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My boyfriend is trying to give hints that he wants to take the relationship further, he's asking me how far I would go and what I would do, asking me to send him dirty pictures and if I would have sex. I'm 14 years old! I'm not ready, I'm not comftable with my body and I'm not comftable thinking about it. I want to tell him somehow that I'm not ready to go that far yet but I'm not sure how to tell him, he said he would never force me which I hope he won't...
Anyone got any advice on how I can tell him without it breaking us apart?
Also he wants me to send him a picture of me, a dirty one... I really don't want to, how can I tell him I don't want to do this aswell?
Thankyou x (link)
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You tell him calmly that you aren't comfortable with taking the relationship further. And when you are you will let him know but it's unlikely to be anytime soon. Thats really all you should have to say.With the naughty pictures you are more than entitled to just say no. Really, "no I don't think im going to send you a picture like that". It's as simple as that. You don't need to provide reasons more than that. It's your choice! If he tries to force you into it, then he is not the type of boy you want to be dating. Don't waste your time if he tries to pressure you.
Goodluck!
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18/f
Me and my now ex boyfriend broke up a couple days ago. He hasn't been happy for the past month so as a result, he didn't treat me right.
We were together for about 2 years. I just don't know how to handle it. Every guy I ever dated, I broke up with them. So when he broke up with me and didn't seem to care, I felt really hurt.
I haven't told my dad yet. They were really close and my dad was so supportive of us dating. So I know he'll have a lot of questions that I can't answer. It just meant a lot to me that I had a guy my dad loved.
With my previous break ups I was in school. I could easily move on because I had friends around and things to keep me busy. But I graduated last year and most of my friends moved. The only ones left are the ones that are best friends with my ex.
I'm pretty much being sad at home. I don't have a car and I went to school for a semester last year out of state but I'm currently not in school..and obviously it's summer.
I'm dealing with the break up the wrong way.
I've never learned how to be alone. Throughout my whole high school experience, I always had a guy. I never realized I was one of those girls until I reflected and noticed I spent only two weeks alone between my break ups without talking to a guy at all.
Most people have told me to just go out and have fun. I have one friend who I go to on Sunday nights because that's the day she doesn't work. So that's my friend time.
I spend a lot of time home alone. My dad works and both my mother and my brother are in rehab.
I guess my question is, how do I handle this by myself? What can I do at home to keep me busy?
Thank you so much. (link)
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Ok, it kind of sounds like you don't know how to handle not being the one in control of the situation. The truth of the matter is you can choose how to handle the situation now. Either to your benefit or not. Now there is nothing fun about break ups. Obviously if there is something you can do to try fix the relationship and you both want to then do give that a shot. However, I'd also suggested learning to be happy and alone with yourself. Don't get me wrong, don't become a loner. But knowing the things you like and how to make yourself happy is important. Don't dwell, try hard not to recount memories of you two. Go out. Join some clubs. Its sounds silly but keep busy. This you can even do at home, read books, research stuff? Anything that actually has your interest. Then talk to your friends that are there. Talking always help.
I hope you feel better!
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Alright well about 5 months ago my ex boyfriend who was my boyfriend at the time cheated on me. We had been together on and off for two years, but for distance reasons. He left me for the girl he cheated on me with and I was hurt really bad. Well things didn't work out with the two and they split. He came running back. The only problem is I moved to another state right afterwards. I couldn't stand living there and being around that, I knew it wouldn't go for a good recovery. He wants me to move back and move in with him. The problem is I've met this guy here and I really like him. He treats me really good and he really likes me. I've been lying to my ex and tellin him that I haven't been seeing anyone because I don't know what to do. I love my ex more than anything but I'm scared to make such a big move and then he treat me bad again. Because he wasn't all together the best boyfriend in the first place. He had asked me at one point if I had slept with anyone else and I told him yes and he freaked and started crying and everything. I just don't know what to do because I don't want to let him go but I don't want to let this new guy go either. And hurting either of them is going to hurt me. I'm tired of lying to my ex. Any suggestions as how to handle this situation? (link)
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He left you for the girl he cheated on you with and then when it didn't work out he came back to you... You shouldn't settle for that. In actual fact no one should be treated like that. And you have this new guy you really like and treats you well. So if you leave this new guy and new life you've started by going back to your ex and your old life will it be worth it? Will it be different? Can you guarantee he won't cheat on you again?
I would first off tell my ex the truth and see his reaction. And then I would really consider if your ex is worth it? And if you can actually have something meaningful with this new guy? Talk to someone objective about this- and that really knows you. Like a good friend. Because they will give you the best honest advice.
Good luck!
