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My name is Juliathings change. sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worst. that's how life is. i'm almost 16 and i make mistakes just like any other person. i'm far from perfect. i love to act, sing, dance and do anything involved with the arts. i really want to learn to play the guitar and i plan to learn. i play tennis but it's only to pass the time. i write poetry and lately i've been reading alot. i'm really goofy and i like to make people smile and i love to laugh. i don't trust that easily and i love even lighter. i don't believe that anyone is better than anyone. i've been going through a tough time lately and i've been confused about alot. i have my best friends and besides them i don't care what other people think. i have an amazing boyfriend and i love him. we can get through anything. i don't hate. sometimes love. and always smile. don't judge me before you get to know me. i'm loud and will make you laugh.
I also love to give and get advice. I believe that people should come together and help you to get by. But always remmeber, advice is help. You are the only one that can make a final desision. I would love to help you with anything as long as you respect me and I'll return the same respect.
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Okay, well me and my boyfriend have been dating for 6 months(as of today!), and well i guess you could say i love him.. But i've still kinda liked one of my best guy friends, i've like him for almost 2 years now, and i can't seem to get over him, and he told me that he liked me, which probably wasn't the best idea, but he said he wanted to tell me cause it was bugging him from me not knowing. And well sometimes i think i like him more then my boyfriend, but then other times i can't really see him more then my bestfriend. And last week i thought i REALLY liked him, and me and my boyfriend almost broke up(nothing to do with my friend), and i was kinda hoping we would have.(i know, bad thing to say) but now, i'm glad we didn't. And my friend is in Flordia right now, and i havn't talked to him in like a week, and i don't like him as much right now, but when he gets back, and we start talking alot again, i have a feeling that i will start liking him. Like he's ALWAYS there for me, not matter what, and he's such a great friend, and he's like everything that i'd look for in a guy. But i don't really want to end things with my boyfriend because it would kill us both. I don't really know what to do, if there is anything, and i've tried "following my heart" but that just confused me even more. Sorry for this being so long, any advice would help. Thanks. :)
Ok. I really think that I will be able to give you the best first hand advice here. Before I start, sit down, relax and take a deep breath. Eveything's gonna work out. I promise. I've been there.
So anyways, hey, I'm Julia and I'm 16 years old. I don't want you to think you're getting advice from someone with no experiance, but hun I've definatly been there.
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a little over 8 months, but it hasn't always been like this. Right before we hit the 7 month mark, I feel for another guy. A friend at that. We started to hang out more and more and deeper i feel for him. Little did I know that I was just really confused because me and my boyfriend had been fighting.
So me and this guy were hanging out. I looked in his eyes once and I saw in that moment that I was where I wanted to be. So without thinknig about it too long, I broke up with my boyfriend. (FREEZE)
You need to remember that you can't rush into anything without talking to your boyfriend about everything that you're feeling. Remember to think all your thoughts through before getting anyone else's feelings involved. Even thought guys don't show it, they have a soft side. Granted you've been together for 6 months, he loves you.
So I was single. I began living the life I thought I loved. Meeting new people, kissing other guys, and also keeping my new intrest close, not realizing that my new behiavor was hurting him as well.
(FREEZE)
This was sooooo wrong of me. I didn't aknowledge anyone's feelings besides my own. Even though you have to follow your heart you have to remember you're not the only one involved.
In the end, I realized that I missed my boyfriend and I wanted him back. Luckily I was able to win him back but this didn;t come easy. I had to let everyone in the situation know what was gonig on and this meant hurting the other guy. But hey, we're good friends now and me and my boyfriend are still together. Although there are spaces, we're willing to fill them.
Also, I still will admit that sometimes I have feelings for other guys. Sometimes it gets to the point where I really want to take a chance but I realize that It's not worth ruining what I have.
This decision is all your own. All I can tell you is that you need to weigh your options and see what one is worth is more for you. Don't do anything without knowing what you really want and try making a pros and cons list. I really hope my story has helped you. I apologize for the lenght but I'm really trying to give you the best advice as possible.
