I am a single mom of a three year old little girl who i am pushing to be te best person she can be. I am striving to find myself a literary agent so that the words i write dont die with me but change the lives of the people who read my work.
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Im 14 and a guy, i have had 1 gf but i didn't kiss her or anything but hug and i was wondering if first kisses are suppose to be awkwardish?
And is it normal to not kno what to do? (link)
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sweaty palms... pounding hearts... shaking hands... the inability to think or breathe or put rational thought together are all signs of your first kiss. im older then you and when a guy kisses me for the first time i still get nervous and because its the first time your kissing each other and neither of you knows what to expect it should be awkward... just take a deep breath relax and try not to puke on her and you should be fine
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so there is this guy, he only wants me because i almost grinded on him. I'm only seventeen, and I know that i'm not supposed to take any relationships at this age too seriously or anything like that....its just basically about dating a lot of guys and getting to know what i really like and don't like, and just having fun. He is hot, but he is a player. Should i let him in? or should i not? or should i just let him in and just have fun without taking anything too seriously? (link)
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women usually have trouble separating their emotions from the physical....so if you do decide to "do him" be careful.
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subject says it all, What are some songs about players and about getting over them or whatever? I just saw the guy i liked, walking with two girls, all over them both. I feel like sh!t,lol. Any songs from any genre will do,i like them all. (not so much rap/hip-hop..but if theres some good ones i'll check 'em out) I kinda want one that says "I can get over you//you dont mean anything to me//your just a player//" But again anything will do. Thanks so much =/. (link)
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i know you said you dont like much hip hip but keyshia cole has some really good ones two of my faves are i should have cheated, shoulda let you go and let it go... but let it go is more of a your man isnt good enough for you so i dont want him kinda thing... if i can think of some more ill let ya know
also before he cheats by carrie underwood.... im not much for country but its a good one
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Ok, here's the problem. A really good friend of mine, Nick, has been in a bad relationship for a while. It is clearly causing him pain and frustration. Friday night, we were watching a movie and eventually started making-out. It lasted about 2 hours. I don't know what to do about it. Should I talk to him? We said it wouldn't be awkward, but I do kind of like him. I'm very confused. What should I do? (link)
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sometimes frieds make the best couples... but his other relationship should end before you guys do that again... ask him where you stand
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I am 16/f
And I like this boy named let's say Ryan and he is a senior.I'm a sophmore. We really don't talk cuz were both in different grades. I just talked to him yesterday and he looked so good. We both like basketball and I just know we would click. But how do I talk to him without being obvious. (link)
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who cares if its obvious? first of all boys are known for their observation skills...not! dont throw yourself at him but if you see him in the hall stop and say hi.... or try and talk bball with him
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I do this all of the time and it's really aggravating. Yesterday, my best friend (Michelle) brought down her boyfriend (Jason) and his friend (Chris) to my house to hang out for awhile. By the end of the night, Chris told me that he really had grown to like me over the hours of conversation and wanted to know if I felt the same. I told him that I wasn't interested right now--BUT I AM! I have no clue why I ended up saying that but I do it all of the time! I get to know a super great guy that and when he tells me that he likes me I tell him that I don't have the same feelings for him even though I do. It's really confusing because afterwards I feel like a complete idiot and regret opening my big mouth about the situation. Why don't I give these guys a chance? It just doesn't make any sense to me why I just KEEP doing it... (link)
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your automatic response is to protect yourself from hurt... i do it too. so if you really like this guy then the only way to fix it is to go to him and flirt a little and try to show him that your interested...
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What's your view on 'first loves'?
Like, do you believe you'll always love the first person you fell inlove with ... to some degree?
Because it's been about 2 years since my first and I broke up, and I'm still hung up on him. Not like intensely, just... I still feel for him, and have wished I didn't for years now. What the hell?
Yeah, so... what do you think about first loves?
