Hello I'm Sara. I'm 16 years old. I love giving advice and I am very good at it. I have helped a lot of people out with their love, sex, drug, ruined lives and turned them around. I hope I can do the same for you if you give me a chance and just ask ME a question. I respond quick so you will get your answer as soon as you write it to me. I do have my own little problems too so we can share together if that makes you more comfortable.
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ok im 16. i have been w/ my b/f for bout a year n a month. and i just found out im pregnant 6 weeks. i love him very much but my family really doesnt aprove of him or want him in my life! now that they know im pregnant they want to stop seein my b/f becuz they think he is not father figure becuz my b/f isnt really that good guy he drug deals and used to be in gang and used drugs but has sober for about 8 and a half months. i dont know what to do help do i stay with his family and him n leave mine his family loves me sooo much they were always there for me. help. i dont know what to do!!!! HELp
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WOw do you have a problem. First off, I'm sorry for this whole thing you are going through. If your family does not approve of him at all but you love him, he is your baby's daddy and then hes family loves you and accepts it then waht do you think? I think hes family. BUT and only but...is hes family "clean" like would your child be raised in a good clean nutrient family? You need you baby to have the best and only the best. He is a new life and needs everything. Think about waht is best for him..then you can think about yourself second. Thats how it is and thats always how it will be. You don't want your kid being a bad trouble maker by the time he/she is 5..so you pick what you think is best for the baby and you..Hope i helped. YOu better think hard about this. Oh and I'm 16 too.
OH OH OH I FORGOT TO SAY SOMETHING...YOu need to tell you parents that you are going to be with you boyfriend no matter what they think. He is your childs father and the baby needs a dad. If they do not like it..Threaten them and say you will move out with hes family taht actually like you and accept it. (they always cave in to this situation threat)
xox, Sara
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ok this is for guys mainly, unless girls have any idea
what would you want as an anniversary present?i have no clue what to get my b/f. any opinions? (link)
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Okay me and my boyfriends ONE YEAR anniversary was just this tuesday..the 23rd. I had NO IDEA what to get him..So me and my friend went to wal-mart picked out a REALLY REALLY REALLY sweet emotional card for him and then I picked out a very cute picture frame and a throw-away camera. Took a really cute picture of myself-well like a hundred (we took the pictures in the parking lot in my car) and then we went back inside and got them developed and then looked at the best one and then blew it up to a 5 by 7 picture and then put it in the picture frame...He loved it, even though i hated the picture (it was the best one though) he loved it...He got me a dozen spider-mums...are really really pretty flower and then a hundred balloons to my school...god its so easy for a guy...lol hope i helped-write me back.
xox, Sara
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Okay mine and my boyfriends one year is coming up. And I have NO idea what to get him for it. He doesnt like watches so thats totally out of the picture. PLEASE HELP! I need good ideas! (link)
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Hats I would prefer..Me and my boyfriends one year is august 23rd and hes birthday is august 12 so I'm getting him a tattoo for hes 18th birthday and then im getting him a hat for the anniversary..Because I have already got him a necklace.
I would prefer..
-a hat from pacsun (if you guys have that where you are from)35$
-A necklace (silver perferably)50$
-Earings (diamond stubs)20$ depends on size
-If you want to be romantic get a VERY VERY nice photo frame and try your hardest to get a very good picture of both of you or just a really sweet innocent picture of just you right before your anniversary comes up. He'll always be thinking of you then.
-I'm also getting my boyfriend the picture frame thing...or you can make your own from a craft store with all the things you guys have done on dates or something memorable.
sorry its so long but this is a gift that he has to ALWAYS remember...hes gift on hes first anniversary.
xox, Sara
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ok look i gave u my virginity to my current boyfriend! wen we have sex he refuses to stop until i have an orgasm! i tell him i do but im not sure if i have ever had one or not! wot does an orgasm feel like? and how do i no i've had one? PLEASE help! im desperate! (link)
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A orgasm is the greatest feeling. But...It's different with every girl. Like me...My legs trimble, my hands go numb, I can't breathe softly..I moan loud...But on the other hand..My sister...She told me that all she does is moan a little louder..I asked my boyfriend if I have ((he tells hes friends everything too)) He told all hes friends that he can feel me have one because how it feels on hes cock..YOu will know when you have one and he will too (unless he is a first timer, like yourself)
But hun..Trust me, you will know when you have one!...Its G.R.E.A.T! lol
Hope I helped...write me back..
