Well, I'm a serious sometimes funny type of person and usually my problem evolves in my love life :) ain't as lucky as you are.lol. I'm 16 and somewhat emotional. They say one of my assets is being sensitive to the feelings of others and one of my bad habits is playing with my hands while looking for words.
E-mail: phinyf@lycos.com
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Location: Philippines
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Age: 16
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there is a guy that i have liked for 2 monthes now and every night he asks me to sneak out with him.....to make out and crap like that and i talk to his friends and i found out that he never liked me but he asked me out 2 weeks ago but the only time he will hang out with me is at night when we sneak out!!!! sometimes i say no but he always says he has a surprise for me which always works but im tired of just talking to him at night i want to hang out with him and talk during the day as well but he wont!!! so i no i should break up with him but i dk!!! please help me!!! (link)
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You know what? It's obvious he's just using you to fulfill his sexual needs. You're right he's just using you. If he likes you like you do to him then he won't just come at night and refuse talking to you at day. I know it'll be hard breaking up with him but I can see also that you're hurting more and more. Don't let yourself be in his trap again. Next time he sneaks at you in the night. Tell him you won't let him do that to you anymore. If he wants still to let your relationship going then he'll talk to you in the morning and hang out with you. If he doesn't like then tell him face to face and with conviction that you don't like to sneak with him at night again!
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First off, im 15/f. Ok, well, i like this guy and i know he likes me, he's driven me home from work several times, we've exchanges numbers and he has asked me out on dates. We both got out of serious relationships in january and are both ready to be in another one. We've talked about being in love and relationships and everything, but there is one problem... he is 18. He is 2 years and 11 months older than me. I know its not illegal if we dated, only illegal if we had sex, which he knows im not gunna do that. But my parents don't like the fact that i am friends with him, ONLY because he is 18. We like each other a lot, but i don't know what to do. I'm not going to ignore the felings, because i know that there is something there, we can both feel it and we both want to act on them. So my question is how can i convince my parents about him. He's a great guy, probably one of the best i've ever met. And we want to be together! Thanks a lot! (link)
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Maybe your parents are worried that the guy you like will just play with your feelings since after all he's older than you. I think you should tell the guy you like about this and ask if he's willing to confront your parents and tell them that he'll not fool you. That is one way how to convince your parents that he's sincere of his feelings towards you. If not, you can explain to your parents your dilemma. Tell them that he's a great guy and is sincere and will not play with your feelings. Even if the first time they'll not listen to you, sooner or later if they can see that inspite of the fact that you're seeing each other, you aren't hurt or being hurt by this guy. They'll accept him even as your friend. After all, they had once undergone that stage. :)
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ok this is really worryin me my g/f is in middlsboro with her mom 4 the summer there is alot of boys that like her up there. i mean yea i trust her and all but i rlly dont kno what 2 think about all those boys can any1 help me???? (link)
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It's just normal to feel worried when there are really many boys out there but as you said you trust your gf. So tell her that you trust her not to entertain other boys then just keep your mind from worrying.
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Well, I met this boy through a friend..and me and him went out. I was shallow and wouldnt stay with him..it was about 3 years ago. and then we stopped talking and then started talking again..he was having problems at home and moved in with my family (hes 17 now). We became the best of friends..then all of the sudden "poof" he left out of NO WHERE. and now we are talking and stuff and i really miss him. i told him i didnt want him to leave and that i miss him. but do you have any ideas on how to really hit him on how much he hurt me? i need the help. That boy means alot to me, and i dont want the only person that was ever there to go away..
thanx (link)
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Aside from what they've said, I think you should let him realize how much he've hurt you by telling him your feelings if not in front of his face on the telephone. You tell him that he hurted you by leaving you and etc. Let him really realize by showing your true feelings. Don't let this pass by and ignore it since he'll do just the same mistake again and again.
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I am looking for a guy that goes to Las Colinas Middle School theres this guy hes in my elective his nam is Yuehuan and i think i like him and i think he likes me what should i do (link)
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I think you should talk to him. Be friendly with him and really check out if your thinking is true. Like, walk towards him and ask him anything that might be of interest to him. Then if he answers then that's it. I'm sure he won't be afraid/shy to talk to you already.
