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Hey...Im sabrina.
Im 18, I may be young, but i have been through many things i thought would never in a lifetime happen to me! I try to give the best advice i can, so feel free to ask me anything!
*Bri*

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So my boyfriend and i were the cutest, happiest, most loving couple out there ..then he went on a cruise. now that he's back he doesn't say anymore cute things like "youre beautiful" and it seems he doesn't appreciate me as much. we used to text throughout the entire day, now he's being short and not really holding out well in conversations. this has been going on for like 3 days, idk if it's just some post vacation thing or what. please help!

Honestly he could just want a little space. i know you dont want to hear it, but sometimes its what it takes, dont stop talking to him or anything just dont call or text him as much.
*Bri

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I am 16/f. I feel like every datable guy already has a girlfriend, and I'm the odd one out. Every time I really like somone, they are already dating somone or are "talking" to another girl. Like yesterday I was sitting next to this boy I really kinda like on a bus ride to a feildtrip. He was talking to one of my girlfriends who was sitting in the seat in front of ours, and since she knows I like him she said, "Hey David, when are you going to get a girlfriend?" and he said "Well, I'm working on it." and she said "Oh who is it?" and he wouldn't say, so she said, "Is it one of the other basketball team managers?" (because he is a team manager) and he like blushed and got akward and shook his head yes. So the point of that story is he is not referring to me. (I am not a team manager). It is not like I'm upset about this newfound information, more like frustrated. I mean, I thought I seriously had a chance with this kid, because even though he is really nice and he's cute, he is just not really popular or anything... he is just normal. But even HE is already going for somone else. And really, Im not sad, just frustrated! It is not like I am ugly, mean, or anything, its just that everyone else is alreay paired up! No nice guys are single! And all the single guys I know or even am friends with... well, they are single for a reason. They have just got some trait or another that makes them undatable in my mind. (And please dont say consider them... trust me, I've been there- on instances when I needed a date for a dance or somthing, and I am not doing that again!) Im lonely, and my frinds keep going on group dates and stuff and I am left out. Why are the guys I like always taken? What should I do? I want a boyfriend but they are all taken!

Ok this is going to sound cliche, and you probably dont want too hear it but...Honestly you are still young.
I had the EXACT same feelings when i was your age!!! not lying, and people would tell me this all the time, but i would'nt listen...
just wait and let things just happen. If you go out trying to force something to happen, its not going to. Your only 16, you dont need to focus on finding a boy....honestly you should be out having the time of your life, not focusing on boys.
I was alway the single one in my group to, but i just had fun and just went with the flow...and i have found him!, well he kinda found me, but i was patient and let it happen as it was supposed to and things fell into place right!
You will find him i promise...dont know when it will be but you will!
so just have fun and be patient my dear.
*Bri*

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How can i make my girlfriend feel like the most im portant girl in the world?

Tell her that.
Tell her how much she means to you, girls love it when guys tell them things like this.
just hold her, hold her hand, put your arm around her.
text her out of nowhere something cute.
surprise her with flowers!
things like that...
hope i helped!
*Bri*

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Hi.
I'm Sammantha (17/F) and my best friend is Jason (17/M) We've been bestfriends since preschool (14years) and we've grown really close.
He told my sister he liked me but i don't know if he was just messing around, coz' thats the kind of guy he is but I really like him, more then a friend. But I don't want to weird out our friendship coz' we're so close.

I have been in this situation before!!!!
And when you've been such good friends with someone foe sooo long, they just kinda grow on you ya know.
Hmm, well i think you shold flirt around the subject a little with him, like ask who he has his eye on lately, things like that.
But if your brave enough, i would honestly just ask him what he thinks about you?
I mean you only get one chance why not take it.
I would go for it girl, cause i just let my chance go...and now we hardly even talk.
its was hard for me. but ive found my Mr. right, but thats a whole different story.

