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Hello Everyone!! I'm Ashley and I am an 18 year old Senior. I'd be more then happy to answer ANYTHING and EVERYTHING! Giving advice is what I do best, so if your looking for someone to help you out I'm your go-to girl!! : ) I'm planning on going to Ohio University next year to study child psychology and I think this is a great start to my future career!ANYWAYS... enough about me!! Ask away and im more then happy to answer your questions, and by the way i NEVER reject a question! If you can take the time to write to me then i promise i will take the time to give you my best answer!
Oh and I would REALLY appreciate your feedback... whether good or even bad, I really like to know how i'm doing, so I can help better. I've had a lack of feedback lately so if you could help me out for helping you out, I would LOVE it!! 1 or a 5, just be truthful! Thanks so much!!!! And Goodluck!
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Hey! My boyfriend and I have been going out for ten months in March, and I really think that him and I are in love. Not just in a physical sense, but him and I connect mentally. We both really enjoy intellectual discussions about anything and everything. We can talk about any problems that we're having and the other can almost always relate. We can stay on the phone for hours at a time and not get bored, and both of us are extremely loyal to the other. We're just like best friends excluding the romance part. We're really close. The only thing is, sometimes it gets so discouraging when people say we're too young to be in love. I know we're both in love with each other, but other than getting married when we're able to (He and I are both fourteen), how can we deal with annoying old people who think love can only be understood at a certain age? Thanks in advance.
I think that love can be experienced by any age, however I think that there is a certain maturity that has to be reached to be able to be in love. Some adults STILL haven't been able to mature enough to fall in love. And honestly, I haven't either. But everyone is different. There are always going to be people in your way in life who are going to tell you that you aren't good enough, tell you that you can't acomplish something, or in your case, you aren't old enough. This is only because they don't understand, and people are judgemental over things that they don't get. It's a path that all of us are doomed to follow one day or another, but when you come to a road block like this all you can do is go around it. Don't let it hold you back. If you know that you are in love then don't let anyone allow you to think otherwise. No one knows you better then yourself and no one can tell you how you feel about another person. If you think that you are mature enough to be experiencing love, which you very well may be, then that is great! And I'm completly jealous of you. Lots of adults like to think that kids don't have the abilty to understand feelings, and this is just becuase they may never, as a child, had the opportunity to do so. Don't let it bother you, there are always going to be people judging you and there is no way around it, just be a strong person and stand up for what you believe.
Hello!! I hope ya'll can help me! I'm sorr its so long but its a long story!! Okay here is my scenario. My birthday was at the end of January, and my boyfriend had already been planning our Valentine's date. He asked me if it would be alright if he gave me my birthday gift along with my Valentine's gift because it would make it easier on him, so of course i told him yes. Well, On Saturday (which was our Valentine's day because i had to work Monday) he took me to dinner, then he blindfolded me and took me to... a hotel. BUT before you judge, it was very romantic. He had his friends come and light the candles he had set up EVERYWHERE and rosepedals, the whole deal. And we had planned to have sex for our first time, not necessarily then but we had stopped ourselves a couple of times because we wanted to wiat until it would be special. Which this was. Okay, well moving on, besides all of this, he didn't get me like flowers or a bear or even a card. I spent like $70 on him with gifts and whatnot. But i wasn't too mad because i assumed he had sent me a carnation at school (Our school has sales where you can buy a carnation for someone for V-Day and writea message and then we got them on Monday 9*) Well i of course sent him one, and i waited but he never sent me one. I went to his house after work and i brought over peanut butter heart shaped cookies (His fav!) and still nothing. This made me really mad because he didn't even get me a stinkin carnation!! I got pretty upset and left. Now am i overreacting? I mean he did spend money on me but i'm the type of person who appreciates little things like a flower or a box of choc, he didn't have to go buy a hotel or anything, i just wanted a carnation :( Lol, AND he still hasn't given me anything for my birthday!! Shouldi be mad?