Also you may want to try gonig on a nice walk. Where I live, the weather is starting to get nicer. Taking time to be alone in fresh air will defiantly help you!
GOOD LUCK!
Julia
Its the 2nd year I'm with my guy... I love him alot....
we've been through alot of problems through the last year.. but we love eachother alot and want to go on....
for this valentines i thought of burning some CD's full of love and romance movies along with some other presents...
I need help
please can you give me names of beautiful meaningful movies biased on love and romance???
in addition to that
something like a perfect guy movie would be great too..
also a movie that shows how two people realize they cant live without eachother would be great too
Please please help me..
I need names of many movies as possible biased on love and romance...
I'm going to be upright honest with you. Guys aren't usually into romance movies. They usualy fall asleep through them or will occassionaly pretend to be enjoying it just to make you happy or to make you feel good. If you really know that he will enjoy these sorts of movies...then I'll give you a few. But just keep in mind that the chick flicks are usually NOT dick flicks.
a Walk to remmeber is a great movie where two people from totally differnt worlds go through many problems but realize that they can't go on without eachtoher. This one isn't too chicky and I watched it with my boyfriend. I wouldn't say that he enjoyed it...but...he tolerated it.
A really good one that he will be able to enjoy as well is Fever Pitch. I realize that someone already said this but they didn't explain. This movie shows the male mentality in a realationship and it might open his eyes on how he needs to pay attention to you more. =0]
DO NOT GET THE NOTEBOOK! Guys HATE this movie more than anything in the world.
I'm quoteing a guy friend right now. "Get the wedding singer, It's a bomb movie." This movie has a romactic theme and guys love it!
I hope I could help! Have a great Valentines day with you're guy and I wish you to a happy future!
Signed.
cheapxphotography
Okay background info first.
so I went to a show the other day, and there was some guy that needed an extra ticket. I had one, and let him have it really cheap, and I chilled with him the whole night, he picked me up the next night, I hung out with him for that whole night and stayed over there with my best friend. The next day I got to kind of know him, and we cuddled and made out. He's a really sweet guy, but the only problem is he lives a good 30 minute drive away, and I can't drive. Also doubt my dad approves of me dating a guy 3 years older than me. Right now i'm pretty limited to only seeing him at shows, or unless he comes and get's me on weekends. I guess what im trying to get advice on is making the decision of either going ahead and having a kind of long distance relationship where i'd see him about twice a week, wait for someone better to come along, or maybe convince my dad to be cool with it. another thing is, the only reason I hace some hope for a long distance with this guy is he is definetely not an asshole, I trust him, and I see him differently from any guy I've dated.
Hey.
I should be able to help you because I was in this same situation. My boyfriend lives 35 minutes away, but we don't consider it to be a long distance realationship. I usualy see him about 3-4 times a week. Since he is older than me, he can drive and he's willing to come get me or come see me all the time. My parents approve of him so they let him come over when ever he wants.
I honestly think you should go for it. He doesn't live that far away and I'm sure you could work it out. You should also talk to your dad about it.
At first I thought that me and my boyfriend would never work out. I'm really glad that I tried though becuase I love him so much and we've been dating for almost 4 months.
Don't be afraid of it not working. You'll feel better if you try!
I'm on the second day of my period, and I had unprotected sex in the shower. He pulled out, which I know is absolutely NO good considering pre-cum and all, so yeah, Is it possible that I could get pregnant, because I thought when you're on your period it means that the egg left your system and youre getting rid of the uterine lining because the egg wasnt fertilized, so that would mean for this week i have no egg in my system right?
ehh, just let me know what the chances are if I could...
Alright.
