do I stop looking and going to my currently exs house??cause were not together and I'm depressed so how do I stop looking for him he lives in the mext street we were 2gether for 8 months it was a serious mature relationship..I felt he was cheating on me since he started working in burger king..and everytime I go 2 his house he says some hurtful thing help 16 f houston,tx

Q: my bf broke up with me yesterday but we got bak 2gether. but the thing is that he said he doesnt know if he loves me anymore, and i was just scared because i really love him, and i never cry when people tell me stuff like that, but with him i cried my eyes out, and he heard me and he told me not to cry, and he felt really bad but we're good now i guess but im just not sure if i want my heart broken again with him, what if the same things happen and same problems, and my best friend told me that he told her that he wanted 2 make out with her at the movies, and she said he was like: i would have ditched her for u, and i just really dont know what to do, im so confused with my brain and my heart.♥

Q: 16/m.

K to start off, my girlfriend of two weeks broke up with me about three weeks ago this friday (aka the week after homecoming..). I took it as a low blow because the monday after she broke up with me she had a new boyfriend (WTF?!) I was infuriated, and he isn't the nicest of guys (pot head). ANYWAYS, I got over it and I started to like this girl who has liked me for a while now. And I asked her out and we're currently dating. Im just wondering if it was too early for me to get back into a relationship? I mean the girl Im dating now is amazing and I wouldn't give her up for anyone, but was me rushing into another relationship a bad decision?

Q: oh myy. alright well.me and my boyfriend were togther for 13 months. him and me were like lil kids together, we did so much for each other, sometimes me a little more for him. he cheated on me once, just kissing another girl, about 10 monhts or less into the relationship. we got back together, i dont really regret it. well, anyways.. he moved to florida, i live in ny, about two months ago. we stayed together for a month, well tried to. we fought a lot, we worried a lot, he mentioned ending it. and it was just so aparent we had to be done. my whole life, i have been serously let down, and him doin this to me, cause i knew this would happen, makes me numb. i dont wanan cry, i dont ever wanna talk to him, i have feelings of hate, and its hard.. because, i do still care. i am just sooo let down. its been two weeks, i havent talked to him. i dont even know how to write this explaning how i feel. it kills me knowing he can be with other girls, it kills me knowing its come to this, he was my first love, lost my virginity to him, went through so much with him, and in a matter of words, it has all turned around. all i feel is numbness, a little devistation, and some happiness from relief of stress. hes coming home i guess in a month.. and, idk.. i dont know to talk to him, but i feel like that wil make me more upset. or just not talk to him, i dont even know haha. hes tried talkin to me, its just.. weird.. he says i love you and then other things hes like justnot him.. and i dont want to be messed with so i just dont talk to him..


anyhelp. at all. advice, relaated experiences, will be more than anything to me.

Q: okay so this weekend was crazyyy! parties were wild and they were in cities that are half an hour and over an hour away! well I met this guy on friday at the party and we've been talking ever since then. he told me and my friend that we should go to the party Sunday and long story short he wanted us both and he wouldn't make up his mindd! so Sunday I got wasted and was all over the guy and a lot of them were all over me, prob is this guys a player apparently and he prob just wants action but he says to me that he likes me and stuff so I really dk what to do I really want to believe him but at the same time I can't bc I'm prob not the only girl he says this to. he said he wants to see me soon and that he wants to kissme and that we should do shots tg and get naked he says he's jk but he didnt take advantage of me at the party so idk, there are so many details and so much drama went on this weekend and even though I know this guy prob just wants action I can't stop thinking about him! what should I do? :( we live only a half hour away from each other and hes 18 I'm 16 I left out way too many details though but I just kinda needed to vent to people who know nothing about the situation and see what they think!
thank you for your helpp!

Q: first off if you read this i just wanna thank you =)

okay this is probably normal..but i always get sexual attractions for my boyfriend and when we make out and stuff i always get extremely wet...i think thats good? however, im so afraid to have sex even though i definetly know we're not gonna for awhile...so is it normal to have sexual attractions yet not wanting to have sex?

also, when alot of people make out the hands move...he kinda just puts his arms around me and they stay there basically the whole time...does that mean anything? i tried moving his hands and he goes with where i move them to but then they just stay there and i want him to know that its okay for him to move them..without tellnig him that, so how do i drop little hints?

btw, hes told me that hes never been this crazy about a girl before but we havent said "i love you" yet because we both feel its too early in the relationship to decide yet...

any advice on anything would be really appreciated!

Q: whenever im not with my boyfriend, all i ever talk about is him. like CONSTANTLY. and im like always depressed when im not with him... is that like, weird?

