Hello everyone. My name here on advicenators is Solcito. It's a nickname my ex-girlfriend gave me that basically means little sun. That's the only personal information I really want to give out. In the short time that I have inhabited this planet I feel that I have experienced enough to make good judgment in most situations. I've fallen in love, had my heart broken, been mugged, made and lost a ton of friends, lived in three continents and become fluent in two different languages. I just feel that it's important to let you know why I think I'm certified to answer your questions. I'm also a guy, so I know how men think. I'm not saying that there aren't a fair share of guys who have questions about girls. I just generally see more females asking about their love lives here than guys. Hope you like my advice, and good luck to everyone with their personal issues.
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18/f
I have a guy best friend. We met in September and instantly bonded, we tell eachother everything. In this case, everything includes helping eachother with relationship problems. He really likes this girl and I've been helping him with what to do (ex: helping him with conversaion starters and basically just boosting his morale do actualy do something about it). I didn't think anything of it before, but recently I started feeling slightly differently towards him. I stated liking as more than just a friend. The thing is, I'm not exactly atracted to him sexually, I just really love our friendship. This is where it becomes slightly awkward; I've been having lots of dreams concerning him lately (and another guy too because I've liked him for years, but that's beside the point). The other night I drempt we were in the middle of foreplay and basically getting ready to have sex. I woke up sweating and wet and rather confused I might add. I've never thought about him in that way, and as akward as it was, it was kind of an 'i wonder' feeling. I really don't know what to do now. Do I like him or am I just curious? I could really use a second opinion. I'd normally ask a friend, but he's the friend I usually ask so that's out of the question. Thanks. (link)
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It's pretty obvious you've fallen for him. In that case, you need to consider what to do.
Firstly, for now, I would tell you to hang back. Talking to him about his girl troubles will probably be more painful to you than it will be helpful to him. Most conversations I have had about girls is more venting than getting actual advice, so it ends up being about having someone rather than one specific person. That being said, I would stay friends with him for now, but avoid quiet environments where that topic will come up.
You express some concern about his physical appearance. I find that physical appearance doesn't matter much in a relationship. I have dated beautiful girls, and I get accustomed to their attractiveness after awhile and then they aren't as enticing. On the other hand, I've dated a lot less attractive girls and ended up with some of the greatest I've ever met, so don't let that be a deciding factor.
In the long run, I would not come out about it to him while he's with someone else. You have a good chance of just completely losing him, and best case scenario, a lot of people end up hurt. You can flirt a little to give him a hint, but doing it constantly will turn him off. If he's single at some point, let him know. It's typically a lot easier for girls to get out of the "friend zone" than guys.
In the mean time, keep your options open and don't wait for his relationship to go sour so you can have your chance. Live your life, be happy you have, at the very least, a good friend, and who knows what could happen in the future. Hope I helped and best of wishes.
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im female 18 and my boyfriend is 20 everything about him is great except for one thing i dont think my boyfriend has good hygiene (unbrushed teeth,body odor)i dont know how to tell him while being nice. (link)
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I have been in relationships where I wasn't happy with my girlfriends hygiene (she was clean but I preferred for her to shave a different way or put on different make up), and honestly, honesty works best. Think about it. If you have any intention of spending the rest of your life being with this guy, you have to learn how to say things the way they are. Otherwise, you'll just end up beating around the bush for 50-60 years. Tell him how you feel and he'll either change or not change. If he ignores you, realize while you still have a chance that it's not worth it. Sorry this sounds a bit harsh, but coming from a guy (myself), no guy will change something significant about himself if he isn't in for the long haul.
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How should a girl go about telling a guy, that she's been in a relationship with for almost a year, that she doesn't want to have sex any more for personal, moral and religious reasons? It's gotten to the point where he expects it so it's kind of hard to just start saying no out of no where. (link)
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I thought really hard about your question, and I think I've done as best as I can with this. I'm a guy, and I know that when a girl has sex with me, I feel that I am important to her. If a girl were to stop having sex with me suddenly, I would one be upset that I wouldn't be having sex any more, but even more, I would be scared she had stopped having feelings for me. I think the best thing you can do is sit him down and tell him exactly how you feel. After that, you need to do as much as you can to show him you still care about him. It's not fair. I know, but he will have serious doubts about the status of your relationship after you seemingly randomly tell him you don't want to have sex any more. You need to take him out, buy him a gift, make him a card, do anything to show that he is the most important thing in your universe (even if he isn't). Also, explain to him when you will feel ready to go back to having sex with him. This will show him that you care about him now, that you want the relationship to thrive in the future, but that you just realized you aren't really ready to have sex now. That's the best I can tell you. Regardless, be ready for him to be upset. He most definitely will be, but it will be a lot easier if you do it like this.
