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Q: whats leading them on means? is that also means a player?

im from jamaica

It depends. A player would be leadign on a good number of people.

Leading someon on is making someone think that you like them romantically, when infact you don't. You are toying with their feelings for your own fun.

Q: Ok so im only 13 but im in love i've been with this guy he's 15 i've known him since i was 3 he asked me to marry him because he said he loves me what should i do

Your thirteen. You shoul be worried about starting to use make up, not marriage.

And sorry hunny, but love (as evil as it may ound) doesn't happen at thirteen.

You'll laugh about this later. Don't agree to marriage until you are at least 25.

Q: so ive been dating this guy for almost 8 months now..i love him with all my heart..but lately we've been fighting a lot..well not really fighting but argueing not gettin along to well..i try to say stuff like why it could be and just my opionon and the situtation but he doesnt like to listen...i need some new ideas..wut should i do so we can get along good again

You might wanna pick up this book i've been reading. He would listen if he cared enough to listen. Although, it sound sharsh, it's actaully really liberating.

Pick up "He's Just Not That Into You" by Greg Behdrent.

It's like. The greatest piece of literature ever.

Q: there is this boy that i like...and he likes me...but he isnt looking for a girlfriend right now...he just wants me and him to be "friends with benifits"......what does that mean?...... but it seems like i want more than that....when we are alone he acts like we are boyfriend and girlfriend...but we arent......but when we are at school he doesnt really talk to me that much anymore.......and i want him to........he doesnt give me little sweet kisses, or hugs, or anything like that... someone told me that he is emaressed to be around me and that he doesnt want others to know......but he doesnt seem like that kind of guy...and others are saying that he just wants sex out of me (RUMERS)...i guess i just want to be more than just friends but i dont know how to tell him......because he isnt looking for a girlfriend right know.............
thanks for your helping hands!!!!!!!

baby

I hate to say darling, but as the book says...
He's just not that into you.

Friends with benefits is usually when a guy ad gal angree that they both don't wanna be in a relationship.

This wasn't an agreement, he was just telling you that. It will never become a relationship, because he obviously only wants you for the "booty call" for lack of better term.

Sorry hunny.
I'd dump his ass if I were you.

Q: I like this boy alot and Im guessing he likes me to. We have kissed and he has told people and me that he liked me. I like him alot and I want to go out with him but I`m afraid I`ll never be able to see him, only on weekends and stuff.
I`m afraid that if we go out he will flirt and stuff with other girls sense we wont be with eachother often. I`ve known him for a while and he doesnt seem like a guy who would do that. And if he ever hurt me my brother would kick the shit out of him.

I guess I have two questions.

1)should I go out with him? and should I ask him out sense he hasnt asked me out? If I should ask him out how should I do it? if not how should I get him to ask me out?

2)how can I make it so I can see him more often?

Ok, well, after reading this I see one thing that is going to be more important than the others.

I'm not sure of your age, but the fact is. If a guy is really into you, he WILL make time for you. It is no fun to be sitting at home hoping he will call and want to chill.

If he can't make time for you now, when will he ever be able to? Don't settle for a relationship where you feel like you under appreciated. It's not fair for him to do that to you, and it's not fair to let yourself take that.

Q: if a girl asks a guy to prom, does she pay for both tickets? does the boy traditionally pay, or does each person pay for their own?

Well, in my personal opinion. Look at it this way.

If he had asked you, should he expect you to pay?
No.

But, if he's the right kind of guy, he will pay you for it somehow because that's the polite thing to do.

Q: so me and this guy have been friends for the past year, and we just strated being friends w/ benefits, and he just got a g/f and idk really what to think of it cas like were really tight and its not like i like him like that or any thing but now it's just odd when its us w/ a group of ppl

Looks like feelings for this guy might have been one of the benefits.

The whole idea of FWB is no attachment. Maybe you wish there was?

Q: Well..i am dating this Guy and i really like him and he really likes me and we have kissed a couple of times.. just today he asked me when we would move up and freanch kiss! But the truth is i dont know how..what do i do? sense he already knows i dont know how. he still wants to freanch me..do i go along with him and let him freanch me and dont freach back? or what? plz help..

Once he starts frenching you, you'll realize what you need to do, and I'm sure youll catch on. Kissing is all about copying other people haha. No worries and good luck =).

Q: How do i make a guy like me?? they guy i like told my friend "idk maybe" when she was seeing if he would ever go out with me. what does idk maybe mean? if im not quite there, HOW DO I GET THERE?? Ill rate 5's for good answers.

He's avaioding giving a real answer first off. Second, in my opnion you should never have to MAKE a guy like you. It will naturally come if you guys are supposed to be with eachother. Just hang out with him a lot and be his friend first.

Hope that helps.

Q: I just moved from New Jersey to New Mexico.
I met a really cool kid named Matthew here, and I think that we are close to dating, because we really like each other. The problem is should I tell my ex boyfriend [we're SO close, and we've been best friends for like 7 years, the reason we broke up is because I moved] that I found someone new? & how should I tell him.
Thanks. =P

You don't have to tell him. He is your ex. It's not like your currently dating him. I would let him know about it if the subject comes up. It will make it seem like you still like your ex if you run telling him about the relationship.

Q: my boyfriend dumped me today because he said he was too busy for a gf. My friends think he was using me. We had gone out for 4 months and it was just totally random and unexpected. And i know this sounds a little vague, but what should i do? I cant get him outta my head and he hurt me so much for no reason. He said he loved me more than anybody else =(

Put on your cutest outfit, a cute pari of heels, and go dancing. Have a night out with your girlfriends. Be flirty, be free. Forget the bastard hehe.