I agree that yo have everyright to be mad!! Hey we are the chicks we desrve to be showered with gifts and treated like princesses right?! He definitly should have gotten you something for your birthday. If i were you i would definitly talk to him about this, let him know how you are feeling and tell him that you don't need all of the big things, all the matter are the little things that are thoughtful reminders that he is thinking of you... if he is understanding then he will make it up to you, and if not then get rid of the asshole!! Lol
Ok. i have this friend and we both like the same guy. i mean he's a really really nice guy and he's not fast paced and he'll give the girl the time she needs. and he's popular so i guess i kind of have two questions.
Question 1). Would it be totally horrible for me to do something about my feelings, because i know for a fact that the guy doesn't like her he told me. but if things worked out and she got mad i'd feel horrible but the thing is she'd do it to me in a heart beat, even if it hurt me ...
Question 2). I'm not sure what i should do. because if i decide to talk to him and let him now how i feel theres a chance he'll laugh in my face. because hes popular and im not really. im not sure if i should give it a try, because he seems like he could possibly be interested in me, he's flirting and acts interested, but that could then again just be how he is ..
Hey!!! Well i will do my best to answer both of your questions.
1- I think that if you do decide that this is something you would like to pursue that you need to discuss this with your friend. Tell her your feelings and your ambitions and make sure to let her know that the last thing you want to do is hurt her, so if she has any problems then to just be honest with you and tell you the truth. If telling her isn't an option, then i would say no, i wouldn't do it because friends will be there for you through everything but boyfriends will come and go. A friend can't be replaced and losing a great bond is always an unfortunate thing.
2- If this guy is a great as you are making him out to be then chances are he isn't going to laugh in your face. So i'd say go for it! You only live once so why not take the chance. It could turn into something great. But if you don't you will always wonder what might have happened if you had. Live with no regrets, just little bumps along the road!! The worst thing that can happen is that he won't be interested and sure you will be upset for a while but the pain will go away and you will find another great guy along the way.
I hope i could help you out!!! Goodluck hun
*SORRY THIS IS REALLLY LONG, BUT I NEED YOUR HELP*
okay so , ever since the beginning of school there was this guy that I liked, Rob. Hes really cute and everything, hes a freshman and im a sophomore. Well. I never did anything about it because well, Rob seemed as if he were out of my league. and he never paid attention to me. Well I know his mom because his mom works at the school and i have 2 classes with her. So what happens is, last week. I go to lunch and my friend has bible study with robs mom....my friend told me that Robs mom said that Rob has been trying to talk to me for the longest time and everytime he gets a chance,I walk away by accident...So I didnt believe it at first, but then my friend goes, and she works at a resturaunt, and Rob went to the resturaunt alone...So since he went alone, my friend had a waitress friend of hers go talk to him so she goes up to him and askes "Do you know a girl named Kelly" and he goes "Yeah" and she goes" Do you think shes hot" and he goes " I think shes pretty, shes not ugly" and she asked a bunch of questions...so it ended up that he was supposed to talk to me the next day at lunch, I knew he wasnt going to , so my friend was like * FINE im gonna go talk to him* and im like * FINE i dare you* i didnt think she would...but she did...and i dont know WHAT she said, but i deicided to try to be unnoticable, but she pointed right at me when i was sitting on the cafeteria floor... well i got home, and i asked my this friend of mine Justin, who also knows Rob...for Robs sn...he gives it to me, and i told him to keep it all on the downlow that i asked for it...then he goes "lol do you know who he likes" and I was like " no who" and he goes " I donno 0:)* and he puts the angel face, and everytime i asked him ... he put the angel face. WELL then I go onto my myspace, and i see that Rob commented on my page and he says "Heyy this is Rob. Whats up? Oh, and your friend, really did ask me those questions just so you know...oh can i have your sn if you have one, comment back on my page and give it to me byee* and so i was like * woooowwww he asked for my screen name* but yeah, then i talked to him twice already online...and hes extremley nice, and well the second time i talked to him , we were talking about Napoleon Dynamite, and randomley he goes * so are you going to the dance* and the dance is on the 26th...and i was like * neh , who knows, I dont really wanna go if i dont have anyone to go with you know? If not, then im just plannin on going to the movies that night or something who knows :-)* and i was like what about you? and he goes * idk i might not sure yet* and so i was like * ooo cool* and then i told him that i saw him at the other dance with his ex, and he tells me how much he hates his ex now and he asked me if i had any x's and i go * nope* and he goes * oh you dont? Im sorry* and im like * nah its fine, ive had my chances blah blah blah * and then he goes * so im guessing youve never done anything with a guy...or have you* and i go * nah i havnt lol, id rather have a guy who likes me for who i am, rather than for what i do* and he says * good choice* and then he had to leave, but, yeah, me and him dont talk at school i guess its cuz were shy , but i mean... why would his mom say * hes been trying to talk to her for a while* you know? I dont know, do you think hes interested in me...do you thimk he likes me? or what....OH and I asked Justin if Rob liked a freshman and he said * yeah he likes a freshman girl* so me being a sophomore..its not me...and then Rob goes and tells me that Justin is dumb and that I shouldnt talk to him and i asked if he lies and he said * ummmmm yeahh* and i go *even when it comes to keeping friends secrets?* and he goes * yup* and so I dont know...what do you think?! HELP!!!
