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I need some tips from the girls. Are there any special techniques that you use when you're making out with a guy? ILL RATE (link)
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Everyone is different but I would say running your fingers through his hair usually helps. I've never found a guy that did not enjoy that. There really isn't too much you need to do when making out with him. Maybe stroke the side of his cheeks at times or wrap your arms around his neck.
Other than that, experiment some. You will find what he likes. Every guy is different
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I want to break up with my long distance relationship. There's no real reason..I honestly just don't feel like being in a relationship anymore. I live in the US, he in the Uk. I'm 19, he's 21. We've never met yet, been dating 8 months. He wants me to visit this summer.
I like him, but I don't love him. He LOVES me, he's actually obsessed. It freaks me out in a way. I tried breaking up with him earlier this week by using excuses about school, and he started crying for about 2 hours. So, I gave in. He told me he couldn't breathe, and that he'd come down here immediately and such. I don't WANT that, I'm scared if I break up with him that he'll show up at my door.
He's a very fragile guy, it took him 2 years to get over his ex, and he still talks about how he never thought he'd love again, blah blah, but then he found me. :/ I do like him, but I want to be free. I hate staying inside all day on the computer to talk to him, I want my life back. I know if I tell him this that he'll have some solution, like: you can go with your friends, or spend less time with me!
Basically, I don't want to be sucked in again. I want to break up with him, not lead him on with false hopes. Can you PLEASE tell me how to go about this? I've been struggling with it for about a month. I want to end it, cut all contact. But, what do I do when he starts crying? I'm not a heartless person, I don't know if I can just hang up on him. Ahh, please help!!! (link)
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First of all.. long distance relationships are HARD! I tried dating a guy that lived just a few hours away and it didn't work out.
Second, a relationship with someone you don't know can be scary. If he is acting obsessive and you are scared to break up with him, let someone know. It sounds like he has gone beyond obsessive. It is going to be hard, most definitely, but it needs to be done if you want to be freed.
You need to tell him that your feelings just aren't the same and you need your freedom. He probably will cry and you are just going to have to be strong. It isn't heartless to leave someone like that when it is in your best interest. Just be strong and explain to him what you just told me and if he cares at all about you then he will understand. Don't let him pressure you into anything! If you are truly scared he will come to your house, MAKE SURE SOMEONE KNOWS what is going on. Keep your house locked up when you are not there and maybe even when you are. It wouldn't really hurt to have some pepper spray JUST IN CASE.
Also don't give him excuses just the truth. If you need any other advice, please feel free to ask me. I hope this all helped you out and if there is anything I did not cover, please, ask me specifically so I can try to help you out.
Best of luck! Be strong!
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I need advice. So me and my boyfriend have been dating for four months and just recently he broke up with me for 2 reasons one of them being because i go to college far away and because he said he wants to get his life together and he wants a girlfriend he can see as often as he like...he also said he still cares for me alot and likes me alot but he cant do the long distance relationship now. I acted pretty cool about the decision AND said we can remain close friends but i was wondering if there is anyway to get back with him or if he would even want to get back with me? (link)
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Long distance relationships are very difficult to maintain. It may just be time for you to go ahead in your life and allow him to do the same. He is at least being mature and wanting to continue a friendship which does mean that he cares. If you too care about him, then you should be willing to try to let go and see where the future takes you. Its possible that after college you two will get back together or maybe you will meet someone new that becomes just as special to you as he was.
I would try to keep in contact with him on a friendly basis and try to go on for now. There really is no sure-fire way of convincing him to get back together with you. He may just realize that he can't live without you and be willing to try a long distance relationship after all.
Just try to give him some space for now. After all, you moving away is going to be very difficult on the both of you.
Best of luck. hit me up if you need anything else :)
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15/f about to go on pill. I am not sexually active but want to go on pill for benefits such as no cramps, since mine can get bad, and shorter n lighter periods. But I want to know if you think the pill will kind of encourage me to have sex, like make it seem like its not a big deal because im protected. My friends say im very sexual, because I say a lot of sexual things, like who i would and wud not have sex with, how and why, sex jokes, and kinky things i guess. I'll admit i kind of want to but at the same time i dont want to take the pill if Im going to get Motivated to have sex. (link)
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The pill doesn't change anything except that your taking a pill to either prevent pregnancy or take care of a problem with your period.
I have been on it for over a year and it didn't change much for me.
