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Hey, My name is kendra. I go through a lot in my life and I love to give good advice to people who have experienced what i have been through. Im not the type of girl to tell you what to do, that's not my job. I just give advice and what you want to do wit it..is ur decision. I'll do my besT to understand every problem or question that is being asked. I take any questions and I dont judge. So drop some letters on my page and i will definitly give the advice thats besTT for ya..smoochiez.. ~*I give good advice..to all the people who wanna rate me high thanx alot, but i dont care too much about the ratings as long as you have my advice then im alright*~
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I hardly ever ask questions about love life. But I really need advice. I would talk to my best friends about this matter, but one of them will just tell me to go for it without listening to how i feel about it, and the other will just tell me NO because of the guy. I'll tell you everything that happened up until now, and i won't leave anything else out so i get get a truthful-straight foward answer from you guys.
Just for a warning, this is probably gonna be long.
I'll take you back to a few months ago. lets say..may. Well, back then I was currently with my first boyfriend (lets call him Joe) and things weren't going very well. I was doing things I really didn't want to do because I felt like I was trying to compete with his ex. Even though he didn't have contact with her. Well, Joe met my mom one weekend, and she let us go down in the basement to watch a movie. Lets just say she walked in on something that she wasn't supposed to walk in on.. After that, me and him had a serious talk and were going to try to change our relationship around, and if it didnt' work out, we would end it.
It went good for a week, then around memorial day, joe, danny (his best friend), and hannah (my best friend) went to hannahs house for her family cookout. [[ Danny and Hannah are going out btw ]] Everything was going good, but then Danny and Joe went for a walk and were talking for a while. I wondered what they were talking about to Hannah, and Hannah said Joe was going to break up with me. I thought she was saying it as some mean joke, like she has been for the past week. So I just pretended to be mad and shurgged it off. Well, Joe and Danny came back and we all talked.I thought that everything was going good, and I guess it was.
Then the next day, I went to hang out with Frank (my other best friend). Frank told me that Jimmy (his best friend, and one of mine) told him that Hannah was saying that Joe was gonna break up with me and such. So Frank talked to Joe about what was going on. Apparently, Hannah knew everything going on before I did, but wasn't going to tell me because Danny made her swear not to tell. Which kind of pissed me off. But anyway, Frank got the inside scoop on why Joe wanted to break up and such. Looking back on it I guess I knew what everyone was talking about, I was just in shock.
So later that night, I called Hannah to see if she would have the guts to tell me herself. I asked her what was wrong and she told me to talk to Joe about it. I told her that I knew and pretended not to be mad at her. So, I ended up calling Joe later and flipped out on him about telling every single person in the school. He told me that he didn't think of me as the same person. We ended up deciding it wouldn't work out so we broke up "mutually". I didn't really care until the next morning when I was an emotional wreck the whole day. I was talking to my good friend Jade about it, and Jade told me that she heard from her friend Amy that Danny said that Joe told him that he wished he asked Amy out sooner instead of me when we started having problems.
Well, I was even more of an emotional fjewirjfl after that and tried to figure out what the heck was going on from Joe. Joe told me that Danny lied. But Danny told me that Joe lied. I ended up getting mad at Amy. And then Jade hated me for telling Joe what I heard. So that went on for a good couple of weeks. I still liked him for about a month after we broke up, and I told Joe how I felt, he told me he doesn't like me anymore and ended up getting into huge "sob" stories on how his other girl friends broke up with him. So I don't really talk to him about it anymore.
Me and Hannah aren't that good of friends anymore because she's all hypocritical about Danny. and honestly i hate Danny with a passion so I just don't bother getting into huge discussions like this with her.
