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okay.. so im 15/f and my boyfriend 17/m got into a fight last night. see we have been together for a little over 5 months. we have only got into 3 big fights, counting this one.
last night we went to the movies, and then we hung out at his place. i was in a sad/bad mood so i didnt really talk to him all that much, but i got over it and we started talking, then had sex. Well, he has this game on his phone that i like to play.
&& his birthday is next month, and i was going to have a surprise party for him, i told his best friend, so i looked at his texting to see if his friend told him anything about it. and i saw that his friend asked if he was with me and my bf said yea, shes being the usal bitch. i mean, i didnt do anything to called a "bitch". i told him i wanted to go home and on the way home i was crying and stuff. then i got home and we got into a texting fight, and i told him i would never call him any names like that, and then today he was saying how i dont appreciate the things he does for me. and i said im sorry that you called me a bitch and i had sex with you. and he said that he told his friend that before we did anything.
well really theres more to it then that, but i cried all night and today.. am i over reacting?.. i mean i never had a boyfriend that does the things my boyfriend does for me. hes so sweet, and i do notice the things he does for me. i might not show how i love him, but i do, im just really scared of getting hurt like i did in the past... what should i do to show him that im sorry?... or should i even be sorry? (link)
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I kinda think that the person below me is wrong saying that you were basically the wrong one in this looking in his texts. I mean you guys have been together for awhile so it shouldn't be a big deal if you look at eachothers things, especially since you guys care/love eachother and have nothing to hide from eachother. Saying it was wrong of you to do that is like saying that you looked at his texts and found out he was cheating on you, yet 'it was his personal shit and you shouldn't have been looking.' I think you have a right to be upset and you shouldn't apologize because being called a bitch by someone you really care about behind your back hurts and makes you wonder what else they're saying behind your back. I just think that you should have a 'feel good' talk about it, or a calm talk, and try to settle things. Tell me how things goooo
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Okay well i'm 15 and i have been going out with my boyfriend for a little over 4 months now, and i love him with all my heart.. i really do. he's like an amazing boyfriend. he's so good to me. it's just like.. well he's like other guys and i don't understand. he tells me how much he cares about me & stuff but he doesnt show it all the time. we always fight about this & he says i only care about myself.. but i think that like if he cares, why can't he show it?! i mean he does show it.. but not as much as i want. i mean this is my first realllll boyfriend and i know i have very high expectations but idk what to do.. basically i've fallen too too hard for him. every day i cry on the phone with him over stupid things like if he ignores me a few times, or i think he's mad at me but is saying he isn't i'll think he's lying.. or if he forgets to call me especially. i'm so sick of getting hurt. i want to still be in love with him, but i need to stop caring so freaking much.. does anyone know how this is possible? like i tried giving us space & stuff but nothing works my weakness is i care too much... someone help me. (link)
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Haha wow it looks like I wrote this question. Well it's really hard to not care as much, but the most you can do is try. I used to get so upset that I'd threaten to break up with him, but obviously not do it. It's really hard to love someone so much, then stop caring as much..it's almost impossible. I think that after awhile, it'll start to mess with your head..such as all the fighting and crying and whatnot. You'll probably feel like you're starting to lose feelings. Does this guy yell at you a lot for caring and getting upset? I don't know if this question is asking whether to get him to care for you more, or to get you to care less. I think that you need to tell him how it feels like he barely cares about you or just doesn't care about how things are going. Ask him to maybe call you when he says he will, or don't say he'll call at all. Try to get him to make some of the decisions whether to call or not, or talk to you online or whatever. That way, you DEFINITELY should be expecting a call, and that's when you have the right to get somewhat upset. DO NOT give in to him all the time either. You need to have some control in the relationship because what seems to happen when one person cares too much is that they turned whipped. That's when the relationship basically turns to shit because someone gets controlling and you don't want that. I mean it's okay for you to care, because I do the same thing, like cry when I get frustrated with him or when it feels like he doesn't even care about the relationship. It'll be really hard, but try to get a tiny bit less clingy little be little, but if the fighting keeps happening along with the crying, it WILL take its toll and will make you start to lose feelings as unbelievable as it sounds. I hopppppeee I helped a little bit at least lol. Good Luck and tell me how things go :)
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how do you kiss someone ... im afriad i not going to do it right...