The ultimate decision to have sex is yours. No pill is going to change what you concent to doing. Just be careful and remember it is 99% effective against pregnancy when taken properly and 0% effective against STDs
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I'm 17, female, and I am gay.
I haven't come out yet, but I recently told my close friends about a sexual experience I've had not long ago with a girl. They were interested, but strangely the question about my sexuality never came up. I think this is because I often get drunk and kiss girls, and they probably assumed that this was similar but just went further.
I have a boy friend. I know I know this sounds strange. He's 20 and we've been together for around 4 months. We've been going out on/off for almost 5 years. It's like hanging out with your best friend. I've known him since I was 8 years old and we have a laugh together. Recently he's told me he's falling in love with me again and has even told his friends that we're back together (which is a big deal to him).
I know a lot of your advice will be to break it off with my boy friend before any one gets hurt but i'm afraid that it's too late for that. I care deeply about this guy and yes, we do have sex but for me, it's like an extension of friendship. It doesn't really do anything for me. I want to continue going out with him. I am 100% in this relationship. I am committed to making him happy, and he is to me as well.
I will continue to have sexual relations with girls whilst with my boy friend. For me, this is just learning more about my sexuality and it doesn't really feel like cheating. I wouldn't have another relationship or anything like that. My boy friend knows that I am attracted to girls and we have discussed our "boundries" - he said that he doesn't mind that much about girls because his jealousy stems from insecurity about himself, and he can't compare himself to a girl.
I hope that made sense.
I would like to come out to my friends. The thing is, I haven't known I'm gay for very long at all. But I'm the kinda person who tells her friends everything. Should I wait longer? Should I not tell them because of my boyfriend? My friends have met my boyfriend and they see him occasionally at parties and stuff. They wouldn't tell him I know that for sure. I also know they would be 100% supportive and are probably expecting it.
You all think I should tell my boy friend don't you. *sigh*. Do you think he might not mind if I make clear I want to continue our relationship?
Thanks for any advice - sorry this was long! (link)
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Wow. That sounds complicated. Your first step is to make sure that is really what you want. If you think this could be a phase of curiousity, then you should evaluate what is going on in your life.
Is this a recent attraction? If so, there may be something causing it that could cause you to make a mistake with your boyfriend.
If you decide you have made the right decision, you need to sit down and talk with your boyfriend about your decision. Even if your not completely sure with yourself, you should talk to him about it. Your friends would also be a great place to turn to for some help.
If you are truly gay, then you probably don't really want to be with your boyfriend and he is a security blanket. You really do need to just sit down and think it out before you do anything drastic.
Sorry that was also long and maybe a little confusing. Let me know if you need anything else. I have been there..
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alright so last night i asked my boyfriend if he was ever in love and he said yeah and i was like do you still have feelings for her? and he was like i always will but its was over along time ago and always will be.
so in a way that got me thinking would he ever love me?
or always lover her?
what if she ever came back, would he leave me for her?
even though it was along time ago.
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You never forget your first love. It doesn't mean he would leave you for her. It also doesn't mean he'll never love anyone else. Your first love is just the one person who captured your heart first. I'm still in love with my ex, but I love my boyfriend now even more. I would never leave him for my ex. If you're truly committed to each other, you have nothing to worry about. He'll probably never forget this other girl, but obviously he's trying to put her in his past and move on with someone else. You can fall in love more than once, or at least thats how I feel about it.
He may love you someday, you just have to give it time. A relationship has to grow over time. Don't rush anything and don't worry about it because if you're going to worry, it could cause problems between the two of you.
Just live every moment to the fullest and just put that in the back of your mind. Everything will be okay.
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18/f
my boyfriend and i want to try something new with our sexual life- a threesome.
i don't want to with one of my friends and he doesn't have any female friends.
where can we find someone who will try this with us? and would we be safe using a condom, or can you still get STDs with those? (link)
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That sounds like an interesting idea and actually my boyfriend and I are in the same situation. We have thought about going to a gay bar and meeting a bi-sexual girl that is attractive to both of us. it sounds kind of dirty, but I would be more comfortable with someone I wasn't going to have to see on a daily basis. You could spend a little time with the girl first to kind of get to know her before you drop it on her of what your wanting to do or you could just straight up ask her. If you just flat out asked her and she said no, it would be the end of the story. You'd probably never see her again and it really wouldn't matter. If you devoloped a friendship first, your boyfriend may decide he actually likes her. And thats my biggest issue with having a three-some. I'm usually not the jealous type, but I can't help but thinking that since he's been with me so long, maybe he'll enjoy having another girl around and decide he wants to explore whats out there and maybe take a break from me or something.