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My girlfriend just broke up with me and we were both really sad. I'm an 18 year old male and she is 18 as well. she is the first girl i've had sex with. after a few days she told me i have to fight with her and talk to her more and we will get back together. i asked her how i'm doing and she said very good. but she has been really weird lately. she said i can't rush her with these things when i just asked how i'm doing. i love her a lot and she says she loves me too. but it just doesn't seem like she does. i'm getting more sad and more sad everyday and idk what to do. (link)
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This is tough one. She wants to see that you care about her, this is why she wants you to fight with her and talk with her more. I think the way she is going about this though, is a bit silly. I would talk to her about it. At the end of the day you cant do more than just try and show her you care. But if she isn't willing to put in effort as well, it won't work. Sorry. I know that's not the greatest thing to be told.
Talk to her about it all. Tell her you care about her but you also want to know where you stand.
Good luck!
I hope it works out!
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So back in June, i hooked up with this boy my age that i just met that night. He goes to a different school, but we know the same people and had heard of each other before. We were all drinking at this one kid's house, and we were kinda meant to hook up cause everyone else there had someone to hook up with so it just happened. But we talked a lot and hooked up a lot and even a little more, like he gave me a hickey. And i'm PRETTY sure he asked for my number, but I don't completely remember. We were talking about hanging out and stuff, and he acted like he really liked me that night. The only issue is, he never talked to me again. It really hurt me for some reason, because I have this problem that whenever i hook up with someone I become attached to them for a little. But when I tell my friends that I'm upset he never texted me or said anything to me and we never hung out, they just say 'who cares, it's just a random hookup'. Like no one thinks its a big deal to hook up with someone and never talk to them again, but personally I hate that. It's the worst feeling ever. He sseemed like such a nice and mature guy and everyone said he was, but I just don't get what I did wrong. I was thinking into it a lot, and I was thinking maybe I gave him the wrong idea because he was trying to do more with me and i told him I didn't want too and he was like 'sorry, sorry'. and then we just went to sleep. And then i got up to go to the bathroom and instead of laying back down with him i layed on a different couch. And my one friend was saying this might have made him feel like I did'nt like him or something, but really I wasn't even thinking about it like it wasn't a big deal at all. And now to make matters worse, he is back with his ex-girlfriend. They were done for about 2 months before I hooked up with him, and the reason I knew it was okay was that my friend hooked up with him the weekend before me. I feel completely used and I just think that he is one of those boys who just wants to get some whenever he can, considering he hooked up with my friend the weekend before when they were drunk, so now i just feel like shit. And i've decided never to hook up with a random person again unless I know they will talk to me after. And he told his ex-girlfriend that he hooked up with me because she wanted to know everyone he had hooked up with since they broke up. Now i just feel like one of those girls who hook up with people's ex's as a rebound, and i NEVER wanted to be that girl. I"m the type of girl who's all about playing hard to get and not being needy to boys and being independant. I mean i don't really feel that way, but I try my hardest to act that way in front of guys. So something like this has never happened to me and idk what to do. I can't stop thinking about it even though i should of forgotten about him a WHILE ago, because he obviously never thought about me again. the thing that pisses me off SO much is that i'm the type of girl who is not easy at all, and guys know that. I've worked so hard on making that my image and living up too it, because for some reason my worst fear is being 'easy' or a 'slut'. so, i play hard to get , sometimes i even come off as a bitchy to guys, because i am so afraid of being used or getting attached. And i don't get it, it's like this guy for example, his girlfriend is SUCH whore, she is the biggest slut i've ever met literally and i'm NOT just saying that, i mean she probably has diseases. and i am not at ALL, guys know that if they want ANYTHING physically from me they have to actually like me, except this night was an exception.i KNEW it was a bad idea to let my guard down for once. but of course, all i would do is make out with him because i would never do anything more with a random guy.. (link)
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Ok... So I'm not exactly sure what you are wanting advice on. But here's what I think. I think you should laugh this off. Now before you think I'm crazy just here me out... I'm sorry to say it but it was a random hook up. This guy got with your one friend the weekend before you and then with you the next weekend. He was looking for a good time. Stop beating yourself up for this. Most people have done the random hook up thing and really it comes down to exactly that and the way to not feel used, hurt etc... Is to laugh it off. It happened. You were at a party. Drinking. Its kinda what happens.
No one is going to see you as a 'slut' or 'easy'.Most people aren't even in the position to judge.
His back with his ex. So move on from this. Don't beat yourself up for this so much. Just learn from it. Lift your head up, don't worry about being judged, laugh it off (as hard as that is), don't dwell on it anymore and go move on and have some fun with your friends and some other guys- who you may end up dating. (I'm not saying get with those other guys! :)) Its his loss. :)
Goodluck!