xox, Sara
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well it this me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 1 year and i asked her is i could kiss her and she said no but she likes to take it slow and i said ok and that was about 2 mounths ago should i kiss her yet or wait and if we kiss should i use tounge and is there a special way to use tounge
please help i need it in the next few days
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WOW...How old are you? Like seriously..YOu should ask that in your question so more people will answer respectfully. If you guys have been dating for a year I think it is about time to kiss...Unless she is cheating on you and trying to play an inncocent role. I would just ask her and lay it straight. You guys have been dating for a year and you guys havent kissed- seriously that is sad.Not even a peck!. Just natrually kiss her..Not fast kissing incase she likes to take it "slow". I seriously think you need to check your girl though..i think she is messing around on you. PLEASE WRITE ME BACK AND TELL ME YOUR AGE...IT WOULD HELP A LOT!!!
xox, Sara
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*well my ex boyfriend is coming over tomarrow and i made him a scrapbook of all our memories cause i want him to know how much i still care about him! he has told me 3 times since we've been broken up he loves me and hes said he misses me all the time! but theres also another girl that he likes and im trying to pretty much win him over..but anyways..i was just wondering if you had any ideas on how i could do like a scavenger hunt kinda thing to lead him to it cause i want this to be special!!! please help asap! thanks!* (link)
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Okay, well I think he is just trying to feel powerful if you ask me (i know your not asking me that but still) If he says all that then he obviously does not love you, he is trying to keep you trapped..it has happend to me in my past relationships! Trust me. But..If you want to be pricey I would go for rose pedals...just buy about a dozen roses and take hte pedals off...thats always a cute trail..or do a candy he likes...like make a trail of snickers or reccess cups...OR A VERY VERY good one...(That I would do for my boyfriend)..IF you are sexually active than make a trail of your underwear (sexy kind) and bras...That would turn him on and make him walk to it faster...lol. But if you are not sexual active then do one of my other choices...I hope I helped as much as possible. Tell me what you think!
xox, Sara
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Alright, so I know this girl, i've known her about a year and a half and we have dated once before for like 3 months. It was quiet long distance and we really didn't do anything. We got into a stupid fight about stupid thing's and stopped talking for about 7 months. Well, about 2 months ago I started talking to her again because I wanted to get to know her again and be cool since she will be going to the same high school as me this year as apposed to last year. So instantly we started talking on the phone and now we talk till like 3 am almost every night. I see her a bit more now and we spent the fourth with each other and now im like seriously falling for her, she is everything I could ever want. BUT, I don't really thinks she feels the same and she never tells me how she feels. She just says, I don't want a boyfriend during the summer. What should I do and how does it sound from a female point of veiw. (link)
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That is sweet that you care that much about her. Ya she prolly feels like that way. Most girls don't want a boyfriend during the summer because they like to go ot he beach and to movies and to parks without worrying about a boy, Ya know? Just let it wait. If she is going to your school next year than you totally have a shot higher than anyone so don't worry about that. Just tell her that you like her a lot and are looking forward when she is ready to have a boyfriend because the worst thing to do to a girl is push her. Hope I helped.
xox, Sara
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I'm 16, and I don't want a relationship right now because I just got out of a really long one and I'm enjoying being single. But now that I am single it seems that every guy is wanting to date me and I just want to be friends. I'm usually the type of person that takes things fast with guys, but I'm trying to change my priorities and try and become friends before the whole dating thing. But every guy that wants to get with me takes it the wrong way when I say, "I just want to stay single right now because I've gotten out of a long relationship and I'd rather be friends right now." After that they act really cool with the idea but after a couple weeks they stop talking to me, and then the next time I see them they get shitty with me because they feel insulted that I don't want to date them. I want to keep my guy friends and stop worrying about losing them just because I don't feel like dating at this point in time. And I have no clue how to say this with out hurting anyone's feelings or making them think that I'm not interested. They all take it that I a m shooting them down, which I am not at all trying to do. Many of the guys I do kind of like, but I want to stay single until I truly feel ready to date someone and I will know when that is, because I don't want to jump into the next available relationship and have it end quickly. I want to take my time and find a guy that will treat me right. I'm only 16 so I have plenty of time to stay single and find the right guy. So please help me! Is there anyway I can explain to these guys how I am feeling without them getting pissed off and thinking I'm shooting them down with the whole "just friends" line? (link)
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It's hard huh? Just getting out of a relationship. Ya Okay anyways. You just need to lay it straight to them. You still want to be friends but you got way to hurt from your last relationship that you just want to be singel and enjoy your life with a lot of friends, Tell them that you guys can still hang out and go to places..like the mall or movies (friends do that) If they do not respect your feelings and take them into consideration than they just want to date you for one reason and one reason only. If they stick around then you're off to a great start. I hope I helped.
xox, Sara!
