Hi my names Nikki..i love to give people advice on almost anything.Sometimes I can be brutal with my answers but I speak my mind and give my opinon. I help people look at life from a different perspective. So if you need an answer let me know ill give you one!
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I used to be with this guy for 2 years.. and he fucked me over badly, he left me and didnt want a relationship anymore, i wont lie we were too controlling , i dont understand why he did that but i admit that it was wrong of both of us for being like that, we never even let eachohther have friends from the opposite gender it was so stupid,.. anyways after the breakup i realized how stupid i was and he did too, he cme back to me, said he regret it, and wants to be togethr, im stupid and ofcourse gave in, but didnt get with him yet, i told him it was gonna take alot of time to gain his trust, he told me hell wait til whenever i need, and then when i told him i was ready he told me to give it time, that im rushing stuff, he feels like we have nothing in common anymore, after 2 YEARS? we have nothing in common? just because he met other people, but we agreed to just give it time, he started calling me baby again, tell me he loves me, and were always talking on BBM 24/7.. he has not even talked about us for a while, were growing closer but he still hasnt talked about it, my question is.. i dont wanna get SO attached to him like i used to be.. and i got so hurt and heartbroken i cant even explain it, and i wanna finish it up, either were together or not, how do i bring this up, SHOULD i bring this up with him ? what do i say? its not fair that he left me and now wants to give it time.. its not fair to me, and i cant take going everyday wondering if im talking to him all the time and its not leading to anything, i need advice on what to do and what to say, i get really nervous when it comes to him. i feel like he has the upper hand, and i want to have more power, please help me.. thank you to anyone who took the time (link)
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Me and a guy did that for 5 years straight..so I know what im talking about lol...just tell him you would like to know when hell be ready for next step and how he feels about the relationship...often when being together that long and breaking up the guy finds other girls who are completely different so he likes not being tied down cause he was for years but if he truly loves you he might wanna take it slow so he dont hurt you agian
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Hey, :)
Okay, so I like this guy at my school. He is 2 years older than me. He knows me just by name. But he's just driving me crazy. I just like really like him. My best friend is his best friend too, So i asked him if he could hook me up with him? and my best friend says he's out of my league. My friends say my best friend likes me, but that doesn't matter to that much. I just really want that guy to like me. What should I do? (link)
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Okkay well if your best friend likes you the other guy might know and not want to stab his friend in the back i mean its guy code. If hes two years older than you maybe he thinks your to young for him and he wants to be with someone closer to his age which alot of guys do. So drop him hints you like him but dont push it and dont let it come between you and your friend cause you could loose a friend and the guy you like both.
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Okay i am 19/m and she is 16/f. I need an idea on what to do for valentines day. I'm not a poet..been there tried that, and i'm in a financial bind at the moment, so it's not like i can buy her something nice. Every christmas and her birthday, i do something special and get her an extravagent gift..but this year is going to have to be different and she understands that, i just feel horrible that i can't get her anything nice. hell..i don't even have the money to buy her roses.. I would love to sit down and spend time doing something for her i just have no idea what i can do..plz..help (link)
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okkay every girl likes a romantic take her some where you two can be alone have a few candles set out make her something for dinner have it ready when you take her to the place after go to the room with candles and give her a back massage if not take her some where peaceful and talk and have a small picnic
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I'm asking this for my friend who is too chicken to do this himself. He and his girlfriend of one year and 14 days broke up. She broke up with him. They were doing the the long distance. After our first semester of college she broke up with him saying that she was too busy and join so many clubs and whatever. He didn't want to break up. So now next semester he is still into her. Everytime he's one facebook he looks at her wall posts, who she added as friend, and new pictures. Its kind of creeping me out. So what should i do or say to help move on? I'm running out of ideas, Help! (link)
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well he needs to get out and realize how much fun you can have being single...trying to move on from someone you love is hard but everything happens for a reason in if he keeps it up hes just gonna make his self miserable and very depressed trust me ik so show him how much life has to offer even without someone by his side
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I don't think I'm bisexual or anything becase I only enjoy physical pleasure with girls but lately I've been wanting to kiss girls but I don't know how to apporoach it, because I act like I don't want to kiss a girl when I do and I have a friend who is like to kiss girls too but I don't want people to know that I make out with girls and that I'm bisexual when I'm not how canno havefun with girls without people judging me as lesbian or bisexual when I only
enjoy making out in general with boys or girls? I have not French kissed with anyone for long time now and I've been wanting to make out but I can't seen to find a girl to make out with, or I haven't had a bf in a while because I like to have fun and flirt with others so I thought it wouldn't be a good idea what should do? (link)
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girls are fun to make out with im 18 and made out with my best friend im not bi or a lesbian buut people will and always will judge but its fun in it aint a bad thing so do it who cares what people say...best of luck
