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Okay, my b/f and I have been going out for almost 4 months now. Before we went out we were really good friends. I like him a lot and I know that he likes me a lot too. But I feel like I'm always looking and flirting with other guys. I'm kind of getting bored with our relationship I guess. What I'm asking is if I should stay in the relationship .. and if anyone has any suggestions for what I should do ? I don't want to hurt him or our friendship.
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its normal to get bored in a relationship and feeling like you need to date other people and it wouldnt hurt to date other people just make sure your b/f knows that and try to see if there is any real reason that you shouldnt date him anymore and talk to him that always helps
hope i helped
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Theres this guy that i thought i liked. I liked him to. Well Today we had an arguement.Becuase i had told one of his friends that i didnt want to talk to him anymore. Well my friend told him, so then he knew. Ok. so today he calls me and ask why i dont want to talk to him anymore? i actually thought like, wow he cares enough to call me and ask. that must mean something right? i dont know, but anyways so i tell him why because he doesnt call me or take the time to IM me or anything. so he tells me why, and the reasons kind of personal, but trust me it was a good reason. so of course i let it go. so then he tells me. well i love you, and stupid me i said it back. ok so it seems like everythings good and all right? but wrong. later today we decided to hang out with my friends shawn and derek, well shawn and derek have been my friends since ever. their some of my really really good friends.so when im around them, i dont know its just crazy . so we were hanging out at my house and stuff. me shawn derek and the guy im in love with {kyle}. so kyle i guess isnt very good at trying to fit in the conversations i guess. i mean you really cant especially since me shawn and derek like nonstop crazineess. but anyways so we were hanging out, and to kyle i guess he saw it as me flirting with them bc we were laughing over stupid things and talking about some peverted stuff. i thought it was funny, well kyle i guess didnt like it so much. cause he didnt talk the entire time. neither did he laugh. so what am i suppose to do? im not going to be like beggin him to join in the conversation. so w/e. so kyle decided to go upstairs and hang with my brothers. well since me and shawn and derek are practically drunk, we werent drinking though we were just laughing at the stupidest things, bc we havent gotten together this whole entire break yet so there was alot to talk abot. but w/e. so were laughin like really retarded. and kyle tells my brother that i have the most annoying laugh, and the gayest laugh ever. and hearing this i was like wtcrap?? like i mean its something completely stupid. but since i care so much about him, it reallyhurts even though its something totally dumb. im just really hurt, bc at first he said that he loved me then he was just talking behind my back? i dont know but im really depressed right now. i know its kinda my fault bc i wasnt giving him attention and stuff, but thier my friends im not going to just dump them.but it really hurts to hear something like this from him. what should i do? (link)
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guys will say anything to get attention from you... hes feeling left out so hes trying to gain attention back from your guy friends because he feels a little jealous and boys arent as mature or emotional as girls so they dont understand that their words can hurt they just say the first thing that will pop up into their mind without thinking if it will jeopardize their relationship or hurt their girlfriend's feelings.... he probably didnt mean it but you should really talk to him and see if there's a way he can get to know your friends so that he wont feel so left out
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ok so theres this guy his name is blake. he loves me, i love him.. and i seriously mean love. and we've gone out before, but i broke it off because i didnt want a b/f at the time. but i know he still loves me, and i think he knows i still love him. but the thing is he doesnt understand that i dont want a b/f right now. and im scared to lose him because hes the one for me and im the one for him, but im scared if i dont go out w/him soon then it will all be over and he will end up not wanting to wait for me....so wat should i do??? and i dont want to lose him.
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being 13 youre probably feeling a lot of pressure so you should kind of cool it off because youre only 13 and being in love is not easy and im not saying it wont last but just dating one person and not checking other people is not wrong and if you two really love each other then you would take that chance to see who is else there is in the world. and if he really loves you then he wont have no problem respecting your decision about taking some time out. if he doesnt wanna wait for you its his lost and i know you dont wanna lose him and its going to hurt but that happens and you would have to move on and try finding someone new and im not trying to be hard or nothing but i hope this helps a little
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ok there is this guy that i like but he is like 2 years younger than me cause im 15 and he is 13 and i dont know if i should go out with him cause it would be kinda weird cause we go to separt schools and the age difference so should i give him a change anyway ?? (link)
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everybody deserves a chance and if you think he is the type you would want to date and he feels the same way then go for it and dont let nobody tell you any differently because its between you and him its none of their business
besides age aint nothin but a number
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There is a guy named John I recently met who has really taken a liking to me. We've gone on a couple of dates, we get along well and I know that he'd probably be very good for me, but of course, I'm still hung up on my ex, Tom. What's more, Tom and I are still kind of seeing each other, too. We've decided to just go with the flow and seeing what happens, rather than just jump back into something or decide against it.