The problem is, its been three months and I'm still afraid to let go of Joe completly. I havn't really accepted the fact that he won't come back. I faced it, I gave back the stupid stuff he gave me. But I still have this feeling in my gut that he still likes me? Or maybe I just want him to like me back.. I can hear people getting sick of me with dwelling on this for so long. I'm sick of it myself. I want to move on. and whats even worse is that Jimmy likes me. I want to like Jimmy so bad, but I wouldn't go out with him because of the fact of Joe. And I don't beleive in using people.
Part of me wants to Call Joe. Just to set things straight. Should I? What should I do? I'm really lost right now.
sorry for the confusion. I just don't know if I should set things straight again with Joe (relationship or no-relationship) or give Jimmy a chance.
You need to let go of joe..you are emotionally attached to him and that isnt good. It's never good to dwell over a relationship that is over and im sure you know that and even though relationships are hard to get over because of the "memories", you have to get over them some how. and if you dont get over joe you're going to miss out on other realtionships that'll probably be way better then what you two had.
i personally think you need to work on yourself before you get into another relationship, like maybe make some changes in your life such as friends like Hannah, who is letting a boy come and change her attitude and your frriendship. Another thing is to never get emotinally attach to a guy it isnt healthy no matter how much he means to you.
hope i helped >>
Okay, I'm a 14/f.
The guy I like is a senior, he's a good friend of mine, hes 18 going on 19 this June. I won't be 15 until August.
I really like him, but unfortunately, he is obsessed (and believe me when I say that) with my best friend. She's 15 and a year above me in school.
Anyways, she doesn't think of him as more than a brother and has told him this multiple times yet he can't get over her. She wants to go to prom with a guy she dated and he's actually thinking about asking her. However, the senior I like has already jumped and asked her, but she hasn't answered.
I don't know what to do.
Should I tell her she is leading him on if she goes with him?
Am I too young for him, do I have a chance?
Yes you should tell her that she is leadin him on but not because you want him..if he likes your bestfrined then maybe you shouldn't come in between that or you might get hurt because she may want to be with him (just not rite now)..And if he's not interested in you then just move on or at least find out if there is a possiblity for you guys by flirting or askking... And yes people may say he is too old for you but i guess it depends on the way he acts. but im my opinion 'age aint nothing but a number'...You cant just guess if you have a chance with him and i cant tell you if you do because i dont know either of you. so you have to find out for yourself. Hope i helped:)
my friend for 5 years is starting to like me (yes, i have my sources) and i don't know what to do because he asked me to prom and i want to go with some one else. if i go to prom with him, i will be sacrificing my chance to go with someone i actually like, but if i don't, im a total prick...what do i tell him?
Well..I can tell you that if you do decide to go with another guy your friend will probably be hurt. and thats something you'll have to deal with..but he's you friend so you should tell him how you feel..you can say something like "you dont want to go to prom with him because you dont want to take your friendship to another level yet"..."and that you had planned on going with someone else and you didnt want to tell him because you wouldnt know how he'd take it." and of course say you're sorry so you wont feel guilty. Hope i helped:)
i overheard that a guy i like just as friends is getting me a ring for my birthday. it is a cross ring and i don't know if it is supposed to be something more than a birthday present. i don't know if i could accept it if that's the case...what should i do?
Well you should accpet it because it's a gift and it must mean he thinks of you the same way you think of him..If he's getting you a ring then it's probably a friendship ring..which is really sweet... don't assume anything you're not sure what the gift is soppose to mean until you recive it so dont worry about it...hope i helped
Ok me and my ex boyfriend are talking again,i sent him a text the other day kind of braking upp completely as in not knowing anything more about eachother...He stopped me and he told me that he still loved like the first day he met me and he still wanted to keep talking to me too see if we can get to something again...i ended up accepting to keep on talking to him..But here is the deal he has me confused,if you tell a person you still love them and you want to keep on talking to them you at least call..he hasnt called me for two days its like that conversation didnt happen and im just really confused and want to know what this could mean i mean its not the first time he does it..its he playing hard to get or something???Please help i need advice.