I really hate saying this. But I'm going to warn you...what you did was dangerous.
when you have your period, its easier for you to get pregnant. Since there are eggs currently everywhere in your system, the odds of you getting pregnant are much higher. When people are trying to get pregnant, they have sex during their period becuase it's when your cycle is at it's peak.
pulling out will NEVER prevent you from getting pregnant. Like you saidm there is still pre-cum, and that's just as dangerous as flowing sperm.
The only advice I can give you is to get a pregnancy test RIGHT away. Make sure that you're with your boyfriend and you should warn him that what you both did could result in a life changing experiance.
I'm sorry that I had to be the one to tell you. I'm not saying that you're definatly pregnant, but I'm not going to lie to you. You're chances are high.
Please let me know how everything works out. You should never have unprotected sex...even in the shower! Actually it can be worse because the heat can cause guys to get harder faster.
Please b careful and let me know.
Signed,
cheapxphotography
How do you makeout with someone? Like what are the little details that you should do?
Honestly, there's no "essential" way to makeout. There are no little tircks or details, it kind of just happens. Makeing out usually involves the movement of your tongue and theirs working together. But when it's happeneing, you can't worry about if you're doing it right because there is no rule book to doing it! The little details you should know is to relax and just stay with it. Usualy the guy will lead and you'll follow. I promise it'll be fine!
I hope I could help!
Signed,
cheapxphotography
If a guy likes a girl, why do their pupils dilate? Is it just a nervous reaction?
Pupil's dialiate when they focas, or it's a reaction to something. It doesn't necessarly mean that a guy likes a girl. It's just them focasing at you. So the fact that they are focasing on you, may mean he likes you! =0]
Hope I could help!
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cheapxphotography
so im a sophmore and he's a senior.
in high school by the way :)
so, there is this guy, i REALLY like.
and i mean i think he's kinda into me, even though im ALOT younger and all. well only a year and a half, but anyways.
i want him to like me back becuase his x is trying to get back with him. hmmm.
and im not really the slutty type at all so im not going to go do anything like that.
i dunno.
what should i like say to him to make him like me, but be like playfull and flirty, but not like too flirty, you know?
wow that was like a novel :) hah
yayy! haha. I love these questions because I am also a sophomore with a senior boyfriend so I can totaly relate to the age. Age really doesn't matter to much. To your parents, it might, but to him it probably isn't. You really need to get to flirting with him. Guys love girls that will go after what they want. If you seem that he's into you, then stay the way you are. Don't change who you are just to beat out this other girl. Find out if he's still into her. Ask him if he likes anyone. While your asking him if he likes anyone, drop some hints. Make sure to show him that you're available. But that doesn't mean be slutty. Make sure to not seem like you're easy or that he can take advantage of you. Since he is a senior, he's ready for somethings that you may not.
When I first realized that I liked my boyfriend, I flirted alot. I made sure to not seem physco and I played it cool. When he was flirting back, I realized that he had feelings too. Soooo...we started to talk on the phone. This is when I began to let him know how I felt and I got the 411 on how he felt. After a few convos we began hanging out and after one date he asked me out. IT's been over three months and I'm totally in love with him.
SOOOOOOOOO...the lesson is play it cool. Flirt but don't seem easy or desperate. If it seems like he's liking you too, drop some hints. Eventually you should tell him how you feel.
I hope I could help!
Singed,
cheapxphotography
Ok, here it is. I'm "Gothic" and the guy I like is a "Jock". I like him nad I'm pretty sure he likes me. Problem, I have no clue how it could get any farther than smiles and small chat because of the gossip and just people at our school. I swear, it'd be like WW3! Please give me your advise, Anything would be good at this point.
Thanks!
~VampireGirl818
The only surefire way that you can get pass this is looking into yourself. I personally hate lables and I feel that they separate people. You're question shows how in high school you will be shuned just for being friends with someone from a different clique. The only advice i can give you is to talk to him. If you both come to the same conclusion that you like eachother but are just scared of what other people think, then maybe you should stop caring what they think. It's obvi gonig to be tough on both of you, but if you both care about eachother as much as you say, then it shouldn't matter. This sounds cliche, and it's obvi going to be easier said then done, but hte best way to get through high school is to be an individual and not listen to the harsh words of others. You'll gain innerconfindece.
