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Okay, I met a guy some time back and we are school mates. I'm 16, female. We started off as teasing each other from time to time but now we are really good friends. My palms do not go sweaty when I see him, nor does my heart palpitate as fast as a train. Although when he was absent from school I was pretty concerned.

Is this a sign? I hope not. I need to focus on my studies. And I don't get emotional over him.

So, any advice?

I wish i could one hundred percent say, yes or no you don't like this guy, but i can't. Friends get semi-concerned when another friend is gone from school. And since you don't want to get emotional over him, then don't. Just stay friends. Try not to tease each other in any flirty manner. If your heart beats faster and you get all sweaty, then reconsider your feelings. Until then, enjoy having a great friend, no worries. Best of luck! :)

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I'm really obsessed with this girl and i really not sure what to do, i know she doesn't like me but i know i still have hope, shes a friend and once in while we hug but i want to get in a relationship. I know its love cause i think of her all the time, sometimes at night i make up stories of her and me. I even cry sometimes... I'm asking please if you people could help me make her interested in me, i know i cant MAKE her like me, i believe that too, please tell me what girls really like and i also would like to make her interested in me without other people noticing what I'm doing... PLEASE HELP!!!

The best thing to do is take baby steps. Just be friends first, then one day ask if she wants to go get lunch. Get to know her, find out her likes and dislikes. Get her something just because it made you think of her. Girls tend to usually fall for there guy friends because they trust them and can tell them anything. Flowers, gifts just because. I really hope things work out for you, take things slow, be yourself!

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i love to boys one of them is a old friend of mine nd he loves nd cares for me the other one i know goes to my school im attending know he just likes me to get head if u know what i mean i love them both but the second one we went out before but were just know i think sex buddies can you please give me advice i need asstiance.... i am a famale 19 yrs old

Go for the first one for sure! The best thing for a long lasting relationship is for your boyfriend to be like a best friend. Someone you can talk to about almost anything. That cares about you and RESPECTS you. Your heart may be a little confused right now, but you need to lead your heart with your head. Use them both! (if that makes sense)haha. If you already are telling us the second guy isn't exactly prince charming...then you probably deep down know the answer. Take some time, write pros and cons if you need to. Look at yourself down the line with them both. Do whats best for you :)
Best of luck!

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Well I have a weird way to express myself. I will either dance or sing. So my question is: Would it be weird to sing or dance to my crush to express my feelings?? I'm 13 btw and im a girl

I think that is so artistic and cute! I am sure he would love it. It really depends on the guy but make sure you do it in private to make it more special! Or an adorable idea if you are up for it, try writing a song of your own or a poem and give it to him in a note or letter. That way he can cherish it forever :)
Best of luck!

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So I like this guy and I think that he likes me back but I'm 16 and he is 18 about to turn 19. I have never dated an older guy before so I don't know if that is weird or not. We know each other pretty well. I was a freshman and he was a senior last year. He is really cute and nice and I really like him but I don't know if the age difference is weird or not. Is it?

Love is love. The age difference may seem a little odd now, but imagine if you were 20 and he is 22. People now a days make age such a big deal, but it is just a number, and the older a couple gets, the less age matters. If you like him and he likes you, GO FOR IT! :) Best of luck!

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Why do girls use the word Love so much?
Im friends with a bunch of girls and they always use it. Im good friends with them but do they like me or sumthin? Its also really akward becuase i dont use it unless its actuall love,

Well not all girls do this. but i'm a girl and i ONLY say it when i really mean it to the person i'm dating. or girls will say it to their friends. becuz love isnt just for a guy to say to a girl when their dating. love is willing to do anything for someone. so it doesnt nesacarly mean they like you.
so dont feel awkward, i think its great your saving the meaning of love, for when you really mean it...not many people do that anymore.

Kt

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I'm dating this guy and we've been together for about 2 weeks but known eachother for a long time. We had sex and we talk a lot. We've told eachother we loved eachother, but he never calls me anything sweet like baby or etc. Does that mean he doesn't really love me all to much??


SOrry if its long.

well i cant really anwser for 100% accuracy because i dont know this guy. but if you two shared this experiance and said "i love you" i would assume he would mean it. just because a guy doesnt call you baby or babe,etc. doesnt mean he doesnt love, guys are all diffrent and soem dont feel right calling a girl by those names. i wouldnt worry about it. but if you really are, just talk to him and ask him why he never says that...i'm sure he'll anwser with complete honesty...

KT

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13/f

From your guys's/girl's point of view, how do you tell if its really LOVE you feel or just REALLY REALLY Like?

