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i'm kathleen.i'm thirteen years old.
i've been through alot.
i'm absolutely nothing special, and you'll find i'm nothing that will amaze you.
i have trust issues.
i hate many things, such as animal abuse, and labels.
i'm a vegitarian, and i don't drink milk.
i sometimes talk alot, sometimes i'm really quiet.
get to know me: kathleenxsaidd- AIM.
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ok well this is kind of been upsetting me for a while. Everytime i try to ask a question about my lovelife on here, everyone gives me the same answer to a question i was never asking. I'll be asking about something like becoming more closer to my boyfriend or how to show him my emotions without hiding them and ill say i love him alot or something and thats why i want to be more open towards him and in every advice im given, people always tell me im not inlove. In responses im always getting "He's just a crush so don't worry" or "Your to young to be inlove". I don't see how someone can be to young to be inlove, its like saying a child doesn't love his mum because he's to young to understand what it is. Ok i started to think "what exactly IS love?" and i googled it and got this answer "a strong positive emotion of regard and affection". So according to the dictionary, i AM in fact inlove. Its just these people who think that age does make a difference. I can understand that most people think teenagers are just hormone driven and that because while we are going through puberty and we start to feel more for the opposite sex or the same sex in some cases that we are just overwhelmed by these emotions and mis-judge it as love. It's not like i write all over my school books "I LOVE [NAME]" or in my msn name or anything like that, i just constantly have this inner warmth when i think about him or hear his voice or when hes cuddling me. I feel like even though im growing up people still treat me as a child for believing that im inlove. Theres only a select few of people i know who understand how i feel and i just need to know how people can think that someone who hasn't exactly had a lifetime of experience can be wrong about being inlove? Am i thinking stupidly? Should i just not even try a relationship until im over 20? Im so confused about everything and people are making me feel like im not inlove and im starting to grow distant to my boyfriend because of it. Please help.
Hey.
Well, what people tell you here on advicenators isn't fact. It's just their oppinion on a subject.
Here's the deal : some people meet the person that they want to, and will spend the rest of their life with as young as when they're three.
It starts with you knowing this person for a long time, getting comfortable around them, realizing you like them, and the bond grows from there.
I agree, I'm thirteen and people have told me all the time I'm not in love. The thing is, I know how I feel, and noone else does. It's the same with you. By what you tell us, you really like, even love, this kid. However, since we aren't you, we can't feel exactly how much. If you think you love someone, chances are you really do. Don't listen to whatever anyone else tells you, becuase the bottom line is, you're the only one that knows for sure.
I hope this helped.
earlier today some friends, my boyfriend, and i met up at someones house to hang out, and when we left, me and my boyfriend walked down the street because we live pretty close. on the way he had his arm around me and he was like stroking my shoulder and the sleeve of my shirt fell down like 2 inches, i hardly even noticed. he apologized and i could tell he felt like it was a big deal and felt awkward but it was nothing. on the phone just now he said it was awkward and i told him it was fine no big deal and he doesnt have to worry about it, but i could tell he still was uncomfortable. hes always been kind of shy but i mean we hug and hold hands and such all the time so hes not THAT shy. does anyone know what he means in thinking its awkward?
Hey. Oh wow, you're so lucky.
Most other guys would be all over you right about now.
But he doesn't want to take advantage of you, or disrespect you.
He probably feels akward thinking maybe he thought that you think he was like trying to take your shirt off or something.
Maybe you should just leave the topic alone for a while, let him realize on his own that it wasn't a big deal. Then later on let him know that you didn't care, maybe even act like you forgot about it.
