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Sup, my name's Aaron, i'm a band freak, health freak, grammar freak, perfectionist, and I just love to watch people do stupid things even if it includes me, because heck there's no point in being uptight about life when in the end it all ends... hahah gotta love my type right? There's not much about me that you probably haven't heard that you can't compare to other people, I mean i'm a friendly person who once you get to know me, tends to grow on you like mold on bread. I'm smart, courageous, a leader, fun, loving, honest, brutally honest, sadistic, idiotic at times, ignorant to certain topics, indifferent in some controversial issues, unconcerned about what you think about me, happy, sad, depressed, angry, and basically any other attribute you can give to a 16 year old teenager. I'm an ex-swimmer, meaning that I quit... just because of band, and no i'm not that big a band freak, I'd just rather be playing my instrument and feeling the soothing sensation that music has to bring as opposed to getting stressed about being beat by other people! But no, haha I love swimming and if my school allowed me to take both at the same time without sacrificing my grades I probably would. I'm not the kind of person that sits and watches something, for instance, I hate watching football but I love playing it just because of the adrenaline rush. Blah, haha not sure what else to say, I mean I suppose I can tell you that i'm chinese, and uhh that's about it I think... I like to philosophize haha if that makes any sense, I feel that although philosophy is basically the "DUH" of life, sometimes you just need to be told, DUH. There's nothing better than discovering the obvious... Anyways, life's so much easier for probably you and me if we chatted on AOL, my screen name is An3mu5c0r9u5 yup yup =D hehe

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15/f and i'm gay. So me and this girl went out for a while and I'm just so shy around her like when we kiss and stuff, and I like to take things slow and she really likes to mess around. So we broke up because I'm to "shy". Everytime we talk you can tell we still like each other and she always says that she wishes I wasn't as shy. I want to get back with her but I have to become more relaxed with her. How can I be more comfortable doing things with her other than kissing?

honestly... I'm exactly like you haha, i'm gay and 18/m anyway, I broke up with him because he was like that girl that you like... he wanted to move fast and I always got nervous whenever we tried to mess around... in the end I realized the best thing for me to do was to just stay friends and keep it that way... You shouldn't have to try and change yourself just for someone else because honestly you'll find someone who is shy and will want to take the time to get to know you and you'll both be very comfortable and it'll move at the exact pace that you want it to. So basically, I think you should try and stay friends with her but probably not go any further... she's different and it's okay to accept that but don't settle for someone less when the one you're looking for is waiting out there for you.

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hey! i have a really big problem. so i dated this guy jake over a year ago now for almost 2 months. he dated thisgirl i knew and then they broke up after 2 years and me n him dated. which was quite crazy. anyways, we ended up breaking up bcz he cheated on me with her and they got back 2gether n have been on n off for almost a year. well, now he is dating sum other girl that idont know n the other day i messaged him on myspace, i havent talked 2 him since last year n i asked him for directions 2 get this oneplace we went 2 last year when we dated. he messaged back sayin he has nothing againts me n he knows he did some bogus shit n to give him a call ormessage when we wanna hangout for old times sake... so idont know if im taking this too overboard but he was my first realll bf that i reallylikedn my friend's birthday is coming up this weekend, and he knew her, thats how we met n began dating bcz his x was friends with my best friend n because of allthis she hated us... well i really do have feelings 4 him n want to ask him 2 come by but is it 2 weird?? but thing is... he never said sorry... what should i write back? thank you somuch

well you should tell him how you feel... though by the looks of it he seems to be a player... so I think you two should just be friends and nothing more, more for your sake than his... you have to remember that he didn't say sorry and cheated on you before... and guys don't really change. if they can get away with it once they'll keep on doing it until they get caught... just move on and make him jealous ^_^.

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okay im going out with this guy
its great.
but like he wants to hang out everyday
and im the type that needs my space
like hanging out on weekends is great
and maybe sometime during the weekdays
but i feel like im too busy to hangout on
the weekdays...what should i tell him?

Be straightforward and tell him that... If he can't handle that then maybe you guys should just be friends...

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ive been with my boyfriend for over a year and sometimes i think about breaking up with him .. i love him more than anything .. i guess its just because im young and i kind of want to experience other things. but i cant picture not being with him. hes my everything my best friend im not sure what i should do!

Well there's obviously something wrong with him to make you want to break up with him... you guys should sit down and talk to each other and see what happens from there. If you see him as your best friend then maybe it should just be that...

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It will be my boyfriend and I's one year anniversary in January on the 31st, i really want to do something special for him. I was thinking of a scrapbook or something, but i dont have very many pictures (because he doesnt like them) and we dont have very many things we did together like movies and stuff. Im hoping i get a job sometime this week since i have a 2nd interview tomorrow, so then ill have some money to use. But i need ideas, please help.

