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Im in a relationship, and its pretty open.. because we dont call either bf and gf. we just kinda tell people were in a relationship. (he calls me his "almost,sorta, kinda, girlfriendish lady") i know that sounds weird. (infact he called me while writting this.. i tried to talk him into go talking to some girls he didnt know) He moved far away. as in about 2000 miles away.. and were not sure when he can come back.. so i try to tell him to date around or just TALK to other girls. dont ACT like im your girlfriend. Im not sure if maybe that offends him, as in i sound like im trying to get rid of him, or if he really just likes ME. I do it because i want him to have fun and be happy. I guess my question is.. do you think that might offend him? do you think he thinks that im trying to get rid of him? do you think that he might think its like a "go ahead" to go sleep with some other girls? I just want to know if im making a bad move on telling him its okay to try and flirt with other grirls and that he wont go too far.. (link)
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ok i'll answer it from a guy's point of view,since i'm a guy and well,maybe you girls take things differently
if a girl asks me to not act like i'm her bf,or anything,it would rahter hurt me
yes,it's true,it is rather hurtful as it kinda feels like the girl is pushing him away and not even trying to be in a relationship or maybe try to make this seemingly open relationship work
it would also make him feel degraded,if he doesn't have good self esteem.meaning,he would take it that you are just "using" him in a way and treat him like a second hand/part time/leftover kinda bf gf relationship.and this would also make the situation worse.
my suggestion:you guys have to sit down and talk..serious talk,not the baby boo i love you kinda talk,but some serious talk about where you guys are going.Why? well because you both are confused about your direction and this is not healthy,even for an open relationship,trust me.
so just ask, if he wants to take things to the next level or if he just wants to remain static because the bottom line question of the day which WILL come someday is this: If you love each other,why not be together for real?
it's kinda of an all or nothing situation,but as i said,open relationships will end up to the bottomline question,so sit down and talk and everything will be fine.ask me for any more enquiries
p.s:just as a reminder,yes it does offend guys ,if he likes you ,he wants to be with you and it hurts him that you are pushing him away even though you do it for a differernt reason which he can't see because well...you guys haven't talked..so,talk! lol,good luck
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I like this guy and he likes me back but we never talk to each other. Do you think I should go up to him and make a conversation or should I wait until he comes up to me? Please REPLY!!!! Thanks! (link)
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ok first you are definitely SURE that he likes you back right? or is it just signals?
if you are sure,then.....
go for it!,seriously,the only problem a person should face is when one does not know if another likes/loves/is just friends with the person..then it would be embarassing..the rejection,the awkward silence,etc.etc
but since he likes you,and you in return like him...there is only one path to this scenario and i'm glad to tell you that it's a happy one
go and talk to him,tell him you like him..not profusely,or he'll think you're wierd,but just smile coyly and tell him you like him maybe in between the silence of your conversation..that'll be super random and super cute..lol
you'll do fine hun,trust me,just make your move first in case (god forbid) something happens in between the timeline
p.s.:oh and check out if he blushes when you tell him your feelings all of a sudden..lol
ciao,god bless
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THIS IS A QUESTION FOR A GUY'S OPINION ONLY
Where do guys like the girls to put their hands when they are making out?
Please don't say penis =P
Thanks in advance! (link)
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not penis...ok then
tickle his ear and run your fingers round his earlobe
if he as a nice bod,feel under his shirt and touch his chest or abs
also the inner thighs,like lay your hand on his thigh while making out rub it a little
you could also just put your arms around his neck
comb his hair with your fingers,that always works
ciao,have fun
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14/f
well theres this guy named bryce in my comp. class and we talk a lot. hes pretty cute and i'm getting frustrated with knowing if he likes me or not? how do i get him to open up. i want to take it one step further..
wellll:
- we make a lot of eye contact
- he plays with my purse keychains all the time haha..
- one day he was messing around with me and i'm like 'you are so mean' (as a joke) and he's like 'maybe i like messing with you'
- i put my number in his phone like 3 weeks ago and he gave me a weird look when he found out.. he was kinda weirded out i guess and told my friend who is also his friend that he just wanted to be 'friends'.
- i noticed that hes getting more comfortable with me, and jokes around more instead of being uptight.
how do i flirt without being subtle? i really do like him, & i know that i cant force anything, but i want him to know. :]
oh & we're having a halloween party at the end of the month, do you think that i should invite him? (link)
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well this is always a problem,yeah,the in-between stage of friendship and love,when nobody wants to make the first move,and both are kinda stuck
well,i would recommend you to straight out..ASK him,seriously,this is the modern century,and girls should ask boys and vice versa,and something else,girls expressing their feelings to guys is a major turn on,trust me...we are getting kinda tired of the play hard to get ploy.