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Ok--I know this is going to bother you a little butttt...
it seriously DOES come naturally. I was wicked worried about my first kiss..I thought I was gonna ruin it, do it wrong, etc. Once it happens, it just happens. Just don't stress it much and you'll be fine.
And yes, when people say it comes naturally, it ticked me off too because I was like "Well I don't know how to do it..I just don't so it WONT come naturally!!" but it really did and I wasn't worried about it at all. All you have to do when the time comes is RELAX! hope I helped a little..leave one in my inbox if you need any more help! :)
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well my BF broke up with me 2 weeks ago, i am upset that he did that and i miss him a lot but i'm still going out and gettin on with things.
my question is, is it right for me to look for a new BF now, when i'm still thinking about my ex? or should i wait? (link)
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It really depends on what you think. But how I htink about it is that HE broke up with you so it's your choice not his. Try to get over your ex a little more. I've gone out with a few guys but noticed I still loved my ex a wicked lot. It was really hard to go out with those other boys because he was all i thought about. Just really think on what you should do. Good luck! drop one in my inbox if you need any more help!
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Im 13 and I really want a boyfriend...so to all of you guys...what do you find attractive in a girl..13/f (link)
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OK I'm not a boy but I think what they find attractive at this age are your looks and somewhat your personality. That's just how boys are at this age. To the girl below me,she shouldnt be saying that we're immature and stupid or whatever because she's 14 and I'm almost 14 and it's only a year difference so its not like an "OMG HUGE" age gap. But just try to find a guy that you're interested in and flirt a little with him. If it's possible try to hang out sometime. Hope i helped!
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Would it be possible if a 14 yearold boy would like a 12 year old girl? She's sorta developed for her age. Or is it a waste of time?
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EXACTLY the same with my cousin and her bf. They work out perfectly. Theres nothing wrong with that. Actually, if you think about it, are your parents the same exact age? I know mine arent. So theres nothing wrong with it whatsoever :)
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omg i started crying when this happen so just listen up...ok theres this kid who i went out with 2 times then he broke up with me both times now hes "crawlin back to me beggin for a second chance" and hes makin me feel bad he told me im the only thing on his mind n im like there must be something wrong then because im ugly n theres no reason to like me and hes like your so pretty im like no hes like then why would i be madly inlove with you n then like an hour went by and im like do u even like me and hes like well your beautiful,your rele nice,fun to talk to,you always have a way to make me laugh ..now i told him im sorry for bein bitchy and hes like the olny thing that would help is you goin out with me and im like that will make things worse well break up n then well never talk.......but he keeps askin me but i still wanna be friends i told him that but he keeps on askin what should i say? (link)
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OK go back out with him is what I think you should do. This same exact (seriously) situation happened to me.Only I broke up with him the first time and he was telling me he loved me and he's sorry for whatever he did and he wanted to commit suicide and I started crying. I knew I still liked him when i broke up with him but I also liked another guy. It turned out the other guy wasn't worth it so i went back out with my other ex (who said all that stuff) he ended up dumping me 2 other times and I was heartbroken and it was horrible and I still like him A LOT.You may not realize it now but you probably deep down really like him and it will show sooner or later and you may be kickin yourself in the butt for not giving him another chance. BUT..
if you dont wanna go back out with him tell him nicely "can you give me some time to think it through..I think we'd be able to go out in the future but right now it not the greatest time and if you REALLY like me that much you would respect that.Right now i just wanna be friends with you." I'm sure he'll understand after he said that. If you need anymore help then feel free to drop one in my inbox! good luck!
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How do I tell my parents I want to date? I dont want to flat out say it
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OK..I think what you should do is just be like "hey mom/dad do you think that my friend *name of guy* can come over for a little?" And as your parents get used to guys coming over the more and mroe they will trust you to go on dates. That's exactly what I did and they have no problem with it now. If you neeed more feel free to drop one in my inbox! good luck!