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Aww hey sweetie! Hmm, well it sounds to me like he is interested in you, but maybe he is intimidated by you because you are older. Even if you may think he is way out of your league, that doesn't mean he doesn't think the same about you. Lots of guys are intimidated by older girls because most aren't lucky enough to get one!! But from what his mom and his friends are saying it sounds like he may be up for something with you! He could be trying to take his time and get to know you frist since it sounds like you two don't know each other real well. And there is nothing wrong with moving slow! You don't have to jump into a relationship with someone right away, its great to take your time and get to know them good first. IT makes it more interesting! And about the freshman girl thing, i wouldn't worry about it, he is making an effort to get to know you so there must be a good reason why, and i doubt its because he just wants to be friends!!! It's lookin good to me, just take your time with things and don't expect them to happen right away, don't be pushy either, guys don't like a girl thats too easy to get!! Play hard to get a little, he'll love it i promise!! Hope i could help
OK. See me and my b/f have been going out for a little over three months...everytime i see him all we really do is make out. i mean he has gone up my shirt, but he hasnt tried to go any farther than that. im starting to get tired of the same old thing everytime i see him. why wont he go farther with me? another thing is... i want him to finger me and i know he wants to because he told my friend he wanted to but he never has, and he told her this when we had only been dating a month. if he does finger me tho im scared that he wont like it because i have hair... down there... should i shave it? what do guys perfer? does it really matter? plz answer ill rate sincerely confused
Hey hunny!! Well i think that if you want to go farther with your boyfrind you need to talk to him about it, he is probably afraid that you don't want him too which is a good thing. It shows that he respects you!! this isn't very common among guys lol. If you aren't comfortable talkin to him about it then while you guys are making out why don't you kinda lead him to it, move his hand down a little and maybe he will get the picture!! And about shaving, its all about how comfortable you are about it. You don't have to if you don't want to, most guys prefer it, so i would if i was you. It's realy not that big of a deal but i think your guy would appreciate it if you did!! Hope i could help : )
Okay, well last night i had a dream that my crush asked me out ..so i invited him over except "my house" wasnt really MY house! It had a pool which i dont have and i had a different family. so anyway, the whole time we never hung out! He just hung out with these boys i think were my cousins (and i dont even have boy cousins!!) And didnt talk to me..then all of a sudden were outside and we start talking when a landmass happens and the only people left are me and him on this little peice of land that somehow DIDNT fall!! ?!? Then he says i want to break up withh you!! After all that ..what is this telling me? do you think i shouldnt ask him out cuz he will dump me fast? Im so confused ..i rate! sry about the length! I really need to know so plzz dont delete!
Hey!! Okay i have really weird messed up dreams ALL THE TIME even stranger then that! There is a number that you can call and you can talk to a guy called the dream doctor! It is some kind of radio talk show that i found when i was trying to figure out what one of my dreams meant! It's in mississippi or minesota or somthing but the number is toll free. You can call from 9-12 on any weeknight and he will give you a free analysis about your dream! I really reccomend it! And it's fun! The number is 1-877-773-7326, i call it all the time so don't be scared its awesome!! If you call let me know what he says about it, i'd be really interested to find out!
i'm 13, no guys like me and i go to a charter school(a charter school is where kids from all over the district can attend it but there is only like 100 kids in each grade) there are no cute guys at my school. What can I do to get a boyfriend?