P.S. Watch a walk to remember. I think the idea of it might help!
Hope this works!
Keep me posted!
Signed,
cheapxphotography
Ok, so I'm going to a football game this week and I'm going with a few friends, probably 3 guys and 2 girls including me.
One of the guys going is the guy I like.
What are some ways I can show him I'm interested at the football game? We'll probably be walking around a lot, and it'll be cold, so any ideas? :]
Showing that you're interested is the key to starting a realationship. Since you'll be at the football game, the bletchers can sometimes be...for a lack of better words, full, and cold. Sit close next to him and make sure to be very flirty. If he says something jokingly mean or silly, give him a little nudge in the sides but not too hard that he'll thing you're viloent. hehe. Then when it starts to get cold, shiver a little big and be like it's freezing. If he responds that mean he wants to keep you warm. If not keep trying and don't give up!
I hope I could help!
Signed,
cheapxphotography
my boyfriend just broke up with me yesterday and he said it was because he didnt love me n well he said he didnt feel the same way around me ( lately ive been really bitchy and depressed these past months) and then he was like but i still like you and want to talk to you and be friends and i still care about you and all that stuff you do when you love someone, but weve been together forever how can you just stop loving someone? i dont think that is possible, we had so much together i think hes just confused and and we just need time apart but how do i convince him to make this a break and not for good?... that night he called and we talked for like 2 hours about crazy shit like we used to and it was really nice and he was like can i ask you something? and i said sure so he asked if i was still going to the gyno(bc we were sexually active and we wanted birth control) and i was like um yeah and it just popped out and i said are you still going with me? and then i said WAIT no i dont want you to and i dont care but he was like i want to, i want to be there for you and im so confused and let me add that weve broken up three different times and each time it was bc things got akward then when we broke up we got really close and went back out and then it was better each time do you think that could happen again? please help me i need him i really do.
Saying as how he told you that he wants to be friends and that he still likes you was defiantly the responsible thing to do.
I understand that you're hurt that you broke up and that you want it to just be a break. Saying that he still wants to go with you to get birth control stil shows that he cares. Whether he admits it or not, that's a sign of love.
Guys can be really really confusing. I can clearly see that your realationship with him means alot and that you really want it to work for you two. The only surefire advice I can give you is to ask him about his feelings. Get him to tell you why he thinks he doens't love you anymore and why he wants to end what you've got. When you know why he feels that way, then you can work on solving it. Work on getting him back to loving you. That's the best thing you can do. To fix a realtionaship as a whole, you need to fix each person in it.
I hope I could help!
Thanks for keeping me posted!
If you wanna talk more...feel free to IM me.
(contact info is on my column)
Signed,
cheapxphotography
Basically, I have trust issues. Because of past relationships where I got cheated on, because of betrayal of friends most close to me. Situations which have happened more than once have led me to believe that most people are full of sh*t.
Now i'm with one guy, who I love a lot.
But I find it hard to trust him.... actually, it's not only him, it's my friends also. I feel like they're all lying to me about small things. I never let them know though, or bring it up.
It's just in my head, I think, "yeah, ok, you're full of sh*t"... and it starts to bother me. a lot.
But just like everything else. I keep it inside.
I feel like if I bring it up, everyone is going to tell me that im blowing it out of proportion, or that i'm being a jealous girlfriend. And I don't want them to see me that way, because all it does is cause unnecessary conflict because of my paronoia.
Any advice on how to get over this?
Or just advice on the whole situation.
Trust issues are something most people encounter as you get older. I recently had them and thought that everyone was lying to me and that everyone was out to get me. The only sure fire way to rid yourself of these is to open up a little more. Let people know how you feel and don't hold it in. If you find that someone may be lying to you, talk it over with them. You need to let people know how your feeling, or these trust issues aren't going to go away. They're only going to get worse.