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okay i like this guy and he likes me back but the thing is i cant date till im 18 and i told him about it and he said he'll wait but then he next day he says he cant wait because he wants to be with me but then i just dont wanna go behind my parents back so i told him to wait till im 18 and if he cant wait then he could move on and and but he still said he'll wait i asked him why cant he wait because he said he likes me a lot do you think he'll wait for me? we known eachother for 3 weeks and i asked him why he was rushing and he said hes not what do you think about this situation? we are both 16 (link)
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well actually honestly,you both are still pretty young so I would advice you both to take it slow at first.furthermore,you guys have only been together for 3 weeks..
i believe that he will wait for you if he really likes you,just tell him that the relationship at this point is just at a friend stage,or possibly close friends,you guys can still hang out and talk right?and if your parents ask,just say it's a close friend cause friends do hang out..get the point?it's a win win situation,you and him get to hang out and your parents thing it's just a friend thing going on.so yeah...technically you are not lying,and you get to be with him as well...
take care
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16/f
why cant i ever find the right guy for me? ok i know i aint that pretty its just my boobs that the guys are after(i got DDs)..... i dont even have THAT bad a rep but still im surrounded by all the bitches.... why cant i ever attract the right kind of guy? and when they find out im not that kind of girl they dich and someone else takes their place....starting the whole mess all over again! ive only lived in this town a year and its already drivin me insain, i mean the other guys at my old town in austin they never acted like this and i dont think ive changed im still that quiet redhead i always was!
why are the guys only doin this to me i mean they dont bother the other girls who have DDs or bigger.... only me!? how can i tell if a guy likes me for me and not just the boobs? i actually want to find someone who will love me even if i didnt have DDs. i really like my friend bret and i think he likes me... im not sure but how do i find out if he likes me for the right reasons? im more that just boobs, ya know, so how do i get the guys to see that????? (link)
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erm ok first i would say that your boobs are part of you,it's not like two seperate parts or an accessory or something,it's you,lol.so yeah,they like you.
and about the guy stuff,well it's just male instinct but if you really wanna tell,look at him eye to eye,if he stares down then probably he likes your boobs or if you look at him and his eyes like go everywhere around the room and like try to glance at your boobs everytime.
Another thing,make your personality stand out,be friendly,outspoken and sometimes don't talk too much at every single chance,just say something when the right opportunity comes and you have something ironic,random or funny to say.It makes you mysterious but still unique cause you say something at the right time,well that's my suggestion for standing in terms of character
also,if you don't want guys to like you just for your boobs,a drastic action would be to like...i don't know,maybe keep it down with a bra or something,or wear a jacket,again,that's a wierd way,but it might work,cause the guys would stop staring and maybe look at you,the whole you.
ciao,that's just my advice,hope it works
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thank you so much for answering my question and i really thought about what you said and i'm hoping that you are right about how he feels about me. But, I still don't know. When I told his best friend that I liked him, he told his best friend that he didn't like me. And now we've gone a a few weeks without talking and as far as I know, he's still dating that girl. Should I tell him how I truly feel, tell him that I'm completely in love with him, or should I just remain his friend. I don't want to ruin our friendship, but I don't know if I can just be his friend... it's quite hard and as much as I joke about it with him, his dating other girls does make me jealous and I am in love with him. I ruined a potential relationship with the same guy twice, because I can't get over this boy. Should I tell him how I feel for real and if I do, how should I go about it? Sorry, to keep bugging you about this but, he means a lot to me and I don't want to lose him.
Thank you for your help and advice. (link)
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ok so we have to be clear of the issues at hand
first,you love him
second,you won\'t be able to get over him as stated,and it\'s affecting your love life
third,it is hard to remain his friend while you have a secret longing for him within.
among the possible paths are:
remain his friend,this is extremely tough as you like him and it\'s hard to know someone so well and like them but not be their friend,trust me,i\'ve gone through it before,unless you lose feeling for him,which doesn\'t seem to be happening at any moment when hearts are floating in your mind.lol
so to me,this path is out
2nd,this is a rather harsh path,but if you can\'t be his friend and love him at the same time,maybe end the relationship,it\'ll be hard,but you might forget about him and move on from there
again,this is a tough path,so i would vote out.
third,is of course the most possible path but the most dangerous,
the first two paths are rather safe you know?like a comfort zone,just remain his friend which you are,or stop calling him and the friendship,which is relatively easy,it has no really dire consequences.