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So, I am 18f and I have a boyfriend that is 18 as well. He lives about 40 minutes from me so I like it when I have time to drive to his house or for him to drive to my house. The one thing I wish we could do more, is sleep at eachothers houses. He has never slept over at my house, but I have slept at his house about four times now. We have been dating for about four months, I have known him for seven. His parents don't want him sleeping over at a girls house or a girl sleeping at their house near eachother. The first few times I was at his place we were three floors apart and then the next few times we were on the same floor, but in separate rooms. I just think, it is not like we are having sex, because we never have. Also, I would hope that his parents trust us or should I say me. We just want to spend more time with eachother and by being able to stay over and not have to drive home late at night, we can lay beside eachother and talk/cuddle/fall asleep together. Its just easier and more enjoyable, you know? What are some things we can do to make our time together more valuable? I really wish his parents would let us stay over at eachothers so that we could spend the whole weekend together and not just one afternoon. He is in Uni and we both have jobs. Please help me with some ideas, thanks!
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your both 18 so rent a hotel room for a night or two...you wont have any parents around and you could spend all the time you wanted together
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I started dating this guy freshman year (last year) when I was fourteen. He was a sophomore and sixteen. Well, we had a pretty good relationship in the begining. We had fun and laughs and he made me feel special and all that jazz... Well after about two months of dating, while we would be making out, he would slip his hand down my pants. And I'd pull it out... He'd put it back, and I'd pull it out... and it just kinda went like taht. We never really talked about it... then one night I don't know what happened but I just let him finger me... And I dunno, it didn't feel like a big deal at the time. After that things in our relationship started changing. He got a lot more possessive and mean and I became a whipped little puppy dog to him. I would do whatever he said and that's NOT the kind of person I am... I really really liked him though for some reason. To the point where I fell in love with the guy. It was a strange love but I DID care deeply about him... He continued to finger me when we'd hook up and eventually around month four he started asking for handjobs. And I'd keep saying no becuase I dont know, I was fourteen and I just wasn't ready for that. Well.. One day he basically just pulled down his pants, grabbed my hand and started making me rub his dick. I tried to pull my hand away, at least I think I did, but I couldn't. Either because his grip was too hard or because I was just so shocked that he did that. Then I started crying... and he let go but we didn't even talk abotu it! I just let him get away with it, I don't knwo why I was such a stupid stupid idiot. Month six rolls around he wants a bj... No, no, no. I kept saying no but he would aslmost try and perseude me. He'd say things like "If you loved me you'd want to make me happy. And I make you feel good but it's completely one sided." I started to just feel so guilty (and he had me so whipped) that I just did it... God you have no idea how much I wish I coudl take it back. I was sooo stupid! He dumped me four days later. He said he didn't even like me anymore but he wanted the bj before we split. He said he only stayed with me for the last three months cuz he liked the physical part of me. He told all his friends and basically the entire school, "she put out. We'd make out aaall the time and she gave me head". And I guess I deserved that... I was stupid for believing him. And letting him just used me like that. I just can't over this... I'm still hurting and I don't know how to make it go away. All of that physical stuff made me SO connected to him. And I was so owned by him that I don't even feel like my own person anymore and it's been like five months since we've broken up... I like this new guy but now that we've started kissing and stuff I feel so... Ugh I don't know. I just can't get over what happened and I don't want to trust guys... or myself. And as crazy as it is... I still like my ex... Whats wrong with me?! Can anyone please talk some sense into me. I don't even know what I'm asking withthis question I'm just lost and I don't know what to do... Please help. (I'm fifteen, sophomore) (link)
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okkay even though he used you when a guy is your first for that kinda stuff you will always kinda have feelings toward him but this guy used you move on and you never trust a guy completely never do what you dont want to even if he gets mad stand your ground do something when your ready not them.....best of luck
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Is it a bad thing if i never got my cherry popped? (link)
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NO! stay a virgiin till you meet the right guy and fall in love trust me if you lose it to the wrong guy you will regret it the rest of your life
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i am dating guy,we like eich other,but he is olvays busy and tells me he likes me very much,he takes me out somethimes,then its anding up,he has to go to his work,i am sure he works at night,and he wants bj in his car,and that is all,what can i do?i really like him,what shoud i tell him?or just find someone elce who is not so busy,but i like him so much. (link)
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your wasting your time move on you deserve better than a guy like that he sounds like a loser that just wants a quickie find a guy that really likes and wants to be with you....best of luck
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I need a pros and cons list with regards to admitting a crush. Opinions and other comments are also appreciated. C:
Background:
There's this guy who I've liked for months at school, but nothing has happened to make us "more than friends." Arguably, this seems to mean that he is not interested, but the obvious "signs" of his crush cannot be ignored. "Hinting" at my feelings hasn't worked so far 1. because I'm a terrible flirt 2. because he is dense when it comes to dating/has never had a girlfriend. Still, there is no way for me to guarantee that the crush is mutual. I'm willing to tell him in person, but, should I?