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this is a VERY long story, but im gonna try to lay this out as short as possible and please, im desperate here, you have NO clue what i've been through these past few months, and i need all the help i can get..
last year i met a REALLY sensative guy. he was 16, about to be 17, and i was 14.. he was soooo shy, hes VERY insecure. when we first started dating, all he said to me was how i saved him and pulled him out of his misery because he has had no luck with relationships and was treated like shit by girls his whole life. hes not even that cute and popular, and i have a waaay higher social status in my grade/ school then he does in his grade.. but ive been known to have wierd taste and i can look beyond looks and things like that very easily. i think when we first started dating him i was just excited over the fact that he had a car and he was a junior and i was only a freshmen.. but i actually did end up falling in love with him. and he was COMPLETELY in love with me. we lost our virginities to eachother and ill tell you, im smart, and not at all a bit naiive.. i knew this kid loved me. & we did NOT have a sex based relationship whatsoever.. we became eachothers best friends. both of us lost all of our other friends because we were only with eachother 24-7. he called my mom 'mom' and i did the same with his mom.. we were incredibly close.. and sense he was older, i felt so comftorbal and secure with him, and i went to him with all my problems, and he would help me.. ive been suffering from depression for years and me and my mother never had a good relationship, and my father left me, and i was molested as a baby.. but when i was with him, he made me feel so comftorbal. we told eachother EVERYTHING. and i was postive he was there to stay. he promised me forever every single day. we dated for a year. i messed it up, biggest mistake of my entire life.. he started getting very annoying and up my ass. you know when youre in a bad mood and you just want to be left alone? well he would never leave me alone. he'd be like 'its okay babe i love you' bla bla. all mushy, when i just want to be mad!. i tried talking to him about this many times and all he could say was im sorry i just love you soooo much i cant help it.. all my friends called him whipped cream and everything.. it was BAD. but anyways, one night i was out with my friends the day before a cheer competition, and my ex was there.. and somewhere along the lines, we kissed.. my boyfriends friend was there and told him that if i didnt tell him, he was going to.. i knew he wasnt going to break up with me or anything.. so i told him.. but the thing is.. i think i was looking for a fight with him because our relationship was so boring. when i told him, it pissed me off how he was crying instead of being mad, yelling at me. so i started saying things to make him mad.. i said TERRIBLE things. like i was gonna keep cheating on him because he basically lets me, and how i know i take advantage of him because he trusts me so much but i shouldnt.. and he was like well maybe i have to break up with you then.. and he was like i really dont want to. and i was like fine just do it idont care! yelling at him and stuff.. and then he did. i was thinking we would get back together in a couple weeks.. so after we broke up, we still talked because we obv. still loved eachother and everything. we acted like we were going out, and we even 'hooked up' a few times.. but when he asked me back out, i kept saying no, i wasnt ready.. because the relationship was SOOO akward after we broke up.. he was acting so different. and i knew why. it was because i broke his heart. and i did, bad. so one day after we hooked up, my friend told me that her brother saw my 'boyfriend, x-boyfriend, whatever u wanna call him' at a store.. and he was saying how he was done with me and he was trying to get with this new girl 'leesh'.. i was FURIOUS. i called him up screaming at him asking for all my stuff back and it was over for good and everything. but really, i wanted an appology from him, not my stuff back. btw, i was very remorsful for cheating on him and saying what i said to him, i mustve appologized a million times.. but he didnt say anything, he justgave me all my stuff back and acted like it was nothing.. and then i kept trying to get him back, but he kept rejecting me. i was litterally down on my knees for this kid. until one day i found out he had a girlfriend. not just some girl.. the girl who dates ALL the boys that i date after me.. but thats a whole nother story.. anyways, i was devistated. i couldnt eat, i couldnt talk, i couldnt sleep, i couldnt go to school,, nothing. all i did was cry and cry and cry and cry. i tried talking to him seeing if we could be friends and stuff, but he hates me now. if i send him one text, he shuts his phone off. he goes all different ways in the halls so i dont have to see him in school, he wont even look my way. he saw me practically drown in my own tears and he didnt even care. i wrote him long long letters, i tried everything i could just to be able to talk to him when i need to, so i wouldnt be so hurt about the situation.. now, i have two weeks left of school and im failing 4 classes.. and im an honors student. i DONT fail. its not me. and im grounded because of it, so i cant even go out and try to forget it. its been sense thhe end of february... and still,all i can think about is killing myself.. people say they are heart broken.. but this gives heart broken a new definition. there is litterally a hole in my chest. and i keep getting maaaassive anxiety attacks in class, and i do go to counceling wich is sort of helpful but we mostly talk about my parents.. three days ago, she broke up with him. and he was very upset from what i heard.. he hasnt tried talking to me or anything but i dont know what to do, i want to talk to him but he'll just ignore me.. i love this kid and care about him with my life. today i thought i was going to DIE. it was the last day of school for the seniors. the last time ill EVER see him again. the last time ill ever get to look for him i the halls so i can walk by him.. that was the only time i ever got to see him, and today was my last day. and when i walked by him for the very last time of my life today, he didnt even look at me. it was so painful. he couldnt even have the heart to say bye to me considering im his first love and helll never see me again. i havent been able to stop crying sense i last saw him. i dont even know what to do with my life any more. someone PLEEEEEASE tell me what to do to get him back. ANNYTHING. I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP. we had such a good relationship till i cheated and we Never ever had one fight. but you dont even understand. this kid wouldnt even look at any other girls, deleted all the girls in his phone book, couldnt go an hour without texting me just saying he loved me, couldnt go a day withouth seeing me, brought me flowers randomly, did EVERYTHING for me. how can you love someone so much and go through everything we've been through together, and then just completely shut them out of your life? (link)
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I read this like three times and each time I read it I had the exact same thought... Now you aren't going to like me for saying this but here goes: You need to move on.Here's the harsh reality, life doesn't stop for a broken heart and you shouldn't stop doing what you do because of it. You are failing 4 classes! You need to get your act together. First loves are hard to get over yours will be especially hard to get over because it ended really badly. You weren't happy in the relationship so you sabotaged it... You guys had problems in that relationship.So what makes you think that if you guys got back together those problems wouldn't be there? Ignoring them makes its worst. And think about it you hurt this guy just to get a reaction out of him. That's not a healthy relationship.