Don't worry about what you think they'll say. You don't know that they won't listen to you. That's part of the reason you have these issues with trust. You're assuming that no one will listen to you so you just ignore the fact of ever talking it out. You can't do that. You need to be free with your feelings and tell people what's on your mind.
As for your boyfriend, I find it very hard to really love someone or have a really strong relationship without trust. Trust plays a big part in a realationship and without it, the bond can fall. Make sure to tell your boyfriend about these issues and assure him that you're gonig to try to open up a little more. Taking that big first step makes the whole process easier.
I hope I could help!
Keep me posted!
Signed,
cheapxphotography
My friend I’ve known my whole life I guess we were like best friends. We always told each other it but never did anything out of school except email aim and talk. Then we liked each other a little a lot. Everyone tried to get us together as in dating or alone together. Then there were a lot of mishaps at parties. Many good time so many bad times. Old games like truth or dare and zap. Our relationship fell apart. Im friends with a lot of guys and most are older than him. I am always with them. I don’t like any of them but him and another guy. I’ve never dated because I always fell for my friends and I never wanted to loose them. Four guys like me that I know of right now but I cant do it I’d miss him to much. They know I won’t date because of all that’s happened. My friend says he’s afraid on what id think, my friend told me. Doesn’t seem to like the guys I talk to anymore. We always talked, now almost never except at school a little. We always had silly little arguments on kinds of donuts and stuff always talking. He always gave me high fives or would do anything to hold my hand even for a second and then every time we saw each other he’d give me a high five or we arm wrestle or play games like red hands but he never wanted to hurt me. We used to really care for each other now we do a little but it’s falling apart. He talks to my friends more than me now. But I just don’t know what to do anymore. Im even to nervous to talk to him I’ve never been nervous for any guy. I don’t know what to do??? 13 about 14 femalee
It's really hard for me to give you a solid answer only because I don't know why you're falling apart. But I'll still try!
Ok well, you need to talk to him. Tell him how you feel and how you really still like him and that you miss him alot. If this guy is affecting how you see other guys then you know that your feelings for him as strong.
I have alot of guy friends and I know how you feel about falling for them. I fell for my best friend once too. And it's hard. And when he liked me, I had no idea. But we're still friends mainly because we talked about it.
If you want to be more than friends with him you really outtah speak your mind. Keeping feelings inside doesn't make anything better.
And if you're scared of trying, always remember. Failing is worse than never trying. Don't be afrais of the unknown.
I hope I could help!
Let me know how it works out!!!
Signed,
cheapxphotography
my boyfriend and i have been dating for about 3 years and just now it went downhill like i had a bunch of family issues and have been depressed alot for no reason and i think hes gotten sick of it and ive been a total bitch and all i ever say i sorry i dunno what to do and we never talk anymore and we both agree we've both changed and we want it back the way we had it before when we were both happy with eachother. How can we do that ?
Being honest wtih eachother never hurt. Three years is a long time with someone and I'm sure you don't want to ruin what you have. I suggest a little brake so you guys can both figure out the problems you have and sort them out. A break doesn't mean you've broken oup, and it DEFINATLY DOES NOT mean that you can go hook up with a million other guys. It jsut means that you have time to thnik about you two and get back on track. Realationships usualy need a brake sometime and doesn't prove that you're not strong. When you come back together after one you feel stronger and happier.
If you defiantly don't want to take a brake, you can always jsut talk to him about how he feels and try to satisfy his needs.
I hope I could help
Keep me posted!
Signed,
cheapxphotography
Okay, me and this guy, you could practically call him my boyfriend, we're not sexual or anything, we just care alot for eachother, and we both know about how the other feels, he goes to a different school. and we had a big argument, and everytime we fight i always go back to him, im afraid im gonna lose him to someone at his school, and this time i told him i was never gonna talk to him again, i want to know how i can have him come back to me??