Good luck.
ok 1st off I'm 13/f..ok well i met this really amazing guy and i never felt this way about someone in my whole life..i think i may b in love w. him..and i don't want to hear "oh your too young to be in love." but the problem is that hes 17 and lives and hour and a half away from me. he doesn't know I'm only 13 either. in the time we got to know each other, he is starting to like me too. one time when we were talking he told me that age doesn't matter, as long as you love them its ok. here is some of the conversation:
me:it really sucks that we're this far away from each other.
him: yeah i no. but you know what doesn't suck? i got a really nice tan today.haha
me: haha
him: and plus I'm talking to this amazing girl who totally doesn't suck.
me: ouu and who might this be?
him: her names kelly ((my name))..do you know her?
me: yeah i might...and I'm talking to this amazing, cute, and sweet boy.
him: whats his name?
me: Joe ((his name))
him: he sounds pretty cool.
him: and how do you manage to always put a smile on my face?
me: i don't know. how to manage to put one on mine?
him: well..i asked you first.
me: i don't know your just amazing...its like i don't even have to try to impress you. i could just be myself and you'd like me anyway. thats what i love about you.
him: =) why do you even have to try? you've already impressed me.
how should i tell him I'm only 13? how do you think he'll take it?
sorry this was long =(
HELP ME !!
Hey. Awww, he's so sweet!! Haha, you should deffinatly just tell him about it. He has told you that age doesn't matter, and I'm pretty sure he doesn't just say that for a topic of conversation. I would just tell him, and if you mean anything, he'll still treat you the same.
Good Luck!!
So theres this guy Im talking to.He says hes likes me but hes soooo shy. He puts his arms around me, we cuddle and he kisses my forehead. but hes so shy to kiss me...we talk like everyday, but he hasnt called or texted me in like three days, and i feel weird. dont know why. I know hes really shy, and i want HIM to make the move, but im guessing i have too. Im confused cause weve been friends for like a year, but he knows ive liked him for like 6 months and so has he...should i make the first move...but the problem is, is that hes really shy and might hold back his feelings.
Hey. I agree with JustAskMe... You should ask him. I know you said he's really shy, but if he likes you he won't be too shy to tell you how he feels. You might not want to ask him in person, though. Try asking him over the computer, on like MSN or AIM or something.. It's much easier to tell someone your true feelings when you aren't on the computer or phone with them. If you don't want to ask him out personally, have a friend sort of hint around, you know, like saying "So, ----, Do you like ---?, Maybe you should ask her out..." Or something like that. If not, just go for it on your own! Good Luck :D
Ok im going to the movies with the girl of my dreams and some other people from our soccer team. I talked to her freind who is also on my team, she said that I need to be nice and flirt with her, now there is the problem I dont no how to flirt. Her freind said dont be creepy flirt. Remeber were going to the movies. Ill put on what kind of movie when I get that sorted out. So geeting to my question. How do I flirt no matter what kind of movie im in? I want her to like me and I think she already does a bit.
Hey. Well, I agree with Chika and everything, but make sure, as you said, you aren't a creepy flirt. Compliment her, like, if she did something like order a small popcorn be like 'you can eat a large if you wanted to' or you know, something like that, implying that she's skinny. Don't say that exactly, but somewhere along the lines of that. Look for times to say something nice, and be really sweet to her. Most importantly, be youself, becuase you don't want her to like you for someone you're not, which i'm sure won't happen.
Good luck :D!
ok well i have this x boyfriend miguel...he means so much to me but and he wants to get back with me but i told him dat i dont know if i still like him or what because it was kind of fucked up wat he did b4...so then now he cuts himself and today he saw me walking with my guy friend and my guy friend touched my shoulder and i was playing with him and i said "dont touch me dork!" and then miguel lost control and was like"yeah only i could touch her" and he hugged me all hard and pushed me into the lockers and tried to kiss me...the thing is he smelled like liquor and i asked wat was wrong with him and he said he had been drinking. then he couldnt keep his balance and was still trying to kiss me and since i kept pushing him back he started crying telling me how bad i made him feel and all this crap! i was actually gonna give him the 2nd chance but he treated me like shit in front of all those people and then some guy saw that i was pushing him away and was about to go do something about it. the thing is that i dont know what to do!! what could i do to stop him from doing all dis b/s? i know hes a great guy but hes depending his life on me and my actions and thats just to much for me to handle you know!!
so what do i do so he could stop?
should i go back with him and try to make him realise how bad hes handling things or do i stay away from him?
keep in mind that i want to have fun with people and not have to worry about "cheating" but i would be able to give up my freedom for him because i know how much i can help his situation but.......idk what about my life?=//
help!