Here's another thing to consider, you are young you should be having fun and chances are you will meet other boys and possibly have amazing relationships with them.
Right now you need to sort yourself out, pull up your marks, have fun with your friends and remember how to live your life before this boy was in the picture. You can do it. And you will be so much happier.
He is moving onto a new part in his life and I think you should too. I think you should sms him and have one last conversation with him for closure. Say your proper goodbyes and tell him how sorry you are. This could even help you guys to become friends.
Right now I don't think you guys are going to be able to get back together.The time is just not right. But I do believe in fate and I think if you guys are meant to be that eventually you will find your way to back to each other.
I know this wasn't what you were looking for but I just thought you should consider it.
I hope you sort everything out!
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I'm met him in detention......
when i walked in the room it was like time moved a little slower, just like the movies.he was so beautiful and i couldn't help but stare. he was wearing black, his favorite color, like he always does.
I felt an immediate connection with him. Every time our eyes met in the dead silence it was like a shock of electricity.
he's a freshman I'm a freshman, but of corse, we have no classes together because thats how REALITY works. so when we got to leave i let it go knowing nothing would ever happen.
All i could do was think about him and wonder. You'd think for people in the same class in the same school we'd see each other. A couple of weeks later... i saw him. he was with my friend lisa and she introduced us. He said, " Hey! remember me? from detention?" of corse i did he asked for m number and later that friday evening he texted me we talked until about 11:00 at night.... then he called me. We talked for 7 hours till 6 in the morning. i didn't get any sleep at all but i never felt more rested. i've never loved any body, until that saturday morning i knew i loved him. we talked about everything but usually when im on the Phone with guy all he talks about is sex and i hate that thats why there short conversations.
He was different and thats what i love about him.
we just texted everyday from then on he asked me to go to the movie of my choice and would pay for it as long a went with him he was happy he said. i was pretty sure he liked me back at that point. the day of the movie he wasn't texting back, i got mad at him ignored him a couple of days, i still didn't see him at school so it was pretty easy. but i gave in he told me that his phone was done and he just coudn't i belived him i didn't we didn't have any other way to contact each other besides cells i didn't think to ask! well then shortly after our little reunion my dad took my phone away so we stopped talking un willingly, and i STILL didn't see him in school so what could i do? about 3 weeks after we stopped talking i see him and he's holding hands with a girl. I couldn't believe it then thats how i would see him with his girlfriend.
WELL, i did see him in school sometimes and he would walk me to class even though his class is on the other side of the school but then i just couldn't talk to him after the movie/cell phone thing it was kinda awkward so i didn't know what to say when he came up to me and i'd be like hi, yea, no, bye.
i accepted he had a girlfriend, i liked him to much to try and take away his happiness. they are still going out to this day.
so here's the messed up part... i told this girl VICKY who does talk to him, not his girlfriend, that i like him before she started liking him and in class she brags about how cute he is and today she brought him in the room and i started crying because thats something i tend to do when i get angry instead of fighting i cry! well its been three months since my dad took my phone away in that time me and him stopped taking in that tim i think he kinda has feelings for think vicky girl and in that time ive never stopped thinking about him and trying to think of ways to talk to him in again.
what can i do to make him like me again to stop this nonsense with that girl vicky and how would i go about trying to talk to him again????
i have his house number now he lost his phone i mean he litterally lost it so i have his house number should i call him or talk to him in person and WHAT SHOULD I SAY??? sorry or how ya been?? what?
i really need your help! actual experiences and actual words would hepl me alot!!!
thanks
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I think you just need to start talking to him again like how you did before all this happened. Flirt a little, maybe. Just see if you guys could possibly go back to how it was when you were going to go to the movies.
