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Q: hey! I hope you are in love like I am in love or at least you have been in love like I am in love right now. :)

I want to make a CD for my boyfriend's road trip and I need help with a list of cute love songs that I can use for this mix CD.

Please list as many songs as you can think of that you like.

I rate everybody.

Thank you!

Hey,

So here are my top 20 love songs that I think you might enjoy.

1.Lucky In Love- Jason Mraz/ Colbie Callait
2.Bubbly- Colby Callait
3.No One- Alicia Keys
4. Crazy Love- Michael Buble
5. Angel of Mine- Monica
6.I'll Be- Edwin Mccain
7. Everywhere- Michelle Branch
8. You get me- Michelle Branch
9.Jai Ho(You are my destiny) - Pussycat Dolls
10. Our song- Taylor Swift
11. Sweat Pea- Amos Lee
12. Unchained Melody- Righteous Brothers
13. We Belong Together- Gavin Degraw
14. Can't Help Falling In Love With You- The Ateens
15. With You- Jessica Simpson
16. I'm Yours- Jason Mraz
17. Still the one- Shania Twain
18. These Words- Natasha Bedingfield
19. Love like this- Natasha Bedingfield
20. You get Me- Michelle Branch

Q: hey brianna ok well let me get straight to the point....ive been out with alot of guys....ALOTTTTTTTTTT of guys,,like 10 in the past 4 monthes...and i bet hats not gonna be the end...so anyways..people r now saying that im sortof a player...and like thats not it at all...im just looking 4 the right guy...and non of them r the right ones..ther all a bunch of bad boyfriends..excpet 4 one..but we broke up.... so i dont rly want them to call me that..and i guess its b/c some of my relationships arent vry long..but thats jsut b/c they arent it...well..do u think people r just jelouse? or not? cuz its gettin rly annoying...like im not a player at all..what should i do? should i lay low..and not date anymoe guys 4 alittle bit?

Hey,

So I believe that it is none of those people's business who you date. If they don't like how many people you date then they can shove it. Don't stop dating for their sake. People can say whatever they want don't let it get to you. It's a waste of time.

Like the person below me said, if you want a long term relationship you need to get know these guys before jumping into a relationship.
If it were me I'd take a long look at the person before I started dating them. First of all I would look at the kind of person they are. Are they the type of guy who is a known player? Avoid him like the plague. Or are they type who loves to party at all cost, with know thought to consequences. Somebody smart coined the term. "You get what you pay for." In this situation you need to make sure you don't forget it.

If you want the qualities of prince don't try to find them in a toad. A toad is a toad and they can't be anything other than themselves. I garauntee you that if take a minute and really listen to the way the person acts around their friends you'll have a window into the person they really are. One guy asked me out but, I knew the way he acted with his friends. (He was completely irresponsible and immature.) I politely declined. He spent the rest of his year hitting on girls and trying to have sex with them. Which made me happy I avoided him like the plague.

Basically, use your instincts if you don't want to keep dating toads. Wait for a little bit before jumping into a relationship with someone you don't know. I promise you you'll know a prince when you see one.

Q: In the beginning of 7th grade, i met this boy. I remembered him out of all the students in my classes combined becasue when we first met, he said, "I dont remeber your name, you're the only girl who i don't remeber."
ofcourse, it made me feel speical.
so i liked him for 2 long years and i still do now, since i lived away from the same high school as the one he goes to i had to go to another high school. he was a westmen i was an eastmen.(

Hey,

So here's the thing. When a guy says "give me time" its almost certain that said guy is leading you on. That's just what guys say when they want to play mind games. Seriously after two years this guy is trying, and succeeding to get over on you. Move on. I guarantee you that if he truly like he you he wouldn't need "time". Because when men really want something or someone they'll make time. Don't waste another moment of your time with him.