As for using a condom. It's safe but then again not safe. Since its one guy, you two girls aren't going to be protected from each other. He will be protected, but as he switches back and forth having sex, your bodily fluids are being passes from girl to girl. So your not really safe.
Good luck and have lots of fun!
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so im 17/m and in highschool. not to brag or anything, but usually, i get all the girls i want, even if they dont like me to begin with. as you all know, its the end of the schoolyear, and i've had feelings for this hot, sweet, innocent math teacher for quite a while now. she's the only woman who can make me nervous. when i first realized i liked her, i made an oath to get closer to her, no matter how much of a distance she keeps btw her students and herself, and luckily, i have. so we play around and everything, but today i made the mistake of touching her. not inappropriately at all, or violently, but i sort of caressed her face for a second, which i could tell she wasn't comfortable. even though it happened quickly, she kind of pulled her face away, but i did it anyways. i dont want it to be awkward tomorrow, and i dont want to REassure her i like her, so can you ladies give me some tips on what i should do.how would you feel, and what might she be thinking? should i ignore her, or should i apologize? thnx (link)
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I think you should appologize to her. Obviously you made her feel uncomfortable. She probably felt so uncomfortable because she is your teacher and it is against the law for her to be with a student due to age difference and because it could interefere with her job. You sort of did over-step your boundaries by making even a slight move on her and you really do owe her an appology. Make sure you acknowledge you know there is a problem with what you did and let her know your sorry for doing so. Reassure her that it will not happen again and that no one else is going to find out it happened.
I know you say you like this woman, but shes your teacher and it would get her into trouble being with you. I don't think you want to ruin her career to satisfy your crush. Sorry!
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hiiii :] does anyone know of any really cute, sweet, lyrical love songs? thanks in advanceeee :] ♥ (link)
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Invinceable(sp?) - Crossfade
Comedown - Bush
My Heart will go on - Celine Dion (sort of a song to get over a break up..)
Everytime we touch - Cascada
Oh Girl - Chi lites or Paul Wall (Chi lites had the original then Paul Wall incororated it into one of his songs)
Where'd you go - Fort Minor
Iris - GooGoo Dolls (not exactly a love song.. but its really pretty)
You are the One - Him
I love you - Him
Join me in death - Him
Poison Girl - Him
Until her heart stops - Hawthorne Heights
My Love - Justin Timberlake
Love of a Lifetime - Firehouse
She Will be Loved - Maroon 5
Wish I had an Angel - Nightwish
Far Away - Nickelback
Never Had a Dream come true - S Club 7
Hold me, thrill me, kiss me, kill me - U2
Is this love - Whitesnake
Rock you like a hurricane - Scorpions
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I'm 13/f
One of my guy/friends asked me out today, and my friend put me under a lot of presure of what tosay, so I said I'd think about it. He smiled and went on about his buisness. Then like, 10 seconds after the last bell rang one of my friends told him I'd said yes, but I hadn't.
Then at 4:59(sry 'bout that, I do that all the time) one of my other guy/friends who had him over called and asked me what I was gonna say because he wanted to know. As I said earlier, I hate being under so much as the tiniest bit of pressure, and I said "I guess." Know, I wish I could go back in time or kill myself. I don't like him, I like another guy, I don't totally trust him, and my mom said I couldn't have a boyfriend until I was 16. So now, I am disobaying my mother(whom I love very much and hate disobaying) gong against my scences, betraying myself( since I like someone else), killing myself from so much pressure, guilt, and worry, afraid I'll hurt him, might loos a friend, and wishing I could kill myself. HOW HORRIBLE!!!! HOw would I break up with him without hurting him or lossing his friendship??? (link)
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Tell him the truth. Tell him that your friend went ahead without your okay and told him yes. He should understand. He might be a little hurt at first, but things will be fine. Just explain the situation to him. Try to be sensitive about it and listen if he has anything to say. I wouldn't recommend telling him you like someone else. That would make him feel bad. Just let him know that you love being friends but you don't feel any chemistry between the two of you and you just want to keep it at a friendly level
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hey, i saw an answer you gave another girl about kissing. and i thought id ask you. well, my boyfriend wants to "make out" and all and i want to and im ready and everything (and i probably sound really"prude" or whatever you wanna call it) but im just nervous. ive never done this before.. but neither has he. i think we're both really nervous but i was just wondering if you had any kissing tips and things for the "first time" (link)
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To be honest, and this probably isn't what you want to hear. I really don't have much advice on kissing. You really do have to just go with it. I'm sure he's nervous too. Since its a first time for both of you, he really has no power to judge your kissing technique. As you get more comfortable with it, you'll losen up and not even worry about it. I really can't give you advice on this topic, i'm really sorry. It really is just one of those things you have to get comfortable with on your own. Trust me, once its over with, you'll be like "what was i so worried about"
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What does sexually frustraited mean? (link)
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Sexually frustrated is like when someone hasn't been sexually satisfied in a while. My boyfriend says it all the time because he's still a virgin. Simply put, It's just another slang term meaning you need to get laid.