Like, how do I know the difference coz i'm curious.. and curious when and how to say "i love you" and how do I/you know that i MEAN it?

well first of all, your 13...love is a VERY powerful word, its meaning you'd jump in front of a car or a bullet for this person. you think about them all the time and you cant get them out of your head.
you'll know when your REALLY in love...its an amazing feeling, and this feeling only usually is real when the perons you love, loves you back.
the best way to say it is when you 2 are alone somewhere usually quiet and its kinda like in the movies when the 2 of you are lookign into each others eyes and you say it very quietly and in a 'gentle' tone...
but i'm sorry this isnt the exact anwser you wanted but you will really know..when you'll do ANYTHING for this person and you couldnt imagine life with out them...thats love...and you'll know when it happens....probably when your older...

hope i helped
Kt

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so, theres this boy i like a lot and we might even date. but the pronlem is that all the relationships i've been in before weren't that serious, maybe a hug or a kiss sometimes but not much really. and now that im older im kinda worried because i know when your older and in a relashionship you make out or go further, and i've always worrid about that kinda stuff. i really want to do this stuff but im scared ill mess up and embaress myself, help!!!!

breath hun, breath. its ok. your age isnt posted but i assure you theirs nothing to worry about. kissing and such isnt something you practice and get good at. you get good by just doing it. and if u do "mess up" then that guy should understand and like you for you and not how well you kiss and such. if he does then hes not the right guy for you, you deserve better. just make sure when and if you ever do somethings like that, that you do it when your comfortable. if he tries making a move and your not comfortable, then tell him, he should understand, and if not, again hes not the right guy for you. hope i helped, let me know if you need anything else
good luck
~katie~

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I feel like I can't attract guys... I want a boyfriend so badly but I do not want to be the person who asks the guy out. I don't want to be chasing the boys, I want the boys to come to me! But everytime I see I guy i like, I'm friendly, funny and happy. But they either just think of me as a friend or they just think i'm being nice and they forget about me in a little while.

I don't want to flirt or give out any hints. I want to be completely normal(as if I was talking to my best friend.) but how do I get guys to be attracted to me? Or at least think about me when I'm not there.

Like what can I do to make guys notice me more and stand out?

15/f

i wont lie and say i know alot in the "guy department" but sometimes you do have to give little hints and flirt. if you dont then their never gonna know that your intrested as more then a friend. and sometimes it doesnt work out, but thats ok, your only 15, no big rush. but i do agree that you should be yourself, "normal as you said" but without those little hints or fliry ways then the guys wont know that you even want to be more then a friend...so try being yourself but also giving some hints..things may change..
need anymore help let me kno!
~katie~

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i have a boyfriend and we use to talk like all the tyme but now we bearly talk and i still want to go with him but it just doesnt seem right....but i just wish we talked like we used to and everything was solved


wat do u think i should do

Well i use to have this problem alot cuz my ex-boyfriend lives in Ohio, and i live in Michigan. but anyways you should really try talking to him about how your feeling. it may sound cheesy but really...guys can be really weird but i bet if you talk to him things will soon go back to normal. you can always try thinking of what you use to talk about and try talking bout them again.
best of luck!
~Katie~

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okay since you dont know my situation--what does this sound like to you----thinking about day and night, crying over said person, when they like someone else, you still care for them, and sensitive to certain things that remind you of them....does this sound like love, crush, stalker, obsession, or just whatever??? straight up truth no sugar coat please!!

well i'm not you so i cant really give a 100 % true anwser. but it doesnt sound like a stalker, it could be love, but also depending on the situation it could be obsession, it all depends, its really up to you to decide, think about the situation seriously, do you REALLY love this person..this bout what love really is....is this it? or are you caught up in your first real crush? do you like this person TO much, cuz their is such a thing, if so, it might be obsession, think about it seriously..i'm sorry i cant give you a real anwser, but this type of question is complicated..need anything else? let me know...

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I'm 17 and female. I know this probably sounds really stupid, but I was dating this guy for 2 years and then about 9 months ago we broke up. I started dating loads of other guys and everything was ok, but then last night I saw him with his new girlfriend and it destroyed me. I still really love him and I dont know what to do. Do i tell him? Or do I just tell him I'm happy for him. I should have forgotten him by now... Thanks.

i had a simular problem like this...i dated a guy who lived kinda far away for a yr and we broke up and it kinda ruined me becuze i liked him so much. but 2 months later i found a great guy who i'm w/ now and i know i'm happy-er. so you need to realize he is probably moved on. so you should be happy for him even if your not completely. if you tell him how you really feel things might get awkward so i wouldnt risk it. hope i helped...
~minnie mouse~

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hi, can you be in love with two different people at the same time? like for a boy to love two different girls?

unfortunatly yes that is possible....