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i have a friend that've liked me for soo long and i like him too but i never got with him because i always knew that i couldnt he lives in another state and long distance of course never works out..the past two boyfriends ive had he totally hated and btw i have a boyfriend right now...well so because he lives in a diff. state i dont wanna get with him but now hes giving up on all hope and i know for sure that when he stops he'll stop talking to me and we're gonna drift apart and i really dont want that to happen...ive tried to give him some signals that i dont like him but then other times i just cant help it because as ive said hes soo sweet and hes always there for me and he never seems to get it how else can i help him get over me but still keep in touch?! (link)
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Okay I seriously had a problem like this. My friend Steven lives in maine. Well I met him on Sims Online. Well he started to like me A LOT say he loved me and goodnight and all that and then he started sending me stuff. Freaky!!! He went to disney land for spring break and he sent me micky mouse ears with my NAME sewed into the back, 2 necklaces with my name on them and then for my birthday he sent me a card with a teddy bear and 16 dollars..Stalker? YES. He only did this because I have a boyfriend..John that he "hated" (was jealous of) and would always put him down, well I got freaked out about him...He got my address because my friend lives in maine and she knows him and she told him..well i stopped talking to him so he got the hint that i didnt like him AT ALL and then he just gets mad and sends me mean emails...Thats the way it worked for me but if you want him to keep talking to him then you need to tell him that you guys are relaly good firends and you don't want ot loose that but you live in a differnt state and it wouldnt work out and he should know that. Say that he is like a brother to you and that is all we will ever be because you guys have a bond like no other..He will take this into concideratione and think about it and he will adventually get over it and all will be good. Sorry so long but I hope I helped you with your question hun. Respond with what you think? Thanks bye. xo sara
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ALRIGHT PEOPLE! I need your help! Alright well there is this guy and I think I have a crush on him! butt.. he is like a really horny person.. and like if i ever did go out with him (which I doubt) im afraid hed use me! But i think itd be fun to go out with him! and I have a crush on him.. and hes funny and everything! but I dont want him just to use me for stuff.. and I already told him if I do anything sexual with anyone they are gona be my boyfriend.. what if some how we do end up goin out.. how do I know he isnt using me? But also how do I make him like me for me and not just for sexual stuff!! (link)
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Easy. Play hard to get, guys hate hit but they chase you and realize your more than a sex toy if they would waste their time chasing you. Get what I am saying? It is easy, so don't say it is hard. I know from experience. Try it. It my be a little hard cause you do have to kind of ignore him a little bit cause that is the point of the chase. But I hope I helped you hun. Please respond with the out come?. XO sara
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hey! well me and my ex boyfriend mike went out for 3 months..i know its not a long time but we talked and dated for like 4 months before that! well anyways we have been broken up for almost 6 months now and we both have went out with other people!i have always asked him if he liked me and if wed ever get back together..well he never would answer the whole like you question but he would always say i dunno if we will ever go back out cause i dont normally go out with ex gfs so i thought ok fine whatever! well i tried moving on ya know and i finally got to the point i thought i was over him! i even had him over like 4 weeks ago..i could kinda tell he had feelings for me cause he would keep asking me for a hug and hed like put his arm around me and he gave me a hickey and we had a total blast together..but it kinda felt like we were just friends so i thought well maybe i am over him but yet i still missed him! so i went on vacation and didnt really talk to him for 2 weeks..the day i get back he ims me and was talking to me and said he liked me so that kinda made me feel good but then i also realied that maybe i wasnt quite over him and he had also asked if he could come over next week so i thought sure! well so the next night we stayed up til 3:15 in the morning talking and he had said he still loved me and always had, he missed me, and itd be great if we eventually got back together but he didnt want that right now and he wanted to keep things slow for right now! then the next night it was a repeat we stayed up til 3:30 and he said he missed me and my picture was his background on his computer and what not! well then things just kinda seemed weird! i just had this feeling it wasnt gonna be a good day but i kinda tried letting it go past me and i wrote his xanga past memories and i told him i still loved him..so i guess that was a bad idea cause he totally flipped and was like omg i cant believe u did that , you know i dont like my friends knowing everything, blah blah blah! so i was like ok im sorry and i showed him how to get rid of it! so then he wouldnt say i love you but he said i miss ya and your pic is still on my background so i was like okay maybe things arent that bad! but he also told me he didnt know if he was going to come over next week now because i made him upset and he couldnt believe i would do that which seemed kinda weird to me! but the thing is i want him to come over cause i wanna see him and talk all of this out in person and i even made a scrap book of us cause i