Q: what is the difference between being a couple and just dating?

Dating is like, when you go to the make up counter and try on a lips gloss, then wipe it off and try another. No strings attached. A couple? You've found the perfect shade and your putting money down for it.

Yay similes.

Q: I have a problem, I get feeelings for girls more then i do guys. No body knows because i've never told anyone. I just need to know am i a lesbian?

Well, everyone questions their sexuallity at some point. If you find yourself mor attracted to girls, but you still are attracted to boys, you might be bisexual. I would reccomend getting soem advice in Bi Curious chats and forums. Ask how they knew and what made it apparent to them that they were les/bi/gay.

Good luck. =)

Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a week or so now, but beofre we started going out i barely knew him since he went to a diff school and i didnt even think he really knew who i was. I dont feel uncomfortable around him like other ppl when we first start going out but i feel bad when hes with me and my friends and i dont talk. I dont know what to say to him, i always ask him how his soccer game went but that gets really old kinda fast. Hes also not the most talkative around me even though when im not around apparetnly he cant shut up. well in addition to me not knowing what to say, we're doing something this weekend and i have no clue what to do, and when we are actually together i dont want it to be all these awkward silences.

Questions are always the best approach. Questions keep a conversation exciting.

-What other sports do you play?
-What do you enjoy most about them?
-Do you have other hobbies?
-What's your favorite movie?
-What's you favorite kind of music?

Same goes for the lack of things to do. Go places exciting and full of life so you can continue talking. Theme parks, big cities, and concerts are great places to start. Also, going dancing is a great way to stay social as well!

Q: Top ten ways you can tell if a guy like you please. everyone who answers gets a 5 unless its stupid or mean then they get a 1!

You started noticing that he knows little things about you, that most people don't remember or notice.
You catch him eyeing you.
He's constantly finding a subtle way to touch you...hand holding, brushing up against you.
He doesn't forget important dates: birthday, preformances.

Q: 13/f Okay..for the girls you may know what I'm feeling here..

Well do any of you other girls ever really want a boyfriend? Well that's the way I'm feeling..I mean lately I just feel..ugly. I mean no guys at school like me and today a few guys asked me out but I know(at least I think) that they were kidding. And in a few weeks I will be going to Cedar Point with my friend for her birthday and she's bringing two of her guy friends. She's saying that me and her guy friends would make such "cute couples" but I don't know..With my luck, they probably won't like me.

I don't know..I guess I'm just really self-concious about this..When I look at other girls, they are so pretty and it makes me feel like I'm as ugly as dirt.

And all of my friends think I'm pretty but I don't. I think I'm fat and that I'm totally unattractive.

If you need to look, I'm about to go upload a picture of myself onto my advice column

Does anyone know why I'm feeling this way? I understand that it's probably hormones but..

Thanks in advance for any helpful advice.

I feel like this all the time my dear.

One thing you have to ask yourself. When your doing your hair in the morning, getting ready, do you feel ok with yourself when your alone? And when you pull up to school do you then start feeling bad?

Then you know, your ok with yourself. Just think about whether your willing to give up who you are for a guy who (at your age) is a total asshole, who won't be your soul mate anyway.

Hope that helps. Contact me further if you want more help.

Q: Me and my brothers best friend got really involved and I gave him my varginity!! Now I am not allowed to be near him becuase my brother feels that it would hurt me more. The fact was that he used me and I dont hate him. I want to see him so I could tell him how he really made me feel but no one will let me! What should I do? (i am now almost 16 and he is 20)
What should I do? I want him to know how much he hurt ME!

Well, if he was 18 at the time or older, sue him for statutory rape.

BTW, it's spelled virginity.

Q: the thing is, people are telling me my boyfriend is cheating on me ..he has been doing stuff with other people when he went out with other girls.. whenever i talk to him about him cheating on me he always walks away and doesnt talk to me.. i dont know what to do! he says he didnt cheat on me but he lies! what do i do.. i love him so much

If he won't answer the question, there's definitely something up. People who avoid questions, don't have the answer you want to her.

Hope that helps.

Only other suggestion is get some tip offs on where he supposedly takes these "other girls" and try to catch him in the act.

Q: im 15 and i am girl need advice on how do you break up with a guy you have been dating for a year and four months because you dont like him or love him anymore and i dont have an explaination why??...HELP!!..he thinks it because of the hurricane and me loosing everything i had but its not ..my feelings were this way before that..and we are taking a break right now but he doesnt get the terms "TAKING A BREAK MEANS"...and i have basically created a monster..because i never get to hangout with my friends anymore or doing anything but be with him and its getting old and soo is the relationship because he takes it way to seriously considering we are only 15 and 16..he thinks that im "THE ONE" ..and wants to spend forever with me??..and there will never be another girl for him???..soo i need advice on how i should break it to him in a way that it wont hurt him that bad and we can still be friends!!

Well, you just answered you're own question. Your reason for breaking up with him is because you don't seem to be on the same page in the relationship. He has more feeling than you do, you simply don't feel the same.

Q: My friend asked this guy what he thought aboout me, and he wouldn't answer her, he just tried to get away from her.

Does this mean he doesn't like me?

There is always the possiblility that he does, but you can't judge attraction by one simple action. Test the waters even more, talk to him whenever you get the chance. If he is genuinely interested and/or seems to know something interesting things about you already, you may have some puppy love on your hands.

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