It might be wierd for you to ask, but guys dont care and wont get all freaked out or anything.
Its worth a shot, cause who knows he could have been in love with you this whole time but was just scared to bring the subject up to you...
i wish you the BEST of luck!!!!
Please feel free to ask me more
and keep me posted!!!!!!!!
*Bri*

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18 female.
i have somewhat of self-confidence only because every guy i pretty much meet tells me i'm so gorgeous (sorry not to sound conceded) and sometimes i do believe i am pretty, but other days i will just hate the way i look. i'm somewhat outgoing, around people i know pretty well and i do talk around people i just meet but why is it that i feel so shy and feel like i can't be myself around the guy i like? i've known him for about 3 and a half years now, but i just always think about what i'm going to say before i say it because i don't want to say something stupid, i don't act crazy around him because i'm afraid he will think i'm annoying, or just plain weird. i am a fun girl to be around though, but around him i am a sort of different. we flirt, but i just wish he could always see the crazy side of me because he is outgoing, and very funny. he always knows how to make me laugh. he will dance wherever he is, he will sing out of nowhere to a song on the radio, he will do anything to make me smile and i love that. when i'm with my best friends, i'll act stupid, i'll dance crazy and be a complete dork and they all think i'm funny but when i'm around this guy, i can't let myself go. for example, one day in the summer we were at my friends house and he was acting crazy and was like dancing on me, grinding on me and just acting goofy and i just stood there and was like "oh my god haha.." now if it were one of my best girl friends, i would of been dancing with them and all of that but i can't let myself do it with him. i know he should like me for me, but i'm just nervous because i don't want him to think it came out of nowhere you know? i talk really really fast, so alot of times people don't understand me haha and so if i say something he will be like what? and i'll just be like nevermind. and like over text one day he confused me and i was like you're confusing and he was like well you say weird stuff. and i was like ohhhh, okay? what's that suppose to mean you know. i just wish i could be the crazy girl i am when i'm with my friends. i'll admit, i don't know how to dance for anything i've never really dirty danced with a guy before, never really had an actual boyfriend yet all these guys give me attention and i don't understand why. i'm still a virgin, not a slut at all. is there anything that could help me overcome being so low key around this guy, i want him to know the real me.

Ive been like this before!
But Honestly you neeeeed to be like you are when your with your friends! I honestly think he would love it, and would eat it up! He's obviously like that and opened up around you, i really think you should too, guys love it when a girl is confident and outgoing and not shy and timid.
When he's around just dont think about it, just let go and have fun, it will be worth it in the end, and it would make things so much less akward for you!
Hope things go good!
*Bri*

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how do you know if you have come across love and what is it anyways?

It is completely different for eveyone.
Love is such a strong feeling! And honestly only you can know if your in love. Its like having your absolut best friend by your side who you are also physically attracted to. Its feeling safe and secure with your partner. Its the butterflies you get whenever you see them or when they touch you. love is that feeling that you need to see them...and cant get them off your mind!
I recently had this question, and nobody could answer it for me, i just knew. Its such an amazing thing, love. Dont let it slip away...cherish it!
Hope this helped a little.
*Bri*

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Alright.. basically me and my boyfriend have been together over a year, then he moved to florida to go to college, i lived here still in new york.. we tried to be together, he couldnt put forth the effort to even talk to me, and this was us trying to work our a long distance relationship. then we broke up, ididnt talk to him for a few weeks, then a couple weekends in a row i got drunk with his friends that still lived here, and ended up texting him and talking to him on the phone.. so ya, then he ended up getting into two car accidents down there, made me care for him completely, on account last year i lost my best friend.. i dont ever wanna let anyone out of my life i care for. he recently a month ago ended up coming home cause things didnt work for him there, we're together again. My feelings are different.. i think its cause i am really hurt, by him just leaving, the little things he did.. before he left things were basically perfect though. anyways... when ever we dont hang out, i want to fight with him, like iwant to. Even about nothing, its not healthy i know.. we've kinda talked about things..but i think in me, i feel like i fight with him cause the things he did to me, he deserves it, but hes treating me good..

idk really, what should i do?