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i have been with my boyfriend for almost a year but im starting to have major feelings for an ex boyfriend. i know its very bad of me but my boyfriend now just isnt making me happy anymore and i dont know what to do. my boyfriend lies to me about everything so im to the point i dont know whats real and whats a lie. hes lied about smoking (twice), going to a party, going to school, and to as stupid as how much he spends on something. i just dont understand. he tells me hell change but hes said that since day one and it continues. also on two occasions he didnt go to school once i found an earring and the other time i found an ankle bracelet. i asked whose it was and he told me he didnt know. i told him i thought he was cheating on me and he got all mad and said he wasnt. im just not happy anymore. i love him to death though. but my ex boyfriend and me have been talking the past 3 days and im not sure whats gonna happen but hes making me so happy. ive been smiling nonstop and hes making me feel whole i talked to him yesterday from 1:30 pm all the way til 5 am nonstop. on the internet and phone. i just dont know what to do. i dont want to hurt my boyfriend but in the same sense im not happy. but i dont wanna rush it with my ex boyfriend either. please help me (link)
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First of all, you deserve better than your current boyfriend. He may be telling the truth and not cheating on you, but if he's been lying to you, theres no reason to stay in the relationship. Everyone deserves to be happy and he doesn't seem to make you happy at all. Even though your in love with him, it's best to end it now before things get too serious and you can't get out of the relationship.
As for your ex, stay friends for now. It's best not to get into another relationship right off the rebound of another. It sucks waiting, but if you both like each other as much as you think, the wait will be worth it in the end.
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Theres this girl I like. I just simply want to ask her on a date, but I want to say things that would melt her heart like ice cream. What things could I say to her, and what body language should I use to let her know that Im really interested. Thanks. I rate 5's for fantastic answers. (link)
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Honestly, I can't tell you what you need to say to her. Each girl is won over differently. You might try going with somethign simple and telling her that you think shes a great girl and you would like to take her out on a date. Or if you want to get a little more into depth, tell her the things you like about her. Like if your really into her personality, tell her that you think she's an awesome person you would like to spend more time with. Make sure you don't use words like "hot" and "sexy" too much. If your really trying to win her over for the right reasons, she should know you are serious if you call her beautiful or pretty. It's more appropriate (spelling?) when asking a girl out.
As for body language. Just make sure you make eye contact, it makes you come off as more confident. Don't let her know your nervous about asking her out. Girls love confidence, not cockiness. Keep eye contact with her, but don't make it seem like your staring either. It's kind of hard to explain, but I think you should be able to get the picture. As long as you come off as having confidence, I think you'll be just fine.
I wish you the best of luck!
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okk so i've been going out with this kidd for only like..7 days. and he called me and im like can i call you back in a little bit. the only thing is i have NO clue what to talk about?!?! i mean we have nothing in common?!? what should i say?!? (link)
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I think everyone goes through that. I'm not really sure how old you are, but by the question i guess a teen or preteen. So i'm going to advise through my own experience with this problem..
- Questions.. Be like.. OO lets play random questions. All you do is ask each other everything you can think of you want to know about one another. It sounds lame, but you really get to know a person like that.
- Whatever comes to mind. Just be like.. Whats up.. theyll most likely say nothing much then ask you the same.. its typical. Just ask like what they did today.. and go with that. In turn it usually leads to a good conversation and you don't even realize it.
- Be yourself. Bring up something that you've done. Just like tell them about something in your life.. family, friends, a problem you have. Thats also a good conversation starter. You start out talking about that, then you end up on a totally different subject and end up talking.
Good luck!
