hey everyone!im kayy,im always here to help.i love giving advice and one day i hope to be a therapist or something like that :]ive been thru alott and pretty much know what im dealing with. i couldnt live without my friends.music is liife. need help?!feel free to ask
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Location: hilton head
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Age: 14
Member Since: May 15, 2007
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HI!! umm..okay i used to like this guy named drew and i told him and he says he just wants to be friends..so now we're friends and i think that im pretty much bordering the over him line..when i told my friend ariel that she said that she is "fallin" for him...and i am seriously not okay with that and i let her no but she dont care..she told me that at the vandy and uk game he winked at her, but i have had guys wink at me and they didnt like me...i dont know if he likes her, i dont want to think that...its not fair, the one with the guts to say something about it doesnt get him but the one that sits back and does nothing probably wins...plus isnt there some rule or law saying that a best friend shouldnt date a crush,ex, or any thing like that...she says that she dont think he likes me and that he likes her more, and they went on a trip with a club, i was gonna go but i couldnt, and suposedly they hung out and got to know one another better, i dont know what to believe...so summary...
1)does he like her you think??
2)do you think its right that she likes him??
3)what should i do??
4)do you think she is saying all of that just to make me jealous?? (link)
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i understand what your saying when your practically over him but you dont want her to like him..you still have some feelings for him and your not really ready yet to let your friend like him.thats understandable.
ok im starting with your 4th question first.
to me it definitely sounds like shes trying to make you jealous or mad.ive had this happen to my friends before..it really just sounds like shes trying to get you to give up on drew all together.she obviously doesnt want you to like him or even think about him like that. but idk why..maybe shes worried that he could start to like you.
1)its hard to tell if he likes her or not.like just cause a guy winks,doesnt mean he likes her, ive had guys wink at me before but they didnt have a crush on me.sometimes it just means they want some from you..but that isnt always the case.be careful because she may be over exxagerating things to make it sound like hes into her when he might not be..he might just see her as a friend.
2)i dont think its "wrong" of her to like him..cause you cant help who you like..like thats uncontrollable.but it was wrong of her to tell you all of those things the way she did..it sounds like shes trying to make you mad and that definitely isnt cool.
3)talk to her about it.tell her how your feeling. it might be hard but you have to let her know..if she really is your friend she'll listen to what you have to say..in return you should also listen to her.
good luck! =]
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well my guy friend clay is 20 and he and i talk to each other alot!well my friends say he wouldnt waist his time on me if he didnt like me...does he?well he told me that he cant wait to see me and he like talks to me alot.but im 14 so is that bad?well i love him and he said he likes me to.. i dont wanna get him into trouble..but he realy wnts to come out to my town and hes gonna fly out to see me!!! well i need help and or advise!!??
love shtruck... (link)
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yeah sorry honey but this has bad idea written all over it.
hes 20,your 14.illegal.
--have you ever even met in person?if you guys just talk on like myspace or w/e then you dont even know if he really is 20
--i agree with the person who wrote before me..why cant he land a girl his own age?
--do your parents know?how would ou explain this to them?
if you two really do love each other then good luck.just be careful and dont let him pressure you into anything. and just to be safe dont meet up with him by yourself..bring an older friend or an adult.
good luck
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There is this guy I really like, and I kindof think he likes me, too. I'm in 7th grade, and I am 13 years old. I don't want to tell him I like him because there is always a chance that he doesn't like me back. How do I find out if he likes me? (link)
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of course with everyone there is always the chance that the guy may not like you back. keep flirting with him and see if he flirts back. if its obvious to you and your friends that he likes you,go for it. try and become friends with his good buds so then they like you too.if you become good friends with them then they could probably tell you if he likes you.
good luck!
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i'm in a reallyyy bad position in a love triangle.
guy one and i have been friends the same amount of time guy two and i have been friends [i met them at the same time.] well, in around march, guy one started liking me, and i was totally flattered except i didn't like him at the time. in fact, i liked guy two.
well, about a month ago, i found out guy two likes me too. so now, guy and guy two like me. but i stopped liking guy two a long time ago.
guy one is really heartbroken that he found out that i used to like guy two & that guy two likes me now.
i know for a fact i dont like guy one, but guy one likes me more than guy two. and guy two is way hotter than guy one.
they were both my really good friends, and i can't tell them both that i don't like either of them cause i'm leaning towards guy two. but i had another totally different crush who was NEITHER of these guys. i've never liked guy one, but guy one is so sweet and he always calls me beautiful, but guy two has a lot more experience with girls and likes me a lot less.
i don't know what i want. (link)
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dont go out with either of them.
you obviously dont like guy one..and if you went out with him youd just be leading him on..just tell him you want to be friends.
guy two: if he likes you alot less,then why go out with him?i dont think you want him either..liike you used to like and now he likes you..but you dont like him..
yeah i say tell both of them you just want to be friends right now.