Hey. You need to tell someone. Cutting yourself is not okay, and neither is drinking. How old is this kid, old enough to be drinking? Doesn't sound it..
You NEED to tell someone, becuase this kid seems like he's not just one of those people who are cutting to get attention and could stop if they wanted to. I know from experience, that shit's addicting. As for drinking, you need to tell someone for that, too. He could grow up and become an alchoholic, and do bad things with his life.
You need to tell a guidence councelor, or a parent, or even a teacher. But do NOT get back with this kid. I know you feel very bad for him, but if you go back with him, it's going to make things worse, please don't do it. You could talk to him, tell him you care about him, but this will not continue if he wants you to keep talking to him, he has to stop with the cutting and the drinking. He could do something really stupid if it continues, that may cost his life.
Some important questions I need to ask...
1. how old are you? and how old is he?
2. where exactly on himself is he cutting? (shoulders, wrists, forearms ect.)
3. are his cuts deep, or surface cuts that are a cry for attention?
Bottom line, tell someone, and DO NOT go back with this kid, he's trouble.. and MAKE SURE you tell someone, ANYONE. If you care about him, you'll get him help. He's obviously got some sort of disease, such as depression, or bipolar disorder.. and they're serious and can lead to serious things including suicide. So, TELL SOMEONE.
ok i recently posted this..
ok..me and my boyfriend were doing perfectly fine and then today he was like.. i cant be with you i'm sorry..i still love my ex more than anything...and when i read that.. i just broke down in tears..we both fell in love with each other..deeply..and he did that to me..and i still love him no matter what..and i cant convince him to come back to me..what should i do or tell him that might make him come back to me..i tried telling him how i felt about him..and i dunno what to tell him now..he's the first person i've felt this way about since i was with my ex boyfriend for 3 years..PLEASE HELP MEE PLEASEEE!! :'( i've been bawling the past 5 hours!!!
and the other day he imed me and was like..baby i'm sorry i made the biggest mistake breaking up with you, will you please forgive me..i really love him..so much..i just dont know what to do..should i go back to him or not???
thanks!
Hey. Welll, I think you should go for it! But, if this happens again, no way. This is his last chance. I would tell him that, but it's your choice in the end.
Male 19 and female 18
Me and my girlfriend have been together for two years. Well lately she's been using all types of excuses for us not to hang out...like today we were supposed to hang out but she said she wanted to go home and shower first which would leave us with half an hour to hang out. Well then she calls me back five minutes later and says her dad says she can't...the samething happened with this coming weekend. Her friend is having a party we were invited to and told me she didnt want to go...well a couple days later I asked if we could hang out this weekend she said maybe at the party even though she had already said we weren't going...its been going on for a couple of weeks
...and also we rarely talk on the phone anymore...we use to talk on the phone like 30 minutes before we went to bed and 30 minutes in the morning as well and various times through out the day...now its more like 2 minutes maximum a day...I dont know if this means she wants out of the relationship and it's her way of breaking it off...I need Advice
Hey. Well, it sorta seems to me like she might need some space, or something is bothering her. You should ask her if you've done something to upset her, and if you did you're really sorry and you weren't aware something was wrong. If she says you didn't do anything wrong, ask her if there's something that's bothering her with her home life, or one of her friends, ect. If there's nothing wrong, that's when you bring yourself to ask the dreaded quesion, 'do you wanna breakup or something..?'. I really hope that isn't what she wants and wish you the best of luck :].
okay so i broke up with my boyfriend of 2 and a half months. and i feel sooo bad about it. well hes 18 and im only 15. and i got this feeling that he was getting WAY to attached. so i told him that we should stop seeing eachother. the thing is is that hes gunna be moving to cali next yr and i told him that thats why we needed to brake up becuz i didnt want a huge breakup then. but in reality i found another guy who is gorgeous and amaazing to me. does this make me a horrible person?! please help.
thanks. :]
No, that doesn't make you a bad person at all. The purpose of your lie was to help out his feelings, so it's a good lie, I guess you could call it :].
