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My girlfriend and i are 16 we've been together 7 months we are still virgins we have talked about sex
i'm still nervous about it not sure if i'm ready my penis is not that big i am worried that i may not measure up do girls care about penis size? (link)
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If you're not sure if you're ready, tben WAIT!
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Well im a 15 year old male and i'm gay i've known for a couple of years now i have spent time talking to girls but i'm only attracted to guys i haven't told anyone yet it is normal to be gay? (link)
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There's nothing wrong at all with being gay.
nor·mal
/ˈnôrməl/
Adjective
Conforming to a standard; usual, typical, or expected.
Noun
The usual, average, or typical state or condition.
Synonyms
adjective. regular - standard - ordinary - common - usual
noun. normality - normalcy - perpendicular
Most people would consider it to not be normal because our society has problems accepting people for who they are now a days. But normal's not always the best thing for people. Just because something's not normal doesn't mean it is bad. I think you should try talking to someone about this that you really trust and will help support you. I hope everything turns out okay. If you need anymore help or have anymore questions, I'm here to help. xoxo
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My prob is that i like a guy but not sure if he likes me... our parents know each other for the past 10 years... though i haven't seen him or talked to him a lot, i have just seen him twice. The only thing we do is have a couple of silly fights through social networking site. i cant tell him that i like him as im afraid what he would think of me n that the relationship between our parents n between us wud end forever. I keep on thinking of this guy n unable to concentrate on anything. Can any1 pls advice me on this ? (link)
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You should tell him how you feel about him.I know your worried about affecting the relationship you already have with not just him but also his parents. The truth is your most likely to grow older and regret that you didn't tell him your feelings about him than if you did. The worst I could see happening is he doesnt like you back and things are a little awkward for a while but theyll go back to normal. i strongly encourage you to tell him your feelings.
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I'm 13yrs and a female duh, and I want a boyfriend, my friends make up bfs caz i never see pics and I want 2 be the 1st of me frineds 2 have a hot, sexy bf, what do I do to get a boyfriend? (link)
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What you need to do to find a boyfriend is to BE YOURSELF and not worry about finding a boyfriend since you're only 13 yrs old! Enjoy being single if it's the last thing to do and just keep your eyes wide open and don't go for looks go for personality and kindness because he's not gonna look the same in 10 years
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I know it's kind of personal but how did you know when you were in love? What things did you notice? Do you feel good knowing you were in love? How old were you the first time you were in love?
I am using these answers to help figure out my own feelings. Thank you! (link)
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I'm 13 and I think im inlove but to many love is different like people may say at 13 it's not love or at 70 it's not love but you can be any age to be inlove. I'm inlove with my boyfriend because I think about him all the time and get butterflys around him but for you, you may not do the sane as me. Hope I helped answer your question
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I am 20 years old, female and my boyfriend is 46! We have been together for almost a year and a half. My parents are forcing me to break up with him! And are taking everything away from me untill I do. like my truck, phone, and are going to kick me out. I just started a minume wage job and can't afford these on my own yet! Not sure what I should do? (link)
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First sit down with your parents and think about this decision. How far do you thin this relationship will go? Are you truly in love? Do you think he means all the love for you? This guy is close to 50 and you're only 20!! That means he's more than doubled your age which most of the time won't work out. You have your whole life ahead of you. Do you really see being with him your whole life? I justthink it could be hard. But talk about it with your parents and ask tut self these questions. Think ahead! Xoxo good luck
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I just recently started dating this guy, and I don't know if he wants to kiss me. I've never kissed anyone yet and I'm in 6th grade (don't hate) so if he tried to kiss me, I won't know how! How do I know if he wants to kiss me? (link)
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I'm in 7th grade and I haven't had my first kiss yet but trust me you'll know what to do and how to do it when that time comes. Just let it be natural and enjoy it but dont force it.
Xox
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if zach is my boyfriend then what is a good nickname for him (link)
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Specific ones for Zach is like Zacky, Zach-o, zachery, zachhon. But common ones are like babe,honey, sweetie, cutie, baby or pumpkin. If you wanna go unique there's like Sugar, pumpkin pie and sweet stuff like that.
Hope I helped
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Y do boys always have the attention on asking me out or asking me to be with him??... (link)
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When a boy asks girl a girl out, he's not just doing it because he wants a girlfriend (unless over the phone or computer) he's probably nervous and really likes you a lot that he had the guts to ask you out face to face. It's a big deal for him.
I hope I helped you a little, though it was hard to see what you were asking
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How can I not be shy around a guy that I like and that doesn't like me because I'm really shy! How can I change!!! (link)
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You don't need to change. Being shy is totally fine. First I want to say that people should accept you for you and if they don't, it's not meant to be.
Lots of people dealt with shyness so letnme give you some tips.
-Be confident
-Say stuff you actually know andnot stuff you will screw up on.
-Be flirty/cute
-Remember that everyone may feel the same as you
-Reach out for others
Good luck, hope I helped
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well i am 14 and female and i am so afriad to just kiss a guy , i don't know why i just am so scared i will suck at it or mess it up , everyone around me is kissing their boyfriends and i want t kiss mine but i have the fear of being bad
any tips or advice to help me out would be so great
thanks:) (link)
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Let me tell you that there is not "right"or "wrong" way to kiss. You just need someone special to do it with and it should be enjoyable. But at 14 you have many years to go. Lots of people havent had their firs kiss and many are afraid to but truth is it can't be pressured and you just got to do it. My friend was 11 when she had her first kiss with this guy and then they went out but idk if they still are.
good luck
Ps. Dont let anyone get in the way and dont bite his lip cause that can be a turn off your first kiss.