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school started like a week or so ago, and there is this guy who sits next to me in one of my classes, and i think he is so nice and irrisistable. I want to get his attention and be able to talk to him, and him want to talk to me. I have started one conversation about his favorate sport football, and it went well, but the thing is is that he is one of the really nice popular boys, and he probably gets this attention all the time. so i want to know how can i be that special girl? how can i be that one girl that he cant resist?
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start talking to him more about things you know he likes.and whatever subject your in,if your struggling a bit you can always ask him to tutor you :]
but dont seem desparate where like youre just dying to find anyway to talk to him at all every day.
definitely become more outgoing and flirt a little bit.talk with other people in the class besides him too, and he'll notice your personality. if you can,become friends with his friends and get into his group.he'll definitely notice you then.
hope i helped!!
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Ok, on myspace this guy whom I have never met asked me out. He is a friend of my best friend, so I know he is real. She says that he is a an awsome person.
We talked on aim, and on myspace, and he seems like a really good person, I really like him (not a crush yet but I am interested). So basicly he asked me if I wanted to come over to his house so we could talk and get to know each other.
I am a little bit nervous about meeting him; I have never been on a blind date before (if you could call it that). I don't really know what we are going to do, and what I should expect.
If you have ever been in my situation, can you tell me how it went for you? What did you guys do?
Thanks!!
ps I am 16/f, and he is 17/m (link)
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well ive never been in this situation before, but i can understand if youre nervous. instead of just going to his house alone..cause youve never met him before..bring your best friend who he is friends with. and maybe that person can like bring a date or a friend so things arent totally awkward.
this way you wont be at his house just hanging out with him and it might make the environment more comfortable for everyone. goood luck and i hope things work out!!!
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22/f
Ok some of might read the questions I had about this guy named Brent I met at the club and everything. we dance, we talk about everything like we have known each other for yrs, we have even kissed and I don’t kiss just anybody. It was all going great until something that he said. I had wanted him to come up to my town one day(we live 2 hrs apart and the club is an hour away for both of us) and I basically got shut down, he said “no I don’t think so, it is so far away, and gas is too expensive" I only wanted just one day no more. so I am hurt that he shut me down after I went all the way to where he lived.
Any who I have this other guy that I have been friends with since High school. Chris. well I kinda knew Chris always liked me but then I was not into liking guys that were younger then me.(He is over a yr younger then me and I know that was a silly reason to not like him. high school was 4 yrs ago and I think differently now.)well even after high school we kept in touch when we weren’t in school or work. Also we went to the same church so we kinda knew each others families. Then 2 yrs ago he had to move to Arizona with his family.( I live in northern Cali) well at his going away party( 2 days before he was leaving) we were watching this movie and wrestling around tickling and we started kissing. I am not really that type of person and there were people around us. usually I am really shy about stuff like that. So I got to hang out with Chris the next day ( last day before he left) so we have been trying to keep in contact since he has been down in Arizona. Sometimes there would be spurts like a month or 2 where we don’t hear from one another because of school or work. Also Chris had a spill of bad depression too. Worse than what he has had in the past. which I was able to help him out of it. Never anything dangerous though. He couldn’t hurt a fly. But we have been communicating a lot more lately like we used to. Wants me to go down and visit. he even made an effort to come and visit up here. over 12 hrs of driving. And says he still cares for me the way he did in the first place and would let nothing ever hurt me. He never has and never will. Well he just told he may be moving again but now only an hour away from me!!
Now I don’t really know what to do. Do I try to make things work with Brent or do I wait for Chris to move back? I need reassurance!! Thank you! (link)
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wait for chris. it sounds like he likes you and you like him. Brent sounds like he doesnt want to give an effort to the relationship if he isnt willing to drive for 2 hours?! sorry, but thats kinda stupid. yeah gas prices are going up, but if he really cared, hed drive up to see you. especially since you drove to see him. chris seems like an amazing guy and he seems into you. he really cares if he made the effort to drive 12 hours to cali and brent wont even drive 2 hours. chris still wants to see you and cares about you alot if hes trying to get you to visit him in arizona.
if he IS moving again..that would be great! im sure things would definitely work out with you and chris.
