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Never thought I'd be this way
Hung on every word you say
Scars that you gave to me
I earned all too eagerly
Cause down inside of you
Is all of heaven and hell
Everyday is all the same
Take the pleasure with the pain
Things that you put me through
Never is enough for you
So I'll fly
Find another life
I know somewhere it's right
So why can't I forget you?





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i love some1 & he also love's me a lot & these perents accept me before 1 year, but my perent is too much strick in love relation, i also love my perent i can't leave any one .i can't leave with out my perent's & my lover . im very tence & i can't marri another one . my lover is perfact he earn good his family is also good & he is same stateus , but THESE R IN DIFFERENT CASTE these i mean problem . how can i say these relationship ? with my perents i my warried before 3 years & i m soo tense what can i do? i don't want to hurt my perents but i can't leave my lover(i m from india)
&im pandit &he is panjabi these is mean probleam is caste

Hello,
I'm punjabi, and i'm from India, so i understand your problem. My family also has problems with castes so i understand what you are going through. This is a tense situation because your parents are used to these traditions and if you break them, they would be upset. All i could tell you is to follow your heart. If you love him, and know he is the one, you have to fight for your rights to marry him. Yes your parents will be very angry, and they may not talk to you after, but you have to decide what you want. You need to make your parents understand that he is a good guy even though he is in another caste. Indian parents are very stubborn, i know, i deal with them. You just have to make your parents understand, that is all you can do. Somehow you need to convince them to look past the caste systems. IF you have any more questions, you can post a question into my inbox. Good luck with everything, i know you will make the right decision.

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17/F
Long Post. I'm sorry I write a bit detailed.

Alright so last year I moved to a new school. There was a boy I didn't like at first but as I got to know him I got really sprung off of him. He showed that he liked me back, and we would flirt when we saw eachother. We only did a small peck on the lips once.
But this year I've gotten close to him as a friend and I told him that I liked him and he told me that he liked me back and was attracted to me, but he wasn't interested in having a girlfriend right now...that it wasn't what was on his mind. We talk about it sometimes and really I'm the one who brings it up and still he says pretty much the same thing. Haha,you could say that I’m good with the family as well…He told me that his mom was talking to him about girls once and she asked, "Well what about that [my name] girl?" For a mom to ask her son about a girl....Shouldn't I be the perfect one for him? And why can’t he see it?!
Then Saturday on Valentine's Day he pretty much brought up the idea of me coming over and when I did I then discovered his family wasn't home and I've been over his house alone with him. So anyways, we were just talking and then he went to go shower, playin around telling me he wanted me to join him. He isn't very forward it seems, like he gave a few signals that he wanted to kiss me but I was thinking too much about what it would mean. So we were laying down on his bed just watching a movie, kinda cuddling. Then I started talking about us again and asked him, if we were ever going to talk or be anything more than friends. Not now, just maybe in the future." He said that he didn't know. He’s not talking to anyone right now either. I also asked if there was any other girls that he would think about going out with before me, and he said that he hadn't really thought about it. By this time I was thinking, "How can you be a boy and really not be thinking about this kinda stuff?!?! “ I asked if it was akward and he said not really. It was probably more akward for me than it was him. So then I told him, “well I feel like I’m waiting for you, like I always have this feeling something will happen in the future between us. But you keep saying you don’t know….Should I just stop liking you?” He looked at me as if he had never heard a question like this before, “Well…I don’t know…If something comes up and it happens then I guess…. “ I then told him that I didn’t want do do anything with him that would make me like him more, because I didn’t want to be taken advantage of. he laughed and was like, “what would you want to do?” and I said, “everything but not if I’m not going out.” Either way, I left on good terms with him, a big hug but we didn’t kiss or anything. Still, I feel as if I was just too easy for him and I’m kinda giving up on him as much as I don’t want to. My mom says maybe if I stop chasing him, and he sees me started to fall away from him, he'll be like, "Wait come back!" I wonder if that's true..
What should I do? And [Guys] do you think I was too easy for him?

Its kind of like trial and error.
I say you distant yourself, and if he doesnt come then go back to him. If you distant yourself, and he comes chasing you, then you both would realise your true feelings for eachother. See what works out, every guy is different.

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I am a single divorced parent of four and very attractive. Although I am a 40 female, I often get "carded" or mistaken as my 20 yr old's sister. My delimma is that I have not been blessed regarding relationships whereas someone loves me as much as I love them. I started attending this huge church three years ago. I have always been active in church in another state. On my first visit, which was business related, the pastor, who was single, made a point to introduce himself to me. I brushed it off because I was seeing someone at the time. Recently, my friends who visits from other churches notice how he stares at me during service in a church of over 1500 members per service. I have noticed that he seeks me out and have constant eye contact. I brushed it off as he does it with everyone to engage them. The final thing that made me wonder was the fact that I was leaving the church and wrote him a letter. That Sunday, he stated, "I got your letter.....don't leave me.....I don't know what I would do if you were to leave." I have also "heard rumors" that he has it bad for me and that is why I am catching hell from other females in the church who have a crush on him.