100 kids in each grade wow you are lucky!! Mine only has about 75 and oh geeze there are like -5 hot guys at my school! Lol, i totally know how you feel. Well, first of all let me remind you that it's not always looks that count! But we all know this and I'm sure you don't want the whole speal. But anyways, do you have any girlfriends from other schools? If you do then i think it would be a good idea to ask if you can hang out with them adn their friends from their school some weekend, they may have some cute guys who go to their school! If you don't have any friends from other schools then maybe you should try to join a club or a sport! I'm not school how your school works exactly but some of your clubs and our sports travel to other schools for events so you will get to scope out the other cute boys from other schools! And hey, if your lucky and spot one don't be too shy to go up and say hey... you only live once and chances are if he doesn't seem interested you won't have to see him again so no harm done!! Another option is to go out with your friends places and keep your eyes open, at the mall, movies, skating rinks, ect... you may be surprised at how many cuties are runnin around at the same placed you like to hang ouT! OHH and another good spot to look would probably be an arcade, all the boys seem to flock there... you know boys and their video games!! Okay well i hope i could help! : ) Good luck
Im 15 and this Girl that i like is 17, i will be 16 in june. she is a junior and i am a freshman, is their anything wrong with us being together? And how should i ask my parents what they think about this?
No of course there is nothing wrong with that! I actually give you props for gettin an older girl, most guys can't pull that off... The whole parents thing just be honest with them. I don't think they will have that big of a problem with it, i mean i don't know your parents but your a guy. Parents trust guys way more then they trust girls. Well i guess it's kinda the other way around. When i was a freshman i wanted to date a junior guy but my dad wouldn't let me cause he didn't trust him lol. But if i had been in your shoes i think he would have been excited for me! So just approach them and be honest about it and unless they are real strict about things like that then i think that they will be cool about it!!! Good luck with that!
How do I tell this guy I love him? I know exactly what to say but I cant do it in front of his friends and theres never more than 5 minutes to talk to him. What should I do at this point because I feel as if I dont get it out soon Im going to pop!
Please help! Thanks!
Jacki
Well you could try to write him a note and explain your feelings, but i think it would be better to call him, its a little more personal. IT all really depends on well you know the guy, if you talk to him on a regular basis and calling him woulnd't be weird then go for it. But if you are a little aprehensive at the thought of callin him i think its a good idea to write it all down, i find it best to express my feelings that way!! If neither of those are options then although i think this is a bit more childish you could catch him on AOL or write him an e-mail!! These are just a few suggesetions! Hope i helped.... good luck! ; )
what kind of things do you give guys on valentines day? Like really good things, or simple things are good to. I just need some ideas. i like to get my shopping done early so i wont have to woory about it later. but im completly lost on what i should get for him as a v-day present. Any Ideas? please help
I just went shopping for my boyfriends valentines present yesterday I like to get it done early too.. you're not the only one!! Okay well this is what i did for my boyfriend and i think its a really cute idea. First i bought a box, not like a cardboard one, a kind of nice wooden one with a lid. Then i bought a nice pictureframe and i put a pic of us in it, then i bought him a box of chocolates, and a teddy bear. I also bought him a movie that he really likes. I put all of the gifts in the box and i covered it with hershey's kisses and reeses and his favorite candys! And then i bought him a nice card!! I think the box idea is cute cause then he can keep it to put our stuff in there like notes, poems, pictures of us or whatever he wants to do with it! It's something functional but if you don't want to spend money on a box just put the stuff in a bag and cover it with candy! I got everything i needed at Target, they have lots and lots of cute valentines day stuff there, and it's pretty cheap! Let me know what you think of it : ) Hope i could help and have a fun valentines day!
hey.. aww your really pretty! but ne ways.. my boyfriend always wants to finger me.. i Really want him to and he has before.. but sometimes i wont let him becuz like i get razor burn somtimes and i have NO clue how to stop it unless i go like a week w/o shaving and then shave.. and anuther question... im 14 and i REALLY feel like i love him... and i Know he loves me becuz he's cried before when i got mad at him.. weve been together for 5 munths... i dont no what it is.. but i really no i love him.. do you think this is to young? thankss!