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the only way to find out is if you tell him if he dont feel the same atleast you will know and you can move on but i he feels the same thats great best of luck
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there is this i guy i like. Im like best friends with his family. I stay over their house alot so i know practically their whole family and they have a huge family. Their family is close. Me and him are the same age and so people always say stuff like maybe you guys like each other. We both just deny it and smile. We are completely different so I think he thinks that i would never like him. My little cousin once was like melanie likes you and i was like no i dont she is just lying and he was like yeah i dont think she would say something like that plus he knows that my little cousin adores him so he believed me but in reality i do like him i like him alike. Im just tired of him not knowing. I dont want him to find another girl. I dont want to tell him because i dont want to make it awkward between the family and me. Even though their family likes me and treats me like im their family. I dont think they ever have thoughts of me and him dating. I dont want the whole family to know anyways. I just want him to know that I like him. Im shy also so i cant just tell him. He does have a picture of me and his sister in his bible. So i think thats kind of a big deal cuz why would he have a pic of me in there. But he isnt living at home he is in another country till next year so im not planning on anything till then and i would be almost graduating. So what should i do? and how should i? Im confused and he is always on my mind and i dont want him too like any other girl. O yeah i cant text him or facebook him because him and his sister share a phone and he doesnt have myspace or facebook or anything like that (link)
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if you like him and r to shy to tell him when you are around him and getting ready to leave give him a note that tells him how you feel in the next time you talk or see him you might be suprised of the response you get from him
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I'm 17/f and he's 20/m
We've been going on with some issues lately. He's still confusing me about some stuff if you read my past posts. Lately, I've been hurt. I know he wants to get back on track and find out what he wants to do. He wants our relationship to be hidden from his parents until he's ready, since they do not approve of me. We're limiting the time we see each other so he has space, so seeing each other everyday ended up seeing each other once a week. And once every 2 weeks, which is definitely hard for me. But I agreed to it, he needs time. But then he asked me if I was upset that he's putting other stuff above me. He says that he'll try to see me as much as he can, like see me if he gets off work early and if something he was going to do is canceled. He's not always busy. I'm hurt because I feel like I'm just there as a left over and he'll come to me when "he has time". I don't know what to do, what to say, I'm not sure if it's fair or not. Advice? (link)
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it def not fair i was 17 dating a guy 23 and he didnt want his parents to no til he was ready i went along with it for awhile but to be honest if a guy acts like that ten to one its because he is insecure bout the relationship and your on the back burner my advice find someone that will treat you right n kick the guy to the curve
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I'm fifteen, sophomore. It's been five months since me and this guy I dated for seven months broke up. He was my first boyfriend, first kiss, fingering, hj, and bj... It was a really unhealthy relationship and a super long story but to sum it all up, he really hurt me. He became sooo much a part of me that when we broke up I felt like I had nothing to distinguish myself with anymore. Even now, he doesn't even feel like a person to me, more like a whole part of myself. But its an empty space... We don't talk. Hang out. Nothing. But I still think about him every single day. I sometimes still cry over him... It's just wierd. Because even thoguh I hate him for all the pain and betrayl he put me through I miss him like crazy. And I feel like a different person now that he's gone... And I hate it. I want it to go away SO bad. I just don't understand. It took him days to move on. It's been five months and I'm still hurting. Whats wrong with me?? (link)
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honey he was your first it will always hurt to a point you will ever forget him but you got to tell your self i enjoyed it but now im to newer things and better thiings dont let it keep you down youll find a better guy
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16/f
Alright, first off I have to say I feel stupid for doing this, but strangers do give the best advice because they aren't really biased.