Q: My boyfriend and i broke up less than 3 weeks ago.He was my first bf,and i was his first REAL gf.We were great,had so much fun all the time and he randomly broke up with me because he was "getting sick of me","wanted to be free in highschool",etc.etc.but said he wanted to stay friends.We've basically been talking again,hanging out (less than we used to) and trying to be "friends". When we hungout yesterday, we were a little drunk and he came out to me and said he likes me still and thinks about me all the time and swore that im the most amazing girl ever,but he wants to experiment with other girls and crap..which ofcourse made me mad.He kissed me and all that and held my hand ,made sure i didnt get wet out in the rain,etc.etc. but ofcourse he was kind of "drunk". We made plans to hangout today too,and ofcourse he was sober this time.We got up early and me and him just went on a cute little adventure and went to all these places.He wanted to show me his old town so we visited there and he took me to this beach he used to go to and we chilled and ate and all that.And we had to sneak into one part of the beach and he held my hand and said "lets pretend like we're a couple so we don't get caught" blah blah but after a few seconds he stopped.Then we went back to my house and watched a movie,but didn't cuddle or kiss or anything..but still had a good time.I am trying to not talk about our relationship when im with him and just be happy and have fun and just see how things go.I didn't think he'd hangout with me all day today alone if he didn't like me...and same with yesterday and i felt as though the alcohol brought out his "true " feelings (as sad as that sounds).I just like him so much and I don't know how often i should hangout with him,or what i should and shouldn't say when im with him..or what!? help!

Hiya,

You need to listen to my words: FORGET ABOUT HIM. This guy broke up with you because got sick of you. and wanted to be free. If a guy told me that he was sick of me, I would drop him like a hotcake. Why are you even spending time with this guy? Being friends with him is one thing. Going on "cute little adventures"is another. Sounds like this guy wants the best of both worlds. He doesn't like you enough to actually get serious with you, because he wants to be free. And yet he's willing to kiss you and I'd bet money that if you bring that up later he'll blame that on the alcohol. Don't waste your time.
If alcohol is the only thing that will bring out his true feelings that's a BIG problem. I think it's okay to be friends with him but don't start dedicating all of your time to him. Because he's going to start getting the impression that you are only we he wants you and will take advantage of that. (which to me is what he sounds like he's doing already.) Make yourself busy. And don't tell him you like him unless he's willing to date you. I think he said best what he's really thinking "Let's pretend like we're a couple"
He wants to have all the perks but still play the field. You can seriously do better.

Q: I have a best (guy) friend i have known since elementary school. We live in Tampa fl. We are both 13 and in 7th grade. He asked me out at the beginning of 7th grade. But I didn't like him like that. But now it's near the end of 7th grade and I'm like in love with him. He knows I like him. But since we are best friends we hang out alot. I've even been inside his house. But if we go out and break up we won't be friends anymore. Because he dated a girl that he had known for a while and then they broke up over something he won't tell me about. Now they are enemies and I don't want it to turn ot that way with us. So wat should I do. I have tried so many advice columns but none replied. Pleeeeeeease help.

Hey,

Listen, I think that if you like this guy and you are truly friends you should give this thing a chance with him. Now I know it's a great risk to date someone who is your best friend and I know that you don't want to end up enemies like the other girl you mentioned, but if you really want to be with this guy you got to leap. Being afraid that you won't be friends anymore is just going to cause a world of regrets later on. Trust me, I know. There were many guys who I wish now, I had just told I liked. I think you and your friend should have some sort of agreement before you get into your relationship though that even if you relationship goes south you will stay friends.

Q: Hey 16/f

So I went to this party on saturday night. It was my ex boyfriend's birthday and the party was at his house. My crush was also at this party. After a few hours everyone was pretty drunk except me and my crush. Everyone kept telling us to hook up and someone even gave us a condom. We thought they were being idiots so we just stayed in the bedroom and talked for a while. Anyways, my friend and I ended up staying over and my crush went home. So at like 3 everyone was deciding where they were going to sleep. I ended up next to my ex on his bed. We shared a pillow and were lying pretty close. He put his hands on my legs and side and we just talked. I fell asleep and whenever I woke up his hands were still there. I wasn't stopping him and I kinda liked it but I don't like him. So now I feel like I've betrayed my crush by "sleeping" with my ex and being so close with him when I wasn't close with him at all. Why do I feel this way? and how do I make it stop?
Thanks

Hi,

I think you feel this way because you like this guy a lot. I don't think you sleeping with your ex boyfriend was doing anything wrong. And you didn't betray your crush because you're not even dating. Don't worry about it.

Q: if a guy asks if you masturbate, will he think its like "hot" if you say you do. i do, but like i dont want to say so if its like a turn off lol. idk. this is a weird question but its anonymous. do i answer yes or no ?

Bonjour!,

Don't answer at all. Is this someone you have been seriously dating? If not than it's odd that he's even asking. If this is someone you haven't known for very long and/or don't know very well then you don't need to tell him a thing. This guy sounds like a perv! Trust me, I've had boys ask me what color underwear I was wearing during class! sounds like this guy is cut from the same mold of the guy I knew. (He was an UBER perv) Don't tell him anything. Who cares if HE thinks its hot. any guy just randomly asking this question is up to no good.