want him to realize how much i really do care! well then theres this girl melissa that has liked him for about a year now! well hes always told me they were just friends and things like that! and the other day i said something how hes always with girls and calls them hun and stuff and hes like i hate when your like this cause you always think i like these girls when really we are just close friends! and i want to trust him but its so hard! and then like today i read his xanga and melissa signed it saying i cant wait to watch fire works with you tomarrow and then it had this quote that was like seduce my body blah blah blah seduce my soul and ill always be yours! and im so clueless on what to think about that! i know they both use to like eachother and they went to a dance together after we broke up and all he ever tells me is they are just close friends but he is with her all the time! and i dont know what to think of it! i just dont know why he would sit there and say all of a sudden out of no where that he loved me and missed me when for 6 months he wouldnt say a word to me! PLEASE HELP ME! and by the way you are very pretty! (link)
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Wow..Well first of all thanks for the compliment.. That made me feel very good. Okay but anyways I said wow because (I know a lot of people say "i've had a boyfriend like this and blah blah" but i have and i have all the advice to give you because of it.) Okay My ex boyfriend JJ was like this a lot...and still is. We went out for 4 months and then he broke up with me saying it went to fast and he needs other girls in hes life cause he is to young, well I find out that he was doing stuff with this girl kristy (which was hes "close friend") Well I was pissed..Cause one he told me he would never she is like hes sister and they are just really close friends..well they went to a dance together and then that was the end, well i was stupid and went back to him and that was in august (not last august, the one before) well we broke up in november because it went to fast again and so I go really hurt because i started loving him and I really needed a guy at the time. I got over him around januaray and then he calls me and says all this shit like he has me as hes background and he misses me and misses talking to me and I felt like he was honest and I really felt bad..so i went back to him but he was talking to this girl ally which was hes other "close" friend so i got mad then hes cousin told me that him and her were kissing so I got mad and then he got mad so he dumped me AGAIN (cheated on me and THEN he dumped me) well that was around march or april then so then i got over him pretty quickly cause i felt like i didnt have to cry and waste my fucking time over someone that didnt want me so i met john (my boyfriend now) and we started talking around july and then we started dating in august and I have been with him for 10 months now with no break ups at all and we are as happy as can be and no one can bring us down, but jj emailed me like a week ago and made this long ass speech about how he loves me, never thought about ANY other girls (lie of course) and blah blah and then when i told him about john he flipped and then got into hes angry mood (which he had all the time...we had a very aggressive relationship that had him hitting me and stuff...ya horrible)well I didn't even think twice..It was long gone and Just move on, what you hear and see is probly correct and I would stay away, i was in the SAME EXACT situation that you are in and it ended with me crying and hurting my self over someone i thought loved me but just used me. and he still wants me and that was like a year ago. I hate him and I always will...Hate is a strong word but when it comes to him I have a right to use it and i have scars to prove it. but thats a different story..John is now my councler (spell check) so I am good now. i don't even think about him any more not even a tiny bit. So hun I would just move on and they are other good guys out there ....trust me a lot of people told me and i didnt believe them and i always said no but now look at me, i've been in a relationship for 10months and never could be happier. I hope i helped you hun...I really hope i did. Please Respond to me.
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my best friend is having sum guy problems she has never had a bf! and i really want her to have a bf because when i am with my bf she is there, and i feel bad becuz she fells left out no madder what i do! so i was wondering if anyone had any ideas....
o and she has very high standards
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WOW..Once i read this I immediatly thought of my sister. Alright im 16..I've had about 5 boyfriends in my life..She is 20...She just got her first boyfriend, first kiss, first date. AND SHE IS 20!!! Yes she did hate it. Seeing her little sister have boyfriends..I'm with my guy for 10 months now and I guess it got her thinking. She just got a boyfriend. You have to have your friend find a guy by herself. I helped my sister a little cuz she finally got the courage to talk to me and ask me for help so her now boyfriend is my boyfriends friend. See...Just give it time. She'll lower her standers...TRUST ME! My sister was VERY VERY VERY picky also. HOpe I helped...Sorry if i dont
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So, my questions are usually opinion issues, but this one's actually an "I don't know" issue.
What is the guy's equivilant of a promise ring?
My guy and I are going ring shopping for me, and I want to get him something that says "I'm taken" basically (because I don't trust girls, and we're going to different colleges in the fall).
My problem is that he doesn't wear jewelry. Like, at all.
There's the sliiiiiim possibility that I could get him to make an exception for a ring (or even get him to put the ring on the only necklace he wears (a dog tag on a chain)) but I doubt it.