Well thanks sweetie i appreciate that!! Okay well my best advice for your razor burn problem is this, I suggest that you get a bath all ready and sit in it for about 15 min. Just soak yourself down there for a bit! Then i always use men's shaving cream, its a lot richer and thicker... then try shaving downwards and not up, if you do go up try going diagonally! I know it sounds silly but it def. works for me!! And you know what, i think that love has no age, i think that you can fall in love no matter how old you are 14 or 40. However, i think that you have to be mature to be in love. There is a lot more to it then you may think, and its a really big deal. I'm 18 and as much as i like my boyfriend, i know i don't love him and i personally don't think that i've matured enough to fall in love, i'm just not ready for it. So although you may think you are in love, it could just be infatuation. Which is always fun too! It's almost the next best thing! Don't get me wrong, i'm not saying you aren't in love, it all just depends on your maturity level and like i said love has no age. Love is an amazing thing that i am greatly looking foward to and if you are lucky enough to be experiencing it then that is awesome!! Have fun hun! Hope i could help ya!
this might be confusing. but here goes. ok i liek this guy named matt and ive liked him since last summer and he likes me too. every time i talk to him im so happy and i cant stop smiling but the thing is he lives in denton and i live in flowermound. (texas) so i never ever see him so it sucks. but the thing is at my school (FMHS) theres this one guy ive liked since the beginning of football season and he liked me and all but nothing ever happened besides we kissed one time during truth or dare but thats not the point. i still like him and he told me he likes me but neither of us want a boyfriend or girlfriend. he told me he just wants someone he can be really good friedns with and flirt with and he wants it to be me. well heres the bad part, this other guy likes me and i talked to him on the phone last night for like 8 hours. it was amazing. so i kinda liek all three guys and all 3 liek me and i have no idea what to do!please help! ill rate you veryy high if you give a good answer
Okay well first of all thats so weird that you go to flowermound because i live in ohio and one of my best friends moved there like 4 years ago and she just came back last year so thats so strange!! Lol, i guess it is a small world after all... well anyways getting back to your question, you said yourself that you don't really want a boyfriend right? So, if you really ment this then i don't think that you have anything to worry about! Just date around and have fun, thats what high school is for! : ) That way you can go out one night with your guy from another school, flirt with your boy that you've liked since FB season and talk for hours on end with guy #3! Lol, trust me, its sooo much more fun to be able to hang out with different guys all the time rather then to be held down by one guy. That way no one gets pissed at you for talking to other guys. But if that isn't really what you want and you really do want a boyfriend then make a list of pros and cons for each guy, and then anyalize it and figure out which guy would be the best one for you. Which one makes you feel the best about yourself and one that you can see yourself with for a long time who will treat you like the princess i'm sure you are ; ) Hope i could help. Go Jags! haha ~Ash xoxo
i really really want a boyfriend. im so annoyed that every girl, ugly and pretty, has had a boyfriend. im way too shy to ask a guy out myself and i cant rely on my friends to hook me up with someone.please help!
I went through the same thing, all my friends with their boyfriends and poor lonely me all alone and jealous!! I searched and searched but no luck! Then i gave up, i never would have thought that the best thing to do is to stop looking. The more you look, the harder that it is going to become to find a guy! I was looking for a boyfriend for 8 months and it was nearly impossible... but then once i stopped one just fell right in my lap!! Sometimes something is right in front of your face and you don't even see it. I never would have thought in a million years that I would be dating the guy i am now, i had known of him for 4 years but he didn't seem to be my type, and boy was i wrong. Date around, if someone asks you out on a date that you don't think is your type, go out anyways... you may be surprised with your result!!
Ok there is this guy that I am friends with, and I found out that he likes me. Good right? No you see I am friends with his ex and she says she still loves him. he never talks to her or anything. he says that she couldn't handle just being friends and that he only treats her like that because she acts like that. I don't want him to treat me like that if we were to go out and break up, he says that he wouldn't,but I don't know if I believe him. And there is one more thing I have a boyfriend. we don't go to the same school and I was thinking about dumping him anyway,but I just dont know what to do. So should I dump my boyfriend for my friend?
Sorry about the length, and I'll rate anyone who answers. Thanks.