Thanks. ^__^
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my first lovr has always held a place in my heart and hes now married with two kids and both he and his wife are some of my best friends. she knows about our history but thats what it is.... its history so i dont day dream about him anymore but yeah i believe that your first love will always hold a little piece of your heart. its that person who taught you how to love
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(please dont judge by the age judge by wat i tell you first than if you want than judge by the age than judge the age thx)ok anyway i have a boyfriend named jack. he is 14 turnin 15. im 14 btw. well my bf is never really on anymore or never really emails me he waits until i email him and when i ask him why he didnt email me or why he hasnt been on he either says he has been sick or its his parents fault not his (i dont now if this is true or not i just now his parents sometimes doesnt let him stay on as long but he could email me u now) well now i have this crush who is 17. he's name is lane. we use to be like best friends but now we have a crush on each other. lane nows i have a bf and doesnt want to rush me but he asked me why i didnt dump my bf if i liked him so much. i told him i didnt have a good enough reason. my bf says he loves me a whole lot but he never really acts like it i mean he says he loves me and stuff but he never acts interested in wat i am sayin if he does ive missed it. so you see i dont want jack no more i want lane but i dont have a good enough reason you think you have any good reason for me? a reason he will understand and wont be sad and maybe we can still b friends afterwards? thx
mary (link)
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actions speak louder then words if he says it but doesnt act it then his actions are speaking volumes of silence
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I've been with my boyfriend for almost three weeks, and people keep saying to me 'Awh, you and * look so cute together!' or things along those lines, and I'm not sure how I should respond. I mean, naturally I'm happy, but I'm just not sure what an appropriate response to that would be.
Any suggestions? :) (link)
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respond with a flirty/ funny comeback. like yeah its because hes with me or yeah i know.... do it with a smile and a wink or follow it by saying just kidding so people know you arent serious
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Where do I begin?
Story of my life:
was born in the philippines, we were wealthy back home. with a single mom, working as a part time nurse, and a full time manager of a computer company. She left all of this to go to Canada to work as a nanny so she could sponsor me so I could come to Canada and have a better life.
4 years after her hard work working in Canada with a minimum wage as nanny, all her hard work payed off as I am now living in Canada all thanks to her.
3 years later when i went to Highschool, in my first year I met this girl online that lives in California. We both fell in love with each other so we both decided to work out a long distance relationship. We would visit each other every summer and sometimes christmas if it was possible. 4 years have now passed and I hve now graduated from Highschool. Going to university
Me and my gf decide that we should go and live in California when i get my degree, because she is not really fond of the canadian cold winter and the lack of any little left of culture that canada has to offer compared to America.
Now my problem is this,I dont know how to leave my mom in 4 years when I get my degree. She is clueless tthat I have plans on moving to californa in four years. Idont know how to tell her, i know she will disapprove and I also know with my heart that I want to live with my gf in the states, get married ther and have a family.
what should i do?
this is my question. (link)
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dont tell her... at least not yet. sure you have plans to move, but plans change as do people. maybe in four years either you or your bff will be married or a job that you want opens up somewhere thats not california. so as of right now i wouldnt say anything to her. wait and see where the road takes you
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Okay, here it goes! So, I have been seeing this guy a little over a month now, and the last time I talked to him was last tuesday after we had spent the night together again. I guess I consider him to be my boyfriend.
Well, I have tried to call him but he won't answer his phone. I drove down to his place and his truck is there so I know he must be home. I emailed him a couple of times now and he hasn't emailed me back. It's pretty frustrating.
Should I go ahead and move on or try and wait on him? We did have sex each time we saw each other since we started dating. My friend said maybe he used me but I don't know. I've been used in the past and the guy did end up completely ignoring me. Do you think this is what has happened? What should I do? (link)
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wow... that guy sucks. move on you are much better without him. even if he wasnt using you hes a jerk so drop him and go your so much better then that
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So, I'm in college and yesterday I turned 19. I was hanging out in the library between classes and this girl that I've been talking to came in and sat near me. We talked a little, and before I left I finally asked her out on a date (set for Friday). She said yes and I was really happy. I thought it was like a birthday present from God or something cheesy.
So, today (the day after my birthday, obviously) I go on my Facebook. I see that she has sent me a message about how she only wants to be friends with me and didn't mean to give me the wrong impression. I feel like I couldn't get a girlfriend to save my life though. I've never had one and have never even kissed a girl. I'm sure it sounds pathetic.