goooood luckk =]
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I have a boyfriend and we have been going out for awhile and he found out that i cheated on him. he forgave me and were still dating but i found out from a couple of diffrent people that he might have made out with a chick that i Hate. I've tryed to talk to him and he changes the subject or say that my friends are lying. What do you think i should do? (link)
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approach the girl you think it is. even though you may hate her, set that aside while you talk to her. tell her you wont be mad if she did, you just want to know the truth, just let her know that you arent going to flip out on her if she says yes.
this is probably the only way youll get a straight answer from anyone. remember, this girl is probably feeling somewhat guilty for doing that knowing that ur bf is going out with you.
the people that told you that he made out with her might be right considering he changes the subject or just blames it on you friends. personally, i think if he didnt, he would just say he didnt and he would tell you how much he cares,etc.
hope this helps =)
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seems like every guy i fall for ends up breaking my heart. i was in a 3 year relationship that ended not too long ago. and had a couple of bfs since then, but no matter what i keep getting my heart broken. im ready to give up. seems like there isnt a single guy out there who can "handle" me.
what am i supposed to do?
take a break from relationships or keep pursuing them and deal with the heartbreak? (link)
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awwwwwwwwe! okay well i can definitely tell youre still having some trouble getting over the fact that you and that guy you were in the 3 yr relationship broke up.and thats hard,i totally get that. if you feel like youre just not ready for another relationship then wait. just dont sulk in the past. dont think about your ex or anything because youll start to miss it.
dont give up! everyone has a special person out there. they just may not have found them yet. thats all. dont get discouraged if it doesnt work with different guys.
just get back into the dating game when youre ready and you think the time is right. just dont wait too long.find the right go or even let him find you!
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14/f
this is kind-of long, sorry. :/
me and my boyfriend jordan have been going out since may 1, and as of now, we've only held hands and hugged, not kissed or anything. but we went to this school dance on friday, and they played our song [ bless the broken road, rascal flatts (: ], and after they played it, he looked at me and went in to kiss me, and the moment seemed perfect and such, but i turned away. he said it got him confused becaus he thought it was the right moment, but i told him i just felt like it was too soon. so just a few minutes ago he told me he wants to kiss me tomorrow after school, but i don't know what to do, because i don't think we've been going out long enough.
so basically, have we been going out long enough for us to kiss?? and please don't say it's up to me, or that it's whenever it feels right, because i honestly don't know.
so is less than three weeks long enough to kiss?
and we're going to the movies on friday, so i know he'll want to kiss me and maybe even make out.
thanks in advance.. (link)
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to me you just sound like youre not ready to kiss him and thats totally fine.
if hes confused just tell him that you arent ready to kiss him yet.
just tell him youll kiss him when the time is right.[[sorry i know you didnt want me to say that but its true]]
hope that helps =)
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15/f
i'm not sure whether i'm straight, bi, or lesbian. I go to an all girls school and i have crushes on girls, but when i'm outside of school i'm generally attracted to guys. like once i know a girl for a while i form a crush, whereas if i meet a cool, hot guy i am immediately attracted.
it's hard to meet people because my school is so small.
any suggestions on where i should go, what i should do to meet people, whether it be guys or girls to figure out who i'm really interested in? i've done random stuff, but never been in a relationship, which is kinda pathetic, but i'm busy with school, soccer etc
please help! (link)
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try going to a place where you can see both girls and guys...since its the summer or getting close anyway..go to the mall,movies,park,swimming, with a group of guys and girls..see who you are more attracted to
i think that when you start to get crushes on girls..youve just known them for so long you feel like you can trust themm...?idk.
but just try being in an environment with both girls and guys.hope that helps!
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So ive had a few grlfriends over the years, and i feel like each one has taught me something diffrent about what i like and dont like about relationships.
But what i can't figure out is,
why do i always get broken up with?
Im a good boyfriend!! I remember dates, i bring them flowers, i call to see how theyre doing, i do my absolute best. i really do. but they always end up breaking up with ME! i dont know whats wrong with me!
Like my last one, broke up with me RIGHT after i told her happy one month and gave her a ring. right after to my face! am i ugly or something? i dont think so. i like to think im fairly good looking.
this is probably just me rambling and ranting but id like some advice as to what i should do diffrently :)
thanks (link)
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hmm..well i can tell you that its NOT you,
you sound like an amazing boyfriend
and i would kill to have a guy like that..
but those girls probably just have something wrong with them.
well i know this guy and he does all taht stuff you do too..but the girls tell him that hes too much "like a brother..not a boyfriend" ?!?!..idk what that is.cause hes really nice. but that could just be it. maybe they just view you as a friend.
dont get too worried about it..not all girls are like that.and eventually youll find the right one who likes you for you.dont change for them. they should like you the way you are. if they dont, thats obviously their loss.