the third one would be to confess to him.here we come to the \"keep and regret or tell and know\"
you can either take the first two paths in which you keep your secret but might regret later in life in what would have been.....
or you can tell him and get ready to be hurt or suprised,it depends on what person you are,are you ready to take what he has to say?if you aren\'t then don\'t continue this message
if you do,then first what you got to do is this...
don\'t immediatly put on your shoes and rush over to tell him,those dramas only work in movies.first,talk to him again,connect and rekindle your friendship once more.invite him out to movies and parties.important:ask his friends what he likes,seriously,if ever there was a turn on for guys it would be similar interest,i know a friend who is nuts over this gal because she smokes and drinks like him and another who is head over heels over a girl that plays the guitar and likes rock music like him...so yeah. ask his friends what he likes,fav movies,fav music,fav fashion,even fav gal types,some like short hair,long hair,brunette,fair,whatever.if it seems like i\'m asking you to change that\'s because it is....lol,i don\'t mean change your wholeself but you must have heard of people saying\"i would change for you\",who knows maybe this guy has come into your life to change you for the better.anyways,just take it slow,get to know him then maybe during a walk in the park,where there is noone there,so save the possible embarassment,never ever confess in a crowded restaurant,extremely awkward.then tell him,again not over the phone,it\'s impersonal and gives him time,if you want to know the answer,it should be right away,better good or bad.
so say,\"hey *name of person*,i really would like to stop and take the time for telling you what a wonderful friend you are and how much fun i have had,i know most ppl enjoy the ride so much that they forget to say anything about the journey so i would just like to say you are really amazing to me.*name of person*..then pause for awhile,then say\" i would like to take our friendship to the next step,i have made my decision and now i\'m asking you but whatever it is i just want you to be happy with or without me because i love you.\"
and that\'s it,a short direct confession,important is to tell him you appreciate him cause it really shows that you are not taking anything for granted and that you are a thoughtful person,so he\'ll feel touched and also the end,which states that you just want him to be happy,so he understands.
answers,he could just plain out say no
or yes!!!
or think about it,which is good,cause any confession takes some time to think about as it\'s again personal,not on the phone,but at least you got a answer.so continue to be his friend if he says this don\'t straight away go crazy and start sending him love messages or anything,it gets creepy,say\"ok take your time and i\'ll be waiting,thank you for listening,\"important: say thank you.
anyways that\'s it,yeah,of course please don\'t beat me or curse me as i hold no responsibilites of what might be,as i said,if you cant take the pain it might cause,go for the earlier two paths and ignore this dangerous risky gamble which just might make your day.you never know..
p.s:erm,since he\'s dating,it\'s best to wait till he breaks up or something,cause it might cause conflict to him,makin him feel bad and stuff about cheatin or dumping the girl
byes
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Okay. Im 15/f and im not what people would consider a hottie. im a big girl. lol. im cute though at least thats what ive been told. but i just cant get a single guy to like me and/or the guys i like allways say no to me and go for my best friends. I dont like to say that my confidence is low but it is. I need to know how to expand my friendship cirle and find a guy! please help! (link)
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hmmm ok,well since you are cute and such but do not consider yourself a hottie,that does not mean you don't have a fallback....personality and skills
trust me on this,most guys,well i do,go for what a girl does and can do
for example,rocker girls really turn me and my friends on,just a girl playing a guitar...well,it's the same as girls who go for thin ugly rockstars cause they can sing
anyways,open up more and be friendly,smiling is an important key,and you could always do things to improve yourself,like working out,changing hairstyles,more spunky outfits and such.
what you are now never means what you will become tomorrow
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So, I have been friends with this boy for a long time, but my senior year, we became really close. We were both in relationships, than both our relationships ended. I would tell him all the time or hint at the fact that I liked him, but I think he thought I was just kidding. We had three classes together, in one of them I would always flirt with this other boy and he always seemed annoyed by it but he never said he was annoyed by it. So, he started dating this other girl, but we'd always make fun of her together and he said he didn't really like her. Well, we graduated and didn't talk for awhile, but then, we started texting each other all the time. We'd stay up till like 2:00 in the morning texting each other. He'd always ask me for advice about girls and such and we'd talk about everything together. Well we seemed to be going good and then one night I told him about this boy that I was interested in and he was rude when I talked to him about it. I texted him a few days later asking if he was mad at me. He called me and said he wasn't, but that his texting bill was too high to talk. I was over it, and then we didn't talk for like two weeks. Then one day he calls me and tells me that he's officially dating the girl I mentioned before. I was annoyed by it and he knew it and he was like, what, are you jealous that she gets to be with me? He called me the next day to. I haven't talked to him in like two weeks again. I don't know what's going on with him. How does he really feel about me? Also, he wanted me to move down to where he is, so we could go to school together. He was also complaining about wanting swedish fish and I told him to have his girlfriend send him some and he was like, why don't you send me some. I don't know how he truly feels about me. We also made a pact that if neither of us is married by 29, we would marry each other. What's his deal? Are we just friends or is it more? (link)
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lol ok honestly this is like a match made in heaven because you too are definitely playing hard to get,and you guys are the hardest players there is.
first of all,you guys are like always kidding about wanting this 'perfect companion' to each other when it actually is part of your own attributes,and vice versa.
