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im 15 and i am girl need advice on how do you break up with a guy you have been dating for a year and four months because you dont like him or love him anymore and i dont have an explaination why??...HELP!!..he thinks it because of the hurricane and me loosing everything i had but its not ..my feelings were this way before that..and we are taking a break right now but he doesnt get the terms "TAKING A BREAK MEANS"...and i have basically created a monster..because i never get to hangout with my friends anymore or doing anything but be with him and its getting old and soo is the relationship because he takes it way to seriously considering we are only 15 and 16..he thinks that im "THE ONE" ..and wants to spend forever with me??..and there will never be another girl for him???..soo i need advice on how i should break it to him in a way that it wont hurt him that bad and we can still be friends!!
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Just tell him the truth. And if you end up back together someday then it was meant to be and you really are the one for him, But you will really never know if you are right for eachother if you don't date other people to compare eachother to.
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You should tell him that you just need some space for a while that way he knows that you care about him you just don't want to be with him all the time. Another thing you can do if you don't like that you can also tell him " I think that once in a while we should take some time away from one another and spend some time with our friends." I hope that I helped but if not you can visit me at my column.
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Well, you just answered you're own question. Your reason for breaking up with him is because you don't seem to be on the same page in the relationship. He has more feeling than you do, you simply don't feel the same.
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You really don't need an explanation for how you feel. Sometimes these things just naturally happen.
You need to be forward with him, but try sparing his feelings a little. You need to put your foot down and be the one in charge here. Giving his feelings for you I don't think whatever you say is probably really going to upset him anyway.
Just tell him that your feelings have changed, you still care about him as a person but not really a lover or a boyfriend. Really, tell him you don't think it's fair to you that you don't get to see your friends, and that you don't want to be that serious at your age. You never know what's going to come at you in life.
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*gasp* I THINK I HAS THE SOLUTION!!! I never thought I'd say this to anyone, considering how I'm against it, but I think that you were both infatuated, and now he's just infatuated for a bit longer... infatuation can be extremely strong. Try telling him exactly what you told us? And put in the words "but I hope maybe we can still stay friends" eh? Hope I helped, good luck, no nukes can save the whales!
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Well, I have to give you kudos for realizing that a relationship between a 15 and 16 year old wont last forever. However, I have to say you're pitiful for thinking about his feelings. Forget about his feelings, if you guys break up it'll just be him hanging out with you in hopes you get back together. First it'll start with small comments. Then it will turn into constant phone calls and instant messages. Finally he'll end up outside your window at 4 AM naked and singing love songs to you. My advice, dump him and have him "taken care of".
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Well sweetie its simple.... just be honest, your both young you have the world in front of you its high school you both have more people to meet along in the distant future and if he hates what you tell him then just say get over it you will meet someone new soon!!!!!!!!!!
Good luck bub (: (: (: (: (: (: (: (: (: (: (: (: (: (: (: (: Lots of smiles for you
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15 is pretty young to be tied down that long in a relationship. Especially if you don't want to be in it anymore. I have found a website I think would be more helpful to you than anything I could come up with. Hope it helps.
Hope you are bouncing back ok after hurricane. Good luck to you and your family. :)
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one way or another he is still going to get hurt. no matter what you do. just tell him the truth me be like me feelings for you have changed and i dont feel as strongly about as i used. STOP leading him on. i know YOU wouldnt want him to lead you on like that. tell him you want to carry on a friendship realtionship with him.. dont try to carry on this realitonship if you dont feel like the same way. the longer you wait the worse it will get the harder it will be to do and the more it will hurt him. hope i helped. if you need anything else drop it in my inbox.
*~Stephanie~*
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