Hi My name is Lauren.Im attending college as an english major,and I hope to teach one day.Im a great writer,and I give great advice.My friends always come to me when they have problems.The only problem now is that I moved to Texas from Kansas,and I dont know anyone here.So I hoped I could at least help people who need someones advice.Im mostly good with relationship questions but feel free to ask me any thing.I will always answer your questions,and I will be honest.
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Location: Texas
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Age: 19
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Okay Ive posted my problem about this girl (Nicole) before but the situation changed... Let's see. She had been dating Kelly for three years them all of a sudden Nicole was intrested in me and we started getting really really close both physicaly and like emotionaly. So after a month or so she dumped Kelly and had said she wanted to date me. Now its like she's a whole new person and she doesnt want a relationship and she's just different. We still kiss and everything but... She still wants to be single which I get considering her and Kellys long relationship. But Nicole still cares about me and she wants to be with me eventually and I care about her. I just don't know what to do.... (link)
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Well it seems to me she just wants to know she will have an option if she thinks some one better has come along.I know thats not what you want to hear but iv been that girl befor.Yes she cares about you but she dosnt want to be with you.If this is the case then honestly it would do you good to not put so much hope in your relationship,because your most likly going to get hurt.It would do you alot of good to see that you desirve a girl who wants to be with you as a cupple not just a friend with benifits.You desirve to be the only guy in her life its not fair to be on the side lines like you are now.Look what she did to kelly just because you feel like she wants you,dosnt mean she wont drop you like she did him.Go with your instinct if it tells you to let go then its best if you do.Your instinct is always right trust me when I go agianst mine its always a mistake and i pay for it in the end.
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I'm dating this guy right now. He's nice and everything but we've only been dating for 1 month. Prom dance is coming up this year and we have to pay the fees before the end of December if we want to go. I haven't asked him if he wants to go with me (he's a sophomore, and I'm a senior so I have to invite him for him to be able to go) because I don't know if we'll still be together then. Should I ask him if he wants to go to prom with me already or what? (link)
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Yes you should if you really like him it will be worth it.And if you guys dont last you will still have the tickets and could always ask some one els.You dont want to miss your senior prom its the best one to go to.Its an ending and a begining all at once.Good luck and have fun
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My ex broke up with me 3 months ago...pretty long story, basically he broke up with me as he had a feeling I was gonna break up with him (true to some extent, I was crazily stressed with work & didn't think it was fair for him to deal with me like that) OK so I realize that was a mistake. any way he's tried staying friends with me but I have refused...all or nothing. I told him I want to get back together but he said he's not sure what to do. he's been saying this for 3 months now!
when we first broke up he didn't do much, but ever since I told him I went to clubs a lot, I've met new guys, he turned crazy and he's honestly out every night! more to the point, after I told him id gone a date with a guy, he started seeing this girl, took her on a date and stuff. thing is he doesn't know I know this (im friends with his friends) I know they text and stuff and it does really hurt because I'm only going on dates, not seeing anyone. any way a week ago he text me saying he loved me still, missed me, can't get over me, but he's still unsure what to do with us. at first I thought maybe he's doing this cos he's finished with this girl, but his friends said he still sees her! why is he still talking to me if he's got this other girl?!? (link)
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Hes dating her to fill the void he has with out you.Hes telling you he dosnt know what to do because he wants you to tell him what he should do.You should talk to him tell him why you were acting the way you were,and that you didnt mean for it to turn out this way.If he still loves you and you still love him there is hope,and honestly its not fair to the other people to be with someone whos still in love with there ex.Sit him down tell him you love him to if you do,and when he says he dosnt know what to do tell him that he shouldnt give up on your relationship.Its not going to be easy but if there is love between you two it will be worth all the hard work and stress.
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my exboyfriend and i are leaving to college.. in august. but like we still have feelings for eachother but this is going to be hard to explain.. he doesn't turn me on anymore, and ive been seeing this new guy & with him i get these feelings again. ..my ex is always turned on and in love with me but like its weird.. i feel like we're going to see other people but no matter what like be there for eachother? i feel like im not done.. he will always have a special place in my heart, and no.. he wasnt my first love. i feel i'll always try with him i mean maybe one day well be on the same page and we can try to go out again? just opinions or anything on the whole scenario... its weird i know i just feel like were meant to be together even though i like this new guy and everything. like my exboyfriend and i were meant to meet just maybe not be together at the time in life? (link)
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Like you said your self maybe its just not your guys time right now.Stay friends and keep in touch if you guys are really ment to be you will be.For now just foucus on this new guy,you dont want him to think your heart is some where els.Life is to short to worry about the little things to much.Just live it in the moment,and love like its your last chance.