My best frinend was actually in a similar situation, but her boyfriend did'nt move, he just broke up with her, but a couple months later they went back out, and she had the same feelings!
Its not that he's doing anything wrong you just feel you need to yell at him or fight with him right?
well if you honestly feel things are good and you really have no reasons to fight, then i would try something to get your mind off that feeling. Because my friend did'nt and she would just fight with her ex about nothing at all, and he got sick of it and ended things again, she truly loved him and was sooo hurt. I think you should try and not think about what happened, but try to focus on whats happening now and have fun.
sry if it wasnt much help...
but hope it goes good!!!
*Bri*

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Well i have this friend that i've known for years, he's been with this girl of his for a very long time and even though she completely despises me, is a complete ditz, and couldn't come up with something interest and indepth to talk about to save her life , he's stayed with her, mostly out of the inability to break it off and the fact that he doesn't really care one way or the other since he wouldn't gain anything by leaving. needless to say he;s indifferent and putting just enough effort into it to make sure he still gets a fuck every once in awhile, besides she's too stupid to see through anything like that. He's told me a few times he's in love with me but we always agree its better not to really talk or act on those types of emotions since we're both in relationships. Besides i could never imagine being in a relationship wih him so hasn't a clue what i feel since i never intend to tell him. Well anyway today while i was in class he was playing with my hair, which he usually does, then he rested his hand on my shoulder and started rubbing his thumb across my neck, then he moved his hand and cupped my cheek and i heard him sigh from behind me. I don't really know what to make of this, so can somebody help?

hmmm, akward.
I dont think you should act on those emotions either.
He does'nt sound like a very good guy anyways, plus you have a boyfriend!
I dont think you should completely stop talking to him, but i dont think you should talk to him as much, or maybe attemp talking to his girlfriend, she at least deserves to know what he's doing, even if she is a total B*tch.
*Bri*

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Okay so for the past week i've been dating this guy. We havent hung out yet, weve only been texting, and talking on the phone. But he always sent me texts that were cute and made me smile. Starting this sunday, he was being very distant, and either responded with 2 words, or didnt respond at all, OR took 4 or 5 hours to respond. Hes been doing it for a long time now and i dont know whats up.
do you?

He's just being a guy.
and sucks to hear but he could very well have just lost interest, or just busy.
but you'll never really know unless you talk to him!
i would get together sometime and just talk to him, or call him up or something, but i would'nt text because he could judt get annoyed with texting...
hope it goes good!
*Bri*

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so me and my ex have been on and off for a year.
It's been a pattern he would stop talking to me for 2 weeks (i wouldn't call text or anything!) and then he'd text me non stop begging for me back. I just don't understand he says he loves me but he always leaves me and does the single thing because he loves girls, he loves flirting, he just loves all the attention. He's never cheated on me though he's just sooo honest it hurts which is just as bad. He said he likes it but he LOVES being with me. But this last time was different we lasted with no break ups nor fights for 1 month and 1 week lol sounds pretty sad but i was happy about it. Well now he's back do doing his own thing but I'll know he will be back. . .i juts wanna know why he does this and how can i get over him I'm tired of crying all the time it hurts so bad. At first when he text me to get me back I'm the biggest hardass and i'll blow him off but he keeps on and on begging for me and he says the sweetest stuff and that it will be different. . .and even though i know it won't i cling to that hope and try it again. everytime he thinks he's going to really going to lose me he won't leave me alone. . .someone please help me


-bounded by a player*

I 100% agree with the person below!
I have a friend with a boyfriend like this, and its so sad to watch it happen over and over again!

