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trust issues
Basically, I have trust issues. Because of past relationships where I got cheated on, because of betrayal of friends most close to me. Situations which have happened more than once have led me to believe that most people are full of sh*t.
Now i'm with one guy, who I love a lot.
But I find it hard to trust him.... actually, it's not only him, it's my friends also. I feel like they're all lying to me about small things. I never let them know though, or bring it up.
It's just in my head, I think, "yeah, ok, you're full of sh*t"... and it starts to bother me. a lot.
But just like everything else. I keep it inside.
I feel like if I bring it up, everyone is going to tell me that im blowing it out of proportion, or that i'm being a jealous girlfriend. And I don't want them to see me that way, because all it does is cause unnecessary conflict because of my paronoia.
Any advice on how to get over this?
Or just advice on the whole situation.
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You and I are in the same situation, girlfriend. You are not in anyway being paranoid, you're just being cautious. Stay that way so that if you ever find out that they are all indeed full of shit, youre feelings and emotions will not be damaged because you were prepared for it. You are also doing the right thing by keeping your business to yourself. Never let the left hand know what the right one is doing!!!
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Trust issues are something most people encounter as you get older. I recently had them and thought that everyone was lying to me and that everyone was out to get me. The only sure fire way to rid yourself of these is to open up a little more. Let people know how you feel and don't hold it in. If you find that someone may be lying to you, talk it over with them. You need to let people know how your feeling, or these trust issues aren't going to go away. They're only going to get worse.
Don't worry about what you think they'll say. You don't know that they won't listen to you. That's part of the reason you have these issues with trust. You're assuming that no one will listen to you so you just ignore the fact of ever talking it out. You can't do that. You need to be free with your feelings and tell people what's on your mind.
As for your boyfriend, I find it very hard to really love someone or have a really strong relationship without trust. Trust plays a big part in a realationship and without it, the bond can fall. Make sure to tell your boyfriend about these issues and assure him that you're gonig to try to open up a little more. Taking that big first step makes the whole process easier.
I hope I could help!
Keep me posted!
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