Q: okay, heres the story. i was going out with this guy for well over a year, he didnt put any effort into seeing me though and he hardly talked. he would be rude to me and treat me like shit. when we were together we'd have the best time though. a few days ago i told him i just wanted to stay friends with him. we both cried a little but he didnt say anything. nothing at all. when i asked what he thought he'd just say 'nothing really' or 'just wondering why you're crying'. the other day i spoke to his friend, he said 'i heard you and sam broke up' when i asked how sam was doing his friend replied with 'yeah he seems good, he says its better you are friends'. i want to know why sam cant tell me that though. he just says he doesnt really know. if he likes it better just as friends why wont he tell me! its driving me insane not knowing what he wants or thinks :( i talked to him again today, he was a bit rude to me. its like he suddenly doesnt give a fuck about me, i know i dumped him but if he's got a problem with just being friends why cant he say? i just need some ideas of what people think is going on.

Hi,

I hate to say this but I think that the better question is? Why are you concerned with a guy who you admit treats you horribly. Why do you care now, if he still doesn't care about you now that you're friends. This guy needs to be eradicated from your thoughts. Move on, don't give him the satisfaction of wasting your time wondering about it. Any guy who's playing mind games isn't worth trying to figure out.

Q: So, I'm about to sound completely messed up. So i need some help on this hah. Alright, so there's this guy Josh. He treats me like crap sometimes, he doesn't even care, but I've NEVER EVER liked someone SO MUCH as him. I'm like...addicted to this guy. I can't even explain. but all he really cares about is sex, and we aren't even dating. I bet he talks to other girls and blah but i like him a lot..and theres this other guy alex who is nice but one of those feminine guys? Who are really sentitive..but I have a feeling hes gonna ask me out tomorrow. And I don't want to get into that but he'd treat me better. AND THEN there was this guy DRAKE that I was talking to earlier this summer, we hung out and got really close, but now he doens't even talk to me or respond to my textes? And there's no way he could have found out about Josh. I really don't know. Should I stick in the single life and keep juggling this around? Or...? This is so fucked up ahhahaha its killllin me.

Hiya,

Honestly this first guy sounds like a complete mess. I know exactly what you mean about being addicted. I've had that problem too, not being able to walk away from a guy that was a walking disaster. I suggest putting space in between you both. I wouldn't want to be anywhere near an oversexed jerk like him he's trouble. This second guy doesn't sound bad but from the way you describe him you can go without him. Don't lead this guy on. You know you don't like him very much, don't waste your time. This third guy sounds like a real pill, any guy who can't even respond to a text is not worth it. All of these guys are passable. Keep playing the field, the right guy will happen along sooner or later.

Q: 15/f

okay, so im 15 years old and going into my sophomore year of high school. i have never had a boyfriend nor have i ever been kissed. (i know lame) the reason is i dont understand why. i am not bragging when i say this, but people have told me that i am a very attractive girl even model pretty. i am not heavy either. i guess you could say i am shy. i am not slutty like most girls and i have goals. i really dont understand why i cant get a boyfriend or even a boy to kiss me. i guess im picky i dont know? but every boy i seem to like never likes me back

Hi,

I don't think this is such a big deal. If you think about the type of guys who inhabit schools you should be grateful you haven't been asked out. A lot of them waste their time on the slutty girls. I'm sure that the right guy will come along soon don't rush it and don't feel emberrased that you didn't settle.

Q: Ok... I basically just led some guy on... I met him on myspace and he added me because he was just adding random people and I live in the same town as him. Well I always talk to everyone who adds me... I don't like adding people as friends until I at least have one conversation with them. So we started talking and all and he was nice and then we were texting. Today is saturday and we've only been texting since about tuesday. Apparently I'm his girlfriend now :/ I'm sooo confused because I told him I didn't want him to call me his girlfriend yet because I had only agreed to go on ONE date just to MEET him. I told him I'd just gotten out of a bad relationship and everything and he said he understood and would wait and stuff. Then he started being really sweet and he put up on his myspace how I make him happy and stuff :/ I didn't want to seem mean so I did the same. Yeah I know, I'm stupid to have done that... So now, after the "date" which was TERRIBLE because I'm really shy and so was he, he thinks we're boyfriend and girlfriend??? :/ I mean... I didn't tell him the date was terrible... I actually told him it was amazing -_- he asked me to my face how it went for me and I panicked... so yeah I've basically led this poor guy on and I DON'T WANT TO DATE HIM. I'm pretty much avoiding him right now. He doesn't go to my school so the only way I'd ever see him is if him and I planned a date or something... but I just really don't like being supposedly taken :/ I hate getting boyfriends because I seriously suck at committing... please help me :( I know I should have just told him the truth and not encouraging him by returning his sweetness... but I just really don't want to date anyone right now :/ plus he's like 17 which is about 3 years older then me because I JUST turned 15 about a week ago. I feel really bad :( help please?

