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ok, its really hard to explain this without going into detail on the last 8 years of my life, but ill try my hardest- 14/m
I have loved this girl my entire life and we have been great friends, and i asked her out and she said yes. Well that was about 7 or 8 months ago, and she turned out to be a SUPER freezer (for those of you who dont know, its a person who doesnt do ANY thing on dates). She wasnt at first and i thought we were goin pretty well, but then all the sudden she said she needs her space and she told me to back off a lil and slow down. and that was about 3 months ago, and then all the sudden i felt like she had broken up with me cause she didnt do ANYTHING. All the sudden i was getting to feel depressed and stuff (it wasnt only cause of her doin that, i had other stuff goin on too, and she wasnt there for me) and the last week ive called her like 6 times and she never called me back. well i swam over the summer, and i had a friend who i kinda liked last year, and so i was hangin with her, well i think i kinda love her now, and i was debating on breaking up with the first girl and goin with the second. Well, that wont work, because all the sudden the first girl is starting to show just enough that she really likes me and prolly loves me back. so now im stuck in a bind because half of me is sayin break up with her and get over her, and then go with the next girl, and half of me says stay with her and give her the chance. but i already told the second girl im breakin up with the first, so now all the sudden im just plain caught in the middle, and i have no idea what to do! please help! i rate high!!!!
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it may sound like a cliche but you really have to follow you heart b0y..you cant love two people at the same time..right?also,you cant be happy if youd go with the girl youre not in love with right?yu just have to think about the possible effects,,just project..imagine what will happen to you and the gil youll ch0ose..after that, youll know who to choose..just weigh it properly..you sh0uldnt force anyone..specially yourself..ok?
just choose who you NEED..
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i think yoy might have missed something...the 1st girl could have been going through some shit... think about it do u actually like the second girl or do you just want to do "stuff" with her? although idk any of you i think the 1st girl is the best choice
luck!
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Apolgize to girl #2 for leading her on, and tell her you need time to think. Tell girl #1 you may have met someone else, and you need time to think. Then stop, kick back, and look at the situation.
What do you like about the first girl? The second? Write it down and compare lists.
Are you over the first girl, or do you still like her?
Was the second girl just a rebound?
Looking at it when you aren't tangled in it may help.
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I think you should stay with the first girl cause she had to deal with a couple issues but now that she's comming around give her the chance to regain what yall had before.You have liked her much longer then the other girl.If you see things not going well for about another week then just see whats up with the other girl.Good Luck!
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well i say break up with the first girl cuz she seems like she has mood swings and no1 needs that. The second girl seems like she could make you happier. don*t just dump the first one tho just stay friends with her! good luck hun, n if you need nething else drop one in my inbox!! xoxo, chelsea
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Try and be friends with the first one but I think you need to let her go as your girlfriend. She isn't paying any attention to you so it is pretty obvious she doesn't have a thing for you anymore. The other girl though does and you got something for her now, maybe time to move on a bit. Do what you think is right, but my advice is go with girl #2, but still make sure your friends with girl #1, because that is no cool to lose a friend that you have had for that long.
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okkkk your going to hate me for this, but i say niether. (shock) yeah so the first girl is obviously in for a total attitude change because shes had love spoon fed to her for the passed 8 years. so then you run off and meet up with this girl when your still debating the first girl and your extreme vunerable (rebound!) and she gives you attention you need to survive as a human. so therefore, you love what she does for you because its been 3 months since you got any tlc from your gf...not picking up the phone...oh i feel the love. the other girl is actually working to steal your heart away and what happens when you get with her...it will end up dying down. so them shell call you excessively because other than swim you never see her. then youll get sick of it and see her for what your friends and family see her for and end up in a similar situation, cept there will only be one heart to break. so there. niether. thats my vote. stay single for a while...you might actually like it better. single and ready to mingle and have a clear conscience. later dude. <3
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oh god lol alright i was in a situation somethin like this like 3-4 months ago. There was this kid i liked for a really long time and i went out with him but then a little while atfer i started likin this other kid so i broke up with the first one thinkin w/e i like the other guy more. So then me and the other kid broke up because i didnt realize how much of a dick he was..so i went back out with the first guy. After that me and the first guy just werent as close and it really really sucked. So from my expirence..i say stay with the first girl because you never know how the other (second) girl will act. just from my experience though.
good luck!
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look, you need to trust your heart, if needs be, make a list, put only the things down you like about each girl, not what you're supposed to like, but what YOU personally like about them. think the things over and try to figure out which one you'd rather be with. yes it will be rough, but the later you do it the worse it's going to hurt them.
I hope I helped
sorry about your problem
Ally
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what you need to do is look deep in your heart and figure out what girl means most to you
you mentioned that the first girl wasnt there for you and told you to back off maybe the reason she did all of that was because she wasnt ready for a relationship you should really give her a chance now maybe she changed
as for the other girl you said you kinda love her now that might be mixed feelings and the girl that you truely love might be the first girl
but like i said before only you could decide what to do by looking deep in your heart and figuring out who you truely want to be with
hope that helps let me know how it goes and if you need anything else drop one in my inbox ♥
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