If you're a nice guy who girls don't like because your nice, how can you change that? What am I doing wrong? (link)
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girls are weird. most of us want a bad boy who we need to fix. someone who we can imagine a future with but somewhere deep inside of us we know it wont last. so unless your a problem child we wont like you- but your the type of guy whom is going to be great for a girl whose ready to settle down and when you do find someone it will be fanfabulous!!! everything happens in perfect timimg so sit back, relax and enjoy being young because today is the best day in your life
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I have been with my husband for 12 years now. We've had some really great times but I've come to realize that he is more like a brother or a best friend to me. We aren't intimate much and we both seem to be satisfied with that. I don't feel any closeness between us that would indicate to me that our relationship was closer than brother/sister. I'm confused and am not sure what I should do? My feelings are strange and I'm beginning to worry about many things. I wonder if he still loves me and if he feels the same way about our relationship as I am beginning to. What do you think should go on? I don't have any idea on how to confront him about this situation. Should I consider divorce? (link)
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i dont think that divorce is your answer. after you have been with someone for so long they are supposed to become your best friend. think about it- people who can married because the sex is good usually end up divorcing months after the make their vows. so your husbabd being your best friend? probably not so bad. you have a committed man who you can confide in and whose always there for you. besides you can always try for a romantic evening or some kind of something to spice up your life (trying games or just something new or acting out a fantasy). you should confide in him though because he may not even be aware of what it is that you are feeling
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I'm a few months into my 16th year and the guy I'm going out with is turning 18 next month.
We just had our first kiss and it was my very first kiss, but he's had two or three girlfriends before. It wasn't awkward at all, the situation we were in was practically begging for it-- he had been holding me for half an hour and my lips had been settled on his cheek, it was dark and we were all alone-- but I know I was really dfjsdf about it. He did like the pecks, no tongue, and it was really romantic, but all I could focus on was, shit I suck at this. Like I know I got better because when I kissed him goodbye later it seemed natural but at first I was like, doing nothing. He didn't say anything about the kisses afterward though which I'm not sure is good or bad.
Next time we're alone and the time seems right, should I admit he was my first kiss? The situation couldn't have been better, it wasn't awkward and thankfully I didn't make any major mistakes but I just feel like such a loser that I couldn't have done better at first. Opinions? Stories? haha;)
Please say your age and m/f... I'd love some guy responses haha :) (link)
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okay let me just say how totally awesome it is that you waited until you were 16 to have your first kiss. most girls dont. and second of all most guys like knowing that they were your first kiss because its something that you will remember for the rest of your life. however some guys are a little bit weary of it. and it sounds like that you did pretty well for your first kiss. im 21 years old and just realized that not every kiss had to be about tongue in your mouth and that there is such a thing for as a sweet gentle kiss, which is what you guys shared. now i wasnt the guy you were kissing so i cant state his opinion but from where i stand it sounded preety good to me. and you could always act like a blushing school girl(which you technically still are) and tell him the truth and that you want him to teach you to do it how he likes it... hope i helped
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...is this a good or bad sign?
We were on our third date the other night and a few of his good guy friends happened to be there too (it was an obvious coincidence, not planned). I had never talked to any of them so after he introduced me I didn't say much, but while he carried on his conversation with them, he was a little aggressive about me taking his hands and pulling me closer to him. I was basically wrapped around him.
I know guys like to show off their girls in front of other guys and I know its good that he is so proud of me but most guys I know shy away from PDA around their friends, not move towards it. What does this say in terms of what he'd be like in a relationship? - We're 17 btw.
:)thaanks. (link)
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the simple fact that he wanted his friends to know you were with him and didnt mind being "wrapped" around him is good. but its up to you to decide because there a thing as too much possessiveness. pda is awesome and i for one love it. its when the guy pushes you away you should worry then its as though hes trying to hide you. so him pulling you close is good as long as he doesnt become to possessive
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Well, I am a girl and I am 17 years old. I have know this guy for 6 years now and he has been there for me through everything. I literally can not live without him. I always call him my guardian angel. The other day i met one of his friends an we ended up making out. It was just a casual high school type of thing. Im young i like to have fun thats why i dont date to much. After i dropped off the guy my best friend grabbed me an kisses me. To me honest it was kinda like kissing my brother. Anyway we tried it again saturday an oh my god it was the best night of my life. Like iv never felt so strong for a guy. I just cant decide to follow through with this crazy connection, be causal friends who fool around, or go back to normal as fast as possible. We bolth dont have serious relationships ever! thats why im afraid we could both easily mess this up. But when someones your soul mate you just know (link)