well boys are like that sometimes, he probably feels like he doesnt want to stalk you around or anything.. unfortunatly most boys keep girls waiting by the phone and its a bad feeling but dont feel like you have to wait by the phone for his calls. He said he loves you and still wanted to be with you and you took him back. Now he even though he said all of those things to make you take him back it would be nice if he acted as if he loves you and everything..if this boy isn't making you feel how you want then you shouldn't have gave him another chance.....But if he does decide to call you soon dont get mad at him cuz it''s probably his way of making you want him more when you're not with him or not talking to him..hope i helped:)
Ok my boyfriend is great but i am having trouble leting him in cause i scared and it is all new to me. He has to fight to hold my hand sometimes but my real thing is that he is used to kising his girlfriends and i really realy beyound a doupt want to kiss him like a make out kiss but i wont let him do it cause i dont know how and dont want to tell him. can u explane how to french?
okay i went through the same thing at the beginning of my school year. heres my story: im in 10th grade and i had never kissed a guy before but then i just went out with this guy that i known for about 1 month (big mistake, but he was sweet). Soo the 3rd day of going out i tounge kissed him..it wasnt that good. he had on alot of vaseline and his lips were kinda big lol but yea i didnt really noe wut to do it was kinda embarrasing to me. but i noe he didnt think anything was wrong. im sure he didnt think that was my first kiss, he probably thought i was just a bad kisser. And i kinda rushed it on him..he didnt expect it. but i swear to you the next day it got comfortable and natural kissing him. i was use to the feeling and how to kiss. but you should know kissing is not to be taught by instructions, if you wanna know how it is you have to experience it. just remember to put your tounge in his mouth and let it move in a circular motion with the guys tounge. thats basically what it is..you dont have to tell him you have never tounge kiss just kiss him and it wont be perfect at first but as you keep kissing him and having Great make out moments then you will get better at it. trust me..i was doing the same thing looking on sites to see how to kiss and asking for advice..but i forgot about everything i read beacause when the moment came i just did what naturally came to me. hope i helped:) by the way we dont go out anymore but he's still special to me..my first kiss awww....Smoochiez:*
i have been like flirting more and looking at like every attractive guy that walks by and then wen there is a guy in my class that is hot, i cant stop staring....like my eyes just look off my paper and look at him.........i have been flirting with like every guy too, is this normal? is it like hormones or something with puberty or something? cuz i just cant help myself hah
yes it is very normal. and most likely it's your hormones.. right now you're feeling "boy crazy", crazy about boys. when you go through puberty your hormones are raging and you have all types of new feelings about everything..however try your best not to let you hormones and urges take control of you because you get out of hand and do stupid things with guyz that you'll probably regret. hope i helped
ok im 14/f and im almost 15 i have this boy friend who i really love i mean i think he is the one or some thng...but my best friends sister (who is also kinda my fried) likes him and makes it known when i am with him...and rite now im just scared that she will do something with him because she has done stuff with my boy friends befor but that is in the past and she is known for stealing boy friends even thoguh she is ass ugly and i dont kno i wanted to take my relaton ship woith my boy friend a little further but now idk because what if she dose somthing to him???? im just confused someone help me! and if i dont get any bs ill rate high
If your boyfriend goes with her or does something with her then that's on him. It's his lost. And if your best/F sis munipulates him to do shit with her then he's not for you. And is not worth going further in the relationship with. If he is for you he wont do anything with her.. Just think of her as a test for all your boyfriends, if they make a mistake with her then leave them. Make sure your boyfriend feels the same about you how you feel about him if you really wanna go a little further. And just remember that there is always going to be a chick/chicks that envy and just gonna hate on you, the best thing is to let them continue doing that ..and again if your boyfriend is real then do what you want. hope i helped
15/f
Aliright. I know this is kinda a stupid question but i wanna ask anyway. Well there is this boy that really likes me and i like him back(i told him). I have never really had a boyfriend, and never had a first kiss(he also knows this). We are planning on hanging out soon and im pretty positive that he will kiss me. But im soo nervous! I dont know what to do. any tips are great thanksss!