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about a year ago i lost my virginity to the guy who i thought i was in love with. we were together for about 7 or 8 months after that. we would always just hold each other and make each other laugh and i still love him so much! but we got in trouble together(has nothing to do with this story so i just won;t go into details) and now we can see each other. about a month after that happened he got a girlfriend andi started dating this who i really like but i don't think i love him yet. we are both cool with seeing other people now but i know it secretly rips us up inside. but we still manage to sneak around and see each other from time to time. and i know that we can never ever be together again so it just makes it harder every time we see each other cuz i miss him and i want him back so bad. and he always does the little things that he knows drives me crazy about him and i do the same. i know i should move on but i couldn't go on living knowing that i am never going to see him or be able to talk to him again. what should i do?? please help. i think i might be hurting myself more then helping. (link)
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Okay. So tell your ex-bf that once and for all if he really likes you still and wants you back then that'll be the case, you'll be with him and you'll stop hurting. Confront him about this and you need to tell him that this secret meeting must stop since both of you are hurting yourselves. You need to let him make a choice whether to be with you or completely out of your life.
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I broke up with my bf about 3 weeks ago and within that time he started going out with a girl but she broke up with him. While he was with her he was being bitchy and plain out wrong with me but now that they have broken up he regrets everything he said and did and wants me back.When we broke up I cried and was hurt for a LONG while but now I am dealing with it.Well he wants me back and I don't know if I should give him a chance part of me says yes but the other says no. I don't know what I should do but sometimes I just feel like calling him just to hear his voice but then again I don't want to get hurt again. Pleace help me out! (link)
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I think you should test if he's really sincere or not. Why not pretend saying no to him at first not only will you test his sincerity in this, you'll also get even with him. Why did he go out with a girl and being ill with you the whole time. Then now wants you back? Does he want to use you only? So maybe you can use this tactic to him. After saying no to him, he still persists for a long time and you really really think he's sincere and you still have feelings for him then go on. Let him promise to you not to hurt you again and let him explain why he was ill with you the whole time he was with the other girl. If you're acceptable with it then go on and say yes to him.
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okay. so i dated this girl for a while. and we seemed to have a really good connection with each other. we were into the same things, we were both sarcastic smartasses, and we both liked doing the same kinda stuff. and well when i met her she was in the process of breaking up with her boyfriend. and so i was more of the friend to turn to than anything else. then slowly we started to date like after they broke up. and for about a weekend we were very into each other, and things seemed to be wonderful. then as the weekend ended she said she didn't feel the same way about me as i did about her. and so i decided to sit back and wait until she was really ready for a relationship because after some talking we kinda realized she needed some time to get back into the swing of things. and it was during this time that she began to change. she became mean, she began just totally ignoring me for days on end. the phone calls ceased. there would be whole days when i'd hear nothing from her. then i'd talk to her a bit and that was it. and now finally i come home to find out she spent the last couple days drinking, partying, and hanging out with sleazy guys. and i instantly became very mad and jealous. and i just wanna know. is it wrong for me to be mad? for me to not want her around? for me to tell her she's changed and become someone i don't know anymore? i told her not to contact me any longer, and that she had become someone else, someone i didn't know or love. and now in hindsight i kinda wanna know: was it wrong? (link)
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In my personal opinion it isn't wrong for you to be mad at her and don't want her around since she didn't do what you thought she'll do. Instead of using the time you gave her to think things over, she use it in drinking and partying with other guys. You're right when you said for her to not contact you unless ofcourse she have changed. She must have had a really big problem to be drinking like that. Does she still have feelings for her ex-bf or what? She was the one who cut all the ties with you. What with not contacting you and changing her attitude. I think it's just fair for you to go on with your life and find someone better than her.
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Ok well I like this guy but the problem is, we havn't met in person yet. We've talked on the phone and computer but havn't met! And im like, So crazy about this kid its weird! And i don't want him to see me in person 'cause i think im really ugly and fat. People say no but i think they're lieing! But i need help on what I should do. Because what if we do meet and he thinks im ugly or what ever and doesn't talk to me anymore? He's seen a few of my pictures but i don't think they look like me! So i don't know what to do. Please help. ANYTHING! I rate high. Thank you so much.
x333 Kara (link)
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I think as early as now you should reduce your figure so that when you meet him you'll be physically fit infront of his eyes. You eat lesser now and if you can afford it, have a make-over. Choose a hairstyle that fits your face. I don't believe there's a person made by God that's ugly. Maybe you haven't found the hairstyle and the products to use to enhance your face. Not only that be confident too. Have extra care on your body.
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My friend called me out of the blue asking me if i hav e my older friends brothers number.And she said she wants to ask him out! but she already has a great boyfriend that likes her ALOT! and so then she asked me for the number so i gave it 2 her and they yelledat her ..... she asked me if she should stay with akram or go out with danny! wat shoul i tell her (link)
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Maybe you should ask her which she prefers? Does sh likes to be with akram more than danny or otherwise? If she'll choose danny then there's no going back. If things doesn't work out, she musn't like regret if ever she'll break up with danny. If she'll choose akram then there will be no problem except if she really wanted to go out with danny. Tell your friend to make up her mind and choose someone who'll she'll not regret choosing.