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My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for about 9 months. He's 19--I'm 18.
He always used to get upset when I didn't feel like having sex/messing around. I've always known that he's not in this just for the sex. I knew this for a fact--when we first started dating he thought I was a "good" girl...a very good girl.
Well it all came out eventually--he flat out asked me if I found him attractive. Apparently in his mind, if I say no, it means that I'm not physically attracted to him.
Truth is--I'm extremely attracted to him and I let him know that I think he looks good constantly but idk what to do about the sex thing because sometimes I'm just not in the mood. Even if I try explaining it to him, he still thinks the same--I've tried. Is there anything I can do...DO NOT SAY. Other than just always having sex with him? (link)
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If you've been in a relationship with him for that long, then he should understand. I'm a guy, and I know that sometimes when a girl goes to a certain point with me, I start to expect it all the time, and when she won't, I get the idea that it's because things aren't going well. Sit him down, tell him that it has nothing to do with whether you find him attractive or whether you still have feelings with him. After that, do things to demonstrate that you really want to be with him. If he sees you making a strong effort to do nice things for him and show your affection for him, he will lose his uncertainty about where the relationship stands. I don't know how often you ARE in the mood to have sex, but try and figure out if you think he wants too much sex (like 3 times a day), or if you are just starving him sexually (like once a month). Guys peak sexually around 19, so he's always going to want it. If he's getting it on a regular basis, he should respect you when you don't want to. If you're not having sex very often, ask yourself why and see if you are subliminally telling yourself that you're not ready for a sexual relationship.
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sooo how do i get over my ex that i love and went out for 2 years but she stopped loving me and she wants to be friends but i can't do it idk ii am going crazy i miss her all the time and can't stop thinkinh about her idk i am going to flip- out and everyone wants her too (link)
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I just got out of a one-year relationship, so I know where you're coming from. First off, let me tell you I know it sucks. You get that feeling in your chest and you want to get rid of it. I'm sure you want to be able to focus on other things in your life, but your thoughts dwell on her. I completely understand that.
People are going to tell you to go out with your friends. They will tell you to talk to new girls. They'll tell you to stay busy. That really won't work. Time is the only think that will make it better. Hanging out with your friends might make you feel a little better for a couple hours, but they'll have to leave eventually, and you'll be alone again. Talking to other girls might help you realize she isn't the only girl in the universe, but is it fair to the girls that you are talking to them while you still have feelings for another girls? Staying busy does help a little. It doesn't make you feel any better, but it helps the time pass faster.
My advice to you is this: Take a break from dating. Often the worst part of getting out of a relationship is that you don't know how to function alone after so much time with a girlfriend. If you take a break from girls for a while, not only are you not worrying about being alone, you are actively trying to stay alone. Look at yourself. What do you like/dislike? After every breakup I try to reevaluate my lifestyle and improve in any way I can (I lost 12 pounds and got my GPA up after this one). The last thing you can do is be confident that it will get better. Twice in my life I have thought that the pain was so strong and constant that it would never cease. I was wrong. Think about it, how many old men do you see that are still upset over their high school or college romance? It doesn't happen. I'm not sure how old you are, but I doubt you're out of high school yet. You have a lot of life left to live, and there is plenty of time for you to find a good girl.