Q: Ok so me and my best friend from college just discovered that we like eachother. The problem with it is he has a girlfriend of two years and he wants to break up with her but he cant for some reason. We've been hanging out alot and its getting harder for me to be around him because i know he still has a girlfriend. He still hasnt broke up with her and i have been wondering why not. What do i do about this situation?

Q: I sit Right infront of the guy i like in skewl like he sits sideways and i sit straight so wer pretty much right next to eachtoher,., i rlly rly like this kid since last year, but i have a hard time talkin to him sometimes, like i do talk to him but not SOO much.
But we do talk
Can anyone please tell me how to talk to him more or gimie some tips,, not things like "so whats ur fav color" nah nothing like that,,i have my friends next to me and he has his friends next to him so i dont want myself to look like an idiot
can anyone like help me or tell me how i should approach him ..
anyhting would be helpful thanks a whole lot

Q: 16/f

i'm normally an honest person but about recently i just got a new boyfriend. he's amazing and i could never wish for a better boyfriend. i want to keep him with me forever!! but i told him a lie and i regret doing it! and its a pretty big lie too. I told him that i finger myself but i really don't. I havent even worn a tampon yet! and i really really really really REALLY do not want to tell him that i don't finger myself because he will get mad that i lied and he told me that he really wants to finger me and if i tell him that i've never done it then it will all just crash and burn. we've been talking that when we are going to hang out again soon, that he wants to finger me but i'm not sure what to do. help!!! i don't know what to do!

Q: well recently, ive been dating this guy all summer and what made me so attached to him is we had sex. i found out while i was away at camp; he had sex with his ex girlfriend. i immediately broke up with him.. he is 18 and i am 15. i cried for days; lost ten pounds in a week; couldnt eat and couldnt sleep.the ex that he cheated on me with has been texting him everyday all summer. still getting mad that me and him wwere together. instead of hating him like i shouldve i cried in his arms.i was going to go to a frat party with a friend on friday; but he got really upset and nervous so i didnt. he hung out with the ex that he cheated on me with one night, and he took her home because i called him terribly upset crying and really scared. i felt so hooked to him. i told myself i can get through this im strong and ive been through worse. and now im talking to my other ex and starting to catch feelings again.. ive never loved anyone more than him nda he took my firsts.. should i keep trying to be with the one who cheated on me.. or should i go back to my first love.. its hard because ive spent so much time with the one who cheated on me & i feel like he deserves another chance.. pleasee helpp!

Q: Me and this girl have been seeing each other for awhile but i dont know if were dating or just fooling around i asked her about it once and she said we would take it slow but its been a couple weeks and now were pretty hot and heavy but im still not sure. and when shes at work i've heard her say that she was single but im not sure if she's only saying it cause she works at a bar and gets better tips that way.

Q: My husband and I are goint through so much at this time we had to move in with his parents becasue his dad is dying, we are both going to nursing school, and all we do is fight. I try so hard to be a good wife he never has to do anything the only thing is he told me today that he is not happy and will never be I ask him if he wanted me to leave and he said no we both are stubborn and Idon't know how to show him I love him with out showing him so much i push him away

Q: My boyfriend and I have been together over three years. We love each other more than anything and still make each other so happy. We're both 18, but he's about to be 19. Some things to keep in mind are that we don't have sex, he is a little on the shy side, and he has only had one other girlfriend besides me (but she barely even counts- it was middle school).

The thing is, I'm constantly second guessing how he feels about me. For instance, sometimes I see other couples constantly pulling out all the stops to make the other happy, and comparing our relationship to theirs. The excitment of being in a new relationship is long past, and when I see these other couples, I automatically think "Well, if he still feels the same, then he should be doing that.." or whatever, when in the back of my mind I know it's silly. And when I say something that I think should provoke a cuter/sweeter response than what his was, I get bothered by it.

I KNOW that he loves me, and I'm tired of asking him to show me more often, because I know it's not his fault that I feel/think like this. Anyone have any advice on how I can get past comparing our relationship to others, and just accept that we're unique and he shows his love differently than other guys?

Q: alright so i dated this guy for almost 2 years, and i REALLY loved him. but he started changing and he became a complete asshole and treated me like shit. he broke up with me about 3 times and then came back, it was the hardest thing ever.. i just wanted to get things back the way they were but it was too late beacuse he was already soooo different!! it hurt horribly, but i realized he wasnt a good guy anyway and that i needed to move on. its been 3 months since we broke up, and 2 whole weeks sice weve talked AT ALL, its the longest weve gone without talking! and i knoww hes not coming back this time, i really hate him for evrything! but anyways back to the point!! i met this new guy and weve been hanging out a lot and i know he likes me because he pretty much told me strait up. i think i might actually like him, which is awesome beacuse i havent liked anybody else since my ex! eventually im sure he's going to ask me out, and im just not sure if i should? do you think it would be wrong to him since i dated a guy so long and probably still have feelings for him?? or do you think i should just go for it?! it might help me get over my ex?!