If you see him at school, just go up to him and talk to him, act normal and it won't be awkward.
Here's the thing you need to talk to him, just because if nothing happens with you two (and I hope that's not the case) then talking to him will help you get over him. But I mean start off talking to him about school, friends etc... normal stuff and if you see an opportunity ask him what happened with you too.
Phoning him is your choice, i'd just talk to him at school. But its your choice. Either way start talking.
Goodluck!
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Okay, well for Valentines day my boyfriend bought me this really pretty necklace. It wasn't an expensive expensive type, however it was from a jewellers store, not an accessories store so it's worth a bit of money.
Anyway, he's not one to throw around his money. He comes from a very poor working-class family, and he doesn't make a lot of money himself, so for him this was probably a big thing.
I'm gonna guess the necklace was between 30-50 dollars, and that's what I'm really hoping with what I'm about to ask...
He slept over at my house last night. When we went to bed I took the necklace off and put it on my bedside table. In the morning, I went for my phone to check the time and I flipped everything off it. Including the necklace.
I just came home from work and realised that my necklace was part of the stuff that flipped. I found the chain, but the pink pendant/charm thingy (the thing that makes the necklace a necklace) is gone.
There's abosolutely no way to find it. My room is HELLA messy, plus I'm fair sure it dropped into a box full of absolute crap, and even if I took everything out I wouldn't be able to find it, it's so tiny and would fall out once I move around stuff.
So now I'm really nervous about telling him. As I said, that's a big deal to him, and I'm scared he'll react about the sentimental value as well.
I could always not tell him...but I always wore it, and he'd eventually ask why I don't wear it anymore... (link)
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Try looking for it. Seriously, when boys give gifts like that it means a lot to them regardless of if they have the money for it or not. Before you consider telling him anything, go through your room, clean it, or make it more of a mess looking for it. But just try.
Otherwise, I'd suggest telling him that you accidentally knocked it off and you can't find the pendant but you have looked for it. Tell him your really upset because you loved that necklace. ( even if it wasn't your favourite necklace make it seem like it was).
Goodluck!
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im going away for a cheerleading competition next weekend
im leaving my boyfriend home that weekend
hes been telling me he loves me so much but when hes not with me he thinks about doing stupid things
im really scared hes going to. ill be gone from thursday night till tuseday.
what should i do. please help me. (link)
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Stupid things such as? Stupid things like that will get him a arrested, that could possibly cause bodily damage to his body or someone else? Stupid things like getting with another girl?
Anyway, here's the thing you should be able to trust your bf and not be so worried about leaving him alone for a few days. He says he loves you, so that should be enough for him not to do stupid things and for you to be able to trust him and not be so worried.
If its stupid things like getting with another girl, then I think you should actually talk to him about that. Because really if he loves you so much then he shouldn't be having any thoughts of cheating. Sorry if that sounded harsh.
If its stupid things that could cause harm to anything or anyone in anyway, then again I think you should talk to him, tell him how it worries you. Try and help him sort through his issues.
But bottom line it comes down to trust. Can you trust him enough to leave him alone? If you can't you need to talk to him about that and you need to try and work on that.
Goodluck!
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I like this boy and i liked him for a long time so far. And he knows i like him and stuff but thats not the problem. The problem is that now all these other girls are starting to like him and flirting with him, im not saying that they cant becasue we arent going out or anything. BUt you see i was the only girl that liked him that time and i had a good chance of talking to him but i couldnt because i was to afraid, NOw al these other chicks are getting at him and Im afraid that they might get to him before i do and i want to do something about it but im to shyy to. What can i do?? (link)
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Your going to have to put being shy aside and start talking and interacting with this boy. The thing is if the guy sees another girl is interested in him and this said girl talks and flirts with him, his more likely to go for that girl.
I know its hard. But break the situation down. Don't be scared of this guy, just remember he is like any other person. Just be natural with him. Talk to him. Start off conversations about simple topics. If there is chemistry the conversation will just flow.
You have to put being shy aside. As hard as it is! Just start off slow, simple conversation! You can do it!
I hope I helped!
Goodluck!
:)
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He used to like me alot and I kinda did too until he got annoying to me ((asking questions like if he can come to my house which i told him he cant n he keeps bothering me about it)) but when I told him I liked him, few days later he had a girlfriend. I cant believe I lost him just like that because I didnt give him a chance, please help me get him back to me. (link)
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This may sound a bit harsh, but do you really want to be with someone, who when you tell him you like him has a girlfriend a few days later? A guy like that can be problematic. Also you found him annoying and then once he got a girlfriend all of a sudden you want him... kinda makes me believe that the only reason you want him is because he has someone else now.