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ok...so i`m 13/f...i like 2guys! nd i have a problem with both of em! One of them...he lives closer to me nd could ride his bike down to see me nd stuff nd he likes me bacc! but he barely ever iMs me on aim i always have to give him hints nd sumtimes those dont even work nd he wont go out with me until we hang out nd stuff but when i`m free hes not nd when hes free i`m not!its suxxx!! nd the other guy....well mi best friend has a boyfriend but she also likes the guy i like whom likes me nd likes her! but the other nite we were on the fone nd he wus getting HIGH!!! i hate smokers druggies nd drinkers but i dont mind them as long as they dont do it around me er while i`m on the fone! nd he told me that the next day he wus goin to get drunk! but i like him a lot!but hes a jerk sumtimes too! sumone please help me
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I think the second guy would be wrong to go out with on so many levels lol. I would hate to go out with a dude that does drugs and drinks all the time. It could definately interfere with the relationship where if he got too high or too drunk he may cheat on you with another girl without even knowing. The other guy i think would be alrite. Just pick a day where your free and ask him ahead of time if you guys could hang out that day so if anything comes up he can say "I already have plans" that's what i do. Good luck!!
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ok.. im 14/f and i know this guy that likes me.. and so does my best friend.. shes the one that wants me to go out with him.. but whenever its the 3 of us.. like if were at the movies.. she makes it so that she sits in the middle.. and i dont know how i can flirt with him if shes inbetween us.. and i dont know how to tell her that i cant flirt with him if shes always between us.. please help in any way possible (link)
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Wellll..it seems like your friend doesn't want you to talk to him AT ALL. I think that she thinks that if you start flirting with him or you're next to him, he'll pay way more attention to you than to her. and if she likes him, she doesn't want that. Just sometime go to the movies just you and him. It's not like your friend HAS to go because she likes him too. Since your friend wants you guys to go out, then don't hesitate to go out with him. She shouldn't say that if she doesn't mean it. And if you definately like this boy..go for it!:)
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hey.. its me again.. with the kid who was definately a jerk to me. (you're right.) but anyways.. like you need to know this kid, he would be real gay about it, if i told him how i felt..and i had one of my friends talk to him, and he said he doesnt like me anymore. im not like disagreeing with ur advice, it was very good.. only if it was a different boy. lol i really shouldn't still like him, cause he is a jerk, and yeah i cant get him off my mind. but, another reason why it wouldnt work out, hes goin to high school this year, and im stuck at the stupid middle school. so yeah.. any advice on that? not tryin to say urs wasnt enough, but its hard to explain. thanks so much! (link)
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ok well i'm not gonna say "just get over him he's a worthless piece of crap" because everyone says "get over him" like it's the simplest thing ever. But since he's going to the high school i dont know if it'd interfere that much. You guys could always hang out other places every couple days. As for him and how he handled you liking him..some guys are just queer like that. I htink they get all uncomfortable when you tell them you like them and they're thinking "wtf am I supposed to say i dont wanna sound like a cheeseball and be like 'oh i like you too' ". It just really sucks when you like a jerky guy, I've been there before. I ended up dumping him and then he went out with my cousin haha but thats life. If you do decide to tell him how you feel..what i said was "I REALLY need to get something off my chest because i've been thinking about it for a really long time. I still like you and i just wanted to tell you that because if i didnt say anything i woulda exploded k thanks" and see what he says lol.I dont know how he'll take that though. So depending on the guy, you have to tell him in a way that won't be too cheesy for his personality.like if he's the way he said (which is sorta how the guy i like is) I'd phrase it about the way i put there. For example if he joked around a lot you wouldnt wanna be like "my love for you is as deep as the ocean" haha um if you need anymore help just ask :)
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Alright.. so there's this kid.. and i was going out with him, and i liked him a lot.. except he got mad at me a lot because i was doing stuff with my friends, and not him. so we fought a lot, but i still really liked him. (when we weren't fighting) so anyways..we broke up a few days ago, because this was on his away message "if your name is emily, call me" and my name IS NOT emily. :( and i asked him what he was doing (we were talking online) and he said he was "sitting here playing halo and talking to BRITTANY!"..And of course..my name isnt brittany either..and he wouldnt talk to me..so i just said k well whatever i think we should break up, and he replied with "agreed." i still like him A LOT. and hes soo fun to be with..but i know he doesnt like me anymore..what should i do? play hard to get? talk to him? what? i dont know what to do. i like him soo much.. thanks. (13\f) (link)
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Wow he seems like a jerk..but the boy i like too is sorta like that too lol. I know what you mean and how you think he doesnt like you and you cant get him off your mind and you really like him. I'm in that similar position right now. What you should do is tell him that you still really have feelings for him and that you think you could work it out. Say you promise you'll try to spend as much time as possible with him because you wouldn't want to ruin the relationship again. All you have to do is tell him that you still really like him basically. Thats what I did to the guy I liked even though i didnt think he liekd me but it turns out he still did! so just take the chance and so what if he blabs it to everyone..it means that he's not just throwing you aside sayin "oh who cares if she likes me" Him tellin everyone shows that he has to care in some way, shape or form lol. Good luck hun and if you need anymore help dont be afraid to leave one in my inbox!