Alright, so I told my best guy friend that I liked him (Which was really awkward because the day before he told me he wanted to go out with my best friend). He didn't exactly reject me, but he didn't exactly accept that either.
So fast forward a couple of weeks and he mentions to me he started talking to my cousin quite a bit. Three days later he's dating my cousin. Not to be rude (and it's not because she's dating him) she's kinda a whore and doesn't seem like the type he'd be into at all.
So after this happened I decided to get over it. It's been half a month and I'm nowhere near moving on. Every freaking time I log into Facebook, or hang out with my friends I see/hear something about their relationship and it's like 'Stabby stab stab stab!'.
I don't get it. He and I have been friends for over a year, I've known him for about four years because our older sisters are friends. We've never been more than friends, so why can't I just get over it? Yes, I care for him. Who wouldn't care for their friends?
I'm just confused I suppose. He's not the hottest guy in school, far from it actually. He's not what I'm usually attracted to. I love his personallity though, and he's really quirky. It's something I love about him. He's not afraid to act weird or crazy because that's who he is.
I don't know. I don't even know what my question really is. I just need advice. (link)
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its easy to fall for a friend but sometimes friend actually means friend nothing more. sometimes you think you like someone cause you been friends for along time but actually you dont want them to date other people cause your affraid the friendship wont be the same or you will lose them. this guy doesnt like you from how it sounds so you need to be his friend and move on
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my bf dumped me because i wouldn't say i love him...its a long story but the short of it is that a while back a guy really hurt me and ever since then i've dated lots of guys, but never loved them. its never been a problem before even for this guy i dated 7 months. but he is obsessed with me and he knew about how i am but randomly it got brought up and yea..were done now. since then i just cant stop crying over it and i never cry..i'm so hurt and i don't know what to do. i need advice a.s.a.p cause just writing this is making me cry again:( (link)
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It sounds like he aint theonly one having feelings. every one gets hurt bad i was n a 3 year relationship in loved this guy with all my heart and he cheated and everything else but you cant let the pass effect your future if you do you will never be happy if i were yoou id tell the guy im sorry and you do have feelings for him or you do love him getting hurt is apart of life no matter what you cant run from it
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Is it a good idea to pursue a high school relationship during senior year? I can't predict the future of this relationship, whether or not it will last, but in all likelihood we will be separated by college. I'm going on to college and the girl is still going to be in high school. Is it worth it? (link)
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high school relationships can work but it depends on her personality and yours i mean you might sit and wonder who shes hanging out with why she missing your calls stuff like that because if you wonder that sorta thing you should just try to find someone else
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My girlfriend and I have been dating for 8 months. She's a nice girl but I don't have those feelings of love for her. I've been trying to wait it out, thinking that I'd start to feel the magic sometime, but it ain't happening. She's really into me and I'm just not into her. She's nice and all but that's about it. How can I dump my girlfriend without hurting her? I know I need to let my girlfriend down easy but how? (link)
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If I guy wanted to break up with me Id want him to say something like this....its been a great couple of months and i like you but i think i like you more as a friend im not trying to hurt you but i dont want to lead you on either so can we still be friends?
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Okay so I've had a crush on this boy brian pretty much since the day I met him.. which was about a year and a half ago..we've been hooking up for the past year on and off..sometimes drunk sometimes sober.. I really want to ask him how he feels toward me because I honestly don't believe its solely physical..how do I go about asking? I need it to be casual, I'm so nervous! Thanks (link)
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If it's been a year and aaa alf and he hasnt mentioned to you about being commited then it sounds like your eing played so you need to plain out ask him is this all for sex or do u actually like me
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I have a HUGE crush on this guy but he's gay is it possible to turn a gay guy staight and if so how? (link)
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Honestly if he's gay then he has already made up his mind but maybe show him that your into him and see how he reacts if he acts interested go for it
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What do you talk about after sex? I mean right after too like while your still lying there. I just feel like it would be really awkward. Like now what? Are there any topics that are generally more appropirate for the situation then others?
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after sex it's hard to come up with something to talk about my advice crack a joke to lighten the mood or tell him how great that thing he did to you was.
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