And both of you are using the jealousy game to get each other,but you both won't put down your swords until one of you says the magic word,or words
in this case,i seriously ask you to swallow in your pride and just tell him how you feel,you guys have been friends for so long,so your friendship won't be at risk even if he doesn't like you,which i highly doubt.
another proof is the pact,and well,most guys i know won't make pacts with any girl next door.after all the texting and talking,i can see he really likes you.
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But he likes my best friend and i keep giving him advice trying to get him to stop liking her but i am not for sure if he likes me or not.
i need advice quickly
please help me (link)
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erm ok,there are two ways to this,either except that he likes your best friend,although it's really goin to be tough to do that,i mean you crush goin out with your best friend,it's either your friend or your crush if a relationship does take place.
the other way would be to just tell him how you feel,he might like you and trust me when i say that girls telling guys that they like them is a major turn on,it makes them feel special and such,i mean it's not everyday that a girl makes the first step.
a word of advice though,don't ever say anything bad about your friend behind her back which isn't true cause your friendship is not worth that.
ciao,good luck/
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Heyy everyone! :D
im Hailey (link)
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yes,i'm a guy,and guys like to be chased,i mean not in a harassing stalker way,but if a girl shows that she is willing to take the first steps in a relationship,it really is a turn on for guys.
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To all the guys on this site...when you like a girl, not just thinking she's hot but actually liking her, how do you show her? for personal reasons of confusion is my wonder. thanks in advance for the input. (link)
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look at her....a lot
show off with every single chance you get
act like i'm popular when she is nearby,like laughing a lot with lots of friends.
say hi everytime we pass each other
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guys what pshysical features do u like in a girl... give example of types ionno like straight hair or curly hair.... blond or brunett... ionno eye color body type.. stuff like that
and also what qualities do u like in a girl like personality
thanks a bunch (link)
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the way she pouts and it's unbelievably cute
the way she look with long pigtails
the way she plays a guitar
but that's just me
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ok this is very complicated but here it goes: there is this guy who rides my bus and he is the cutest sweetest guy i have ever met.but heres the thing he does not really ride the bus anymore so i barely see him and he is not in any of my classes. but now here is where it gets complicated he told my friends that i was really pretty and really hot and he was thinking about asking me out and i really like him but he has not made a move and i really want him. all i can think about is wanting to kiss him and i just really want him and i am so sad please know one tell me that there are other guys out there because i just need advice about this one. (link)
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i'll make my answer a short one,but never the less,a sweet one.
ASK HIM OUT,seriously girl,this is the modern age,sometimes the fairer sex has to make a move,and trust me,the guy will feel more confident and will like you even more because you have shown interest in him and was willing to tell him.If both parties are too nervous,just talk,simple as that,ask you friend to introduce you,and just talk over recess.Things will progress from there through time.
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~~~~~A guy often thinks about the girl who likes him. But this doesn't mean that the guy likes her~~~~~
I read this somewhere, and really want to know if this is true or false.
So, is it true or not?
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yeah,definitely true,speaking from experience.hahaha
anyways.the wierd thing about love,well there are a lot of wierd things, but anyways,once a girl likes a guy or vice versa,the opposite partner will mostly feel affection in a way.Like,maybe the girl thinks,'Wow! this guy sees something in me that the others don't',or maybe flattery could lead to a guy liking a gal he might not have noticed before but because she confesses her feeling....he starts to like her,act proper as to not let her assumptions of him down and might eventually fall for her as well. BUT,then again,he could just think of her and well ....maybe keep on thinking about her just to keep himself being flattered by the fact that a girl like him,and not like her at all,but just enjoys the feeling of being liked by a girl,so....he thinks of her(yeah,you get the point).Pure elementry.hoped i help.
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this boy used to call me like everynight and IM me and stuff and then at school be MEAN and like really rude in front of his friends. Than this weekend , he called me to hangout with him and his friend.... I couldnt because I was going somewhere. Than that night at like 2 am he called me twice.