I am beginning to have feelings sub consciencly. I don't know if I've been attracted all the while as was subpressing my feelings or if it is curiousity. The problem is that I think about him all the time. I am in a relationship with a wonderful man, but I don't love him as a significant other, only as a "best friend". He wants more. On the other hand, my pastor is communicating more with me and inviting me to dinner functions that are only suppose to be for church board members or deacons.

My pastor has even appointed me to key positions in the church, which makes me feel awkward because I want to earn positions based on my talent, not becuase of favor.

Although I am thinking of him all the time, I also have butterfiles when he is near and become speechless. I have noticed the same behavior from him. He compliments me every Sunday. This feeling is getting worst and I did not have these feelings at first.

My question is, should I pursue him, although he has never been married and doesn't have any children? How will the church look at our relationship? How do I "ask him out"? How do I truly find out if I am not reading into things? How do I get him off my mind? If we date, how do I save my friendship with two of my best friends who are "madly" in love with him? Please help!

Lonnie44
Atlanta

Don't lose your chance, he is obviously intrested, there's no harm in trying.

If you do get involved into a relationship, you have to explain this to your friends.

It doesn't matter how the church views your relationship. If your happy, hes happy, your kids are happy and your friends are happy, thats all that matters.

If you act intrested in him too, he will ask you out. Dinner events and such is the first step.

You can truely find out if your not reading into things by the way you feel around him. Your heart doesn't lie, just follow it.

If this love you feel for him is true, you wouldn't be able to get him off your mind. That isn't a bad thing.

You can save your friendship, if your best friends were really that close in the first place, they would understand.

Remember, the right thing to do isn't always the easiest thing to do. But it will guarantee you success.

I wish you luck in whatever decision you choose.

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theres this boy who makes me feel amazing. hes always complimenting me and stuff. and recently i found out that he likes my best friend. hes the sweetest kid and they seem like "the" couple, but i'm really jealous. what do i do?

ugh, happens to me all the time.
You cant do anything if he likes her, and if their "the couple"
Might as well TRY to move on, and get over with it. The only thing you can do.

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theres this guy that i have been hanging out with and im really starting to like him. But, he says that he likes my friend. but when he told me he liked my friend the convo was just like
HIM- who do you like?
ME- umm i dont know. you?
HIM- guess
ME- Izzy
HIM- i dont know. maybe.
ME- well the only girls i know that you know are izzy and me. you like izzy?!
HIM- maybe.
ME- im gonna get it out of you. you do!
HIM- yeah.

that was pretty much the convo on the phone. but like.. i dont know what he sees in her. i mean no offence but she isnt the prettiest and shes a total B**ch to like everyone. the only thing about her that i see is that she can be funny at times and that she has a good body. but anyways...

im really starting to like him but i dont know if i should tell him since he told me he likes her. but like its driving me crazy and like i keep falling for him more and more cause like whenever we hung last week we went to the movies a lot but like i was always cold so he pretty much just like held me and its not like i asked him to. but then he tells me he likes her. so like i dont know what to do. cause i would LOVE to go out with him and stuff... but he just doesnt know i like him and now hes going to mexico for a week and hes coming back next week. but i want to go to a Cubs game with him.. but i dont know if i should invite him or not.

so what do you think i should do? should i invite him and keep hanging out with him? and should i tell him i like him? or what? im so confused. please help.

I think you should give it a little more time, hang out a little bit more then tell him. Yes, i think you should invite him and have fun at the game. If he starts showing you signs that he likes you, then i think you should go ahead and tell him. From reading that convo, it seems like that guy is pretty confused. I think its your perfect opputunity to get to know him better and be closer. Then if your ready, you can tell him how you feel. You never know, maybe when you hang out with him more and more, you realise that he's not your type. Anything can happen! Good luck and dont hesitate to post in my inbox if you have any questions.

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15/f

a few days ago i found out that this one kid who i used to be best friends with is a virgin, and everyone said he wasnt. but he told my one friend he was, and he said that the only girl he would ever wanna do it with is me. well, i turned him down a while back. and we havent talked since. everyone thinks he likes me, and thinks i should talk to him. but im like scared. i dont wanna get hurt again, like i did, the last time we stopped talking. i mean, i just got over that a little while ago. and its been a year almost. i just dont wanna feel that hurt again.

what should i do? i really miss him though..

There are two things you can possibly do in this sitution:
1) Never talk to him again
2) Talk to him and try to patch things up

I think it's better if you should do 2). I mean, you never know what could start if you guys talk again. You know what you would be missing out if you guys dont talk, your just going to remain on missing him, and frankly it doesnt seem like your too happy by doing that. I say, talk to him and try to rekindle that friendship again. Yes, you may get hurt, but arent you hurt right now? This happened with my guy friend as well, and what i did was give him some time, then tried talking again. I did it slowly, like saying hi one day, then the next week, asking how he was. In moderation, you get what i mean? After that, he was the one chasing after me =D. I thought our friendhip was over and i really did miss him so i tried it out and now our friendship is going good. It just toke time. If you need any more help on conversation starters or anything, dont hesitate to post in my inbox. Good luck:)

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