Q: so one of my friends decided to hook me up with this guy she used to go to school with and that she used to have a crush on him blah blah blah..anyways he messaged me on myspace tellin me this too. when i told him i had to get off he texted me and he was pretty cool..i thought. we had a lot of stuff in common and he seemed okay but when i saw him he wasnt attractive and i dont like him so how should i tell him that without sounding rude. or like make something up lol

Q: there is this guy who is a bit older than i am (we're both in college) and he works at the library ... in order to borrow anything from them i have to go through the reserve desk and that's where he works.... so anyhow... i've been doing everything: eye contact smiles everything... i've only gotten to the point where he realizes that i am interested and he acknowledges. he flirted a couple of times the day before but the next day there was less eye contact (though he would acknowledge my presence by smiling or looking or smiling to himself when i look over) i don't want to seem desperate or basically young and clingy but thats the way i feel when i see him... my stomach goes in knots and i can't help but look to see if he is there (he is a master's candidate and i am a senior- he pointed that out casually to "us" and my research group when we wanted to borrow projector equipment and so on).....

what should i do? i mean how do i get him to do something? and what should i say to him while returning stuff... what kind of small talk should i initiate?? AND HOW DO I KNW HE LIKES ME! i am Hispanic so i have a very small waistline and small bust and hugeeee thighs and knees (pear shaped) compared to the proportions of Caucasians which makes me feel very very conscious ... i am really confused i mean how do i tell if he finds me unattractive?!?!?!

Q: 15/F

okay so normally i dont really care about these things.
But its happened so often i think its time i do something about this.
Beofore i even get to explaining it i want you to know that breaking up is NOT an option for me.

Whenever im on the phone with my boyfriend and he has his friend or cousins over.
He NEVER talks to me, he just talks to the people hes in the rooom with, and leaves me holding the phone to my ear and looksing stupid.
yesterday, i hung up because it was getting really annoying, and it took him ten minutes to realize i hung up, and only THEN did he call me backk.
Then he just does the same thing over again.
Every now and then he would say
"sorry"
or
"uhh ... hang in a second" and then goof around or talk to the other people in the room for like twenty minutes!
While I, again, am STILL on the line.
Or whenever i would try and get him talking, he would be like "......sorry what?" over and over again.
If your going to call me, TALK TO ME.
I dont know any way else to put it.
It really makes me mad, i think hes trying to impress me with the face that he has an awesome life of laughter and friends.
And i really think thats good, but when my boyfriend calls me, i want to talk to him.
He can goof around later.
Now, i love him very much and hes really sensitive to what i say ...
but this has just got to stop.
He also is different in front of his friends in front of me.
He'll goof around with them, and call me when i even HEAR hes having a good time:
then later on he'll be like
"Ugh (so and so) is so annoying i hate him, i only hang out with his cuz i feel bad"
or something like that
Please give me any solutions?

Q: Has anyone ever felt such a strong physical pain left mentally by someone else? My ex boyfriend used to be everything, my superhero. He moved out to Rhode Island for me but it completely changed him. Our whole year of amazing love has turned into me being dirt in his eyes. We've had problems just like everyone else but we were always there for eachother. When he came here he started to fall into other girls and once he got a job and his own place to live it was like he was completely done with me. I feel so used but I don't want to believe it I want to believe in the guy I once knew. Its tearing me apart literally to the point of hyperventalation. Nothing I do can remind him of our promises nothing I say can change his heart and my heart can't accept that. How can I get his hurtful image out of my head?

Q: There's this boy that I use to go out with maybe about like a year ago and to make a long story short, we don't talk to each other anymore. Well, he's leaving in about a week to go to college, and I've sorta been talking to him like how's your summer been kinda crap. And I've acknowledged the fact that we are such crappy friends cause we can't talk to each other and stuff and he agrees with me. Anyways, I don't know if this is just me thinking about him again or whatever, but I really, really want to have sex with him. (I don't want him to be my boyfriend again I just want to do it with him.) He was just so good at kissing and after we stopped going out, we still did stuff together until I ended it because I didn't want to do things anymore without having a boyfriend. (Hypocrite, I know.) So what my question is is how do I confront him about this? It's really embarrassing and also really scary because what if he says no he doesn't want to? I'll feel like a total idiot. Please help and thank you!

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