If you really want him back, then honestly just talk to him. Be honest,tell him you like him and want to give you guys a shot. You'd be surprised at what honesty can do. But just remember there is the risk to this. He may not return the feelings.
Anyway, you are not a loser... and I think you should just move on and find someone else who you really like and who doesn't annoy you.
Goodluck!
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so the first really long term relationship i ever had ended a few months ago. Lasted a year and i finally broke up with the guy, it wasn't a conventional break up though, i said ' i think i need to end this' and he just said 'ok' and nothing else i said 'ok ' back and hung up. last time i talked to him. Then a very very good friend of mine who's been reciting bold declarations of love for me for the past three years finally asked me out and i, of course, said yes. At the beginning it was great, only now whenever he kisses me in a certain way or touches me in a certain way it reminds me of my ex. I might have left over feelings for him but i would never want to be in a relationship with him again, i mean look at how he took me breaking up with him, as if it were nothing. I talked to my friend about it and he said i needed closure some how but i don't know how to get it. I can't talk to my ex because all he'll do is say shit like 'i've always loved you' and try and make me go crazy deciding whether or not i did the right thing by breaking up with him, which i so did. He's not a good guy nd he has a huge ass ego, he cant stand a girl just walking away, he wouldn't help me get closure he'd try to wheel me back in. what do i do? (link)
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Accept that your past relationship is over. Any reminders of your ex get rid of. Make sure you don't compare the current guy you are with to your ex.
But really just try and remove your ex from you life. Accept the relationship you had, accept that there were good times and bad times and just try and leave them in the past where they belong.
The fact that you want closure is closure itself you are ready to put this all behind you, so now just accept that and do it. Easier said than done, i know, but you just have to try!
Concentrate on your new relationship.
Good luck!
:)
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everytime me and my boyfriend go on a date we are really shy at the biggining and we like never talk and its really awkward. what should i do to start a conversation (i'm actually pretty shy around him) (link)
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Start off with small talk like how his day was, and what you have planned for the week and what happened during your day etc. Things like that. Small talk can most of the time help lead into proper conversation.
But you need to become more comfortable around your boy friend. His your boyfriend you should feel comfortable around him. So try work on that.
Goodluck!
:)
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this might sound stupid but ive never kissed a guy and i just got a boyfriend and i dont know where to put my hands when we kiss can anyone help me or give me any kissing tips? thankss (link)
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:) Don't stress! You'll be surprised at how automatic these things come to you. Hands... I generally go for around the neck, its just comfortable.Some girls like placing a hand on the face. But really whatever your comfortable with. You'll see the hands change position all the time.
The best thing here is just relax. Don't over analyze things. These things are oddly automatic. You somehow just know what to do...
And you'll pick it up from what your bf likes. I know I did...
Goodluck!
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so there is this guy, and i told him how i felt about him even though he had a girlfriend and he said i wanna tell you how i feel about you and he did he said he wished we could have gotten to know each other more...
well we would just talk on emails over myspace and thats it until just recently two days ago from today he asked do you wanna hang out with me.....well we never did cuz of the timeing bbut the next day we talked more, ust over emails and he told me that him and his girlfriend just broke up!!!!! but the thing is we never talk about him and her and whats more he told i didnt even bring her up!!!!!
well anyways i asked why they broke up and he said it was because
.....she thought he was cheating on her with ....ME!!!!!!!!
and thats not true!!!!! so i wrote back saying im sorry i should have just left you alone i feel really bad now.....heres the part youve been waiting for......his girlfriend requests me as a friend on myspace and she says.........listen yurr not the reason we broke up things were just going down hill for us so its not yurr fault!!!!!
WTF!!!!!!!!!!! why in the world would he tell me that i was the reason!!!!!!???????
does anyone know why!!!
cuz im pretty sure he likes me or at least has feelings for me so why would he tell me they broke up cause of me??????
help me please!! (link)
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Maybe you should ask him. I have a feeling he did it to maybe put the idea of you and him together. But that would be really silly of him.
Just ask him. Casually just bring up. Thats really the only way you are going to find out.
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Goodluck!