I also have a boyfriend from another school and I usually am afraid that he will leave me for another girl. But I know that he loves me and would never do that to me. Honestly, all you can do is tell him how you feel. That you're scared about other girls and that you really do care about him and want him in your life. Be honest with him. It's the best thing that you could ever do. Don't worry about the other girls. If it hasn't beem a problem yet, why make it one now? Live in the moment and always know that people do care about you. Don't live up for the let down.
I hope I could help!
Keep me posted!
Signed,
cheapxphotography
I am 14 and never have had a boyfriend nor kissed a guy . Is this bad?
ABSOLUTLY NOT!
This is totally normal. I mean, I didn't have my first real boyfriend until this year actually. Also, mny first kiss wasn't until the summer going into 9th grade. There isn't a certain age where you should get your first boyfriend or kiss. It's when your ready. But since you've waited, don't blow it on something silly. Save your first kiss for someone you really really like. I have a friend who's in 10th grade and she's sooo pretty! Ang GUESS WHAT??!?! She hasn't had her first kiss either. Just because you havn't had it doesn't mean you're not pretty and it also doesn't mean that no one wants to kiss you. I promise you it will happen. Just be patient and don't worry about it! It'll all be fine!
Hope I could help!
Keep me posted!
Signed,
cheapxphotography
Okay well there is this boy that I am in love with.Also he liked me last year and we where really getting along and we where like best friends and I was loveing it.So when this new girl comes he starts likeing her and is being mean to me and acting really strange.But than summer came and I was getting over him untill the first day of school I fell for him again And I have no clue why its scareing me I really want to get over him and I want this girl gone.So please help me.
Coming in second always hurts. But if you tell him how you feel and that you think that girl took your place yo can scoot up to first. Guys love it when they're being chased. It makes them feel wanted. Give it a little bit of time. If he still doesn't notice you, go for it. Tell him that you can't get over him and that you really want him in your life. Telling the truth will always make you feel better but will also make him feel better about the situation. If you feel uncomforatable talking to him then you can just try to be friends for awhile and then tell him how you feel. Waiting to state never hurt anyone.
hope this helps!
Let me know how it worked out!
Signed,
cheapxphotography
16/f
This past summer me and my best friend hung out with a group of guys. We spent like the whole summer with them. We all started out as friends. Then one day my best friend told me that one of the guys liked me more as friends.
So we had a little thing. We held hands and kissed and things like that. I guess you could say we were dating.Everything was going good and we had a lot of fun when we hung out.He would always text me and stuff. And at first i loved it. But he wanted me to hang out with him almost EVERYDAY. And i wanted time for my other friends too. So i kinda ignored his texts and didnt say anything to him for a while.(yeah i know that wasnt the right thing to do)After that we just didnt even talk anymore.
Well anyways now that school has started and i see him every single day, i think im might still have a thing for him. And i drive myself crazy thinking about how it would have been if we still were together.I want to be friends with him again. The only thing is, he doesnt even look at me. And i know that he is mad but,i have NO CLUE what to do!!!!! PLEASE PLEASE help me!!!!!!!!
Thanks to anyone that answers, i really appericate it! (:
Like you said, ignoring him totally probably wasn't the best thing to do. But I understand why you did that. If you really want to be friends with him again, be the mature one and go up to him in the hallways. IMing and texting isn't going to get him to listen to you. You need to be strong and jsut go up to him and tell him that you're sorry that you stopped talking and that you really want to pick up where you left off. Tell him you wanted to be with your friends too and that you didn't think that he'd understand that. Just make sure you tell him how you feel, and since you're trying to win him back, be nice about it. I really do think will understand as long as you're true and sincere.
I really hope this works out.
Keep me posted!
Signed,
cheapxphotography
Okay, this was the same question as before, but more imfo.
I like this Boy. We're on different teams. I have 2 connection classes with him. Which are going to change in a week. I dont know if we'll have connections together after that. But, we're both shy. He doesnt seem like the kind of guy that would have a lot of friends that are girls.