Its so not healthy and you need someone who will treat you with the respect you need, and not leave to have some fun for a little while then when he decides, come crawling back!
I honestly think you just need to break things off for good. You will be so much happier not wondering when he'll come back, or when he'll leave again...
its ultimately up to you, but truth is, he's a DOUCHE and you dont deserve that!!!
*Bri*

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so the first really long term relationship i ever had ended a few months ago. Lasted a year and i finally broke up with the guy, it wasn't a conventional break up though, i said ' i think i need to end this' and he just said 'ok' and nothing else i said 'ok ' back and hung up. last time i talked to him. Then a very very good friend of mine who's been reciting bold declarations of love for me for the past three years finally asked me out and i, of course, said yes. At the beginning it was great, only now whenever he kisses me in a certain way or touches me in a certain way it reminds me of my ex. I might have left over feelings for him but i would never want to be in a relationship with him again, i mean look at how he took me breaking up with him, as if it were nothing. I talked to my friend about it and he said i needed closure some how but i don't know how to get it. I can't talk to my ex because all he'll do is say shit like 'i've always loved you' and try and make me go crazy deciding whether or not i did the right thing by breaking up with him, which i so did. He's not a good guy nd he has a huge ass ego, he cant stand a girl just walking away, he wouldn't help me get closure he'd try to wheel me back in. what do i do?

That is the hardest thing for some people, getting closure.
Its hard getting over someone for sure, but the best way for me, was to completely cut my ex out of my life.
and honestly just focus on what you have now.
you obviously broke it off for a reason, and have something so much better now.
So just have fun now, and focus on now, and not the past.
hope you get what your looking for!
*Bri*

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17/f
Okay well me and my friend (lets call me "Joe"). Me and joe have been texting just as friends and everything for a couple of days now. I heard at the beginning of the year that he thought i was cute by his ex girlfriend. Anyways, he kept asking me (through text) all kinds of questions about my boyfriend and how long we have been dating, etc. Then after all that i asked him why he wanted to know all that and he said that i should break up with my boyfriend and go out with him. I told him i wouldn't do that but i was really sorry. Then he kept saying "oh, i was just kidding, i forgot to tell u i was just kidding, i don't want you to think i like you or anything." Was he being serious when he told me to break up with my boyfriend and since i turned him down, he is acting like this now? Or is it something else? I'm confused. He won't text me back either. What should i do and what should i think? Thanks!

I think he was serious...

as for what to do, i think you
should jusy think...is he reallly that good of a friend anyways? cause if you guys have only been talking for a couple of days maybe its not worth pursuing, plus you have your boyfriend anyways...but if you do want to stay friends with him, just talk to him in person, its always better that way anyways, cause you can't really hide things...
good luck
*Bri*

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So, my boyfriend has about, 4 or 5 playboy posters in his room. Ya know like the half naked girls? For some reason, it really, really, REALLY, bothers me. I cant really help it. It makes me feel like...im not god enough, so he has to stare at OTHER girls all day long, and fantasize about them and their bodies. Like, he know it bothers me, but idk. i dont think he knows to what extent. What should i do? =/

well my boyfriend
does'nt have posters or anything,
but we'll be watching TV
and he'll comment on like every girl...
whether thier hot, ugly,
fat, ect.
and he'll even do this to
girls he just sees...
it bothered me sooooooooo
much!
He saw that it bugged me,
and he re-assured me
that just because he thinks thier hot does'nt mean ANYTHING.
I just had to trust him, and it does'nt bother me because i know he's with me, and hey, its only looking...

so i think you should just tell him, let him know they bother you...
And just because thier on his wall DOES NOT mean your not good enough, obviously you are if your with him!
so dont think that thier fake models anyways that have so much computer enhancing done lol
:) hope everything works out.
*Bri*

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I am a male, 36 yrs. old. I move into a neighborhood about 5 years ago. My wife and I got friendly with another couple in the neighborhood. A few months went by, going out drinking, restaurants, movies etc., we were hanging out with this couple alot. Anyways one night i was on her couch and myself and Mrs. X were just sitting there. We notice that her husband and my wife were flirting in the kitchen and then they would disappear for a few seconds and come back. the next week end was a New Years party and I was out by a deck fire and Mrs.X came over and sat on my lap and we began to kiss, I told her that i was married and she said it was ok that her and wife decided to wife swap. It seem fun at first and went on for over a year, almost every weekend. My wife decided she had enough, she probably seen the chemistry between myself and Mrs.x, anyways its been almost 4 years now and I am still with Mrs.X only they do not know we still see each other. I fell in love, love like I never felt before. I found my soul mate and she says she found hers. I just cant take the sneeking, lying and fighting anymore. we also have 3 children a piece.This story cannot be told in 2000 characters but i could sure use some advice from someone who is willing to hear the whole story, thanks for your time.

wow.
There's obviously a lot missing.
Im really interested in hearing the
rest and trying my best to give you
any advice at all!!
w/b
*Bri*

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how long do you usually wait in a relationship to bring them home and meet the parents?