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well i dated this boy a few months ago and he was my first love. He is normally very reserved and never shares anything personal and I was the first person he ever completely opened up to. ever. but we had an absolutely horrible breakup. he and i were best friends. i was his only best friend actually and i was his first love. we are teens and loved each other for a few months before we broke up. we didnt break up because we didnt like each other but because i was moving. but he shattered my heart. i seriously was like sick because of what he did. he wouldnt work things out though because he didnt want to get hurt even more. he felt like he was losing his best friend and the girl he loved. but for me it was the worst betrayal i have ever suffered. he left me in my weakest moment. he even admitted to it but he still wont face what happened. seriously though after we broke up it was as ugly as it gets. the last time i would see him before i moved though he finally admitted to not working things out because it was easy to avoid me and we frenched a couple times. but then once again he backed away afraid of confrontation and we have had little contact and what contact weve had hasnt been very good. my question is will he still remember what he had? do i still have a place in his heart? he always said he would never forget me and i know that he really, deeply loved me. but our breakup was so terrible and at times he acted like he hated me to my face but then i would catch him looking at me or hear he asked my friend about me. im afraid that my freaking out on him (only a couple times) and our terrible breakup and fighting will have caused him to remember me badly but is this true or what? after our breakup he was always angry and easily upset by me and kept trying to push me away but on my last night he held me as i cried on his shoulder and he smiled and looked at me like before. i finally saw the anger leave him and he smiled and said i was incredible and was sweet like the guy i knew before. what do you think happened and do you think he will remember me as his first love or remember the times we fought and brush me away as a bad breakup? please help me. this is so important to me. (link)
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This is such a difficult to give a straight yes or no answer to. But here is what I think.
You don't forget the people you love or loved. You just don't. What generally happens is over time, you feel less attached to the person and then move on. But you never forget them. The chances of him only remembering the bad are highly unlikely. He will remember what you had.
I'm so sorry you lost the person you seem to love so much. It gets easier over time. And no matter how messy the break you two will always have the good memories. You can't switch your memories off.
Hope I helped. :)
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I ended things with my boyfriend because it was just too serous for the time being (both 14).
& its been a month & ive been pretty much fine. But yesterday & today ive noticed how much i miss him. Theres pictures of him all over facebook, his yahoo status was "do you think about me too somtimes?" & i just wanted to IM him like, yeah i do & i miss you! I havent talked to him in a whole month & i miss him. Any help getting him off my mind? Just logging off facebook & yahoo wont help because in the middle of tennis class i just want to call him. I know if i get over this i can get over the relationship but i just need help forgetting about him. In 2 weeks my closest friends are leaving to camp & me & him will mainly be the only ones left in the city (i have other friends that willbe here to hang out with but theyr not my closest you know?) & im worried if i dont have somthing to keep me away i wont be able to.
Thanks so much! (link)
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Its normal to miss him. It really is. Just remind yourself why you ended it in the first place it might help you.
Then you need to keep yourself distracted, it is the best thing to do. Now while your closest friends are still here go out with them as much as you can. Have fun. You need to have fun and when they go away still go out with your other friends even though you aren't so close with them!
Also reading, finding some hobbies and taking part in them is a good way to distract yourself. Also yes not going on face book and yahoo will help a bit! You can live with out them! :)
Its hard now but it will get much easier and its already been a month! :)
Goodluck! Just remember the best way to distract yourself is to have fun!
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hey im 17/F my boyfriend is 20. well i kind of always had this question in my mind. before i started going out with my boyfriend this other girl shes also 17/F was also flirting with him, and so was i. time passed and he picked her. i stoped talking to him because i was mad that he did that to me. not even a month later he broke up with her an started flirting with me again and we started going out. I have always felt like mad inside ive told him why did he pick her but all he says is dat well his aunt had basically hoocked them up and he was basically already going out with her when he was talking to me. That he never really liked her. Do you guys think thats the reasoning or he just liked her better? We have been together for 2 years now and i just cant let that go. YOu guys understand rite? He made me feel like seconds. How do i let this go?? she is his aunts by marriages niece. so i will have to see her forever shes part of the family. (link)
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He stayed with this girl for about a month but he has stayed with you for two years! That should not make you feel like seconds it should reassure you. You do not stay with some one for that long if you don't really like them.
You need to just accept that this girl was his past and that the circumstances then made him go out with her first but he came back to you and has stayed with you. Just let go of the past. Maybe talk to him about it as well. It may help.
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well, this is going to be really long and confusing. so, reader beware, you're in for confusion. here goes:
so, my boyfriend and i have problems like every other couple in this world. but these problems arent about cheating or not calling or ignorance or neglect. these problems are all caused by me. to him, i dont share enough of my thoughts. and thats simply because i dont want to run him off. but thats all over with, because i did.
we were talking on aim earlier and it was getting pretty heated. i told him i didnt mean to hurt him, but i knew i was. i asked him why he was so upset, and he said it was because i dont trust him. but i do! i trust him with my whole heart, but like i said. there are just some things that even he couldnt help with. he said that im giving up my whole life because i bury myself in my head to escape from the outside world. which is sort of what i do? but thats just the jist of it. sometimes, i just escape into thought and dont feel like telling anyone whats really wrong. is that so wrong? apparently to him, it is. and when i said that the outside world doesnt need someone like me, because i simply dont care about people i dont know(i know thats terrible, but thats just my inner feeling). i dont care about the environment(i know thats bad, too. but again. inner feeling), because its going to die, anyways. it was meant to. and when it does, everyone will just start all over. a new beginning. the beginning of the end. all of it. all of this "save the world" nonsense is just putting it off until later, but i honestly dont do anything to help the environment. i also dont care about my health. i smoke and drink when im depressed and i cut and he knows that. well after i told him about all that he called me a sociopath and said i dont care about anyone but myself, which is totally untrue. i care about my sisters and him. and the very few friends that i have. and i dont care about myself at all. God knows how im going to die, and he'll let time do its pleasure and make me die of old age, or make me die of smoking, or whatever. i cant stop what was meant to happen. i dont even know what a sociopath is, but it sounds like a mental illness term or something.
