|
ex boyfriend & ex ex boyfriend
well recently, ive been dating this guy all summer and what made me so attached to him is we had sex. i found out while i was away at camp; he had sex with his ex girlfriend. i immediately broke up with him.. he is 18 and i am 15. i cried for days; lost ten pounds in a week; couldnt eat and couldnt sleep.the ex that he cheated on me with has been texting him everyday all summer. still getting mad that me and him wwere together. instead of hating him like i shouldve i cried in his arms.i was going to go to a frat party with a friend on friday; but he got really upset and nervous so i didnt. he hung out with the ex that he cheated on me with one night, and he took her home because i called him terribly upset crying and really scared. i felt so hooked to him. i told myself i can get through this im strong and ive been through worse. and now im talking to my other ex and starting to catch feelings again.. ive never loved anyone more than him nda he took my firsts.. should i keep trying to be with the one who cheated on me.. or should i go back to my first love.. its hard because ive spent so much time with the one who cheated on me & i feel like he deserves another chance.. pleasee helpp!
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
The guy that cheated on you with his ex sounds like he is not through with her yet. When you are in a new relationship, or any relationship for that matter, you don't want to be in a competition with the ex. That will drain you emotionally and cause you to waste your energy in ways that will not be constructive. Since he has cheated on you, it is likely that he will do it again. You are worth more than that and if he can't see it that is his problem. Don't stick around if he is clearly still interested in his ex and even still talking to her. Your ex boyfriend may be an ok choice, but you need to think about why he is your ex. If he hasn't betrayed you and the two of you still have a solid friendship, he could be a good choice for a second chance. Only you really know if you can trust him, but the guy you are seeing now is not trust worthy. The reason he doesn't want you to party is because he has a guilty conscience and he doesn't want you to do something that he might do.
]
Get rid of the guy that cheated on you. It's likely that he'll do it again. It's not fair that he got upset when you were gonna go to a party with a friend when he slept with his ex and texted her all summer.
The ex that you're feeling for again might be a good transition to get you back onto the dating scene.
You've got a ton of choices. And that guy that cheated on you is obviously not a good choice. There's a million guys that are better than him who wouldn't do that to you.
Cheers,
stargirl
]
i know exactly how you feel and this may not be the best adivce
but i went back with the guy who cheated on me. and was 18 also.
as much as i liked him and was attached to him, taking him back was one of the dumbest things i could of done.
yes people do give out second chances, but why even want a second chance. you have it good the first time, why even want to mess it up.
i think you should go back with your first love.
the guy you are crying over is 18 and youre only 15, hes three years older then you and you two are on two different levels. he is at the stage in life just like every other guy that he just wants to get with a bunch of girls.
i know its going to be hard. but me and my last boyfriend who i just told you about are completely over. ive cried over him so much and i didnt eat and i was depressed. but ive learned that not everyone in life is going to be worth it. youre going to get your heart broken a bunch of times. this is where you need to learn from your mistakes and your past just to make youre future stronger.
and im really glad i did let him go. im much happier now and ive moved on.
if you need to talk. im here (:
hope i helpppped.
]
More Questions: |