My friend Jane ask me a question that i thougt she all ready knew the answer cause a anime book explanes it. she ask "how can same sex people fall in love?" my answer "people will fall in love with someone that has a wonderful personlity, you just like that person cause how they treat you and make you feel. Just like the anime book Gravition the character Hiro explains it." do you think that was a good answer? Hiro in gravition explains it like i did but more info in it and i thougt Jane will know, cause she read gavition and she lead me the book to read. why would she ask me?
FYI: I'm a Female.
Hey. Yes, I think that was a good answer. Your friend may have asked you just for your oppinion on it. She personally may think that it's wrong, whereas most people don't have a problem with it. I think that maybe she meant in a way such as 'how could you ever possibly fall in love with someone that is the same sex as you?' meaning that she finds it repulsive. Regardless, your answer was appropriate :].
However, I have a question for you.. you made it sound as though this anime stuff was like a religion of some sort, like, this 'Hiro' person explains situtations and what's right and wrong. I thought it was just like a TV show or something.. so my question is, what exactly is that?
Ok..so this guy im talking to is too romantic for me. Like..hes just feminine i could say..he says overly nice things to me..and he just doesnt seem very down to earth and just fun. Everyone thinks im weird because truth is..i dont like the romantic type..i like the fun..outgoing..dont give a crap type. I guess its a bad thing. Am i weird?
Hey, nooo you're not wierd at all. I'm the same way. I like it when guys are nice and rarely give some compliments and stuff, but mainly want to have fun. Don't feel wierd or abnormal at all ♥.
okey.. im 16 and my bf is 17. we've been going out for like 7 months now and my parents dont know. his parents do and theyre cool about it. the major problem is that my parents dont like him or his parents. im getting sick of them bad mouthing him all the time, callin him a dickhead and that. im afraid that if i tell them then i'll probably get hit and stuff. i dont want to keep it a secret anymore but im too afraid. my sisters and all my friends know it.. just not my parents
Hey. Well, you should tell them. And as for your parents hitting you, it's not acceptable at all. Especially at your age, you do NOT get hit. It just doesn't happen. If by some chance it does, I honestly and truely have to tell you, TELL SOMEONE. It shouldn't happen at your age. Are you taller or stronger than one of your parents? Tower over them and act like you aren't scared. Intimidate them and tell them you aren't scared and if they hit you, you WILL hit them back, and you don't have a problem moving out [if you have a place to go]. I'm thirteen and it worked for me. My dad used to hit me, and one day I flipped out and hit him back as hard as I possibly could. He doesn't hit me anymore, but that depends on if your parents will go on like a rampage if you threaten them. However, your parents hitting you at any age is NOT right and isn't going to continue, I won't let you allow it, hahah.
Well, hope I helped.
i need soemone to answer this asap! Me and my boyfriend just broke up and he tried to piss me of today and be all on other girls i want to wear something sexy as hell to school tommorow and talk to other boys i know its not right. But what should i wear? im going shopping in like an hour?
Hey. Try wearing like a tight jean mini skirt and a tight low-cut shirt. Hahah, I hope your school doesn't have a dress code. Well, wear your hair down and kinda messy and smell good, like the person below me said. Hope I helped ♥ Kathleen.
I've always had bad luck with guys, but somehow I have a "guy friend" that I've known for almost 5 years now. We used to have a thing but he's made it clear that he's not interested in me. I've always had feeling for him and that's never going to change. Lately we've been flirting and bordering on friends with benefits. Part of me thinks it's a good idea and another thinks I might get hurt. I'm realistic with myself and our lack of a future, but should I even risk getting hurt? Any opinions from someone that has been in this situation would help.
Hey, well if there's anything I can tell you about this, DON'T CONTINUE BEING FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS, YOU WILL GET HURT and it won't be pretty, you'll be upset for a loong time... just, no. Lol. Well, if you have feelings for him, and he made it clear he does not feel the same way, you want to stop, like now, before you get more attached. The absolute best thing you can do is not be close with him until you're over him, but I know that's really really hard. Try to get over him and get less... flirty with him. Hope I helped ♥ Kathleen.