anyways...
we continued on this for a long time, and finally i guess he got fed up. i asked him what i could do to help, because i wanted to. and then he said that i didnt care and that he wasnt the one who needed the help. and then he signed off.
well, after that i just lost everything. my grip on reality. my sanity. all that? its down the drain. hes gone, so now my whole life is gone. i know that pathetic, but i love him. i truly love him and i always will. he was the only one in this whole world that i really, truly loved. this happened at about 3 AM. its not 5 AM and i havent gotten a wink of sleep. i cant sleep. i cant eat. all i can do is think, but barely. i have too many things on my mind right now, and its hard to focus on one little thing at a time.
but thats whats going on on the inside. in the physical world, i apparently ran to my friend's house and knocked on her window. she came outside and me, her, and her friend talked for about 30 minutes while i smoked two of her dad's cigarettes. (considering, im saving mine for when i need them) and while all this is going on, i had an anxiety/panic attack and couldnt stop shaking. its still hard to type right now, considering im still shaking. after i came home, i walked around for a while and ate a banana. now, there is nothing left to do and i cant sleep. i dont know what to do with myself. im scared of getting back on aim, and im scared to even go check my phone to see if he had called or left a message, because i know he didnt. i dont know what im really asking for, here, because i didnt even realize i was typing this until a few seconds ago, but any help or advice would be much appreciated. thanks for reading. (link)
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Ok. You need get some perspective here. You need to see that its not the end of you because you are no longer with this guy. Its natural to go through break ups, its apart of life. You need to understand that and not give up and as over used as this, there are more fish in the sea and you probably will find another guy that you will probably find you can talk to way more and tell him your thoughts.
I'm not saying don't be sad about it of course its normal to be sad about this. I'm just saying that there is a level of sadness that you should be on and you are way above it. I know you really loved this guy but sometimes things just don't work out. I'm sorry.
Also i'm a bit worried on your perspective of life. This whole carefree attitude what happens will happens. Its sometimes more detrimental to a person that actually useful or good. Because smoking is harmful to yourself, it is and coming up with some excuse of what happens will happen is really a bit silly. What happens only happens because you have set that course in action.
Also cutting yourself is not normal,neither is being depressed its something you need to consider sorting out and talking to some one older about, making a school psychologist etc. You might find once you sort this out it may be easier to open up to people.
However there is nothing wrong with not being such a open person as long as keeping your thoughts to you does not put you in a harmful situation. If it is not detrimental to your health.
Your problem here is you need to get perspectives on things. Try and sleep please. Just play some chilled music don't over think and just try and get some sleep. After that try and just get some perspective on things. Talk to your sisters about what happened if they are older.
I can tell you now even though you think this is the worst thing and it hurts like hell you will get through it and it will get better. Just hang in there and take it one day at a time.
I hope I helped!
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How do you have sex? Which hole is the penis supposed to be inserted into? By the way, I'm 13/f and I don't know whether I want to have sex with my boyfriend or not. I really like him, and he won't leave me alone about it. What should I do? (link)
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Ok...
If you have to ask how to have sex i'd certainly say that you are not ready to have sex. Sex is a big deal. Its something extremely intimate and you shouldn't have sex with someone unless you are really certain you won't too. Also the first time you have sex should be special and just remember you can't redo the first time you have sex.
Also this boy friend of yours should not be putting pressure on you like he is. You really need to stop and think about, if this bf is really in this relationship for you or because he thinks you will sleep with him.
Also 13 is also very young to be having sex. If you do decide to have it (which i don't think you should but this is your choice)you should make sure you use protection. Don't let your bf tell you he doesn't want a condom cause its not like the real thing! Condoms help prevent the risk of getting pregnant, getting HIV/Aids or a STD(Sexually transmitted disease).
Here's the thing when you are ready to have sex you will know it. You won't wonder if you should and you will want to share this experience with the person you are in a relationship with. And you won't have to ask how to do it.
It seems the only reason you would do this is for your bf and because he keeps bugging you about it and that is not a good enough reason. Also you liking someone alot is not reason enough.
If you still want to know which 'hole' the penis is inserted into. Message me and I shall explain. But first think about if you really want to have sex.
:)
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