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hi my name is Becky. i am 14 years old. I have gone through some rough times myself and I hope I can help anyone that might need it. If you're looking for a straight up answer or just someone to listen to you, i'll be here. :)
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hi
i need some advice on a matter.
ok last year i was very unhappy in my relationship, therefore i sort comfort in other places. i never slept with anyone else but another guy who i was friends with before i met my current boyfriend sent me flowers saying i deserved better and stuff like that.. there were 2 guys and the other we were close but never kissed or anything as well.. just after our 1 year we broke up for a few weeks, then we got bak together and we both had changed as persons. he was much more considerate and nice and i am much more stronger. i told him that i did seek comfort in other places and he understood and was sorry. i didnt tell him everything that happened just that i was unhappy, yet i still feel guilty for leading the other guys on and now that our relationship is perfect i need to forgive myself, i no it was stupid to talk to a guy that says i deserve better because it made my relationship very confusing esp because i was unhappy but i dont talk to them anymore at all.. we are happy again and yet it still bugs me that i spoke to other guys.. should i still be feeling this way even tho it was 6 months ago and i didnt 'cheat'? someone please help me
Dont think about it so hard. you were going through a rough time and you only needed someone there for comfort. but now that you have your man back you can forget about the other guys. tell them that you didnt like them that much and just be honest with them. tell it like it is. but just forget about the other guys and live your life with your boyfriend. dont worry about it.
Hi, I'm Jacky.
My life has been rough, because of me.
It got better, until I did stupid things, and now I feel like there's nothing else I can do to make it better, I just mess up more and more. The more I mess up, the more I look like a dumb ass.
First, I have a friend over and I sneak two guys downstairs at 11 at night, and my dad's caught us.
So, my dad and mom have absolutely no trust in me, what so ever. I actually think my family hates me, because I don't listen, and I do things I'm not supposed. I've been doing that, for the past years. Plus they found out I tried pot and I'm sexually active. So that's a huge minus. I get in huge fights with my parents, mostly with my dad. I feel like I just failed my family, honestly. I don't know how to talk or act around them anymore. I just feel uncomfortable and awkward.
And then, I reported this kid for selling drugs, which he sold them to me, and I told a teacher at school about it, and she ended up telling the principal on me, I thought I could trust her. Then I had to rat him out because of what I told my teacher, then I have to go to all this court shit and be a witness, which I don't really want to be. I wish this would've never happened, this kid is going to have a fucked up life with my involvement. What the fuck is wrong with me. It's all my fault. And I can't take it back. But that's my fault.
And 3rd, I cheated on my boyfriend with another guy. I couldn't stand my boyfriend, he's attracted to assholes, shit, and farts. And I'm being honest. He hits me. He's just a jackass. But he knows how to cover himself to make people believe him. But honestly, he was a huge part of my life. And now that's gone. But now I'm with the other guy, who hardly calls me, he says he thinks it's best because he doesn't want us to get too attached and end up being bored with each other. Now, I love talking on the phone, and really like him, but I don't know. I just think there's something wrong with me. I honestly think I'm hated by a lot of people. I do not know what to do with my life anymore. I'm really scared and stuck. I've cheated and lied before. And I've just been a bad person lately.
I wish I could've handled things differently. But, I didn't. I have no idea what to do. I feel like I've fucked up my life. I think a lot of people hate me too. But that's besides the point.
Please anybody, give me advice. I don't know how to start know, I have no idea what to do with myself anymore.
Thank you.
babe, I've been through the same sort of things. I've lied and been a horrible person. I've done drugs. almost got raped when i was drunk. i fight with my parents, and i never tell them anything. I think you should try to start over. clean your slate and start fresh. Tell your parents how sorry you are for what you've done and tel your ex boyfriend how you feel. stand up to him. thats what i had to do and it felt GREAT. show your current boyfriend how much you like him and tell him that you want to talk to him all the time because you just love/like him. if he loves/likes you as much as you love/like him then he will want to talk to you alot too.