So...what can I get him that'll tell other people he's taken besides a ring or a tattoo with my name in it? Lol. (link)
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You should really try a ring. Ask him and tell him that it means a lot to you if he would wear it. Say it could be a reminder of you when he is at school and away from you. My boyfriend wears a necklace..Basically guys that wear necklaces ((no dog tags)) have girlfriends. Basically. But one thing i know for sure a girl will second guess herself is a ring. I wear a promise ring my boyfriend got me and no guy has talked to me in 10 months. Well I hope I helped. Please tell me what he says if you go with this plan...GOOD LUCK HUN!
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ok so ive had a crush on this guy since my freshmen year (Kyle). And then i find out from a friend (Jason) that Kyle's intrested in me too, and he thinks i am cute, has a good personality.. blah blah blah. But as i'm asking Jason about all this he says Kyle is confused and he doesn't know if he wants a relationship! what am i suppose to do? This guy doesn't really know how crazy i am about him. But i mean, how do i get him to think of me as more then a friend? PLEASE SEND WHATEVER ADVICE U GOT! haha thanks! (link)
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Okay a lot of birdie huh? Birdie is talking from one person to another person for the "info". Well i think that if kyle is intrested in you and you think its for your personality only then you need to talk to him about it-but from what I read it sounds like its for your looks if he thinks your cute but he doesnt know if he wants a relationship-thats normally how it goes..they just don't want ot sound like a regular guy. Just you need to REALLY talk to him..see what he is all about and then think if you should really waste your time and talk to him.
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I am 13 and I have never kissed anyone. I know that I want too, but I want it to be sweet and romantic. I have thought about this for a LONG time (ever since I turned 11) I want a romantic first kiss, like a walk in the park or something and then we just kiss. I need to know about 5 things though. (1) I have braces, will our lips get hung together or something? (2) I ALSO have a herpz appliance in my mouth!!! Will THAT get our lips caught together? (3) How do you kiss? I mean whats the most sweetest way to kiss without making out? (4) Where is a romantic date? I can go to the movies or somewhere like that? I don't have any parks where I live. (5) Whats a good type of clothing, earrings, etc. to where? I REALLY NEED A GIRL'S ADVICE! (link)
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Okay well these days the first kiss isnt all that romantic anymore. But here are your answers.
1. No your braces won't get caught on their lips. Your mouth is closed and your teeth are not no wide almost sticking out grin type anyways.
2. Okay I have no idea what a herpz appliance is..but I don't think it would be a problem.
3. For a sweet kiss but not a make out. Just lightly peck(long but not to long) him, Hold he's face with your left hand-gently..like a caress..and tilt your head to the right so your noses dont smush.
4. Lately a movie isn't a romantic date these days. Everyone goes to them so it's a normal routine, I think a romantic date is just sitting at home eating on a couch or you could go for the spender and just go out to a nice restaurant you and him have never tried before so then when you guys go to look at orders you can look stupid together..There has to be a good laugh at the beginning of your date so it don't go crappy.
5. A good type of clothing? Nothing-lol jp. Just jeans and a nice t-shirt..not to nice of an out-fit. you don't want to look helpless(unless you've been dating for awhile..so then you can surprise him) Earing..Go for SMALL hoops or just plain colored diamonds.
-I have had the same guy for 10 months now. I started out seeing him in just a long t-shit and jeans and regualar shoes. Lately to surprise him and get him excited to take me out I wear skirts and cute tops..Theres always time for a picker upper for your man...Just don't try to hard-i learned that mistake with my ex.
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Ok, there is this boy who I like and he dumped me for this other girl who he says is annoying. He has liked me for forever and now i really, really, like him. The other girl hated me because iwas going out with him and she said stuff behind my back. he thought we broke up and he went with the other girl. I don't know if it is because he thought he didn't have a girlfriend and he needed one quick or what. What should i do since I really like him?
~fello advicenator
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Okay..Wow thats a confusing little story there. But. I seriously had this same problem. My ex. We had broken up (I didn't think so) He had kissed and done other stuff with this girl, later on hes cusin told me about it. I got furious and upset that he would do that to me because i liked him so so much. But then when i talked to my ex about it he said that he had broken up with me the night before. Which he did. I liked him so much that i just didn't want to hear it so i made myself not hear him. (I can do that..its weird) So when i actually thought we were dating and wasted my time crying we were actaully really broken up but i didn't want to come to terms with that. All you girls know how that is though. But hun..If he has moved on then i suggest you move on-its hard for everyone so don't give me that excuse cause i gave everyone that excuse til i found my love john...I've never been happier in my life.
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