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kay well I was with this guy for a year i basically lived with him i was never home id go home to visit once ina while we told each other we loved each other and of course thought we would be together forever.. well forever doesnt last as we all know.. but he has a girlfriend now.. someone that ive known since i was like 5 use to be friends with then didnt like each other anymore.. when we broke up he told me he didnt wnat to be with anyone but then like a week later he was with her & still is but he always comes to me like im his back up girl he cheats on his girlfriend with me my question is do you think he still has feelings for me? or he just uses me because he knows he can? im still heartbroken and cant get over him but am living to live my life without him but it hurts even more when he uses me and tell me he loves me then leaves and then im just his friend again I wrote him a note the other day saying that i cant let him use me anymore because its only hurting me more and it not fair to his girlfriend. He tells her he loves her now but i jsut dont see how you can love one person then ina week happy to be with someone else and in 2 months tell them you love them.. thanx to anyone who trys to answer (link)
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Men are as what they say polygamous so in my point of view I really don't know if he has feelings for you still. All I know is that maybe he isn't contented to be with his girlfriend always. Loving isn't cheating so I think also he doesn't love his current girlfriend. Did he ever cheat on you when you were still in a relationship? You're doing right when you gave him a note and said that you can't let him use you. If he has feelings for you still, I think the proof that'll support it is if he'll break with his current girlfriend when you said that you can't let him use you. It's better to get hurt and go on with your life than getting hurt and being stagnant in a relationship that hurts more.
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This boy & I have been flirting/messsing with eachother all school year now. Everyone can tell we like eachother but neither of us will make a serious move. I know he won't because his friends will tease and he's a little shy/immature. I'm afraid of rejection & being teased. It's the end of the year and this boy is one in a million, I like him very much. What can I do to let him know being friends isn't enough and over the summer I want to see him? (link)
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Maybe you should talk to him when like he's alone and just ask him hey, where are you going this summer that kind of things and then all will just follow you know. Don't think of rejection because you know that he likes you too. Not only that, if he'll be gone and you don't know where when classes stop then I know you'll really regret not knowing where he is and also his number.
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ok so me and my boyfriend broke up because he stalked me and he still kinda does.he got mad becuase i hung out with this guy down the street who is 15.me and the guy hung out alot by ourselves and we never did anything like that.my (ex)boyfriend always accused me of doing things with him.not just him but a bunch of others guys and the guys who he thought i was doing stuff with stop talking to me because my ex boyfriend is 6'5 or 6'6 so none of the guys wanted to get in fights.was i right for breaking up with my boyfriend?i was really missing my guy friends=( (link)
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If you really love your boyfriend then let him understand that you're just friends with the other guys. Maybe you were flirting with them that's why ofcourse your boyfriend got jealous but if that's the reason why you broke up with your boyfriend then it's really very shallow reason. If you're missing your guy friends than your boyfriend and you don't have any feelings for him so go on and tell your boyfriend that you're not her girlfriend anymore and be with your friends but if you still have feelings than maybe you can save your relationship by letting him understand.
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i cant tell u my name>>>im 14 years old, im not in a relationship right now..ther is this guy i haev known for along time n that i kind of have a crush on..he says he is getting married to a girl that loves him but he does not love her..he has ruined his life by doing a whole lot of stuff. he is in love with one of my close friends but she wants nothing to do with him..so he thinks gettign married n moving far away is a good idea. now i want him to knwo that i love him very much n care for, him but i just dont know hwat to do know..HELP (link)
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I think before he'll go and get married if you really love him then tell him before it's too late. Don't follow me that when it was too late then I really regret not saying my feelings. So I know you'll regret it too. If you can't say it first then show it to him in little ways then maybe that time he'll understand what you're feeling. Take the chance. You'll never know what will happen. Good luck!
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I have been dating a woman for a year now. We have shared so much with one another, love happiness, and even upsets from other people, but at the end of everyday we could each say that we were in love and truly mean it. Then out of the blue, she told me that she wasn't sure about how she felt, becasue she is returning to college in august, and we will be going to sperate schools. But it hurt her to say it, becasue she cried. We believe in morality so absolutely nothing happened physically, but emotionally we were there. I have tried everything about explaining how I felt and how she felt, she just refuses to listen to me. How to I get her to see how she truly feels? She is the only person to ever of love me, and I can't lose her. What do I do? I am a male, of 22. (link)
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I'm not that well experience as you are but I want to say that maybe you should prove how great your love is to her. Not only that sacrificing for her sake will maybe open her eyes to the truth that she loves you too. If there is still hope then try again to talk to her. Don't give up. Make her realize that you really love her so much not in words but also in actions.