So, Im shy. I can talk to boys that I dont like that are just my friends, but not to ones that I do like. I always say Im going to go and talk to him, but I never do. He seems like if i did, then he'd just smile and look away or something.
How can i overcome my shyness? How can I start a conversation with him? and become his friend?
talking to guys can always be tough. even if your not shy. But really, I think he'll appreatiate the effort and start opening up to you.
Getting rid of your shyness isn't easy. It's all about gaining up the courage to get rid of your fears. I promise you that if you do it, you'll feel alot better that you have conquered your fear. It's going to be hard. But I think ou can do it.
A convorsation tip: When about to talk to him, first find out somethings that he likes and then convorsation will flow. You'll never run our of something to talk about!
I hope everything works out. Let me know! My contact info's on my column!!
Singed,
cheapxphotography
Okay, I'm a female and 15 years of age. I have a boyfriend and we've been going out for almost a month. Okay, at the last school dance he was pretty well hitting that he wanted to make out. He was kissing me a lot! Okay... I've never made out with anyone before.. and neither has he (good thing too) i was completely shocked. Not nervous.. just completely weird because i had no idea what i was doing! I'm afraid to say anything because i dont wanna feel like an idiot!I really like him and all.. i just dont know how to respond and I dont want to give him the wrong idea.. like i dont like him or something. So what do I do? Seeing as he always has his arms around me.. n trying to kiss me whenever he gets a change. I love that he's showing how much he cares and stuff.. just it's a bit new for me.. and HIM!!! So...help please!? Thanks a bunch,
sincerely,
Confused but Happy Girl.
I remember being in your EXACT situation. Guy's minds don't mature as fast as ours do. They do care about you but really like mobing forward. This isn't a bad thing, it's just a life thing.
You really really need to sit down and talk to him about how he feels and where this is going. It's totally normal for you two to be making out, and for you to be a little bit shy about it.
You shouldn't worry about being perfect at it. It's your first time! It's honestly probably gonig to be awkward at first, but HEY! That's ok! Don't look into it as much. If you don't feel comfortable talking with him, just go with the flow. Living in the moment can always make you feel better. If it happens, it'll happen. And I promise you, you'll feel better.
Just relax and enjoy the time you have with him. Realationships can be so much fun!
Hope everything works out! Keep me posted! Contact info is on my Column!
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Okay, I'm 15 and female. I have an amazing boyfriend. I care about him so much. Here is the thing, most of my friends are hitting on him. Just to make things clear, some are better friends with him then me. Anyways, at first it was funny because he's never had a girlfriend before. But they are still hitting on him. I've tried telling him.. but i get all shakey because i love my friends so much and i dont wanna start anything. I know that most people say "well your real friends only want you happy" n that's so true because im close friends are getting mad but i dunno. I feel lost n confused. I've tried talking to my boyfriend about it but he just tells me not to worry about it.. but i cant help it. Should i really tell my friends that i want them to stop.. even though i know that they will say "god! we are kidding around. take a joke" (sigh) a little help? thanks,
Lost and Confused girl.
Well here's the thing. you seem to be beating yourself up about this.
1. If your friends really cared about you they'd say "awh I'm sorry girl. I had no idea I was doing it. I will stop. I don't wanna mess anything up."
2. Have you talked to your boyfriend about it? If you see that he's flirting back then that's where the problem is. Obviously your boyfriend really cares about you and he doesn't want to lose you
Talking to both your boyfriend and your friends will be tough. If your friends get mad and defensive, then that's where they know that they're doing it and now feel bad.
Yes, It's going to be hard, but if you want things to only move forward with your boyfriend, you really need to talk to him. I think your friends, and your boyfriend will respect that you're speaking up. But remmeber to casually bring it up. Don't be mean or sound like you wanna beat someone out. Just relax and do it!
I really hope this helps. Let me know how it works! I'm always available on my contact info!
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