aww im so happy for you.. you should just follow his lead. It'll be cute and fine. And if he knows that you've never been kissed he'll make sure you're not embarrassed. you'll probably be nervous when the moment its about to happen but once it's over you'll be okay. It may not turn out how you want it to be but the more you kiss, the better you'll get at kissing..hope i helped
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I'm a pretty girl, I'm not trying to be cocky but I'm proud of my looks. When I'm out hott guys check me out, wink, smile, or wave at me all the time. However, the only boyfriends I can get are losers. What do I do?
the only boys you go out with are probably losers because maybe all they wanted is to have a pretty girl or just simply fuck you (I'm sure there are other reasons why their losers). You should try to build a friendship with someone before you start dating them. A friendship is all about honesty trust and fun, once you have a friendship with a guy you'll know the real him. It's nice to have cute guys attracted to you because of your looks but dont let it get to your head because many guys pretend to be a certain way at first and change after a while. So like i said, get to know the guy before you date him. And just because most of all your b/f's were loosers doesnt mean you're not girlfriend material. Simply make sure you're a real girl-friend to him and he's a true boy-friend to you. hope i helped.**
In your honest opinion...
How realistic is it to think that you will one day marry your first love? I don't think it's likely, but it happens, right? I'm 16 and he is 17. And I've never felt this way about anyone in my entire life. I just want to experience everything in life with him. We talk about getting married sometimes, I mean seriously talk about it. When we do talk about it he tells me that he is serious, that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me.
Opinions? Advice Please?
well nowadays it really isnt that realistic but it can happen and it has happen many times..i think that you do have a chance of being with him til death do you apart. however even though your future with him is very important you have to realize that you are in the present..dont get your hopes up because it hurts really bad..things may change in the future as well as him. you may meet a new person and feel the same about them as you feel about him or he may do the same thing..but dont think im tyring to put you down because no matter what any one says if you are honestly in love and you know for suure he feels the same about you then you should go through with the idea of getting married with your first love and experience everything in life with him like you want..but then again you may experience some doubts because if you decide to marry your first love you know you've missed out on a lotta things with different guys.. but it doenst matter if it's realistic or not to marry your first love like i said if you are both in love then go with what your hearts says ...hope i helped
Oh man, here goes, and it is going to be long. Sorry about that. So I used have a crush on this guy who rode in my lessons at my old stables (yes, he rides English....no, he is not gay)and then he was at my camp. We were kinda unofficialy going out, like we danced at the camp dance and stuff but it was not official. Then, I switched barns and I miss him so much because I haven't seen him since. (My best friend still rides there and sees him all the time and likes to rub it in, but that is irrelevant.) We are going back to camp this summer (in a couple weeks) and I know that once I see him, all my feelings I used to have for him will come back. I'm not even sure what his past year has been like with girls, but I know he doesn't have a girlfriend right now. However, I just got out of a messy, messy relationship that was not worth all of my effort. I don't want another one of those. So the main question is, if the feelings come back, do I go for it or do I lay low? If I lay low, how do I ignore my feelings?
