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I still think about my ex every single day, even though I am dating!
Okay I don't know what to do. I'm in a realtionship with this new guy but I still think about my ex every single day. Even though he was a jerk, a dick, a douche, didn't respect me, betrayed me, hurt me, and so much more I just can't seem to get over him. He was my first everything... (excluding sex). So I know that's a lot of physical connection that'll be hard to get over. And all of that came with alot of guilt and pressure and ugh.. I admit our relationship was a mess and unhealthy but I miss him SOOO much and even as I type this I'm crying and thats horrible! We've been broken up for almost six months and and I'm dating some one new for God's sake!! Granted I dated my ex for seven months... and he was my first but I should be over him! I can feel this new guy getting suspicious and I know he's starting to tell I'm not okay... But I know I'll regret it if I lose him... But honestly... if I had the choice between him and my ex and I'd pick my ex in a heartbeat. And that doesnt make sense!! This guy is perfect and my ex is a jerk I just felt something so strong with him... I don't know what to do!! I don't want to break up with my boyfriend because I DO care about him... This is just so hard and I neeed help... I'm fifteen, ex is sixteen, boyfriend is seventeen.
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this is completley normal.
it takes time to get used to a new relationship because all you do in the new relationship is relate your new guy wth your old guy
for example you would think in ure head
"my ex boyfriend texts me differently then this one"
but after a while you willl forget about yer ex and on to the next! :p
okayyy. im gayy hahhaha
well i hope i helped!
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There's nothing wrong with having feelings for your ex, especially when there's so much of a connection.
I still love my first boyfriend, and I dated him when I was 17. I'm 23 now. I've told my fiance, and he has no problem with that. It doesn't mean that I love my guy any less, or that I'm not happy with him.
Remember, though, that the relationship ended for a reason. Sometimes you can love someone even though they're just not the right person to be spending your life with. You can be super compatible in some ways, but not others. So every time you start thinking your ex is looking like a good choice, remember why things ended with him. Remember both the good times and bad times. Then look at what you love about your current boyfriend. See where he rises above. Soon enough, you won't need to think about it... you'll just know.
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Wow , reading this brought back memories. Please be calm , I was in the exact same situation as you were about 3 years ago and I was devastated when me and my boyfriend broke up. (Even though he was the biggest jerk to me) we also never had sex so I knew we were together for something special. Point here is, he meant a lot and I understand, but if u aren't feeling strong enough feelings for your new boyfriend, maybe you have to let him go for a while. Just give yourself time to fully recover and you will be fine. When you look back at him you will be able to say "ugh, what did I ever see in that jerk" good luck!
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Iv been there my first love is still in my heart and it still hurts to think of him and its been almost 5 years.When you love someone so much you just have to learn to live with the pain.It never leaves you completly.He was a jerk also,but you still remember all the good times.All you can do truthfully is push him to the back of your mind and open yourself up to the possablity of leting that love fade.There is a big diffrence between loving someone and being inlove with someone.Its in our nature to want what is bad for us lol trust me.But think of your self would you be happyer with your ex treating you like crap and not caring about how you feel.Or with this guy who cares about you and wants to give you the world?Your still young and I know you hate when people say that,but you will find a someone with whom you will love harded and it will get better you just have to remember you do desirve the world.
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