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my boyfriend and i broke up on monday. and i knew it was gonna hppen since a week and a half ago. but. i still like him. and i need to get overhim, hes a very bad person. i need to stop thinking about all the good feelings and times we had together. because i start crying again. i want to be over him. i wake up every morning with a heavy heart and i dont think he even cares. thats what gets me too. any advice on how to forget? (link)
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Like you, I long to forget someone who have broken my heart. I know it's really really pretty hard. Many things remind me of him and maybe it applies to you too and like you, I also have a bad day to start with. Whenever I go outside, It's like I really wanted to see him but I know it's hopeless. In the first few weeks, it'll be really hard for you but as time passes by, like they said time heals all wounds. Don't push yourself to forget him. Instead you'll just forget him when you're ready to forget him. Slowly, pick things that he has given you or reminds you of him and dispose or hide it. Be sure not to open it again otherwise the pain will start again. It's a painful process but worthwhile to start living without him.
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i recently went on vacation to visit my brother. my brother is a marine. so i met other marines and i met one of his friends and we hit it off. the problem is that i have a boyfriend of 9 years. we have three kids together. but i have no sexual intrest in him at all. i felt this way before i went on vacation. we are supposed to be getting married in july. what should i do?? (link)
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I think you should tell the friend of your brother that you have 3 kids with another guy. By now, you should choose between your boyfriend of 9 years or the guy you just met. Sometimes when we lose someone, that's the time that you'll realize how much that person means to you. So you should be careful in choosing. 9 years is already a long-term relationship and it'll just come to nothing if you'll choose the friend of your brother. But if you really really wish to choose the friend of your brother, make it sure that he knows that you have 3 kids and also he welcomes you inspite of that. Remember having interest on someone because of sex is not a guarantee of a solid relationship.
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I was going out with this boy for 2 months and I decided it was best we brake up and stay friends but when I broke up with him I thought he was going to doit and the same day we broke up he got together with his ex.When I found out I fell and started crying I still do cry about it when something reminds me of him I really want to stop and move on but I still see him at school and all I want to do it get with him again but I don't know what to do I miss him so much and I still care about him as much as I try to find a reason to hate him.Please help!!! (link)
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In the first place, why did you broke up with him if you aren't sure of your feelings? Well, we can't change that but I think it's because when we lose something/someone that's the time we realize how important it is in our lives. I myself had been in a process that really really hurts. Forgetting someone you really care about. Like you, I cried many many times but I can't change anything with that instead I became stronger and time will just heal. But if you want to give one last try, then you can approach him and see if he still have feelings for you. If he made it clear that he doesn't like you anymore or if you see that there's really no hope, that's the time that you give up. In my part, I didn't try to save my relationship so it was really painful since I didn't try and now I keep wondering what if I tried? I hope it wouldn't happen to you.
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I met up again with a boy I had been talking to online for a while an hadn't seen in a bit. He was totally ecstatic to see me! He gave me the best hug of my life and all. But ever since, our conversations have been duller and there are more gaps. He told me before we met that he was starting to really have a serious crush on me, and I felt so happy because I had liked him for a while. But I can't tell if I did anything wrong or anything. Is he losing interest in me? How can I tell if his crush is growing, shrinking, or not progressing? (link)
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You will know if his crush is shrinking if his answers are like no consideration to your feelings. They aren't nice anymore and not at all entertaining. They're boring and he doesn't care if he'll talk to you once in a blue moon. You'll know if the crush is growing if he makes it to the point that he talks to you everyday or if not everyday then he always finds a way for you talk together. You'll know if the crush is not progressing if it's still the same. He's not getting sweeter and the time he spends with you is still the same.
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why is it that guys say thingsto the girl to get what they want out of a relationship, but when that relatioship is over or they don't get what they want, they brush it off like they never said it? i am thoroughly confused by this. if you know why or think you do, please explain it to me. thanks in advance.
confused & hopeless (link)
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They do that because ofcourse they're desperate to get something out of that relationship fast. After that, if they won't get it then they wouldn't accept the responsibility of what they've said. In short they're not true to their words. They're not sincere in what they're saying. They just said it to get what they want. If you've encountered someone like that then try to distance yourself. Everything they'll say may or may not be true and you'll find yourself asking if what he's saying is true or not. Men like that are complicated. But sometimes there are exceptions to the rule. Some realized their mistake before it is too late but some wouldn't change.
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