My boyfriend and my one month is tommorrow but i have no freaking clue what to get him. I mean i really dont know where he shops and stuff because we have been only going out for a month now and i hardly to get too see him because we go to different schools. Soooo i need your help. Tell me what some of you girls got your bf's for your one month or something. Ang guys tell me what you guys wanted for your one month or just a present. Thanks :]
xoxo
~katelyn~
Hey, well I'm not an expert on gifts at all, but if I were you I would say "seriously, I don't have any idead what to get you, and don't say 'don't get me anything' I'm really completely clueless and I need your help". That should work. Hope I helped ♥ Kathleen.
i like two boys. and so, i was wondering, is it okay to say the same things to both of them? they dont hang out together, they go to different schools. so is it a bad idea to say "i miss you" to both of them, and blah blah? or should i say different things to both?!
xo
Hey. Well, no, it isn't bad to say you miss both of them, so long as you don't start telling both of them things like "I like you" and such. That causes problems. So, as long as you don't get into trouble, you can say the same thing to both of them.
Hope I helped ♥ Kathleen.
look i'm really scare of showing my inner self because i am kind fat and you will see me wearing balck shirts and if not a will were black sweaters. my mom tells me that i am very pretty
and that i have beautiful green eyes and that i have some big stuff that i have to let it show but i'm scare people will call me names like fat stuff and fat *ss. And also i like this guy but like i told you .please help me? i want him to like me but i'm scare too. heeeeeelllllppppp. please.
Hey. Well, if he's going to like you, he won't like you becuase you reveal yourself or you're "skinny" or "hot". He'll like you because he...just...likes you. However if you really feel like you need to get his attention, do what you need to do. Who cares what other people think or call you?! It's not up to them to judge you. People that make fun of other people do it becuase they have no confidence in themselves, and making fun of other people makes them feel important or "cool". Well, Hope I helped ♥ Kathleen.
14/m
Ok..Me and this girl I like have been friends for about a year and a half. She used to think I was weird and what not, but now she's like my sister. But the thing is...I like her. But I'm not sure if she does...She tells me how sweet I'am and that anygirl would be lucky to go out with me...But she also gives me nicknames and what not (none of them are bad) and I'm not sure if she likes me or not..You think she does? Thanks in advance...
Hey. It's sounds to me that she likes you. I think you should either have a friend do it, or ask her if she likes you. Don't do it in person, though, like face to face becuase then it pressures her to day yes, which you don't want her to do unless she means it. Hope I helped ♥ Kathleen.
i like this guy *jack*.... in 1st year i really didn't like him i thot he was really annoying....now we're in 4th year and he's really grew up.. and we've became the really good friends nd i feel really close too him......i broke up wif my boyfriend the other week because he was pressurin me into doin stuff nd i told *jack* about it nd he was pretty protective about it....but now hes coming up behind me in skl nd tickelin me he tells me everythin nd hes also reli flirty wif me nd all my friends have noticed but he flirts wif alot of girls in my year but he doesnt tickle them..... but when he does like someone tho he usually tells them and thats how i don't think he likes me
sorry its long but please can you tell me is its signals he's sendin me or not
Hey. It sounds to me that he may like you. He flirts with alot of people but you said that he doesn't tickle them. But keep in mind not to make any moves until you're positive, becuase some guys like to play around with people, for some odd reason.
Hope I helped ♥ Kathleen.
ok theres a guy in my class. he's soooooo annoying and stupid and obnoxious and I think he might like me! EEW! i have absolutely NO affection for him not even in a friend way. so if he tries to ask me out how should i let him down?? like some phrases or whatever to reject him.
Hey. Well, obviously you wouldn't want to make him upset, or do this in a mean way, so...
You could just say "I'm really sorry, but I just don't like you like that, and I'm not really up for a relationship right now. I'm really sorry"
Or something like that. Yeah, I agree, don't get other poeple involved.