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ok like i wanna hold hands and kiss my girlfreind or hug her you know.but im not sure how to make the first move so i could use some advice (link)
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Well you simply have to come up with the corege and use it.If she is your girlfriend there really is no way she wont go with it.Grab her hand on the way to class or give he a kiss when you say good bye.Its not as hard as your making your self think it is.Just relax and let yourself go.It will come naturally to you.
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Okk so theres this guy that i've liked for like EVER && a half!! He's a player! && my best friends brother! We've only ever been friends but i like truely have some strong feelings for this boy!! It will probly mess up my friendship with his sister but thats a chance i'm willing to take!! My problem is he;s heard "things" about me, i'm not sure what exactly except for that these "things" have givin him the impression that im just the type of girl you can hit it and quit it with. What do I do to prove to him im not that type of girl, and hopefuly be able to get a chance with him?? (link)
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Ok if this guy is a player he should have already tried to make a move.If so just keep pushing him away it drives a guy crazy when he cant have what he wants.And make sure you really have feelings for this guy,because guys like him make great friends but when put in a relationship possition they tend to break your heart.If he thinks your so easy make him back off of you and keep pushing him away that will prove that your not as easy as they say.Just dont give in unless you know he wont make you another mark on his wall.
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Hi, Im yauna, im a girl and im 15 and my problem is that I dont know if Im straight or bisexual. I cant really talk to anyone I know about because they might judge me or not want to talk to me.I like guys for sure because I have had four boyfriends. The last two relationships didnt go so well. But once in a while i would have these fantasies about being with a girl. I rarely have fantasies about guys but i love them too. But I still have that desire for girls or a girlfriend. So I would like to know am I straight or bisexual? (link)
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It sounds to me your bicurious which isnt a bad thing.It means your curious about your sex and you want to know what it would be like.Its not a bad thing,and you may come to find that you like both sexes.My advice is go for what you want and never let anyone tell you your not worth it because you are.Wether it be guy or girl you will find someone who understands you.Focuse on school and good grades for now,and a love interest will come to you sooner or later.Thats all one can hope for is someone who understands them and wants to be with them because they know there worth it.Best of luck
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I am a 18 yr old f. Several answers would be appreciated. I have met a guy who I relate to in so many ways. I have never felt so comfortable around any other guy before; it feels as if I have known him for years. He is 35. My heart tells me it is so right, but my head tells me he might be too old. Usually I would think 10 years is a good gap to date someone, but my parents are 15 years apart... What do you think? I am very mature and I would never do anything that I'd think to be a stupid decision. Never drank or did drugs in my life and don't plan to. He has never done this either. Thanks in advance!
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Im with you on the whole 10 years ahead thing,but like you said your parents are 15 years apart.So I say go for it just be carefull dont put your entire heart on the line.If you and this guy really like eachother it will be worth it.Just make sure your not the only one in it.Trust your heart like my mom always said Love like its the last day you can.You dont want to give up and always wonder what might have been.So good luck and stay safe
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Ok so tonight i might be getting my first kiss but omg im so nervous like i get a stomach ache thinking about it. what if i'm not good AHH hellp im having like a panic attack thinking about it!! (link)
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Every one is nervous there first time,with thoughts like I hope I dont suck,and I hope he dosnt notice iv never done this befor.But truth is the only way to get better is to practice.Tell the guy your with that this is your first time he will understand.Trust me the only way you can be a bad kisser is if your toung goes every where lol.Just go slow and dont rush the kissing prosses kissing is an art that noone can tottally suck at
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my boyfriend fell in love with a girl that was my best friend and he also likes a girl in school. Both girl are in the same class with him and im get angry when he talks about them when he's with me. What can i do to make our relationship be better? Im 16 years old, female (link)
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If those girls are more important to him than you are then hes not worth it.Im sorry i know thats not what you wanted to hear but its the truth.You desirve a guy who talks about you or who makes you his most important thought.You should tell him to chose you or them and you will see how he really feels.And if it dosnt work out just know you are young love will come and go and each one is better than the last.