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Okay so im 20 yrs old. Im bisexual and i have a girlfriend that ive been with for a year and a half now. I love her to death. she is a great person. when were good were great and im very happy. but when we fight its absolutely horrible. weve gotten in physical fights before where ive walked away with a black eye and fat lip. (shes alot bigger than I am). it hasnt been physical lately but some of the things she says are just horrible. for example, my mom is an alcoholic and when we fight shell call me an alcoholic (when i dont drink often and she drinks just as often as i do). shell tell me ill be alone the rest of my life. she calls me a hick and a redneck (which im not.. no offense to those who are) just bc shes from nyc and shes hispanic and im from pa and im white. shes lived in pa for the past 10 yrs tho. when i tell her these things upset me she says that just how she is and to get over it. sometimes i just dont know if i can take another day with her. and we live together which makes it harder. dont get me wrong i love her to death. i would do anything for her. but i just feel almost like i have nothing left to give. i work and she doesnt so i pay for EVERYTHINGGGG. and its like she appreciates nothing. sometimes i dont have the money to do the things she wants and she gets mad at me then. i just dont know. i dont kno what to do. like i said when we were good its amazing and i feel like i could absolutely spend the rest of my life with her. but when we fight i feel like im killing myself on the inside. Is she right?? Are all relationships like this and i just need to get over it?? I get so lost. Please give me your opinion. Thanks soo much (link)
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Arguments are normal in relationships, physical abuse and insults are not. If she appreciated you, she wouldn't use you, hit you, or verbally abuse you. It sounds like you're giving her a lot, and you're getting bruises and hurt feelings in return. This relationship is unhealthy. Unfortunately, she has you beaten down enough emotionally to believe that this is actually normal. It isn't. There are guys and girls out there that will love you, compliment you, do nice things for you, and not make you put up with ten-percent of the bullshit that she gives you. Don't assume she doesn't love you or that nobody else could. She probably does genuinely care about you, unfortunately she has become so comfortable with abusing you that she assumes nothing she could do would drive you away. It's too late for you two, but if you leave now she will realize the error in her ways and won't treat someone else that way.
I tell you this because I was a lot like her with my ex-girlfriend. I didn't hit her, I rarely insulted her, but in general I took her love for granted and didn't heed her begging that I didn't go out with my friends as much, didn't drink as much, and that I would do something nice for her every now and then. I genuinely cared about the girl, but she seemed so obsessed with me that I didn't think I needed to do anything to keep her with me. Guess what. I was wrong. She cheated on me, dumped me, and now I KNOW that I will never take anyone for granted again. Look on the bright side, there are literally billions of people on this planet, and due to your sexual orientation, you have a chance with most of them. I only had about half after my break up.
Good luck and please send me a message letting me know what you decide to do.
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what is the key to getting a boyfriend, and staying with him?
some might say confidence, others may say loyalty, and other important traits such as that, but im wondering, what worked for you in the past? was it just chance that brought you together or did you work on attracting a certain person by displaying confidence or whatever.
im wondering this because i havent gone out with anyone since 2 years ago, guys just dont seem interested.
thanks!
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I would say that the key to getting a boyfriend is confidence. Don't be cocky, but don't act like you're afraid to talk to him. I have seen really average looking girls draw a crowd of guys just because they seem to be the life of the party. Be social, flirt, and guys will notice you.
That being said, the only girls I have ever had long relationships with I met by coincidence, but I have met a lot of girls at parties and things. They just never worked out.
Keeping a relationship is a little more difficult. The key to any relationship is communication. People are different, often times so different that they really just don't have a chance at working out. Sometimes though, you meet a person and you learn to accept their differences and admire them as a person. In this situation you have to be open about you're feelings. Just based on human nature, you can assume people will have conflicts. Only through communication can you make sure feelings will not be hurt and eventually ruin a relationship.
Good luck with the guy hunting.
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what is the point moving to the next step by flirting back? i do flirt back and we keep going but i remember she tells me she doesnt like me when i told her i like her. she did get jealous of a guy i met at a party but i wasnt meaning to make her jealous. and even the last two boyfriends i had in high school she was jealous too. before i told her how i felt. i like her and respect her so i dont flrit back as much as she does some times i do not that very often. i ask that pervious question because i was confused and i know i would get a answer of someone telling me I HAVE TO STEP UP. for nearly every year being her friend she showed flirty body langage. then when i came out to tell her how i felt she said she not feel the same. i step up so many times but she doesnt seem to bother to step up IF she likes me back. why do i have to step up? yeah she shows me flirting but people tell me that people flirt just because they are friendly but doesnt mean anything...that why i am confused 50% people say she likes me 50% people said she doesnt. who is there to belive with all the facts i give out of her is a maybe she likes me but to her she doesnt. really WTF??? (link)
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Is this a follow up question to one I already answered? If so, please tell me which one it is and attempt to use correct grammar and communicate your question fully.