I made this clear to John on our first date so that I would not be maliciously leading him on. This didn't change John's stance at all and he still seems to want to pursue me. Even though I've told John everything, am I still leading him on by talking to him on the phone and texting him a lot? John and I haven't even so much as kissed but I still want to be careful about this. (link)
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if youre still feeling your ex think of the reason why you two broke up and see if theres a way you can solve the situation and if you cant then just be friends with tom its probably for th best
as far as john if youre not trying to lead him on make it real clear to him that youre just looking for a friend right now so he wont be urging to kiss you or do something that might make you feel uncomfortable just tell him that things are very complicated and you have to settle it and starting another relationship will only make it more complicated but tell him that you still enjoy hanging out with him if you still do
follow your heart is all i really say about it and i hope everything works out for you
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well were do I start me and my x had broken up because I'm not allowed to go out with guys and my mom found out so I broke up with him.well I found out that he was messing around with some other girls,but I didn't get mad cause we weren't together and cause I broke up with him when he still wanted to be together.well when I text message him he still tells me he loves me and still calls me babe and stuff like that.well now every time I text him he never has time for me.he's either to busy or he's eating or doing something and I feel like he doesn't care he wants to get back together,but when he tells me I love you I'm hearing it but I'm not seeing it,and it hurts.I feel like crying cause he's just dissing me,and it makes me feel like sh*t.so what I desided is not to call him or text him and just pretend I don't know him.but why his he doing this?I will rate a 5 just please give me good advice and it will be nice to get advice from a guy who does it.I just want to know why do you do it? (link)
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girl dont worry boys are jerks and they cant be anything but it... he keeps telling you he loves you because he wants you to stay by him and put you on hold but nobody can be put on hold you dont have to ignore him but you shouldnt waste your time on somebody who is only trying to hurt you and make you feel this way you should find somebody else who makes you feel good and you're comfortable around. yea i know guys are gonna make you cry make you mad make you feel like the world is coming to the end but its a guy thing i guess i cant really speak for them about why they are jerks but they are and the best way to handle it is moving on and trying to find somebody who will treat you right...
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I have alot of stuff on my mind lately. A little over a month ago, me and this guy (we'll call him Ed) broke up. We were together for 5 months. They were best 5 months of my life, but at the same time the worst. I've tried for a whole month to get over him and move on. I was "talking" to this other guy (we'll call him Bob). Four days ago, I had sex with him. Now it turns out, at the same he was "talking" to me, he was "talking" to two other girls. Now, this other guy (we'll call him George) wants to go out with me and I think I may have led him on. Not purposely. See, i thought I was finally ready for "commitment"..an actual boyfriend. But I'm not. I just want to have fun. I'm almost positive I'm in love with Ed, and I'm never going to forget Bob. I need to stop hanging out with Bob because he's been lying to me. But I can't, it's like I'm addicted to him. I have feelings for him but in a different way. It's like I just want us to be "friends with benefits". Tonight, George is supposed to come over but I'd rather sit at home alone and think about everything. So I have to tell him I don't want a boyfriend. I need advice (obviously). What should I do about Ed? Should I stop hanging out with Bob or just talk to him about it? How do I tell George I don't want to be with him, or anyone..for a long time? If someone could give me their AIM screen name, that'd be appreciated. I need someone, other than my friends, to talk to. (link)
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ok girl you shouldnt have to choose you can deal with a boyfriend youre on time and nobody should rush you
if you still have feelings for ed then talk to him because he might feel the same way too but if you dont want to embarrass yourself if he doesnt feel the same way then just try to be good friends with him before you let him know
dont keep letting bob use you like that dont let him sleep with you and then talk to other girls making love should be sweet and special not something that he does to get over somebody (not trying to be really mean) but you gotta let him be your friend because you dont wanna get hurt
trying talking to george and see where he is in the picture and in your heart
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so i like this guy from camp and he lives like 2 hrs away from me. like i want to call him and everything but im really shy and i wouldnt know what to say. can you help me think of topic to talk about or some way i can get over my shyness?
thanks
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you can talk about anything that you have done at camp and whatever happened there and then get into the subject about family and friends and you can find out a little bit more about him and see what he's doing/done for the holidays and then go from there im sure it'll be easier after that i hope i helped...
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Hey I was just wondering well, you see...my boyfriend && i have been going out for 1 month or so and we are not as close as we could be. I'm crazy about him and as far as i know he's crazy about me. But I wanted to know if there was little random things maybe i could do to show him i love him, you know? Another problem is, he hasnt even kissed me yet but he always bothers my best friend and her boyfriend because they kiss everyday. I would sort of like to take a step forward because i like him alot but i dont want to be the first to kiss him. If you guys have any ways i could sort of hint at him that'd be soo great. Thanks in advance
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boys will always be a step behind on relationships no matter how many chicks they've been with.... all you have to do is get a little closer to him or lay on his shoulder hinting him to put his arm around you and then look into his eyes and you go for it and im sure he will kiss you back..... hope i helped
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I have bit of problem but then again since I'm asking a question I guess thats obvious.