Hi,

Okay so everything got out of hand. There is nothing you can do about that now. The only thing that you can do is to let him down now before he gets anymore emotionally attached. It might hurt him but think how better off you both will be afterward. Just tell him kindly, " I like you alot you're a great guy, I think you're a great friend and I just want to keep it that way" Hopefully this will leave him will minimal scars.

Q: So my boyfriend of six months and I got into a bit of an arguement yesterday. Basically, things have been weird for a month (don't talk as much, he doesn't seem as interested), and I've been really blah for the past few days. I flat out asked him if he was still as interested, and he said "Idk. Not really." (This was all over text because we couldn't hang out or anything).

After having to baby the information out of him, he basically said he's felt that way for a month, because I always seem pessimistic, and he's just not as interested. Plus I get annoyed whenever he mentions games. (Hah, which I can admit, I did, because he played them so much we didn't even talk much). I kept asking him what it meant for us now, and what I can do to fix it, and all he did was say stuff like "idk". So obviously, I was very upset. I kept telling him about how I didn't wnat to lose him and stuff, and then this morning, I didn't even talk to him. (In my defense, I had to study for mid-terms, but I also didn't relaly want to talk and make him more angry).

So, today after I finished my second midterm and was getting ready to go to my bus, he was standing outside of my class with my other friend. So they were joking around about stuff as we were all walking, so I started joking too, and then once we got outside, he grabbed my hand. Once we got to the bus, he kissed me, said he loved me, and said "Sorry for last night".

Obviously, I'm hesitant, but I'm happy. I know, it's stupid, and I should try to fix the problem, but at this point I just want to pretend everything's okay. So, yesterday he kind of made a good point in saying that we text too much, so when we're together it's not as special. First, would ya'll agree with this? Also, what are some things I can do in person (Primairily at school) to help us both have some fun?

Mehh.

Hiya,

I agree with the fact that technology,(texting, emails, im) can cause a serious relationship problem. Texting is an easy way to keep in touch. But it's not as personal. I think you guys should lighten up on it so like he said you'll both be more inclined to spend time together.

I don't know about school primarily because your teachers are around but after you could go on a picnic, find a band or movie that's playing in the local park. Find a carnaval, or just spend time around him watching movies or(I no you said you don't like this ) but watching him play video games or him doing something that you like. You could also take a class together, like pottery. Bake recipes, or have a football game with a group of friends at your school after hours. You could make it a couples games or guys against girls.

Even if you don't like watching him play games, and he doesn't like something that want to do. Do it anyways. It's not necessarily about always doing things you want but trying to gain a togetherness that technology can sometimes cut into.

Q: Me and this guy really liked each other and we had a great time going out and he stated many times that he wanted me to be his girlfriend. He is nt that rich whereas I am a princess. Well on his birthday I finally tell him that I like him and I want him t be my man, but then he says "No". Coz he thinks I'm really rich and he's a nobody.And that he and I can never be together. He says its ok if we're "Just Friends" I tried to reason with him and convince him that its ok but he's just stuck on it and he just doesn't want me. He seems to be normal about it but I'm still in the hope that he will say yes. How can I tell him that its okay? And if you think its not going to work how do i move on?

Hi,

All I think that you can do is try to convince him that money doesn't matter. You should also tell him that money isn't a good reason not to be with something. Let him know that you're dissapointed with the way he's being so shallow. And that money isn't everything. Also try and get to the reason that it bothers him so much. Also ask him why being friends with a rich person is so much different than being the boyfriend of someone who is rich. Also ask him why, he first wanted to go out with you but doesn't now.

If this doesn't help just step back. And let it go. I know it's going to be hard but just try putting other things on your mind.

Q: OK...so me and this boy were talking about 7 months but we have only been together for about 2. Anyways it was love at first sight and we're crazy about each other, yesterday he actually got down on one knee and asked me to marry him...i love him and my answer is yes but i think we're too young for that.I'm 17 and hes 19 any advice is helpful.