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i love my husband with all thats in me, and i know he loves me the same. i have a toriffic marriage to a great man, he is my best friend and whats good we comfide in eachother about any and everythings. this is my question: would he love me less or get tried of me because i don't want to go to his mother house with him sometimes?
can love ever be misunderstood for infatuation or what seperate love from infatuation, whats the defferents between them? answer if you can..thanks (link)
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okay..i dont know if my answer will really help you because im too young to get married or know about that stuff but ill give it a try..
i dont think that your husband will get tired of you because you dont wanna go to his moms house. if he really loved you he wouldnt get tired of you for something like that. but at the same time maybe you should go to his moms house a little more often to show him that you care..because after all it is his mother.
for your second question..
i dont really think love can be misunderstood for infatuation.
an infatuation is more like a crush..or liking someone. which is totally different from loving someone. infatuation is kind of more flirty and not as serious [[i cant think of the right word]] as love. love is like such a strong feeling for someone..idk..its kinda hard to describe..but i think you get what i mean.
i hope i helped =]
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Ok im in such a F*cked up situation.. I was sorta seeing this guy and than he started ignoring me and all that and it was just getting really weird so i told him that i just wated to b friends he said ok and everything was fine.. than i started talking to his buddy who is also a very good friend of mine... and anyway we were starting to get close and than bout a week ago his lttle brother died :(:( r.i... so obviously this made a huge impact on everyones lives.. but anyhow me and this guy started to get close.. and than the other guy starts talking to me and asking me to do stuff with him again. like out of no where... and than the other guy with the brother all of sudden just tells me to go out with him???? like wtf?... i kno that they are really good friends so they dont want to hurt each other.. but this guy doesnt kno what he wants and i dont want to b with him.. i want the other one...
o my i kno i just confused everyone to death but im soo messed up i dont want to hurt either of them.. but i like one more than the other and i kno he'll treat me better.. but its also really bad timing.. help!!! (link)
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simple. dont pick either boy. the timing right now is really bad for both of them..and since this one guys little brother died you should give him some time to himself and just to take things slow for awhile.
but if you were to pick one of them..personally i think you should pick the guy whos little brother died. because why would the other guy suddenly wanna start doing stuff with you again? thats kinda weird.. and it seems like he doesnt want another guy to have you. plus, that other guy sounds like he would treat you well if you were to go out.so just let the situation cool off and go from there.
-- xo kayy
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For my whole high school life, all I wanted was a nice sweet guy to be with. I met this kid from another school recently and hes the sweetest kid ever and he's eventually going to ask me out. You would think I would be so happy. I finally found a sweet person who likes me. But I'm not happy at all. I seem to be in worse shape then when I started. This seems to happen everytime. I think I like someone, then it starts to get serious, then I change my mind and back out. Whats wrong with me? Should I go out with him when he asks me, and see how it goes from there? Or because I'm having doubts should I get out of it now? I don't know, any advice would be appreciated..... (link)
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idk..but to me it kinda sounds like maybe something might have happened to you in your past or something that effects you know..or you could just be shy.its not a big deal. i think you back out because your not ready. but if you feel like you really like this guy..go for it. who knows,it may work out =]
the worst thing that could happen is that things dont work out the way you planned. but god makes us find all the wrong people first so then we can finally appreciate the right person when we found them.
good luckk and i hope things work out!!!
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15/f
There's this guy in my English class, I like him (not like... obsessive-crush-like, more like fond of), I don't talk him a lot though... only on MSN LOLOL, because he's almost always talking to someone else in class, and not to mention he sits at the other end of the classroom.
Right now I'm like... terrified to talk to him because I slept over at a friend's house, with another girl (I'll call them A and B). I was talking to him and then they decided to like kick me off the computer and talk to him pretty much saying "I'm mentally disabled and I like to contradict myself", making it look like I said that. Right after A said that, he COINCIDENTALLY went "Gotta go bye". Later on A and B pretended as if they didn't do anything wrong :|... Not to mention that some other girl flirts with him a lot.
So like.. how do I stop being a chicken and talk to him :|? (link)
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well i think you should just talk to him and tell him what really happened at the sleepover. im sure he'll understand and he'll laugh about it. [[if you are close with A and B]] you might want to tell them [if they dont already know] that you kinda sorta have a crush on that guy. that way they probably wont do anything too stupid later on.
-- xo kayy
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