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Was I too easy for him?
17/F
Long Post. I'm sorry I write a bit detailed.
Alright so last year I moved to a new school. There was a boy I didn't like at first but as I got to know him I got really sprung off of him. He showed that he liked me back, and we would flirt when we saw eachother. We only did a small peck on the lips once.
But this year I've gotten close to him as a friend and I told him that I liked him and he told me that he liked me back and was attracted to me, but he wasn't interested in having a girlfriend right now...that it wasn't what was on his mind. We talk about it sometimes and really I'm the one who brings it up and still he says pretty much the same thing. Haha,you could say that I’m good with the family as well…He told me that his mom was talking to him about girls once and she asked, "Well what about that [my name] girl?" For a mom to ask her son about a girl....Shouldn't I be the perfect one for him? And why can’t he see it?!
Then Saturday on Valentine's Day he pretty much brought up the idea of me coming over and when I did I then discovered his family wasn't home and I've been over his house alone with him. So anyways, we were just talking and then he went to go shower, playin around telling me he wanted me to join him. He isn't very forward it seems, like he gave a few signals that he wanted to kiss me but I was thinking too much about what it would mean. So we were laying down on his bed just watching a movie, kinda cuddling. Then I started talking about us again and asked him, if we were ever going to talk or be anything more than friends. Not now, just maybe in the future." He said that he didn't know. He’s not talking to anyone right now either. I also asked if there was any other girls that he would think about going out with before me, and he said that he hadn't really thought about it. By this time I was thinking, "How can you be a boy and really not be thinking about this kinda stuff?!?! “ I asked if it was akward and he said not really. It was probably more akward for me than it was him. So then I told him, “well I feel like I’m waiting for you, like I always have this feeling something will happen in the future between us. But you keep saying you don’t know….Should I just stop liking you?” He looked at me as if he had never heard a question like this before, “Well…I don’t know…If something comes up and it happens then I guess…. “ I then told him that I didn’t want do do anything with him that would make me like him more, because I didn’t want to be taken advantage of. he laughed and was like, “what would you want to do?” and I said, “everything but not if I’m not going out.” Either way, I left on good terms with him, a big hug but we didn’t kiss or anything. Still, I feel as if I was just too easy for him and I’m kinda giving up on him as much as I don’t want to. My mom says maybe if I stop chasing him, and he sees me started to fall away from him, he'll be like, "Wait come back!" I wonder if that's true..
What should I do? And [Guys] do you think I was too easy for him?
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Its kind of like trial and error.
I say you distant yourself, and if he doesnt come then go back to him. If you distant yourself, and he comes chasing you, then you both would realise your true feelings for eachother. See what works out, every guy is different.
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haha i agree with your mom,he doesnt know what he has until its gone.
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Personally I applaud you. You are letting him know exactly how you feel, your keeping it 100% and shouldn't always be that way. I mean sure I do see where your mom is coming from because some guys do like the chase, and do not realize what they had or could have had until its gone or fading away. BUT not all guys are like that, some like to keep it 100% just like you are. No one is the same. I for one do not think you are being too easy but then again I'm not a guy. Although you should let up a bit...hope I helped---when I said let up a bit I meant don't come so hard you with your advances. But yea you are so welcome!!!
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