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Okay so me and my boyfriend broke up but we still see eachother because were friends with the same people but he makes it so awkward. like if im in a group of people he wont go up to that group because im there.or if i go up to that group and hes there he'll like walk away. Even though I'm not over him, I'm mature enough to be friends and i told him I didnt want there to be any tension or for it to be awkward and he said he didnt either but he still acts that way. What should i do? (link)
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If he's avoiding you there isn't a whole lot you can do. I think he doesn't feel comfortable being around you yet, so he avoids situations in which you two would be close. Give him some time. If he keeps this up for an unreasonable amount of time, confront him about it. Tell him to stop being immature. It's not fair to your friends that they can't hang out with both of you at the same time. More information about the breakup would help a lot, because I'm not really sure how sensitive the situation is.
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I'm 17/f and on a club team for volleyball. One of the teams we always play there is this girl, and she's 18. When we first played I thought she was an amazing volleyball player and gorgeous too, I passed that off as admiration. Afterwards she came over and we talked, and then almost naturally we started flirting with each other. Now I'm not gay or bi, I LOVE guys, but she was just really attractive. She was the kind of girl that guys drool over at school, but the one that wasn't afraid to knock a guy out. Every tournament it's like I can't focus on a game if she watches, when my teams play against hers we both always try to impress the other. I don't know what's going on and it's scaring me. What does this make me? Gay? Bi? Is this bad?
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It depends on what you're feelings are exactly for her. If you feel a strong attraction to her, that can be normal. Guys are attracted to their favorite sports stars. Watch how we flock around them, put posters of them on our walls, pay huge amounts of money to watch them perform. However, we don't maintain sexual fantasies about them, or even a desire to partake in any sexual act about them, so most of us aren't gay. You can be attracted to someone in a non-sexual way. Basically, if you don't have any desire to do anything physically with her, no you are not gay. If you are having urges to get physical with this girl, then yes you are bisexual.
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Can crush on my best friend but don’t show it. I told her how I felt that took me years to tell her but I never flirt, tease, or lean on her. Of course, she doesn’t feel the same way but her body language to me, is flirting, teasing and leans on me. She shows body language but doesn’t say how she really feels. Some of our friends notices that and other people around us in public too; one friend said that we act like a odd couple because we push each others buttons, which freak us out that we deny it. She has this playful personality to me only around me. I ignore it which makes her do it even more. I am to shy to get close to her so I never show any interest to her but I can write it out….I just don’t get it?????
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You never actually ask how to get closer to her, but I'm assuming that's what you want to know. I know how to do it, but it's going to sound completely irrational. Look at it this way. She hangs out with you a lot, so she obviously thinks you're a good person. She flirts with you publicly, so she doesn't think you're unattractive, otherwise she wouldn't risk her friends thinking you were together. All you need is something to make her realize that she likes you. How do you do that? Get over her. Not really, but make it look that way. Start talking to other girls. Mention them to her. Nine times out of ten a girl will start to show signs of jealousy. Your problem is that you're too attainable. Once she starts feeling jealous, you have a chance to cross the boundary out of that dangerous friend zone. Trust me, this will work. I have had two really good female friends that ended up becoming girlfriends, they both flirted with me before, they both kept things on a strictly friendly level, and they both came out and openly told me they wanted to be with me the second I became unavailable. I have also had crushes on a few other female friends where I just kept the friendship going in hopes that one day it would escalate into something more. They all ended up dating friends of mine because they were always around me and hence always around all of my guy friends. Trust me. If you keep things going the way they are eventually she will take your companionship for granted and get with another guy. If she can keep the best friend and have a cool boyfriend, why would she do anything else? Show her you aren't so expendable.
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i like this really hot guy. but he doesn't know i exist. he likes every single girl in middle school sept me. what should i do?
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Could you give me more information. What are you doing to get his attention? Do you ever flirt with him? I really don't know how to respond to this. Give me more information like what you are currently doing and how he responds to it, then I can give you a response.
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i've been friends with benefits with this guy (my best friend) for 2 years! well on and off. there were some actual relationships with other people scattered through the years. anyway...we have never kissed!! not even a little peck! I always found it weird that we haven't....considering we've done almost everything else with each other. he's said that he wants to kiss me and i've told him that i did too and we've had sooo many oportunities but neither of us just went for it.
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You kiss by putting your lips up against someone else's lips. I don't know exactly what your problem is. I used to have a friend with benefits that I did other things with before I kissed. I guess if you both want it then just go for it. Don't ask him about it before, that makes it awkward. My best advice is just to go for unexpectedly some day. If he's already said he wants it, then nothing bad can happen.
