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Is this fair?
I'm 17/f and he's 20/m
We've been going on with some issues lately. He's still confusing me about some stuff if you read my past posts. Lately, I've been hurt. I know he wants to get back on track and find out what he wants to do. He wants our relationship to be hidden from his parents until he's ready, since they do not approve of me. We're limiting the time we see each other so he has space, so seeing each other everyday ended up seeing each other once a week. And once every 2 weeks, which is definitely hard for me. But I agreed to it, he needs time. But then he asked me if I was upset that he's putting other stuff above me. He says that he'll try to see me as much as he can, like see me if he gets off work early and if something he was going to do is canceled. He's not always busy. I'm hurt because I feel like I'm just there as a left over and he'll come to me when "he has time". I don't know what to do, what to say, I'm not sure if it's fair or not. Advice?
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it def not fair i was 17 dating a guy 23 and he didnt want his parents to no til he was ready i went along with it for awhile but to be honest if a guy acts like that ten to one its because he is insecure bout the relationship and your on the back burner my advice find someone that will treat you right n kick the guy to the curve
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Ugh! Excuse me.
If someone is ashamed of you because his precious parents don't approve, then wasting your precious time isn;t worth it.
And you gotta show him, that it isn't only him who is busy.
Whenever he calls, tell him you got other important things to do.
Don't give him control over you, that is not FAIR.
Show him where he stands and THATS IT.
Good Luck =]
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The only one who can decide if his expectations are fair or not is you.
If you can bare with them, and think they are reasonable, then that's okay.
If you think he is being unreasonable, and you cannot bare with the situation he wants for your relationship, then it isn't fair to either of you to go on pretending it's okay when it isn't.
Maybe you aren't sure yet if you can live with this or not. It's okay to still be making your mind up about that.
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