well im sure your feelings will come back for him since you still think about him..but then again you haven't seen him in a while and people change...anywayz when you do take the chance to get reunited with him again i think you should take things slow instead of getting into a relaionship because you did say you dont trust yourself with guys hearts and if you really like this boy then you shouldnt be in a rush to have a relationship with him to then later break his heart. however, dont ignore your feelings for him..try flirting or kissing just have fun.. but dont take it to a level where someone can get hurt by mix feelings or anything like that...good luck hope i helped
Well me and this boy talked for about 3 months! At first when i found out that he liked me i had no intrest once so ever but as we started talking we got closer and eventually i fell in love with him! {my 1st real love} But then all of a sudden we just stopped talking and got in a huge fight {it was mostly b/c i wouldnt have sex with him}. One of his friends hated me and called me a whore so one of my guy friends {hes a big guy!} confronted him about it!...The boy's {that i love} sister and i are also very good friends so when she told me that he was getting into dangerous things she asked me to talk to him about it. I did that and i thought maybe he would be happy that i at least cared about him. We didnt talk for a few more weeks then he asked me to go his party so me,my best friend, and my guy friend {the big guy}all went. He was with another girl the whole night but told me that we wanted to get back with me!...the next day he was going out with this girl and having sex with that hes only known for a week and we had a huge argument 2 days after the party, where he told me that he found someone "better" then me and things like that! i still love him and i kno i shouldnt :S what should i do!
*catherine*
since he was your first love it's only natural that you'll still have feelings for him, even though he may treat you wrong. him argueing about you not having sex with him is unfortunatly something most boys do but it's wrong. and if he gets mad because you made your own decison about not having sex with him then he's definitly not worth loving or having feelings for. I know you say you love him (but think, did he really love you?) people change and sometimes you have to deal with it and sometimes you don't. he's really being a asshole...he's all over this girl and has sex with someone he's only known for a week and asks you out is really stupid...and that argument you guys had about him saying he found someone better is a clue for you....you need to go find a guy that is better and treats you good but im not sayin the first guy you think is sexy or sweet just chill for a while and then go out with a better guy for you. try not being sad or jealous over him just let him do his thing but of course let him know you care, not verbally because that'll probably be another arguement....hope i helped
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well you see there is this guy. we see each other often only because my best friend's brother is good friends with him so we all hangout together. we usually dont flirt..just lookin at each otehr and that kind of stuff. but lately its been different like we get into an argument or im like give me that! and if doesnt im like dont make me come over there so then i like jump on him and he grabs my hand and all that stuff. then it kinda seems like we are going out. i love bein in his arms even if it is in an argumentative way. the only thing is i dont know if i like him or just like flirting with him. the only problem is he really really likes this other girl and i guess wants to do stuff with her. but my best friend is always like ohh im gonna tell "your girlfriend" (jokingly we call her his girlfriend) manda if he says somethin stupid or whatever(the girl he likes) and hes like i dont care she is not my girlfriend. thats when im around him. but then again he still really likes her so what do i do? im scared we wont be able to flirt if they do somethin since he wont want to with me since he kinda likes her. but i have a feeling he kinda might like me? or just likes flirting with me because he always likes to get me mad so we can flirt in a sexual kinda way. what do you think he is thinking? what do you think i should do!?
thanks so much for taking the time to read this!
The only way to find out if he likes you is to ask him or have someone else ask him. i think he likes to flirt with you and and may have a crush on you but also likes someone else. but then again you know how boys are..(they love to play around and are sometimes confusing). flirting is fun and can be sexual so im sure he loves flirting with you. he's probably thinking that you're good to hang with. but understand that it could be just his hormones that is makin him seem attracted to you. so definitly find out if he has a thing for you...hope i helped
i like this guy who likes me as well but the problem is........ im going to high school and he's staying in middle school. he might ask me out and i don't know if i should say yes, or just stay single for summer and find someone even better in high school. help please
Well the summer is all about having fun and if you think that you'll have fun with the guy that you like then i think you should go out with him. even though you both will be in different grades when school comes around im sure they'll be ways to work the relationship out...If everything isn't all peachey with the relationship around school time then just break it off with him and go out with someone even better thats in your high school...have fun...hope i helped
well, I lost my virginity to someone that I knew I wasn't going to have a relationship with yet we were friends and I care about him. Yet he's older than me and doesn't think its a big deal... Anyway to cope with the hurt?
btw.. I'm 15---the guy is 18.