Thanks In Advance,
Racquel

hmmm well I don't know how your boyfriend is... but if he's the typical guy, then a scrap book might not be a good idea... we guys are simple, we want sex, food, and more sex... not to sound like a total hog but it's true. I'm gay so this obviously doesn't apply to me, but here's what I think you guys should do. I think you should suprise him and invite him over to where you live and have dinner ready. Have a movie maybe something romantic, but maybe something that's also action packed because those are the two main things straight guys like, food and things that blow up. uhmmm if he's not the "typical" guy then maybe the scrapbook is good but because you said that he doesn't like taking pictures... a scrapbook might not be something he'll like... sorry if this doesn't help =/

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How far have you gone for your other half, I am not asking what you are willing to do, I am asking what have you done for him or for her. Like surprises, money spent, romantic places or trips.

Well, my significant other and I once got into a fight... the next day, I woke up early, got donuts and a dozen red roses and sang to him at his work in front of all his co-workers.

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i have a boyfriend of about 4 months! and i totally love being with him! but i cant be with him all that much! if we are lucky maybe once a week, but thats if we are lucky. I have been going out with him fer what feels like a long time, and i cant tell if its real or not. Ever since i started going out with him nothing feels right, i mean i feel like we are totally different and it can never work. And actually we are pretty different but idk he really likes me and i think i really like him but i can never tell!! i think i said it all but please help me i dont know what to do and i have talked to him about this too but he just says that hes sorry, but idk it just never is right, just please help me

Wow... i have the same problem with my boyfriend... well I think maybe you two should consider getting AIM or something so that you'll be able to talk more... or ask him to call you more often. I talked to my boyfriend about it and I'm still having trouble with him, but this week he doesn't have work so we're going to try and hang out a lot before school starts... I think after this week if after we do stuff like more cuddling and kissing and what not if I feel that it won't work out then i'm going break up with him... I think you should probably think about the same thing... my boyfriend and I have been going out for a month so... I think that even after 4 months you might want to consider breaking up with him... sorry but it might be the best thing to do, especially if you don't think it's going anywhere.

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my gf is always flirting with this other guy at my school and it really pisses me off cuz she barly talks to me anymore can someone tell me a way to get her bak to me

Well I think she thinks that you're too available... so what you do in return... is you talk to girls and you ignore her sometimes or better yet.. if she asks you if you want to go out and do stuff just be like... oh sorry i've got plans with my friend who's a girl.. that way she'll think that maybe she has competition... That's one option a more "manly" one... another option would be to just sit down and tell her and work things out that way.

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Hi my boyfriend and I are having some problems. Well first of all he is mad at me for getting a myspace and he wont leave me alone he's threatning to break up with me for it, its retarded he needs to just leave me alone. What should I do?

Well i think you should tell him to get a myspace... but if he is seriously going to break up with you just so that you can have a more active online social life... then I don't think he's being fair... You should talk to him and tell him why it's bothering him so much... You should also tell him that if you get a myspace you'll be sure to put that you're in a relationship so that people know you're off limits... he shouldn't worry about it that much... that's your own decision and he should respect you for it not downgrade and threaten to break up with you for it... hope this helps

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me and my bf still haven't kissed yet and I don't know why, but for some reason...I want him to do it first. Do you think he'll kiss me anytime soon?

Also, how could you tell if your bf really loves you?

HAH! I have the same exact problem with my boyfriend... what we did was we kind of had a break which lasted a week in a half and we still talked on AIM but what i did was i decided that i'm going to kiss him first even though I want him to... maybe if you try and act all sexy and stuff and get real close to his face but not kiss him... he'll go for it and then you can say that he kissed you first ^_^ hope this helped. Also about the boyfriend thing... I know this is a bad thing to do... but if he has AIM make yourself another screen name and test him out see if he would cheat on you for another girl by acting like another girl... I did this to my boyfriend and I was sooo happy that he turned down my screen name because it showed that he wouldn't cheat on me.

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what do you think it the hottest thing a girl can do while she's kissing you?

the hottest thing a girl could do while kissing you for a guy, would be for her to either hold his face while kissing or rubbing his chest like from the bottom up if you know what I mean haha

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so tonight i was at a big party type thing..and i notice this guy kind of looking at me from the corner of his eye and purposely turning it seemed to look at me. i picked it up that he was doing it..but i thought nothing of it until later..he started doing "laps" around me when i was talkng to my friends. he went from one part of the room where everyone was all the way to where i was with my friends *it wasnt nearly as crowded..* he did this a couple times! my friends thinks he likes me..when they told him to talk to me he said he was shy. where do i go from here? we dont really talk so help me out from the beginning pleaseee!! this is just new for me because usually the guy likes one of my friends..i happen to have very pretty friends..ok thanks to anyone who tries :)

lol, okay well if he's shy then you start the conversation and do it one on one so that he doesn't feel even more shy... also crack a joke so that he'll feel more comfortable and heck, even if he doesn't like you then you'll be good friends because then you can always talk about he kept looking at you at a party

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There is this guy that I really like ALOT, and me and him are constantly flirting and he is always trying to grab my hand and stuff, and he is always like i like you so much, and when i'm like jokingly like dang i'm cool and it's cause i'm so dang cute and he is like yeah you are, and he keeps telling ME, MY friends, and HIS friends that he is going to ask me out and he still hasn't. What is his problem, is he procrastinating or just teasing me please help.