Also... I always felt like i screwed everything up too. but it's just a way of learning. if you never made any mistakes then you wouldnt know how to deal. thats just the way life is. but if you clean up after your mistakes then things will get better. :) hope i helped. if not, then sorry. :/
well ok, where BEST FRIENDS, hee says we have a connectiion, and that im the only girl he can tlk to about anything. and shit. and he cares about me alot. but hes IN LOVE with this other girl. and like, she has a boiifriend. but she says shes gonna dump him for mii best friend. but now he likes mii friiend. we wiill call her R. and R likes hiim. but i dont want him and R to go out. bc i really love him.and he tells her tht he doesn't like me like tht, bc its striictly friend shiip, but hes the only guy i wanna be with. and i really love him. can you help me please!
i think you shuold come out and say that you love him. if he thinks your weird after that you should know that he's not a true friend. but if you dont want to do all of that you should let them go out and just see how it goes. if they break up you then could come out and say you love him.
hopoe i helped
Beacky ♥
My best friend is really pretty and always gets guys. Yesterday me & here were hanging out with 3 guys and one of them liked her and had his arm around her and the other one was pretty much all over her and sent her a message on myspace that night that said, "Youre really pretty. We should hang out soon - you me and dave." And he totally didnt include me. I asked her if I seemed weird/annoying because I usually act ditzy around guys and she said that I did great and that I was not ditzy at ALL. If I was so good, why arent these guys giving me the time of day?? I know Im a really jealous person and Ive already talked to my mom and best friend about how I feel about the situation. What do I do :( Ive never had a boyfriend and its starting to bother me because every guy likes my best friend..
its totally not your fault. the guys are the problem. they are just too caught up in your friend to notice you but pretty soon they will love you too. dont feel bad. just be yourself and get the guys attention. i know this will work. hope i helped ♥
sorry about the length..
ok well i just got out of a relationship about a week ago and it was over the stupidest reason. at night he would come over around 1 and 2 in the morning and he did it alot for the entire time we we're dating bc most of the time we we're dating he was grounded and that was the only way he could get out. but then one night he told me he was going to come over and i told him that was fine but i didn't want to really "do" anything that night and he got REALLY affended but EVERY time he came over he would always want to do stuff so i just gave him a heads up beforehand so he didn't get mad when i turned him down or whatever when he came over. anyways he got PISSED and decided to not talk to me so we broke up. but during that week i kind of found another guy that i kind of might like a little bit but nothing serious. and then today i got an instant message from my ex apologizing for being a dick and now he wants to talk before school starts up again. i don't know what to do! hpoefully someone can help?
oh btw i'm a softmore in hs if that helps any..
i dont think you should talk to him b/c if he really loved you in the first place he wouldnt of gotten all pissed off at you so go wit that other guy. hope i helped =] &&hearts
i knew a girl about 3 years ago ,when i see her i used to say hi and that's it this year wat diffrent this at the end of this year ,,, i talked to her alot ,, it was nice ,,,, and at the end of this year i was going to ask her to give me her phone number but i couldn't coz her friends want her to saty with them so i talked to her for short time and i couldn't ask her for her phone number so i think i can get her phone number from some friends but i am just wonderning wat should i do after i get her phone number and wat she will say when she get massage or call from me wat is her responed for that i really like that girl alot so please can i get help,, and i am from libya ,,, so wat should i do ?
You shouldnt worry about weather her friends dont want you hangin out wit her because thats none of their buissness. if she really likes you too she'll be nice to you and maybe you guys will be best friends one day. &hearts =]
Today is me and my girls 2 month aniversary, and she's grounded so i cant call her or visit her, but she snuck a call to me yesterday, i told her she would get a suprse today, i was goiing to get a white rose sent to her house with a teddy bear and a card, but the probleam is now my dad's bei a hard ass about it and sayin we'll have to do it tommrow plus all of the floral shops in my area are closed today. Im not sure ifi'll be able to reach her today and im worried she'll be disappointed.
if she really loves you she wont be and when she gets ungrounded you can tell her about it and what happened. hope i helped =]
Last july i met this guy at my church. ever since that day ive liked him alot. Wednesday my church youth group had this get together & he was there. But he had this girl with him. i got really jealous and upset about him bringing a girl around me.
He knows i like him alot & he has known for atleast 5 months. At the time i told him he had a girlfriend but they broke up 2 days after i told him. On myspace hes always posting bulletins about how he hates seeing those happy couples around kissing anding hugging eachother. He hates it because hes not with a girl.
I dont understand him because i want him more than anything. He says that no girl really likes him when he likes a girl. He cant always get tht girl he likes he should give the that likes him a chance.
I hate when he post these bulletins because he makes me feel sort of invisible.
Me and him never hang out. We talk online & at church. I want him to talk to me more then just that.
I feel like im holding on to liking him for no reason. He post all these bulletins about how he cant find a Girl to be happy with. Should i say anything to him? Or just give up on wanting to be closer to him?
im 17/f
hes 19/m
thank you.
i think you should talk to him about it and then see what happens hope i helped :)