15/F. (16 in a couple months)
There is this guy Marcus, who likes me and I guess I like him. Lately my feelings for him have diminished but anyways he has a girlfriend now but he still says he loves me and all that. (I don't understand guys who say they love you when they don't even know what it means)
At the beginning of December I had a dream that sort of disturbed me and didn't make sense but its become constant now. I have it almost every night.
basically I'm taking a walk and I run into Marcus making out with a girl and I'm shocked, hurt and angry at the same time but when I turn around someone is right there and puts their arms around me and reasures me everything is alright. I know this person is a guy because of his cologne. he's in this brown/tan trenchcoat and I finish crying he goes out and beats up Marcus. (its a dream. I have to have my revenge) Then comes back and puts his arms around me a takes out to the car so no one can ask questions. When were out there we've been talking for sometime, I think and then this person says he loves me and I realize I love him too. We kiss and I wake up. The most desturbing part of the dream is that its my best friends' little brother. He's two years younger then me, 13. I mean this kid is very nice, and matture for his age but its no reason for me to be dreaming about him in such ways. I keep telling myself I don't like him. That its not right to like him but for some reason I constantly think about him. I'm really disgusted with myself. I don't even care that he's my best friends' little brother so much as the age. I feel stupid.
I've told my friend about my dream and she sees no problem with it. I can't get her to understand that there is something wrong with me.
Now my real question is, How the hell do I get myself to quit dreaming about him? I try listening to music before I go to bed, and think about anything but him yet it still doesn't work.
Any suggestions would be great.
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there is nothing wrong with you a lot of people always have a crush on their best friend's siblings.... its normal so dont worry
sometimes if you experience your dream then it will go away ive done it before and it kind of works you dont have to ask him out on a date that would be weird just try to talk to him a little without him thinking you like him if you dont and see what he's like for boyfriend material if you like what you see try to convince him to go on a real date and maybe it would turn out right
the other guy i know exactly what you mean about them telling you they love you saying you're beautiful or sexy and just trying to trap you into their silly compliments when they know they got a girl on the side but its normal for fellas they wanna be pimps but they cant be a pimp without a second lady/chick/hoe (not callin' you one) so dont be the second chick
well i hope im helping and i hope everything turns out all right
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So this Saturday is prom and I am going with the guy I like. What is some small ways I could let him know that I like him like what can I do? Thanks! (link)
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well he seems to like you already if he's going with you to the prom. act like you're already going together. don't scare him but try to be nonchalant and sweet, around him. have a good time and don't spend all your attention upon him, just get him to really take notice. a few drinks, slow dances, laughs, like you're friends, just be more flirty.
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K today this guy i like , came up to me and hugged me. He held me for atleast 5 minutes. Then when we got of the buss after school, he kept huggin me, and he asked me if he could hold my hand , and i said yes. So he did, then he asked if he could kiss me , and i didnt know what to say. So i kept quiet. Then my friends walked me home from their house, and he followed us. My friends are saying he likes me, but I dont think he does. What should i do?!?!?!?! i rate high. Please help. oo and hes 15/m and im 14/f (link)
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Yeah girl, he likes you. If he wants to hold your hand and kiss you and hugs you all the time, he definitely likes you. If you like him, then show some signs.
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This boy admitted to liking me a while ago and I have recently told him I think we should just be friends. He wanted to go out with me during the summer. He doesn't listen and I think I need to run it by him again in different words...will this do?...."I need to talk to you, about this summer, I have to be honest, I don't think we should go out because I like you but not in that way and I don't think it will work out. You deserve someone who can return your affections for them. I just want to be fair with you. I'm sorry, but I want to be upfront." What do you think? and also, if u have anymore advice feel free to share the love. (link)
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you don't need to lead him on anymore, that's for sure. maybe you should tell him gently if he's a sensitive person. if he a pimp, honey, he ain't gon miss you. but this type of thing ain't all that complicated. it's just the right words you need to find. however you say them, just make sure it doesn't make you feel bad or break his heart. good luck and god bless
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i've liked this kid from a different town for like half a year but i didnt realize it until recently. he started acting really flirty and i started to like him more. and then i told him about a week ago. i havent really talked to him much since, he hasnt really been online. one of my friends says maybe his computer crashed or something, because he was really nice and wouldnt just avoid me but i dont know. any help? (link)
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guys tend to be scared during relationships. maybe he just liked being friends with you. you didn't scare him off i dont think. but i do think that you should find a way to straighten this out. but if he's really ignoring you this hard, you dont need him
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I like this guy ALOT!!! He is really sterling. We've hugged and held hands but, I don't know how much he likes me or if he likes me at all. We havent been going out for long. I've tryed calling him but, he's grounded. Female,13
Please may I have only guys ansering this guestion! Thanks! (link)
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he's gotta like you, cause if he didn't he wouldnt be your boyfriend. take it slow. starting off a relationship isn't easy. he'll come through, im sure.