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Ok, so I was just on MSN and this guy (grade 11) I really liked asked me(grade 9) to go to the movies. I asked my parents if I could go and they said no because they don't want me to date and he's too old. What can I say to change their minds? I badly badly want to go with him. Plus, i know I can totally trust him because I work for his parents and I met him through work. (link)
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Have him come over and meet your parents. If he has respect enough to come meet them and personally ask them permission to take you out, they are more likely to let you go. I've got restrictions on dating, and my parents let me go out ALONE with this guy all because he came over and asked them to take me out and sat and got to know them a little bit. Take it kind of slow, and if he really likes you, he will be willing to do this for you.
Good luck!
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My ex and i had a long history together for 3 and a half years. We havent been together now for over a year.(over something stupid) anyway hes been with his new gf now for that long.
Heres the problem and my question>2 Christmas's ago, i spent alot of money on him(no big deal)
anyways he bought me the most beautiful necklace. It had 3 hearts joined together, with the middle heart having diamond chips going all around it. He told me that HE had designed it himself, and that it was expensive. The 3 hearts symbolized our 3 years together. I loved it and wore it all the time (when we were together)It is now in the safe downstairs!!!
Christmas evening my gf and her new bf came to vistit me at work. She wanted to show me what her bf of only 2 weeks had given her. It was that EXACT same necklace i received 2 years ago. I was in shock. Then i became very angry!! He bought it from the same place my ex told me he got mine from, but i thought mine was a 1 of-a-kind!
I dont care what advice i get about this, but i am going to confront him no matter what!! I cant see his face online or over the phone, so im doing this in person! If any of you say to just let this go, you dont know what i have been through. I cant help but feel that those 3 and a half years were all a lie!
Since hes been with his new gf, he has told me he still missed what we had, and told me he loved me!
When they broke up(every month basically)he ditched her to hang out with me! We made out(thats all)told me he still loved me again!!
Then when things didnt go his way AGAIN, he tells me that he would NEVER do anything to hurt "her". He always lies and makes up excuses why he said this or why he did that to cover up the real truth!!
I would just like to hear everyones opinion on this!
I rate high!!
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What an ass! But of course it was kinda sweet that the three hearts represented your time together. As for him saying it was a one of a kind ... that was stupid. He had no reason to lie about it ...
Again .. what an ass.. and i agree that you need to confront him.. and make sure you give it to him good ... guys don't need to be like that!
Good luck ..and make it worth it!
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Maybe I'm just jumping the gun because we're only been going out since Saturday, but it just seems like we aren't even going out. At the dance on Saturday we did; we were holding hands and dancing really close and he had his arms around me when we were just standing around talking and stuff, but at the end of the dance, he hugged me and was like "i'll talk to you Monday".
He asked me before that what I was doing on Sunday and I was just like, "nothing. what're you doing?" and he was like "probably hanging out with branden." maybe he just didn't want to hang out with me? But he didn't give me his number/ask so we don't call each other or anything. We didn't hang out after school either because he said he was going golfing.
We have 1 class together on red days, and 1 class together on white days. We don't even have the same lunch on either days. So, it's kind of hard to get closer to him. Maybe we just don't really act like we're going out right because we're at school, but also maybe he is a little tiny bit shy because on before we were going out, sometimes it'd take him awhile to say something to me, but I knew he'd see me because he'd be looking at me, like at the football game.. So I just came up to him.
helpppp. advice. tips to get closer to him since it's kind of hard because he's busy after school and we don't have many classes together. It'd be easier if atleast we called each other, but I don't think he wants to talk to me on the phone or something. I don't know. (link)
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First of all... My guess is that your quite young. I would say he's just shy about showing affection in public. Talk to him about a date or something with just the two of you. Your not going to get anywhere just wondering. The best thing you can do is talk to him. He probably does like you, but friends do always come first for most people. If everyone chose a boyfriend/girlfriend over friends, we would get nowhere. Set a day in advance for the two of you to hang out. Then he can't use the excuse of other plans ahead of time.
And if he doesn't want to hang out .. ever.. then he probably don't like you and just wanted a girlfriend.
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im the same person that told you i had a cut in my mouth when hooking up with my boyfriend but i left out a few things likeeeee... i had the cut before we hooked up so i also had it while. its real small and now it went away but i was just wondering do you think everything is ok when i had that lil cut? (link)
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Yeah.. as long as neither of you have any STDs. Especially Oral STDs then you should be just fine.
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would you date someone older than you? (link)
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Yah .. I only date older guys..
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