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Do you believe true love exists?
Do you think love is real? Because i think it is made up and never really lasts it is just a momentary illusion....
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That's a bit like asking is 'hope' real?
Of course hope is real. Hope is a feeling and a way of thinking and behaving that is vital, important and life affirming - sometimes. Hope is also sometimes pointless, misplaced, stupid or inappropriate.
Love is certainly real, the same way hope is real. But it’s a word that describes so many different kinds of behaviour and choices that it’s often near impossible to really pin down what two different people mean when they say ‘Love.’
So what do you do with a word that means so much it can even become completely meaningless at times?
In my opinion, you act with love, as best you can, as much as you can, for as long as you can. That is the best truth you can offer to another person. It is sort of ‘made up’, but it’s a thing you choose to make up because you want it, and desire and feel it. It’s a pattern of thinking, and feeling and doing that you choose for your own benefit and for the benefit of those around you.
True love is true when you choose it. It’s not longer true when you stop choosing it. There are no guarantees that it will last forever, but then there are no guarantees that you won’t drop dead tomorrow, that doesn’t make you any less real today. That is just the world we live in and love is part of it. It’s only as uncertain as everything else in our lives, and like so much we feel and do in our lives, the truth lies in what we choose and what parts of love we embrace in our actions and thoughts.
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Love is real. It's just not what inexperienced teenagers who watch romantic comedies and worship Twilight think it is.
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Of course love exists, and there's actually a scientific explanation for it. (I'm going to majorly simplify it.)
The first phase of love is often referred to as infatuation. This is where you're head-over-heels about the person, thinking about them constantly, and your brain is producing a bunch of neurotransmitters that make you feel really great.
However, this phase fades eventually- it's inevitable. The good news is that it can develop into true love, where you have a more lasting, deeper bond. It's a different feeling, but it's still love.
Sometimes people do fall out of love, but that doesn't mean everyone has to.
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It all depends on what you consider 'true love' to be. If you think it means swooning with delight every time you see them, spending every moment thinking about them and not wanting to ever be apart, then it doesn't exist, at least not for long. That's Twilight love, not real life love. It's why I can't stomach that series.
Love is when you can't imagine being without your partner. You have your time apart, but being with them enriches your life. You can plan for your future together. You feel safe and completely secure with them. You can disagree, fight, bicker and argue and still feel love for each other at the end of the day. You're willing to sacrifice some of your happiness for theirs, and vice versa. Sounds pretty boring, doesn't it?
I used to be bitter. I used to think love didn't exist. That changes when you find the person you're going to spend the rest of your life with.
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True love is real; the line between true love and any other kind of love is blurred at best. Most people who go through life without knowing true love. Being married throughout life doesn't necessarily translate into it either. Sometimes people only stay together for the kids, or financial convienience.
Even then, most people who experience it don't realize it until the person they share it with dies. So yes, true love is real, and rare. Too many people mistake what they have for true love and are burned by it. I assume this is the sort of thing that leads to the pessimistic viewpoint you're displaying.
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