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ahh help
sooo how do i get over my ex that i love and went out for 2 years but she stopped loving me and she wants to be friends but i can't do it idk ii am going crazy i miss her all the time and can't stop thinkinh about her idk i am going to flip- out and everyone wants her too
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It's always hard to get over a long term relationship. You may not be ready to be her friend yet, and that's okay. There is no easy route out of this situation, but if you distance yourself, cut yourself off from her, then you won't think about her all the time. It will hurt, but the healing will start sooner than if you try to be friends right now; that would just be lasting agony. It's painful and unfair, and I know that. I'm still getting over my last boyfriend that I loved dearly. I have come to the point that we can be friends, but it has been a long, painful road. I still dream about him and wish, often, that he were still in my life, but I feel better about it now, after cutting myself off from him for a few months. I'm sure it would be easier if I'd given myself more time, but I needed his friendship to help me heal as well.
You need to move on, live your life and try to forgive, if not forget, the hurt she's causing you. I wish you the best of luck, whatever you do.
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I just got out of a one-year relationship, so I know where you're coming from. First off, let me tell you I know it sucks. You get that feeling in your chest and you want to get rid of it. I'm sure you want to be able to focus on other things in your life, but your thoughts dwell on her. I completely understand that.
People are going to tell you to go out with your friends. They will tell you to talk to new girls. They'll tell you to stay busy. That really won't work. Time is the only think that will make it better. Hanging out with your friends might make you feel a little better for a couple hours, but they'll have to leave eventually, and you'll be alone again. Talking to other girls might help you realize she isn't the only girl in the universe, but is it fair to the girls that you are talking to them while you still have feelings for another girls? Staying busy does help a little. It doesn't make you feel any better, but it helps the time pass faster.
My advice to you is this: Take a break from dating. Often the worst part of getting out of a relationship is that you don't know how to function alone after so much time with a girlfriend. If you take a break from girls for a while, not only are you not worrying about being alone, you are actively trying to stay alone. Look at yourself. What do you like/dislike? After every breakup I try to reevaluate my lifestyle and improve in any way I can (I lost 12 pounds and got my GPA up after this one). The last thing you can do is be confident that it will get better. Twice in my life I have thought that the pain was so strong and constant that it would never cease. I was wrong. Think about it, how many old men do you see that are still upset over their high school or college romance? It doesn't happen. I'm not sure how old you are, but I doubt you're out of high school yet. You have a lot of life left to live, and there is plenty of time for you to find a good girl.
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im so sorry. thats no fun.
the best thing to do is get away from her. talk to other people, vent a little bit, get her off your mind. if time, maybe next year you guys can talk about it and resolve whatever. but the best thing to do right now is not to talk to her. or even see her. just stay far away.
what do you mean everyone wants her too?
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i cant give you advice on how to get over someone. its not that easy. obviously, thats two years of life that you will never regain, and im sorry.
maybe you should start hanging out with other girls and try to develope feelings for them. im not saying TOTALLY REPLACE THIS GIRL from your memory. thats not how it works. but you can try not to think about her by mingling around and hanging out with other girls and go on random dates here and there. just have some fun for now. and in time, maybe you can try this "just friends" deal after you've had some good times with other girls.
i hope it all works out. take care!
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