I dont think it really matters...
im 17 and my boyfriend is 19
and i brought him home
after like a week...
my parents really like him
so thats a plus, but
pretty much just when your
comfortable with it.
*Bri*

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it's actually really complicated, i'm not a player.. i can promise you that. there's rarely a time where i play people. this is kinda different, i don't know what is going on in my mind.

my best friend and i had a thing before, but apparently we haven't gotten over our 'thing' yet. cause, i still like him.. and he still likes me. so i'm kind of stuck in between my boyfriend and my best friend. the thing is about my boyfriend, he can rarely go out.. and talk on the phone. but we see each other at school at the time, so what worries me is that.. what if every break comes up.. like a 3 week break or month break or something? i can't stand to not see my boyfriend for 2 weeks... because i start loosing feelings from there, hey i can't control my feelings. and most of the time, i hang out with my best friend. and my best friend acts more like a boyfriend than my actual boyfriend does. my actual boyfriend doesn't do much, i'm the person who wears the pants in the relationship... i always call.. but he sometimes never picks up.

the thing is, my best friend is probably thinking that i'm using him for things i'm not getting from my current boyfriend. but i'm not, i know it's not right... but i don't know why i keep doing it. i don't ever let anybody get into my relationships, i don't know why i let him get into my relationship. i feel alot more comfortable with my best friend than i do with my current boyfriend, because i don't know much about my current boyfriend (he's shy). me and my best friend can talk for hours and stuff, but my current boyfriend.. the longest time i talked to him was for 30 minutes, that's because i forced him to stay on the phone. -_____-" i don't know what to do, my best friend wants to talk to me tonight about something... i'm guessing it's bad, so i might have to choose my boyfriend or him. loose one and gain one.

i don't know what to do, help me please! btw, my current boyfriend is super sensitive because his last girlfriend and him had a bad break up, i'm basically his first girlfriend since his last girlfriend used him to get to someone else. and i don't want to hurt any of them..

i don't wanna loose neilsen, but yet.. i don't know.

i still would stay friends with both of them, if i could.... please help! ASAP!

I would honestly talk to your best friend, ask him what he feels.
Becauswe to me it seems like you to still have the connection, and if your comfortable, and can talk and have fun with him...i would'nt want to lose that.
As for your boyfriend it honestly does'nt seem like theres much there.
so you need to ask yourself which would make (you) happy, and dont worry about what other people would think and what not.
:)
*Bri*

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18/f.

alright so i like this guy. i met him at this halloween party. we started dancing together and talking and then later a bunch of us went over to our friends house afterwards just to hang out a little more. he shows up and we were talking and he sits down on a chair and pulls me down and sits me on his lap. we start talking a little more and then we move to the couch so we could talk to eachother better without the chaos of everyone else.

so we continue talking and everything is really good and we are just watching tv and cuddling on the couch. after i leave he turns to my one friend and says how he wished he would of gotten my phone number.

the next day as i'm walking to my classes i pass him and i didn't say anything because i was texting on my phone and didn't realize that i passed him. i get a text from him and he was like "so i'm not even worth a smile or a hi or anything.?" and i said "aw i'm sorry i wasn't paying attention." so we were talking a little more
and then from then on i'd say hey to him and smile
when i passed him and he would text me and be like "thats better." and stuff like that. he also said that we should hang out again sometime and i agreed. the next week i texted him and said we should hang out sometime soon and he said yeah that would be cool. the days go by and we still haven't hung out and haven't talked as much.