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19/f there's a guy that sits behind me in english calls. well lol i have dreams about him, and i do talk to him and we're friends. but i mean why am i having these dreams about him? i think i might like him i mean i flirt with him. for example at the end of english class i turned around and i said to him those sunglasses look like something my mother would wear and he started laughing. and when i was leaving he was smiling. and yesterday he saw me and was like hey and he smiled at me. and on monday after i insulted his sunglasses i walked in class and he said your late and i was like umm thanks mom i think i realize that. it's funny. i mean im not sure if he likes me? does he? we do talk outside of class when he sees me, and am i making it obvious that i like him? because im afraid i might be. haha thanks. any answers are appreciated. (link)
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Its hard to say if he likes you or not.I had a friend who was alot like him,funnny smart,and an all around good guy.And i started falling for him and we got alot closer but I guess he just didnt want to make that leap with me.I know it sucks when you really like a friend and you dont want to tell him because your afraid he dosnt feel the same.My advice is go for it.If he commenting on your clothes or little things like your you hair looks then he definatly has intrest.Make sure he dosnt have a girlfriend and jump in.Because if you dont you will always just wonder.If you do get hurt life will go on.If you want him to notic you try not paying so much attention to him.Make him think you have other interests.That might make him jump first.Sometimes guys are just unpredictable
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Okay I don't know what to do. I'm in a realtionship with this new guy but I still think about my ex every single day. Even though he was a jerk, a dick, a douche, didn't respect me, betrayed me, hurt me, and so much more I just can't seem to get over him. He was my first everything... (excluding sex). So I know that's a lot of physical connection that'll be hard to get over. And all of that came with alot of guilt and pressure and ugh.. I admit our relationship was a mess and unhealthy but I miss him SOOO much and even as I type this I'm crying and thats horrible! We've been broken up for almost six months and and I'm dating some one new for God's sake!! Granted I dated my ex for seven months... and he was my first but I should be over him! I can feel this new guy getting suspicious and I know he's starting to tell I'm not okay... But I know I'll regret it if I lose him... But honestly... if I had the choice between him and my ex and I'd pick my ex in a heartbeat. And that doesnt make sense!! This guy is perfect and my ex is a jerk I just felt something so strong with him... I don't know what to do!! I don't want to break up with my boyfriend because I DO care about him... This is just so hard and I neeed help... I'm fifteen, ex is sixteen, boyfriend is seventeen. (link)
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Iv been there my first love is still in my heart and it still hurts to think of him and its been almost 5 years.When you love someone so much you just have to learn to live with the pain.It never leaves you completly.He was a jerk also,but you still remember all the good times.All you can do truthfully is push him to the back of your mind and open yourself up to the possablity of leting that love fade.There is a big diffrence between loving someone and being inlove with someone.Its in our nature to want what is bad for us lol trust me.But think of your self would you be happyer with your ex treating you like crap and not caring about how you feel.Or with this guy who cares about you and wants to give you the world?Your still young and I know you hate when people say that,but you will find a someone with whom you will love harded and it will get better you just have to remember you do desirve the world.
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Welll junior prom is coming up soon and im going with my boyfriend but the problem is were the SAME height and i dont wannt to be taller than him at prom :( but i HAVE to wear heals what do i do?! (i look really gay in ballet flats) (link)
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Try to find a dress thats floor lenghth that way no one can see your flats.A cute and cornie thing would be to wear converse there all the style right now and if your boyfriend has some you could make it a cute corny cupple thing.Also there are really cute sandle type heels that dont have to much of a heel so it wouldnt make you to tall.If worse comes to worse make him find some shoes with a lift that way you could still wear your heels.
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So I tried to take everybodys advice and STOP talking to this guy Gio because hes 19 and I'm 14 and blah blah blah, But heres my problem,
I did mention we had sex a couple times,
I'm NOT sure if we used a condom EVERYTIME,
And I'm waiting for my period but it hasn't came yet.
I'm kindaaa freaked!
What If I am pregnant!
I'm not sure what I should do!