Hi!:) Wow, this is a toughy... i went through something very very similar between one of my best guy friends and one of my girl friends. Honestly i think your best bet is to just forget it. I know that it sucks, but i tried it out and it did nothing but ruin mine and my best guy friend's relationship we don't even talk anymore and it just crushes me. It's been abouta year and i still can't stand the fact that i gave in and that we don't talk anymore. i honestly get upset all the time. It just didn't work out being such good friends and then trying ot make it more. Also you don't want to jeopardize your friendship with your girl friend. Girls should be your top priority even if you really like a guy, chicks before dicks right!! ;) Yeah i learned that the hard way, but me and my friend got through it, not that i can say the same for my guy friend and I. I think that it will cause you way too much drama and pain then it is worth. If you're happy with how things are going wtih your friends right now don't risk messing everythin up over something that can be potentially worthless. That is my best answer from personal experience so i hope that it helped!
ok i met this guy off buddypic a while back and hes got a salute and a lot of pictures so i know its him for sure and we talk on the phone and stuff....well he wants to meet me next weekened and hes already talking about fucking me in the car next weekend....hes like oh well have SO much fun....i have a boyfriend though of 5 months...and we promised to NEVER cheat on eachother..and me and my boyfriend havent even fucked..should i do this??
Ummmm no... this guy sounds like a sick freak to me. No offense. If all he is talking about is fucking you, then he isn't a guy you should want to be with, or even have as a friend. I don't know the whole situaion but to me it sounds like he could be some psychopath who just wants to get into your pants. I know you've probably been told this a million and two times but no matter what i wouldn't reccomend meeting someone who've you met online. It's not safe and espcially this guy, he just sounds like a creep. You already sound as if you are considering messing around with him... well if you are going to meet him, don't do anything with him. You have aboyfriend, and you should respect him. Don't forget there are tons of diseases out there!!! But if you do decide to meet up with the dude, then be safe and smart hunny! Use your best judgement on this one!
Alright well here is the story hehe! I started going out with this boy and at first I didn't like him that much...well for Christmas he bought me a diamond ring! It kinda freaked me out...he kept being like way too clingy and I got kinda scared. I mean I liked him but I didn't think I liked him that much. Well I told him that I got punished and I really like him but I didn't think it would be the best time to have a boyfriend. Well he still wanted me back and I started to like him more and more well randomly out of no where he told me I was acting differently and now he said we are friends. Well you probably guessed...I like him A LOT now!! I don't know what to do...I told him I still liked him alot and he sometimes seems like he likes me like he kissed me on the forhead the other day but I don't understand. I don't know what to do, I really want him back! I asked my brother about it and he told me to just like fall back and don't beg him just kinda avoid him and not seem very clingy or whatever..I don't know if that will work...Does anyone know what I should do it seems I am fresh out of ideas!!...
Wow! Okay sweetie i know EXACTLY what you are going through trust me... i just went through the exact same situtation, and i know... it isn't fun. My boyfriend and i had been going out for like 2 months and he told me he loved me and that totally scared the shit out of me!! Then i broke up with him and was totally sad and missing him after like a week. But now we are back together and i will tell you why!! Your brother is completly right, throwing yourself at him isn't going to make him want you. Think about it, guys and girls aren't that differnt. When he was throwing himself at you and getting you a diamond ring and whatnot it kind of turned you off or pushed you away... but now that he is sending mixed signals you want him so badly. It's because he is giving you a challange. Guys like a challange! Just as us girls do. So back off, i know it will be hard, it was so hard for me but once i stopped telling him how much i missed him and i stopped calling him, i could see the differnce in how bad he wanted me back too. Give him space for a week or so, act like you're happy and yu don't need him. Then maybe after a week or two talk to him again and ask him how he would feel about getting back together, tell him that you miss him but you don't want to play games and you don't want to wait for him forever. And let him know that if he doesn't want to get back with you you want to move on. And if that doesn't work then maybe you really should move on... I really think this is your best bet!! It worked for me and now my boyfriend and I are happier then ever, i like him so much more theni did before and i really think this situation will end up making you guys closer then ever!