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i like this guy, and im not sure how to approach him. he's a friend of mine's friend. but my friend wont talk to him for me .. so i guess im on my own. but idk if he'd be interested if i tried telling him i liked him. i met him before so he knows who i am. but i've liked him almost my whole freshman year and i just dont know how to talk to him about it. he's popular .. im not. and all that stuff. but im just not so great around guys and im wicked nervous. any ideas? any help would be great. (link)
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Hmm..well..if he's conceded and he's like "oh i'm too cool to talk to you" or something like that, don't take it. But if you wanna tell him that you like him just when you're talking to him, just simply tell him that you kinda like him. The worst that could happen is that he won't like you back and if he respects you he wont go around telling everyone. Just tell him you like him on the phone i've done it before and the boy liked me too. So just try that and if you need anymore help you can just drop me somethin in my inbox :)
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Hey. I hugged another guy. I have a boyfriend (of over a year a 6months) and my boyfriend who I love soo much got mad, and he doesnt trust me.
what should I do? we are still together, but things are shaky. I know he still loves me coz he told me he did, when he came over to my house to hear the whole story. So that has to mean something.
What are some sweet things I can do?
BTW i have no idea why I hugged the other guy! I wouldn't ever date him! crazy! When I hugged him, I got the worst feeling in the world, it didnt feel good. I got a stumach ache, and wanted to run away. And I felt like I was gonna puke. It was @ work. and after I hugged him, because I felt so bad I ran out of there!
-thanks a million!
I'll rate and leave feedback!
-Kelsee-
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OK I'm not trying to be mean AT ALL or anything but I think you and your bf may be over reacting a little. It was just a hug right??? I hug all my guys friends when I have a bf because it's not a big deal it's just a friendly hug. Just tell him you love him to death and the hug meant nothing at all because you guys are just friends :) and you can tell your bf that you wouldnt even dream of going out with that guy ever so don't even worry about it. If this sounded mean I'm not trying to be and I'm sorry lol if you have any questions feel free to leave one in my inbox!
good luck hun!
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ok now i have a boyfriend. hes nice, funny. and god hes gorgeous. But hes extremely sensitive and everything hurts his feelings. Hes jealous all the time and it drives me insane. He always has to be calling me or texting me when hes not with me, and im not the type of girl to expect him to do that. Hes got a life i know what hes doing, so its cool i dont stress over it. we've been together going on 7 months and as soon as i met him i fell for him. i've know him for like 8 months. Sounds like i need to break it off huh? If it were someone else thats what i would say. but honestly i cant. and i dont know why? like in a way i want to, but when it comes down to doing it i just cant. i forget about it. whats that mean?
i rate good if you take the time to help me out. thank you. (link)
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Well what I THINK you should do before you break up with him (since it seems like you really like him and he really likes you) is to tal kto him and say "Maybe we shouldnt talk as often you know as a good thing because if you call me all the time what will there to be to talk about next time?" and see what he says to that. But if you really TRUELY feel that you really wanna break up with him, then you should do it really really soon because the longer you wait, the more he'll get attached to you and thats not fair to hm because you dont feel the same way. But it seems to me that you like him a lot and too much to break up with him so just talk about not talking as much as a POSITIVE thing. I'm sorry if this didnt help :(
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okay, me and my boyfriend have a long distance relationship. i moved because none of our family ((or sum "friends")) wanted us going out. my mom hates him and his mom hates me. then was in november. well all of the sudden he's stopped talking to me. it's been 5 weeks and i've left him messages and e-mails. he hasnt responded to any of them. whut do i do next?