i texted him the one day and said "hey how are you?" and he didn't say anything back. then it was my one friends birthday and we were throwing him a party at our friends house and the guy i like was going. so when i get there he wasn't there so i texted him and said "so i heard you were supposed to be at the b-day party tonight, so where are you!? haha" and he didn't say anything back.

so all of his friends kept telling me that they were gonna talk to him and ask him what was up and i didn't want them to because it would make things worse. so my best friend who has a class with him said that she would talk to him. and she did. she told him that i didn't want his friends to be bothering him about me and he said that he wouldn't of been bothered. and then she said that he should text me to hang out sometime because i was interested in him and he said that he would.

well its been a few days and i still haven't gotten anything. i passed him in the cafe the other day he said hey and i said hey back but then nothing after that.

so i'm so confused.. i don't know what to do.
and i don't know what to think. and i just really would like some help!!


oh and for halloween i was dressed as a "skanky inspector" cause it's halloween and you are allowed to dress skanky.. haha
and my friend told me today that the guy i like isn't into "skanky girls" cause she heard him saying that to his one friend
and it makes me wonder if maybe he thinks i'm a slut/skank and thats why nothing is working out anymore...?



sorry that it's sooooo long!!

Hmm...
i would honestly either
stop him in the hallway and talk to him
or call him, cause a lot of people
will get a text when thier busy with something and forget to write back...
so if you think its worht going for, then i say mount up and talk to him yourself...
good luck!!!
:) *Bri*

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well I really like this guy. Last time he told me he liked me a lot too. But the thing is he has a gf and we already went out once. We almost went out like 5 times last year. What should I do? Should i just get over him and move on? Or should I wait?

umm..
i would just move on.
he has a girlfriend...
so i would just hang out and have fun until the next best thing comes and sweeps you off your feet :)
*Bri*

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18/ female [:

okay so please don't judge me or preach me, i would just really appreciate it if you could answer my question!

how do you make it like not awkward when you have a best guy friend and you are going to be friends with benefits. like we plan on messing around this upcoming weekend (nov 8) and i just think it's going to be weird when i first see him. like we've been talking about this for awhile, but i haven't seen him for about a month! so when i first see him i don't know what to say, or do? and i just don't know how we would start messing around. so if i went to his house, or he came to mine, then what? just be like okay, let's go to the bedroom? that sounds kind of silly to me..

any suggestions? and any ways i can make him REALLY want me when he first sees me [; THANKS!

i can totally relate!
well, when this happened to me
i just wore something really sexy, but comfy at the same time lol
i wore a wife beater, with those short hollister shorts, ya...it worked.
cause they wont be able to stop fantasizing whats underneath :)
and just dont make it awkward on your part, give him a huge hug when you first see him...and chill and watch some tv, or a movie...and cuddle some, and hopefully that will lead up to more :)
hope i helped!!!
let me know
*Bri*

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This is a guy I've never really talked to before, but I know through mutual friends. He's really outgoing, that's why I'm hestitant to draw conclusions from this. Yesterday he texted me saying he'd always had my # and didn't know what to do with it... so we talked for about an hour. And he would add stuff like, I'm so glad I texted you! And then today I saw him and he said to his friend- guess who my new best friend is?! *my name*! And then I looked up and he was smiling at me. Later we were sitting near each other but one of my friends was between us, but I didn't have my phone on me, so later when I got it I found out he tried to text me then. He also complimented me... and the biggy is when he and our friend were talking- I wasn't listening- they turned to look at me and so I asked what was going on, and my friend was like, Oh we were just talking about how cute you are! And then he said, Yeah I look at all your facebook photos, and that's why I texted you yesterday, by the way. But he made it sound sarcastic... and then my friend was like, Wait you text her?!? and so basically I don't know what to think of it. Help?

Alright.
i say go for it!
it sounds to me as
he has something going for you...
flrit with him more, and text him
cute things randomely, and see where
that takes you :)
hope everything turns out!!!
*Bri*

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