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This is my last attempt to safe my marriage. I have tried and tried and no luck. I asked my husband to attend a marriage counsling session with me. He said yes unwillingly though. The day came and he decided to tell me he didnt want to go he wanted to try and work things out our self. Obviously weve been trying that and its been a no go. So this time I wrote down all the stuff that has been bothering me and he wrote his. We also wrote good things down. Well he asked me about what he wrote. I said I dont 100% agree with what you wrote. I asked him about what I wrote he said.. its nothing I havent heard from you before I said should that not be telling you something then if i have to keep saying it to you. What can I do to make this through his head. I am unhappy but i truely love him. (link)
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If things are really as bad as you think, time apart is always a choice. Let him and yourself go away for about a week or two and see what feelings come out. If things don't change then yes, (as the person below said:) go to counseling and see where it goes from there. But react, its always good for a man to see a reaction. Good luck!
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Okay I don't know what to do. I'm in a realtionship with this new guy but I still think about my ex every single day. Even though he was a jerk, a dick, a douche, didn't respect me, betrayed me, hurt me, and so much more I just can't seem to get over him. He was my first everything... (excluding sex). So I know that's a lot of physical connection that'll be hard to get over. And all of that came with alot of guilt and pressure and ugh.. I admit our relationship was a mess and unhealthy but I miss him SOOO much and even as I type this I'm crying and thats horrible! We've been broken up for almost six months and and I'm dating some one new for God's sake!! Granted I dated my ex for seven months... and he was my first but I should be over him! I can feel this new guy getting suspicious and I know he's starting to tell I'm not okay... But I know I'll regret it if I lose him... But honestly... if I had the choice between him and my ex and I'd pick my ex in a heartbeat. And that doesnt make sense!! This guy is perfect and my ex is a jerk I just felt something so strong with him... I don't know what to do!! I don't want to break up with my boyfriend because I DO care about him... This is just so hard and I neeed help... I'm fifteen, ex is sixteen, boyfriend is seventeen. (link)
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Wow , reading this brought back memories. Please be calm , I was in the exact same situation as you were about 3 years ago and I was devastated when me and my boyfriend broke up. (Even though he was the biggest jerk to me) we also never had sex so I knew we were together for something special. Point here is, he meant a lot and I understand, but if u aren't feeling strong enough feelings for your new boyfriend, maybe you have to let him go for a while. Just give yourself time to fully recover and you will be fine. When you look back at him you will be able to say "ugh, what did I ever see in that jerk" good luck!
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So about 3 years ago I was in a love triangle between my first love and the one who stole it. I left my first love for another guy but never fully got over him. I'm always way too sentimental. I knew I had to choose between the two of them instead of playing with both of their hearts...I didn't mean to intentionally I just felt like I loved them both equally. Well long story short I ended up losing both of them on bad notes and never hearing from them again. Went through A good 2 year depression until I felt comfortable to start dating again. Well about 7 months ago I had met this 17 year old at this school called job corps academy and My attraction for him was there imediantly. It took a while to get over his age because i'm 19 going on 20 in a few months but he was honestly the most mature 17 year old I've ever met and the one to have finally broken the seal of not being able to date because I was never feeling it but he gave me butterflys like crazy!! He was very satisfying in every aspect the only problem was, was that I was his first actual serious relationship to where we felt like we were falling in love...and me I've been there done that so it took him some getting used to. We ran into some problems and I had continually started to run into a friend I've known a while through parties. I know this friend of mine likes me and as time passed I started to grow a liking in him. We would start to be cuddle buddies at parties until one night we ended up kissing. I came clean to my boyfriend, we got over it but a month later my boyfriend decided to make the same type of move with another girl from our school before I had left the school to continue on with working and what not.. I hit an all time low and basically said screw this im gonna be with my friend..so me and this new guy have been together since..Its been almost 3 months and we have come to that love stage but my ex the 17 year old has popped back into my life telling me how much he loves me and how much he messed up and how much he misses me and wants me back...and I'm a sucker for these things because yeah I honestly miss him...but I also love my current boyfriend because hes a great person too. I kissed my ex and everything just seems so backwards because instead of cheating on my ex with this new guy im cheating on my new boyfriend with my ex. I have alot of feelings still for my ex but alot of feelings for my boyfriend... I need to pick one before I loose both of them and this pattern keeps happening in my life. The 17 year old is still in Job corps, doesn't have a job until hes out, doesnt have a vehicle, lives kinda far but my attraction for him makes my chest pound. My current boyfriend has a good job, has a car, is like my best friend, but the attraction isnt there as much. This is so frustrating I hate hurting people expecially knowing they are both crazy about me and I hate regretting my decisions when I finally make them. I'm stuck...again. (link)
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I understand your situation completely since I was in a similar situation a while ago. Needless to say I had to make a decision before going completely nuts. So I would recommend that you not look at material such as car, money, etc. But instead of all that to look at the feelings that you have for each of them. For example, the 17 year old, if you feel as if you love him to a point that regaurdless what he might or might not have you love him, go with him. This new boyfriend of yours, if you look at the fact that he has a job , car, and such, then it will feel more convenient to be with him but if the feelings are not really there than its safe to say that u should call it off (: just weigh it out. Good luck with your decision.
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