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WOW!! for that long? well i think as hard as it may seems..to just tell him that you can;t see each other anymore for the best for the both of you because this may sound really really horrible but he may have found someone else he can actually spend time with..so i think it;s time to end it as heartbreaking as it may sound and look for someone your mom likes and someone you can see all the time and that will talk to you and care for you. I'm sorry for what happened and if i didnt help :/
drop one in my inbox if you need anything
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ok well me and my ex-bf got back together this is the 3rd time we have gone out we always broke up for like 2-3 months and we got back together..and hes always with his friends he barly calls me just when hes at home..but hes NEVER home and when he is his friends are there..i want 2 talk 2 him just me and him..i think hes going to cheat on me i dont know what to do!! heLp me please !!! (link)
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ok well..based on the boyfriends i've had..you seem very lucky because they'd call me 24/7 and it was annoying as HELL haha..but i mean it wouldnt hurt him to at least call once every other day. I htink that you should get him over your house and be like "i feel that we're not as close as we used to be and i really wish we can start talking to each other more" that way if you talked to him a little more you'd be able to tell if he was cheating or not. If he is cheating or will start, then dump him immediately and if he starts denying it and wants you back really bad, say "i dont wanna go out with you if i cant really trust you or if you dont talk to me that much..once you prove to me that your worth it then i'll love to be with you again"
sorry if this didnt help much but if you need anything else drop one in my inbox!
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My boyfriend just broke up with me because he said' " i dont think it will work because, you know im going into to high school & your still in middle school" because im in 8th grade and hes in 9th. Plus insead of me being in his profile now its about another girl. and im really reallly sad because i think hes cheating on me. is there anything i can do to make me feel better :( thanks. xoxo (link)
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aww im sorry hes gotta be a jerk then..that shouldnt come between you and him if hes just goin to highschool..as for the cheating part, if he was cheating, he wasnt worth your time. Sometimes guys can be complete jack-beeps to girls. You'll find a guy this year. Just don't let it bring you down because he's not realizing what a dumb choice he's making. Who knows, maybe he'll come running back to you and you can be like "haha screw you..you don't deserve me :D" OK hope i helped and if you need anything else drop one in my inbox
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ok, its really hard to explain this without going into detail on the last 8 years of my life, but ill try my hardest- 14/m
I have loved this girl my entire life and we have been great friends, and i asked her out and she said yes. Well that was about 7 or 8 months ago, and she turned out to be a SUPER freezer (for those of you who dont know, its a person who doesnt do ANY thing on dates). She wasnt at first and i thought we were goin pretty well, but then all the sudden she said she needs her space and she told me to back off a lil and slow down. and that was about 3 months ago, and then all the sudden i felt like she had broken up with me cause she didnt do ANYTHING. All the sudden i was getting to feel depressed and stuff (it wasnt only cause of her doin that, i had other stuff goin on too, and she wasnt there for me) and the last week ive called her like 6 times and she never called me back. well i swam over the summer, and i had a friend who i kinda liked last year, and so i was hangin with her, well i think i kinda love her now, and i was debating on breaking up with the first girl and goin with the second. Well, that wont work, because all the sudden the first girl is starting to show just enough that she really likes me and prolly loves me back. so now im stuck in a bind because half of me is sayin break up with her and get over her, and then go with the next girl, and half of me says stay with her and give her the chance. but i already told the second girl im breakin up with the first, so now all the sudden im just plain caught in the middle, and i have no idea what to do! please help! i rate high!!!! (link)
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oh god lol alright i was in a situation somethin like this like 3-4 months ago. There was this kid i liked for a really long time and i went out with him but then a little while atfer i started likin this other kid so i broke up with the first one thinkin w/e i like the other guy more. So then me and the other kid broke up because i didnt realize how much of a dick he was..so i went back out with the first guy. After that me and the first guy just werent as close and it really really sucked. So from my expirence..i say stay with the first girl because you never know how the other (second) girl will act. just from my experience though.
good luck!
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ive had 20 boyfriends. does that make a slut. im a 14/f (link)
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ok wellll..
-did you go far with a lot of these guys?
-how long did the relationships last?
-and who usually dumped who??
thats what would pretty much determine it..leave feedback with the answers to those questions and ill help you out :)
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