Hey,

I think it's great that you both love each other and want to get married. But you're right, You're too young. Even if age wasn't a factor. How would you be able to support yourself? If you both have living arrangements then it won't be a problem. But college might be hard to do if you're trying to juggle a marriage too. I think you should both just plan a date in the future of when you're going to get married. You can both wear promise rings,(rings that promise you're going to get married one day) until that time comes.

Q: I really like this guy and I know he will probably never like me! What is there to like? I'm so ugly, I'm not as pretty as everyone else. I feel so hideous! I have unwanted hair, like on my upper lip, hands and legs, and I am a girl! How do I make myself feel pretty? I'm not even allowed to shave!

Hi there,

First, I know how you feel we all go through a phase in our lives where we feel ugly. You're not alone. Second, I'm not sure how old you are but I think you should If you're not allowed talk to your parents about how you feel. Maybe tell them that you're feeling so unattractive and ask them to loosen up a bit on the rules. If you're allowed to pluck your eyebrows do that. I'm not sure if you mean you're only not allowed to shave your legs or your entire body but if they let you ask them about waking your facial hair. Also try a wardrobe upgrade, find pieces that you can mix and match, if you don't know what kind of look there's always good ideas for girls in seventeen magazine. Also try wearing a little make up. It doesn't have to be much, just a little eyeliner and some mascara and lip gloss, and if your parents let you try some foundation and eyeliner. If you're not to familiar with applying it. You can look on youtube for videos of girls applying techniques. I know there are tons out there. Also don't forget to accent your wardrobe with a cute piece of jewelry. Again there are some great ideas in seventeen. And while the ones they show in the mag might be a little expensive you can see what you like and try to find the same type at a store with more bargains.

Most Importantly the only way to feel beautiful is to believe that you're beautiful. No matter how many new outfits you get you have to believe that you're beautiful. If I guy doesn't like you because you don't shave that's too bad. People should be focused on the inside, but I'm sure that this guy will like you more if you be yourself and show your true personality than if you worry about immaterial things.

Q: Female, 15.
Hi, the school year just started and it's only the 4th day of school. I am a sophmore. And i had this crush on a guy at school since last year. But this year my friend keeps calling him on my cell phone, and he thinks that its me prank calling him. Then just yesterday she shoved me into a door when he was coming out of the class room and made me crash into him!!! Then he got mad. So now he thinks that i am chidish and immature and he is mad at me and i think he might even hate me. Please i need advice on how to fix this!!!!
Thank you in advance!

Hi There,

First of all the first time I ever saw my friends prank call the guy I like, I would snatch my phone away. Don't Let them touch your phone. Second of all, you should seriously tell your friends that the jokes need to end, that you really like this guy and they are not helping. (Say it kindly of course.)

Third of all the next time they push you into him say something like, "Sorry my friends can be a little immature sometimes." Make them seem like the crazy one's not you.

Q: okay SO
i've known this guy since like 4th grade, right? and i've liked him on and off since then, and he says he's liked me on and off since then too.
last year we went out for a while, but i was a sucky girlfriend back then and never was able to go anywhere, so it didnt work out. a week later he got with my friend, which devastated me.
i ignored him for a few months, which was hard because he was still my friend, but it helped me to get over him.
about a month or two ago, he and this girl broke up, we started talking again, and he started confusing me like big time, acting like he liked me and saying he liked me, and his ex said he liked me & she would be okay with it if we went out, but at the same time he still acted like he liked her. THEN he apparently fell back in love with her and we're all good friends now, but im heartbroken. i thought this would be my 2nd chance, but i lost it.
i guess what i would like to know is, should i wait and see if maybe i could still get my chance with him, or just get over him?
i dont know if the last is possible... but i need to know if im totally insane for wanting him this badly, & if i need to back off since he's with my friend and all.
sorry this was long and confusing but any kind of advice on what i can do is much appreciated.
i'm 14/f, by the way.

Hi,

I think it's about time that you leave it alone. Unless he actually asks you out I think you should head for greener pastures I know it's going to be hard but it's not helping you to keep this up. He is with your friend. It sucks, I know but maybe you'll find someone else if you give yourself the chance. And if there ever comes the opportunity that you might get together one day then go for it. But until thin start living your life.

