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Why do I turn down guys that I like?
I do this all of the time and it's really aggravating. Yesterday, my best friend (Michelle) brought down her boyfriend (Jason) and his friend (Chris) to my house to hang out for awhile. By the end of the night, Chris told me that he really had grown to like me over the hours of conversation and wanted to know if I felt the same. I told him that I wasn't interested right now--BUT I AM! I have no clue why I ended up saying that but I do it all of the time! I get to know a super great guy that and when he tells me that he likes me I tell him that I don't have the same feelings for him even though I do. It's really confusing because afterwards I feel like a complete idiot and regret opening my big mouth about the situation. Why don't I give these guys a chance? It just doesn't make any sense to me why I just KEEP doing it...
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Is it possible that you lack confidence? Maybe you are afraid that if you say yes he may change his mind or you weon't meet his expectations or you wont be a good girlfriend or it will be a bad relationship?
I have done it myself several times because I lacked confidence. The funny thing is sometimes I thought I was too god for them anyway and sometimes I thought they were too good for me and I didn't understand how they were itnerested in me in the first place. In the end I ended up dating guys I wasn't itnerested in.... because it was easier. It was easier to say yes and I had full control because it didn't hurt if the relationship ended.... they never broke up with me. I could end it whenever I wanted to and walk away without a tear.
My only advice to you would be... next time when a boy you like is itnerested or.... if you see Chris again.... say you want to be friends and jsut get to know each other. It's also bad to rush things. If the guy is not patient then he isn't worth it and you are better off. But if he really likes you then hew ill be happy being friends and he will wait until you feel ready to start a relationship and after a period of being friends you will feel more conftrable saying yes.
I wish you happiness and hope I was of help,
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your automatic response is to protect yourself from hurt... i do it too. so if you really like this guy then the only way to fix it is to go to him and flirt a little and try to show him that your interested...
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