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X---- im not even going to think of him any more he is a 2 faced dick and i dont even know if i want to be his friend. This weekend i was at a friends house and the guy i like and my friend are ex bf/gf and they were texting each other all fucking weekend and he was asking her if she still liked him and she said maybe and he said he still liked her OMFG.. he flurts with so many girls its sick ..so im just gonna ignore him for the rest of the months we have left of school (link)
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You don't need to ignore him but you can but it won't help anything. I say you just beware of him and remember what has happened and use what you know for the past.
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no he likes this 8th grader on our bus and shes ugly but i guess he likes her. i wish none of this happened, i wish it would all go away. now i'm jealous and i cant help it . on the bus he sat with me and as soon as her seat was open he left to sit with her i wanted to scream. it mad me sad i don't want to like him anymore . what am i soposed to do i cant stand it. (link)
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Trust me in a few month he'll get over her. Just be your self and enjoyntime with friends. Talk to him and tell him how you feel he isn't being a good friend, if that's how you feel. Find someone else then move back to him whn you're ready.
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X----- now hes saying he doesn't like me. what the hell is wrong with guys are they that stupid that they don't know the meaning i like u to. i don't really care anymore maybe ill go lesbian hah aha just kidding:) but seriously guys are so fucked up ... i guess that's what i get for liking a guy that gos out with a different girl every week. (link)
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Awww I'm so sorry! This hapened to me too. I really did think he liked you but I dont get why he told you if it wasn't true maybe he's embarassed.
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X- well my my friend on the bus said that she saw our texts and he went tosome girl and put his arm around her (link)
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She may be not telling the truth? But it's possible. Just watch out!
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X---- well to day he did even talk to me. and when i got off the bus my friend was going to say something but then he put his arm around another girl:( . i don't know what to do because were not dating but we like each other, what do i do i was a little hurt when she told me that he did that i don't know what to feel. (link)
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Do you know for sure he put his arm around that girl? This could mean three things.
1.) He likes you and that other girl.
2.) it was a dare or he was doing it to be silly
3.) He lied to you
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OK today was the best day ever ... today he was hugging me and stuff on the bus and when i got off i and then he started texting me. and he asked if i liked him and i said i don't know and i asked why would he want to know, and then he said he was just wondering. after that i told him i was pissed and he asked y and i told him it was because i hate when guys say that. then he said sorry and asked if i liked him again, but then i asked him if he liked me. and he said i asked u first so i told him yes i did and he told me he likes me to but he doesn't want a girl friend right now and so were still best friends and its all good ll i love the way it happened i was jumping around the house waiting for him to text back loll it was so awesome i think when ever he wants a girlfriend hes going to ask me :) ha ha i'm so nervous to see him tomorrow
but i cant wait
:? thanks so much for the great advise (link)
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That's so sweet! Wish things were that simple for me well I could make them simple but I just am picky. I thought he liked you :) Im so glad everything worked out and you're very wlecome. Let me know how things go. And if you inbox meagain but a "X" at the beginning so I know it's you and don't get confused :)
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So, me and my boyfriend go to different schools.
He plays soccer so basically he plays every Saturday.
He says he wants to see me already, and so do i.
My mom knows about him but hasn't met him.
So what would be a good way and productive way that we can spend time? Another thing, im Mexican and i speak both Spanish and English, but since i was 5 i mostly spoke English. But hes more of a Spanish person, should i mist speak Spanish, or ty to speak english around him? (link)
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Go see a movie together, go out to dinner with him, go to a school basketball or football game, gonto one of his soccer games. Anything is nice as long as youare with him. As for the language I say you speek what you both have been speaking to eachother.
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hi 20/f him 19/m
ok so me and my ex broke up cause he said he doesnt love me any more. i still really love and care about him. before we broke up we talked and agreed that we would still stay friends. it has been like 6 months since we broke up and we would talk every day. i have really bad depression issues and tend to get really down on myself and tell him what i am thinking and most of the time it will end up with us fighting. and about a week ago we ended up getting into another fight and he said it would be best if we dont talk any more and if we do that we just stay friends and nothing more. but since then he hasnt texted me and if i ask if he hates me he wont answer and no matter how mant times a say im sorry it doesnt seem to change anything so my question is should i text him or give it like another week and see if he messages me and if he doesnt should i message him. i still really love him and care about him and even after we broke up he still cares about me but not like i care about him. he is my best friend and the only person i truly trust and i dont want to lose him. what should i do. sorry its so unorganised im not very good at expressing my feelings (link)
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If you truely love him, let him go, if he comes bck to you then you guys are meant to be. Let him think bout things and wait some time as I thinkhe may be sad or mad about this too. The best thing to do right now is to let him be and move on.
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13/f, bf/16
The other day I gave my boyfriend a blow-job cuz he normally asks me for one, but this time after I was done he asked me if I wanted to have sex and I said no cuz I know i'm not ready. Now he won't stop asking me and he'll try to like touch me in my private place,kiss my kneck and put his hand up my shirt. How do I tell him I don't want to have sex with him in a way he will stop asking and touching me. (link)
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Be completely honest and tell him that you are not ready for sex yet. Nobody should be touching you there so tell him to stop! Tell him how you feel about this!
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