:&hearts Alix

well tell him, "do you want to go out with me or not because you're wasting my time and your time by just teasing me all the time," i'm sure that'll get his attention

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What's it like to make out with someone? Because my boyfriend said he wants to make out with me. We've never kissed so is that all he means? I guess this is kind of a stupid question but please anser anyways.

well there are many interpretations of making out, there is the making out which is basically kissing and the making out where you're basically having sex with clothes on... either way, you'll like it hehe

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It's my boyfriends 21st birthday in about 3 weeks and i want to get him something really special, i was going get him some kind of gadget but i've decided its not special enough.
if anyone has any ideas please share :-)
Also if i get him a watch and have it engraved, would it have to be made out of a certain kind of metal or maerial so they can engrave it and is it expensive to do? thank you

let's see, well since he's going to be 21 and he's a guy you should probably get him a shot glass that's really sexy or has some sexy thing engraved on it... ummm and yeah if you get him a watch you should get it engraved that'd be pretty awesome but maybe engrave it saying something not really girlish or just his initials

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Okay i asked your guy's help once before about my girlfriend. But I have a serious situation, one of my ex-boyfriends called and asked me out. I haven't came out with this yet so nobody knows except my best friend and my gurlfriend and her aunt. I couldn't turn him down cause he's driving three hours just to see me. I wanna go but I don't think he would like the fact that i'm a 15 year old Bisexual and I have a girlfriend. And I don't think me girlfriend would like me going out with some guy!!!!!!!! Should I tell them????????

ummm okay, well first of all, we should hook up ;D haaha and second, since he was already your ex-boyfriend I think he would've known by now that you were bisexual... as for your girlfriend, I'd say, drop the ho and grab the hose

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Ok, there's this kid at my school, Drew. We sorta like each other, so on Sat. we had like, this 5 hour long convo, and we just decided to go to the Snowball together. (it's a dance). So anyway, today at school, I was telling my friends Jenny and Nicole (Nicole likes Drew) about it. Jenny was real happy for me, but I noticed Nicole just looked mad. So I just online a little bit ago, and my one friend was talking to her, and IMing me their convo, and turns out, she's real pissed about me going to the dance with Drew and just liking him in the first place, but I can't help it. I heard from Drew that he doesn't even like Nicole the way she does. So I IMed her saying I was sorry if I made her mad, but we both decided to go to the dance together. I told her to stop bein so weird about it cuz it has nothing to do with her. And then she signed off. Idk, I just want your opinion about this. Who's right and wrong here? And I want to go to the dance w/ Drew, but I don't want to upset Nicole either. What should I do?

well, if she is your friend then she should understand.. plus she probably blocked you, well anways yeah talk to her and make her know that you like him and that not to be mean but it's kind of first come first serve.. and that you aren't liking him just because you want to be better than her or anything just try and make her understand your feelings about him

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my boyfriend and i have benn going out for 11 months and he is always saying how much he loves me and stuff but then he hurts me so bad sometimes and he thinks he can like other ppl but im not allowed and i cry almost everytime we get into a fight and he thinks i dont care about him and the person i would think understand this bc shes been with him b4 said i need to move on but i guess thats really not what i wanna hear because i love him so much!!! but i dont think i can trust him cheating on my and playing with my mind but i love him so much!!

What should i do :/

well if you can't trust him then you know the answer to that question.. you need to have a talk with him and make him know that you are dead serious... sometimes guys just need to get a reality check.. also maybe he thinks that you are "clingy" so play hard to get and maybe he'll change his mind on liking other girls

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How can you advice me if i have a steady single boyfriend and still have a relationship with a married man. Please i need advice!

hmm well the most advice I can give you is to make your decision on which one you love the most, I mean it's bad enough you're having an affair but.. you should make your decision and try and not make a jerry springer scene out of it

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My best friend and I like the same guy. The thing is, he is dating my best friend. But she and he both know that he likes me also. He wants to be with both of us, but I don't want to hurt my best friend so I think I should back off. What should I do?? Thanks!

well talk to her... and make sure that she understands that her boyfriend likes you... and that you like him... if that is, you do... and tell her that you don't want this to breakup your friendship because friendship is a strong bond and you don't want a guy to get between your friendship... and tell her and this will also have to be your decision is... if you don't want me to go out with him then I won't

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