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It happens to the best of us,we get in over our heads and then we stress.First off dont stress,stressing about it can cause it to be late.Second How late is it,and has it been late befor.Im a girl and mine is very irregular,some times i have one twice a month and skip months at a time.If your not used to missing them then go get a home test.Have a friend who is over 18 whom you trust get it for you.They have dollar tests at the dollar store you have to ask the person at the register.They are very accurate but only use it if its been a few weeks since your missed period.I wish you the best of luck and hope your not,your young and you have a life to live.And please remember to be safe and use condoms not only because of pregnacy but there are tons of STD's out there you really never know.And sweetheart your friends are right watch out for them older guys I was like you once and I had to learn the hard way.They just want to use you as another mark on there wall.When you find a guy who will wait untill you are ready,you will know he truelly loves you and hes woth it.
Lots of love La La
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My girlfriend just broke up with me and we were both really sad. I'm an 18 year old male and she is 18 as well. she is the first girl i've had sex with. after a few days she told me i have to fight with her and talk to her more and we will get back together. i asked her how i'm doing and she said very good. but she has been really weird lately. she said i can't rush her with these things when i just asked how i'm doing. i love her a lot and she says she loves me too. but it just doesn't seem like she does. i'm getting more sad and more sad everyday and idk what to do. (link)
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Wow that is tough.First thing I think its stupid she wants you to fight with her.Yes fighting is a good way to show your diffrences,but if she truly loves you she should be happy that you guys arnt fighting.I know loving someone is hard expecially when you feel like your alone in it.I think you should stick by her if you really think she loves you back it will be worth it.But if she is pushing you away you need to confront her and tell her how you feel.Its not fair for her to keep you on the side lines.You desirve to be happy,in the end thats all you should look for is your own happyness.I hope I helped good luck
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My parents were divorced at the age of two.
I am an only child. and my mommy has always been a single hardworking mom.
My mom began to work night shifts when i was 12 years old. At that age i was still what you could call innocent. i had no intention what so ever of doing anything "wrong". After i turned thirteen i began watching porn while my mother was gone. i started meeting waaaay older guys and since they had cars i would invite them to my house. that all began around december. at first it was just making out. and during the month of december and january it was with only one guy. in the middle of january i met another older guy and he too began coming to my house at night. around february i made the biggest mistake of my life. i lost my virginity.
loosing my virginity was the worst thing i have ever done. but i didnt know what to do. when ever i had sex it made me feel loved,needed,understood. and i never had that type of feeling since i was always alone. from february to may i had sex with more than 10 different guys all of which were older than 20. By june i had had sex numerous times. and the worst part is i would hardly ever use protection. No one ever knew about this because no one would ever believe me capable of doing such a thing.i am a straight "A" student and i look like an innocent bright and kind girl which i use to consider myself to be. in june i decided to move to mexico since i have family over here. soo i had the oppurtunity to have a fresh start. luckily my mom never caught me doing anything. but i feel terrible. my innocence was completely gone in less than 3 months. i did things far too horrible to even describe. you guys have no idea how bad i feel. i know most of you are thinking what a slut! and i know i deserve it. but i promise im not a bad person. i was simply a confused, lonely girl that didnt know the definition of love. Thank God i am now living in Mexico and am proud to say i have changed dramatically and am a whole new person.i have not had sex in 6 months! which is a major accomplishment. i thank god every day that i didnt get pregnant. but girls please be smart and learn from my mistakes. some of you might not be so lucky and end up with a huge responsibility that you have to deal with for the rest of your life.
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Im glad you posted this yes its not a question but its a problem you had.Trust me iv been there not the straight a stuff lol i was an average student.But I know how you feel I was the girl once I trusted that guy and I became stupid and reckless.Im glad you have turned over a new leaf and that your doing great things for yourself thats is a major accomplishment.Just always remember to be yourself and to love yourself befor anyone els.You are what matters not those stupid guys and there empty promises.Good luck with the new you. :)
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its my senior year, it would have been our one year on october 13th... (hes 18 graduated last year) basically he left me for another girl this september.. & she didnt want him. he came back to me, and i am deeply in love with him.. took him back. things are just different, we got into a deep conversation the other day, he said "were not going to last when you go to college anyways" .. i said "what am i doing with us then?" and he said "were just having a good time untill then" like are you kidding me.. at that moment i ended it. HONESTly i love this boy but am i right or am i wrong. Its hard cause my mind says im right but my heart screams his name and it echos inside me (link)
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She is right he was a jerk,and a scum bad for using you.Honestly all girls have been there.Its hard to get over a guy that yo care for.Truth is you will alws feel that pain,but one d you will wake up and relize that you can breath.That you can go on without him.It will take time but you are a strong person,and you will find someone who loves you.Not someone who wants to use you.
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