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how do you get a shy guy to become sexual with you? like are there any moves or hints i can make?

You cant really get a guy to become sexual w/ you. although most girls want that. we cant always get it because 1. the guys not into that kinda stuff 2. or to shy to try
usually i believe guys are to shy and dont know if your into it. try being honest. it might be awkward in person so try a note. and if he doesnt want the same stuff dont freak out..he'll probably change his mind. and even though everyone wants that "sexual feeling" whether its a kiss or way farther you gotta make sure you bf is ok w/ it...just be honest....and straight foward...

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welll, boys have been giving me more attetion i guess and i have no idea how to flirt or talk to them. i dont get nervous, but i just dont have anything to say. like on IM the convo is always the basic, hey. whatsup. nothing, you?. and thats it. what do i talk abouttt and how to i flirt?

ok well flirting is nothing huge....its just basiclly acting really "bubbly" somewhat...once in a while touching his arm...saying stuff like "i'm so dumb" to get him to say " no your not" being yourself. now for the conversation part. this is really hard becuase a lot of people have this problem. i have a bf and i have this problem. you just got to be random. say things on your mind, weather, how school went, parents, friends, ect...if you need any more help i'm here for ya! good luck...

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Well there is this rele cute guy that works at the store near me. I go there almost everyday because my parents always seems to want something.
Ok, so my question is how do i get to know the guy if i have no idea who he is, with all I know he could be some jerkish creep who has a girlfriend.
*my friends say when I am interested in someone I give off a F*** Off look to them* is this weird
14/f

it is a tad weird..but try this....next time you go...focus really hard on giveing a diffrent look.

http://www.romantic-lyrics.com/flirtideas.shtml

try to give a "i know somtin you dont know look"
your gonna need some courage to act apon this.
maybe one day be like "i'm in here so much i feel like i live here" if he responds nicely.be like "hi i'm _______" if he tells you his name maybe be like "here" *give him your number and say "call anytime" it sounds cheesy....but trust me...if you need anything else i'm here for ya
good luck
~Claire Deploy~

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Ms. Deploy, I was wondering if you could help me out for a bit.

If you read my profile, you can see that I am a poet who likes to write about romance, relationships, break-ups, that kind of mushy stuff. But all of it's toward no one.

But anyway, onward towards my question:

How can I use that poetry to... how do I put this... change the mind of a girl I like about wanting a boyfriend? I've been told my poetry is beautiful, I've even put tears to people's eyes. But I've never used it for personal gain before.

What I want is for her to eventually to go out w/me; but she's still not ready for that because her parents don't want her to date, and she's suffered from bad break-ups before, and I don't want to hurt her.

So what I really want to know is should I just plain ol' ask her out? Or romance the day? You know: give her a poem to read, flirt w/her, gaze at the stars w/her, spend time w/her to slowly get her mind set before I ask her out. Or should I even ask her out at all and just spend the day together?

First of all....no matter how beautiful ones poetry is...you cant change somones mind. nor if they want it changed or not. Now i realized that you said her parents dont want her to date. i understand from personal experience that this is not her fault (and understanding also...that it is very hard and complicated to keep such a secret from parents*i've tried that once and i got in major trouble*)now its impossible to MAKe her ready for a bf. if shes had such bad break ups you need to comprehend that she doesnt want to get hurt either...my "motto" is..is that...ppl date for a poetential partner...idk if this girl is the same way.....and if you 2 do date theirs only one way to not hurt her..if she hurts you..or you stay together forever...its hard to avoid hurt cause it comes around alot and it sounds like this girl has had it before....i do believe you should try just spending time w/ her and get not just her mind set but yours too. people these days are so just like dating anyone and everyone...and its really sad. (i've only had 2 real bf's.....and one was someone i truely loved...and ther other was more of a rebound and i felt awful cause i hurt him so badly). even though you care for her....you need to really consider this..do things for the RIGHT reason...THINK what you do before you do it....ACT in a way that wont make either of you uncomfortable. i hope everything ends in a way both pleasing for you and your girl.
if you have ANY more question i'd love to help!

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Okay so my boyfriend says I love you. But we just started going out and I don't know if I love him too. But I don't want to be like I don't love you. But I don't want to keep lying to him. WHAT DO I DOOO!?!?!
13

Your only 13 and if you dont know how you feel right now..you have to tell this guy. dont let him hang- tell him the truth and he'll understand- send a note or email if it helps- just tell him that when he says "i love you" your not sure if you feel 100% like that- and it makes u feel this way-he'll totally understand if he loves you like he says. those are really powerful words and you dont want to waste them on just anyone you dont truely love.
good luck
~Claire Deploy~

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