well of course you know there is no way to take losing your virginity back and most people regret it because of that or because they dont think about it before they have sex. you may always say that you regreted losing your virginity to that guy as you get older but you'll eventually have to get over that. Most guys dont really care about having sex and just want to use girls for sex(not all of them). To cope with the hurt i think you should just getover it because it is nothing you can change...hope i helped
So, I have this boyfriend of 4 months. But now I want to break it off. But I just don't know what to say. I really don't want to hurt him, but.....idk. I'm also scared that he might do something stupid, because that's just the type of person he is. And he's toally obessed with me and clingy. It's annoying. I know that's mean but it's true. Anyone have anything I can say, because I suck at breaking up with guys, I just don't know what to say or how to say it. Sorry for the stupid question 5's for helpful answers.
Maybe you should try telling him he's annoying. have a friend that will break the two of you up. if you still think he's gonna do something stupid, then you should just deal with it because you're the one that wants to break it off and move on. And that's good that you're not gonna waste your time on a guy that is too clingy and is kinda annyoing to you and even though you dont want to hurt him, it'll probly happen because someone always get their feelings hurt in a break-up..good luck trying not to hurt him and hope i helped
I have been with my girlfriend for 8 months, I honestly do love her. Whenever I tell her I love you she says I know like it's not a big deal or something, now whenver I tell her I love you she says I think you love me for the wrong reason, it hurts me when she says things like that, not once has she told me she loves me back. Am I just wasting my time? What should i do to respond to her when she tells me I love her for the wrong reason?
Thanks
maybe she is waiting for the right time to say she loves you..I'm sure does love you but cant express it to you. you should tell her how you feel when she says things to hurt you. and ask her why she responds the way she does when you say you love her. If you honestly feel you are wasting your time and doubt the relationship you and your girl have then you should try to move on and if you dnot think you should do that then just give her some time....hope i helped
i'm 19 years old and a female and was sexually abused when i was very yound by a babysitter. i am not worried about this and dont feel it affects me that much and i am quite open with this fact and the people who are close to me know about it all. The problem is that when a guy wants to get close with me i just seem to panic and just feel well out of my comfort zone. especially if its a boyfriend and its sexual. i have had sex in the past and the guys know about it and are very conciderate of it. But yet i still dont know when its affecting me like this. or even if it is that is the reason why. just finding it very difficult to get close to a bloke. i have loads of guy mates which i mess around with alot but i dunno its just so confusing. could you please enlighten me on this if its possible.
well, i was molested when i was very young also and im not sure whether that affects the relationships i have with boys either..i have never told anyone because it was when i was very young and it didnt really matter to me. anyways i think it could be that your emotions get crazy when a guy wants to get close to you. you have to think sometimes 'do you really want to be close to this guy?' or 'do u really wanna be in a relationship with this guy?'. my advice to you is to be yourself or be true to yourself and relationships that you have with anybody would be comfortable. the fact that you just keep thinking about the past when you were sexually abused could be the reason why you dont feel you're in your comfort zone when close to a guy. maybe you should try leaving all that behind and move on...hope i helped
13/f well there is this guy i went out with for like 1 year and we broke up but that was a while ago and we always flirt but lately he seems to be liking this other girl. but its weird because these past few days have been different he seems to be talking to me and when i tried to pass through the isle to my seat at school he blocked the way and it was just flirty and he is talking to me alot and stares me but he is my ex. he broke up with me but now i think he likes me. and i really like him alot because he is hott and i like the way he acts. so is that common? i wonder if he likes me? why did he break up with me then? help soon because i rate 5's for good advice!!!!
well i have no idea why he borke up with you but whatever the reason is, he's realizing he made a mistake or regrets breaking up with you..and yes that is common. you are still gonna have feelings for someone that you once liked, whether it's true feelings or just hormones. And i think he does still like you, but that doesn't mean it's just you he likes. The reason he flirts with you is to probly just to play with you or it could be that he wants you back..find out if he does or just move on...hope i helped:)