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how do you know if a guy likes you or is flirting with u?im 13 (link)
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If the guys you are talking about are the same age as you, then they will probably be making fun of you. That's just how guys do things during the early teens. If it's a mature guy he may just go out of his way to be around you or start talking to you a lot. If he makes a lot of effort to make physical contact with you then that can be a good sign too.
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16/f I recently asked a guy out to the movies. It's my first date and I'm super nervous. I just need some advice. I know to not be nervous and to be myself and such... but what do I like DO on the date? Like when we're at the movies, do I just sit there and watch the movie? I don't want him to think I'm ignoring him! and what do you usually do afterwards, if I'm not comfortable eating in front of him, and we can't go back to either of our houses.... Please help! I will rate all advice. THANK YOU SO MUCH! (link)
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When you go to the movie you really don't have to do anything. You can make comments on the movie if you find something funny. If it's a scary movie you can ask him to hold your hand (that's always something I enjoy hearing from girls). Really though, you don't have to do anything. If you talk too much it will upset the other people watching the movie. There really isn't much communication during a movie. That's the main reason I consider movies a bad date, at least for people who are just starting to date.
Afterwards there are lots of things you can do. My best dates ever often consisted of just going for a walk, or you could find a nice place and just sit down and talk. It doesn't have to involve eating. Dinner and a movie is just the very stereotypical date. If he wants to go out to eat, you should go with him, but if he doesn't, then I would steer away from it.
In the instance he is hungry, try to order something small and not messy if it makes you embarrassed to eat in front of him. I always feel awkward when I order food and girls don't. At the very least order a milkshake or something. If you order something small and he orders something big, try to eat slowly so you don't finish way before him. It makes me feel strange also when a girl finishes eating long before me.
Hope this helps. Try thinking outside the box for dates. Weird dates are fun and interesting.
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ok so i am now 14 and i have been gettin weird feeling about my body and i have beenwanting to fingure myself and have sex. so the other day i fingured myself and i loved it. i did it for about 30 min. and then i had a guy do it. is that bad. (link)
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It is normal to have feelings like this at your age. Your body is just now entering the stage where it is physically capable of reproducing, and your body is telling you it wants to do so. Unfortunately, it is better to fight those urges. Getting fingered or doing it to yourself is a moral issue. If you do not have a problem with it, I would say that there isn't any real problem. Sex, especially at your age is not alright. I don't believe anything about waiting until marriage or until you're in love to have sex. What I do believe is that one shouldn't have sex until their maturity and finances are such that they could support a child in the instance of pregnancy. At 14 years old there is very little chance that you are mature enough to support a child and no chance that you could support one financially seeing as you can't get a job. So basically I'm saying that fingering, fine with me, sex, wait a few years. The only caution against the fingering is that people who do more sexually at a young age tend to become sexually active at a younger age. Try to take it slowly, don't get too physical with a guy too quickly. Guys will want more and more, and it's only a matter of time until you give in.
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i think, but i just dont know, but i think im in love...see this guy i just dont really know a whole lot about him, but he is everywhere i look...i told him i liked him like two months ago and i think i scared him off,,im in the process for asking for a truce and getting to know each other...but i have tried to get over him and just when i think i do, he pops up again...i dont know why...but all of these quizzes saying are you in love they wont tell you,,they are mostly about when you know the guy really well...but i dont hardly talk to him like maybe once a week...if i am in love i dont know what it feels like..i just know that i have never felt like this about anyone ever before...he is with me everywhere at everytime...but i see more to him than when others just see a pretty face..i see that he is a good person and has a lot of poteintial in his life..i see that he cares and is a gentlemen...i see him not the cute guy that plays soccer,,you know..i just dont know what to do...so can you help???
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The way you put it was a little unclear, but let me try and make some sense of it. You see him everywhere? That makes it seem like you run into him a lot, but then when you say you see the good person he is, it makes me think that you two are just friends. I'll answer for both situations just to be sure.
If you see him a lot, but you aren't very close with him, I would say you aren't in love. You could have a very serious crush on this guy, but it's not love.
If he's a friend, it's completely plausible that you have fallen in love. If you told him how you felt before and he ran off, then maybe he's scared, not ready for a relationship, or unfortunately doesn't have the same feelings for you that you have for him.