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take it slow... you shouldnt be in a rush to jump into a relationship. my nest friend and i are sexually attracted to each other and i feel the same way about him as you do. but now hes married with kids and im so excited for him. when people get married its more then sex its about being friend and sometimes your best male friend will make the best forever partner.... just take it slow and see where it takes you. enjoy the ride but you also need to wonder if its worth the risk of losing him. i mean if you say lets just be friends then that will change the relationship and if you say lets be together it will change. its a follow your head and heart not hormones decision
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im 16/f. I dated this guy last year, he was 14 at the time, and i was 15. He was a year younger than me (he was in 8th grade, i was a freshman) Well, the relationship was stupid and ended in a total of 6 weeks. We fought the entire time, hung out alone a total of 2 times, and it wasnt a real relationship. Well, ive been dating this guy, whos 17/m, for 10 months now. I truely believe i love him. We fight sometimes, but not a lot. Well, the problem is, every time i see the ex, i feel jealous and i just want him to want me. I dont want to be with him at all, i have no desire to be with anyone but my boyfriend, yet i realllly want him to like me. Why is that? Does anyone know what could possibly make me want him to want me, yet i dont want him? HELP PLEASE! this is extremely confusing to me. Thank you (link)
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you want him to miss what he could have had
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ok. so i've been with my girlfriend for a very long time now and everything has been to good to be true up until recently. about 2 months ago she cheated on me while she was drunk and i was out of town. i caught her the next day when i saw the hickey on her neck. now im constantly thinking about that and i love her to much to end it. (blah blah blah, theres plenty of other fish in the sea, dont even tell me that im tired of hearing it". but today i've also come to realize that he may have given her an std which i too now have i think.... and still i love her to much to break up with her. so i just want to know. does anyone else think im being a dumbass about it all? you can be honest. i would love to hear it.. it would actually make me feel better to know that we love each other to much and even though she genuinely regrets it and is sorry for ever being stupid enough to risk our relationship, im still being stupid with my decision about to stay with her. (link)
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somewhere in the back of your mind you will always remember what she did and you will always have your doubts. gone is the safetiness of your relationship and in are the doubts. is she really with her friends? the next time i lleave will hse get drunk and cheat? is that guy friend really just a friend? without trust there can be no relationship.
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Been in this relationship for 8 months now, we've had our break ups and a few though times. We've also had sex...blah, anyways sometimes when we do "it," I tend to get a bit strange after, I feel a bit sad and I don't know why. Is this normal? We live in different suburbs but in the same state, he visits as often as he cans, as do I. We speak on the phone every night. Hmmm...I've also had a small crush on this other guy, a friend of mine, had it for awhile now, before my actual bf and I got together. =S
I thought it'd go away since I have someone else, but it never really did, is this ok? Is it normal?
My crush likes me too, but nothing ever happened since we both are very shy. My bf on the other hand, is pretty head strong. My bestfriend says we aren't in love, since I have a crush on someone. She thinks that you can't like someone and also be in love with someone else...is she right? She also thinks we're more in lost than in love, I'd agree at times. But when I think things over and all we've been through I do believe it's love, right? Why would you stick around in something unless it was love. We tend to get very hot & heavy and end up...y'know. Does that mean it's lust instead of love? We do other things other than that of course, but I really like sex. I enjoy it...is this wrong? T.T
I mean only with him of course, he was my first and is the only guy I've ever been with, I don't see myself sexually with anyone else, not even my crush. But i could picture a noe sexual relationship with my crush, hmmm...I guess I'm just wondering all this because of this other guy, my friend. I'm feeling a little confused and stressed, I also have a few other things on my mind, none related to this. Sorry if it's long and if there are any typeo's but I'm to lazy to revise.
Additional info, I'm 16 female, my bf is 18 male, my friend/crush is 14 male >.>;
WEIRD AGE MIX UPS!!! I know xD (link)
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you have to ask your heart what it wants. it sounds as though your in love with the idea ofd love with your current bf. your crush is still at a very fickle age. heck im older then all of you and im still at a very fickle age. the heart wants what it wants and if you want someone other then your bf then your not being honest with him. you need to be honest with both yourself and your bf
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Well, Ive liked this guy for a really long time (2 and a half years)...and ive been wwaitin a really long time to see if he likes me back because i already told him I liked him.But now i want to forget about him and move on but i cant because i see him everyday. So please help me. (link)
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i understand you wanting to forget him. bit one day you will look back and say goodness i miss those days. cuz as complicated as these days are, when we look back these days right here will be the best days of our lives. so dont worry about forgetting the boy because as sad as your heart feels right now, these are the best days of your life. focus your attentions on something or someone else. get a new hobby (or new crush) or just try and be this boys friend.
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