The next day, I went for a walk and he saw me and screamed my name out of the car window and called me like right after that , and then i went for another walk and i saw him and his friend and he like talked to me for like a split second and then kinda ignored me.
Then that night, I IMed him [i never really IM him] and I said "hey is it raining where you live"
He says " Did I say you could IM me?"
I said "ugh no?"
He says "then dont talk to me"
then he says
"haha jk, but yeah its raining"
and i felt like shit.
Whats going on??
[by the way he has a girlfriend and im 13] (link)
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OK listen up,although i agree with most of the answers, and don't agree whole heartedly because most of them are from girls and they do not understand guys.so here is mine
FIRST,The thing about him having a girlfriend....just leave it for now, he probably likes you and might break up with her sooner or later
SECOND,okay you must understand that guys are always like that around other guys,cause they want to be macho and have girls like them instead of the opposite. Have you ever seen the movie " a walk to remember?" yeah,the guy acted tough in front of his friends but later went to her house to apologize,they always do that cause they don't wanna seem "weak" to their friends.
THIRD, notice how he only acts wierd when he is with his friends, but doens't when he isn't around them. When you IMed him and he was cold, i was quite confused too, but later he said that he was joking and that explains it all, he likes to talk to you,but just doens't in front of his friends.
FOURTH, if you do go out with him however, prepared to have a bumpy ride cause he would probably want to keep the relationship secret
FIFTH, he likes you.
hope i helped/.
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So there's this kid named David. And this girl [ME!] named Lauren thinks hes lovely and wants to date him. Following? kay.
We're both 14. I've asked him out before, we've been friends a while. He says no, I don't have a chance. Yet he flirts with me ALL the time, and I catch him staring at me sometimes. So could he be too shy to want to give it a try with me? What should I do?
Signed,
Lauren in love. :] (link)
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okay,i had the same problem.See this guy is afraid ti rush into love and might be afraid of hurting you.From his signals, he definitely likes you and if this continues he could change his "friendly feeling" into something more.Most guys however tend to want to experiment and be friends with lots of girls then make their choice so they have more options,so hang in there and keep showing him that you are interested in him.
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Okay...so people always talk about mixed signals and all that...
How do you send them on purpose??
Don't tell me not to, just tell me how to do it. I've always been really straightforward and I wanna play a little game with someone...I have to know how to send mixed signals.
I'm a girl, btw. (link)
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lol,okay,first of all i have to warn you that guys hate mixed signals,as much as girls do.but here are a few that i really hate(and you could use)
1)make eye contact a LOT, then maybe the next day act as if he was a ghost or nothing.Just drift by him without looking at him, or keep your face down on the floor when walking past him, it's extremely fustrating.
2)Sit next to him during lunch and chat happily or say hi when you sit down, do this for a few weeks, then suddenly sit at the same table but on the furthest corner, and turn your body away from him( body signal) and just eat while reading a magazine or something.
3)Text him a lot,wish him goodnight for a few days then off your phone for the next few weeks,totally confusing.
4)Ask him out for a date,then secretly bring your whole group of friends,he will be surprised cause he will think it's a date when you brought all your friends as if it was a party or something.
5)when he says " we should see each other more often", look back at him with a blur look and go " huh?"
That's about it,hope i helped/
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I do not know what to do about mixed signals. all i want to know is how the guy feels because he likes this other girl but throughout this year it feels like we have something but its like you dont talk about it. But he still likes that girl. One week he flirts with me alot we make eyecontact and he just comes up to me,eats lunch with me, calls me,etc. But then the next week he will just drag me along.lets just say its very dramay! How do i know wat do because i feel like i just want to know without just staright up asking him. If he has no intentions of anything then i will try to move on but i just want to know!and do u think that what he is doing is deliberate because of the drama and the "history" or is it in my head? (link)
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haha,yeah, i hate mixed signals.The best and proper way is to ask straight out,but of course it's embarassing and would make you seem desperate,but that the one and only way to confirm.....unless he winks at you or kisses you out of the blue,then that is another matter.
But right now, you should just say" hi,.....I'm kinda recieving some confusing signs from you, you can make me feel like a princes one day and a nobody the next....so which is it?"
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ok, i was just wondering what do guys like in girls?
i mean not the obvious big boobs and nice ass
but like some looks and personality
xo` thanks (link)
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erm,it's basically up to the type of guy, for me I love rocker chicks with a playful immature nature which are up for anything,not the pouty stuck up type.i also don't really go for girls which talk tooo much,sometimes a quiet gal can be mysteriously attractive.
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