Either way, try to express your feelings for him. Talk to him, tease him, flirt with him. I know when a girl touches me, even grabbing my arm or something, my immediate reaction is to reciprocate the flirting (if I'm interested), or to get out (if I'm not). Kicking off a relationship between two people is the easiest part of the relationship if the two people are interested in each other. This is the easiest way to know how.
Now, if you want to know if you're in love. The way I feel about my girlfriend is that she's the person I waited for my entire life. That she filled some kind of emptiness inside me. I don't think she's perfect, but I accept her imperfections as part of the beautiful person she is. It's the feeling that nothing can go wrong as long as someone is at your side, and the constant fear of what will happen the day their not. That, I believe, is love. If that's how you feel, then good luck, but I see way too many people that confuse love with a huge crush.
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hi!! most of my best friends have boyfriends. Some of them even have 8 -yes, 8- other guys vying for them as well. Like if they broke up with their boyfriend, they would be asked out by 8 guys at once in a heart beat.
Me on the other hand, i can't even get asked out once. i've never had a boyfriend, a kiss, or even a real "i mean it" type of hug from a guy. I'm starting to get really lonely and also pissed off because im tired of being left out of plans becuase i don't have a date/boyfriend and i really want to be liked by atleast one guy (that i even remotely like-there are some guys who like me, but they #1 don't have enough courage to tell me/ask me out and #2 they are gross (don't brush hair, bad BO and bad breath, and don't wash clothes).
how do i get someone to like me and how do i flirt with a guy to get their attention to ask me out.
if you could PLEASE help me, i would be really really really happy and grateful.
(o, i forgot to mention, im really shy and not good at starting conversations or keeping them going)
thanks so much and sorry this is so long (link)
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Honestly, if you haven't met someone by 15, that does not mean you will never meet someone. I would actually say the majority of people have not been in a relationship by the time they turn 15. Guys (myself included) tend to be very immature at that age. I know because my brother just turned 16. Try to understand that just about all 15 year olds are fairly immature. They treat everyone horribly, including their friends, they date for all the wrong reasons, including who's the most attractive and popular, and are notoriously bad at serious relationships. If you want a guy though, try to get in good with his friends. The number one thing that will turn a 15 year-old guy off is if his friends say it's a bad idea. It also would probably be easier for you to approach his friends with intentions of friendship than to approach a guy you like with intentions of romance. Talking to guys is easy. We love to talk about ourselves. Honestly, at 15, I thought I was god's gift to mankind, and so did most of my friends. Just ask them a question and let them go on for days. If you don't get a guy at this age, consider yourself lucky, not unfortunate. I can almost promise you will not have a truly meaningful relationship until your last year of high school, and probably not until after you've graduated.
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about two months i ended a 3 year relationship with this guy and about 2 weeks ago my first boyfriend called me out of no where and he wanted to go get a coffee together and that was it . ever since we have been hanging out and. My family loves him and they thing his great but i dont know wut he wants. He says that he wants to take it slow beacuse i just go out of a relationship and when i ask him wut we are he says we are not friends but we are not boyfriend and girlfirned either. i just dont know where i stand. We have great sex but should we stop. He is a great guy for the future i mean i want somebody like him in my life later on but right now i dont know wut to do he says he cares about me alot but i feel like there is still something missing like he is still not sure about me. i mean if he isnt i would like for him to say it beacuse i dont want to get hurt at the end. Please HElp me (link)
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Maybe the best solution to your issue is just to tell him how you feel. It's not uncommon for someone, depending on age, to just want to date. It's a semi-relationship.
It seems to me that you aren't really sure about what you want. First decide that. If you want to be with him. Tell him. It would be better to tell him that you want to make in a monogamous relationship and have him say no, than it would be to stay in a relationship with someone who is not looking for the same thing as you are. Tell him how you feel, if you know how you feel. Express your concerns. These are the things that separate a relationship from just a hook-up buddy. Nobody can tell you what he wants besides him.
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ok, i have a bf. but he never tlks 2 me. then this other guy came... i guess i fell in luv with him. and i luv him more than my bf!! the new guy always tlks 2 me, flirts with me, and all of that junk, u kno. but my bf doesnt. i dont wanna break up with my bf cause i dont wanna go breaking anyones heart... WHO SHOULD I CHOOSE!?!?!?! pls help me!! (link)
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Choose the other guy. It sounds like your boyfriend treats you badly whereas this new guy is some kind of prince charming. Nobody can beat prince charming.
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