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I want this guy to like me but I dont want him to know that I like him I kinda want to play hard to get I have gone out with him several times. So I wanna make him fall 4 me so bad what should I do?
~Urs truley~
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that's easy. act like you don't care. not so much but some so he will notice that you're messing with his head. guys like that. then ignore him and be really short. the shorter they are the more they wanna talk to you. then act like your better than him. it may seem weird, but it breaks the ice. it might also help if you act like you're noticing him and see if he's noticing you and ignore him until he says something to you. hope i helped.
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I have been involved with "Louie" for a while now and his family has been going through some really hard times. I have been there for him, and have even help his family to raise money for some of the problems they are having. Once everything settled down, everyone sort of turned on me. I have helped them financially, and emotionly. Now, they are accusing me of stealing money. I have never taken anything from them, and never would. When I was growing up, I was always taught to work for everything, nothing in life comes free. Before this situation "Louie" told me that he loved me and that he would never turn his back on me. I realize now, that he is listening to all the gossip that his family and friends are telling him. He hasn't even given me the chance to tell him how I feel. I live a few houses down from him, and it is very painful to pass by his house, knowing that he is home, and probably talking about me. My family says to just let him go and don't see him anymore, my heart is telling me to run over there and talk to him and straighten out this problem. I haven't seen him in about a week, so I guess I'm listening to my family. My question, should I go and see him and defend myself, or do I just forget him and let it all go? (link)
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Don't let it go. You should follow your heart. Go talk to him and maybe he will understand. Your parents are trying to keep your heart from breaking. And I don't know what's the deal with his folks. But if you really care about him then you should definitely talk to him. You might not get what you want out of it, but at least you know you said something.
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I'm 17 and I have started going out with someone a few days ago. I have liked him for awhile and before we started going out he was messing around with another girl but promised me he had called it off with her. I want to believe and I'm trying to trust him, but this weekend I went camping and I tried calling him to say hi but he wasn't home so I called his best friend wondering what he was doing but he wasn't with him. He finally called me back and said he had been driving around but he wouldn't tell me with who. I'm scared that he was with the other girl. And also at school I show affection to my b/f's but not alot to smother them. He doesn't show any affection at all except when we quickly kiss before I leave for class. I know we just started dating but he shows all this affection for me when were alone but none if someones around. What do I do? please help me.
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It sounds to me that he's kind of shy around other people. Some guys don't like other people to be all in they business when they with they girl, you know? I mean I'm sure he cares and wants to be with you. I don't know how your boyfriend is, but I'm guessing he's just like almost every other guy that has a girl. He just likes to be all mushy around you when you two are alone. I don't know--I don't think he's with the other girl, but I do think if it's bothering you that he's not showing enough love in public, you really need to talk to him. Hope I helped some.
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i have a boyfriend and he nevers calls or any thing with his old girlfriend he would call every day but when i call hes never home and we never hang out with his old girl friend thay would always hang out but his friends say he really likes me but then one only ONE of his friends say he doseint like me wut should i do dose he like me?:( (link)
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grl, you need to confront him and ask him whats up. tell him how you're feeling and you're not cool with him spending so much time with his ex and not you. ask him whats the deal
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I am 16 and in high school. I like this guy who is a year older than me. I really like him and for awhile he led me to believe he liked me too. My school ring dance is coming up and I asked him to go with me. He said that he had to probably work so I said ok. Monday night I went out with him and two other guys to Hooters. (lol)I rode with his best friend and I asked him what was up with him. He told me that Chris (changed his name)was just Chris and he didn't know what to tell me. I try not to bother Chris to much so it doesn't look like I'm desperate or anything, but I really like him. His friend told me that he's "talking" to another girl at his school (we go to different schools). I didn't know if I should believe him but the whole time we were at Hooters Chris acted like I wasn't there and completely ignored me. I am out of ideas on what to do. If he hasn't figured out I like him by now then I don't know what to do. Can anybody tell me what to do? I know most people are gonna say get over him but I really like him and I have tried to get over him...please tell me what to do. (link)
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i've been in the same position where i liked a guy and he ignored me. but it seems like your friend is afraid of commitment to you. and you have to talk to him about it. im sure he'll listen if you say the right thing.
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