Q: Okay there is this guy who im reallly like talking to but the thing is one of my friend like him as well bu the thing is that Im the he calls after the football games, and after school, he walks me to class and hang out before periods. well i put his number on my cheek at a football game and well the other gurl that likes him is one of the trainers and im a cheerleader but the thing is that she saw me with his number in my cheeck and she didnt like it. well my point is we have different lunches so when i go to my 4th period class he walks her to the same class i have with her. well it reallly bugs me even through he talks to me more. should i worry about it. should i do anything about it?

Hello,

Is he some kind of player? I mean does he do this with all the girls? If the answer is no then I think you should just ignore it, maybe it's just a a friend of his unless it seems suspicious. But if the answer is yes then I do not think you should ignore it because he's probably just playing you.

Q: This might be kinda long..

I have been with my boyfriend for about a year and ahalf now. hes 28. im having a really diffuclt problem trying to deal with how many people has has slept with. (i was never really attracted to anybody untill him.. so i just dont understand). i realize now i kinda messed up by sleeping with him even though it was my idea and i figured me understandign and working everything out would take time. I really do want to work things out but there are a few problems. one. he does not live in my state, he is just away right now and hes planning to move back permenently, mainly for me and for better jobs. two. all the people he has had sex with, i feel like i have to share him with them. he seems to find anybody attractive even if he doesnt say it to me, he has been with friends, friends that are married, random people, people he found on the internet and "knew" for a while and then would have them come and stay with him for a while. it was like it was a sex party. So i guess my questions are: what can i do to try to understand his past (he doesnt like talking about it hes sorta ashamed.)? Should i just leave him, is this often too big of a problem in a relationship? (should i leave him before he tries to move back partly because of me). He really does not want to leave me. he cries about it everytime i want to talk to him about my problems (in the relationship). i feel bad that i make him cry and gives me more reason to think i should break up. im really sorry if this is too confusing you can ask questions or whatever you need. thanks for any advice in advance.

Hi,

I think that if he's ashamed of his past that's a good sign that obviously means that he wants to move past that and is a different person. I think you should let the past lie. People make mistakes and they grow and change. That's just life. I know if it was my husband I wouldn't even ask who's he's had a history with, it just complicates everything and if I did I'd try to remind myself that it is past unless he's cheating on you I don't think you should break up with him, (unless you just can't take it anymore), he seems to care about you. If it were me I'd try to make it work.

Q: So my best friend hooked up with this guy over half a year ago.. lets call him Sam. They never actually went out and the hookup was a one or two time thing.
And shes had like 2 major boyfriends since then.
So when "Sam" asked me to hang out i wouldn't have thought it would be a big deal. Sam had his cell taken up so he called me from his house phone and told me where to meet him and then he left. As i was walking to go meet him i called my best friend just to check things wouldnt be weird.
She got extremely defensive and it was obvious that she was not okay with me meeting up with him. I told her i wasn't going to hang out with him since she sounded weird about it..
So I was going to meet up with him where he told me to just to tell him we couldn't chill. Mind you, we have a pretty obvious attraction to each other and I had been thinking about him a lot lately.. When i told him we couldn't hang out because of what my best friend and him did, he got kinda upset. I apologized and he reached down and kissed me. I was kinda shocked so it took a few seconds til i stopped it. After a little arguing i told him i had to leave and once i started walking away he ran after me and said he was just going to follow me home then even though my mom was home and i'd get in major trouble...
So i decided if he's gonna be this difficult i'll just stay a hang out a while, but one thing lead to another and we made out and he felt me up a little. But i didn't let it get any farther than that. Actually every time he tried to kiss me or pull me close to him i'd try to push him off but it never really worked. I really wanted to be with him and everything but i actually did try to get him off.
I really don't know what to do.
If i tell my best friend about this she'll totally freak out and we probably won't ever be the same.
And im pretty positive he won't tell anyone so it won't get around.
HELP.

Hello,

I hate to say this but I completely disagree with Lilimax is saying. If this guy was just a fling? Why should it matter? This girl rule is completely crazy, why should anyone not be "allowed" to date someone because of some made up lame rule. If it was an ex boyfriend that she really cared about then maybe I would consider stepping back but, I don't think it's fair that you should walk away from someone you like even though it was just a fling. I think your friend is being a little unreasonable. If she's had serious other boyfriends why is she still holding on to this guy, principle? Just because it's part of some "girl Code?" True you should try to see your best friends point of view but here's the real question. "Does she care that you aren't happy because you didn't date this guy?" chances are no. I say go for it. Because personally, I think you're correct this girl rule is out of hand and girls shouldn't use the girl code for every guy they've ever looked at.

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