Hey.....ok..There is this boy named Tom that i have a huge crush on. i think he is the biggest crush i have had. Well all my fiends keep going up to him and bugging him about me and i feel really bad. So im getting mixed signals from him. He stares at me all the time in chorus, everytime i walk by him in the hallway he watches me walk down the hall. Then my friend Mike got his number from him and told him that he was going to give it to me and he said sure go ahead i dont care. Then everytime Mike or someone else goes up to him and goes tom you should go out with Laura. He laughs and blushes and smiles. Then he told these other people he didn't really know that he didn't like me so i dont know what to believe.
What should i do to clear this whole situation up?
(oh by the way im 14 and in 9th grade and female, sorry about the lenght)
Well sounds to me like this boy that you like is a shy one! Going back to my freshman year i can remember how the boys acted, and yes, they were mostly all this way. From what i can see it sounds like he likes you but he just may be to shy to admit it. Maybe he is afraid that you don't really like him and that if he admits to likeing you he may end up being embarassed. Most of the time if a guy isn't interested he isn't going to blush and smile when someone tells him he should go out with a girl, usually they will be blunt and just say no. Well really you have 2 options... it all just depends on the type of girl you are. If you are bold then just talk to him about it, be open. You don't even have to do it in person if you don't want to, you could call him or even talk to him on AOL. Be upfront with him and be like hey i have something to tell you, i'm not sure how you'll take it, but I think its easier for me to get it out. And then tell him how you feel. He sounds shy you so may need to take the first step and you may be shocked with the result! But, if that isn't your style then another way to deal with this could be to just allow him to come to you, maybe hint to him that you actually DO like him so he knows for sure from you, flirt with him, and see what kind of response you get from it. But DON'T overdo it, remember guys like a challenge. If he starts to act not interested back off... but chances are he will take the initiative and if your lucky, make an effort! Hope i could help!
There's this guy I like and i thought he liked me too. But then my friend had to go and mess everything up. She ran up to him and started bugging him and told him I was in love with him (which I'm not-I just like him). And now he's acting all weird around me. What should I do?
(I'm 13 and in 7th grade and I'm a female)
PLEASE HELP!!
Aw okay sweetie listen here. 7th grade boys are IMMATURE! Don't let it bother you! Okay well believe me, i have gone through this situation many many times!!! Well, this is the best thing to do, first of all play it off like you have no clue that your friend told him. If you don't act wierd, then chances are he won't either... and back off a little. Don't make it appear that you like him and don't give him any special attention that might clue him in on your little crush! Playing hard to get is ALWAYS the best way to go, trust me ask any guy. As long as you don't totally blow him off like he is nothing, and don't take it to the extreme then you should be fine. Flash him a quick smile from across the room but don't run up to him and hug him or whatnot. And listen, eventually he will get over it, trust me on this. And good news, the older you get the less immature these boys will be! So don't sweat it hun... give it a week or so and it will all be over!! :) I promise!
hey i am having a problem me and my b/f ahve been together like3 years noe and he broke up with me and said he was gay now hes flirting with this other girl all the tim she moved about 2 days ago now he wants to get back together i mean i still really like him i just don't want to get hurt again what should i do?
Okay well i'm a bit confused. First he tells you he is gay, then he starts flirting with another girl... and now he wants to get back with you? I'm not sure who is more confused, me, you, or him. Obviously he doesn't know what he wants, i mean if he thinks he is "gay" then why was he flirting with another girl and why does he want to get back with you? For some reason i think that he used that as an excuse. I'm not sure why he would do that, but with the information you gave me thats the best answer i can give about that. if he was actually gay he wouldn't want to be with you nor would be be flirting with another girl. It sounds to me that maybe you guys just need some time away. He may have used being gay as an excuse for you guys to break up without hurting you... maybe he wanted to get to know this other girl and didn't want you to think this was the reason, so that is why he told you that hes gay. 3 years is a logn time to be together especially when you are still somewhat young. Maybe You both should take some time to date around alittle and then decide weather or not you want to be together. Try meeting new guys, see what else is out there, you may be pleasantly surprised at what you find. Trust me, if you don't date around now, you will regret it later. I'm sure you really like him, and i totally understand that you don't want to get hurt. So take a chance and look around a little, then if your still not satisfied and want to get back with your boyfriend talk to him and tell him your concerns about being hurt then discuss getting back togethr from there. I hope i could help just a little!