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finguring yourself
ok so i am now 14 and i have been gettin weird feeling about my body and i have beenwanting to fingure myself and have sex. so the other day i fingured myself and i loved it. i did it for about 30 min. and then i had a guy do it. is that bad.
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I don't think it's bad because they're normal feelings, especially because that and masturbation is pretty much the safest sex you can have. However, I do NOT recommend having sex (intercourse, oral, anal) at your age. It's something worth waiting for, and not to be rushed into. It's also something that you may end up regretting, and there are so many diseases and you have the chance of getting pregnant.
So please, consider and take my advice - I wouldn't tell you this if it wasn't the best thing for you. I've seen too many of my friends go through hardships for rushing into sex, and I don't want you to go through the same thing.
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The feelings are normal. Everyone goes through them.
But part of learning to be an adult is control. Keeping those feelings contained until the proper moment.
I wouldnt let a guy you werent dating for a while have access. Theres nothing wrong with playing with yourself (actually, I suggest it, as it keeps you sane and makes it easier to not do things with guys) but it is a known fact that if guys find out that they can get things sexual from you with little effort, they are not mature enough to do anything but use you for those sexual things.
If you have to, I would have a friend who was 18 buy you a dildo to keep rather than have sex. Thats your best idea at 14.
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It is normal to have feelings like this at your age. Your body is just now entering the stage where it is physically capable of reproducing, and your body is telling you it wants to do so. Unfortunately, it is better to fight those urges. Getting fingered or doing it to yourself is a moral issue. If you do not have a problem with it, I would say that there isn't any real problem. Sex, especially at your age is not alright. I don't believe anything about waiting until marriage or until you're in love to have sex. What I do believe is that one shouldn't have sex until their maturity and finances are such that they could support a child in the instance of pregnancy. At 14 years old there is very little chance that you are mature enough to support a child and no chance that you could support one financially seeing as you can't get a job. So basically I'm saying that fingering, fine with me, sex, wait a few years. The only caution against the fingering is that people who do more sexually at a young age tend to become sexually active at a younger age. Try to take it slowly, don't get too physical with a guy too quickly. Guys will want more and more, and it's only a matter of time until you give in.
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