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I just don't know.
Okay so my boyfriend says I love you. But we just started going out and I don't know if I love him too. But I don't want to be like I don't love you. But I don't want to keep lying to him. WHAT DO I DOOO!?!?!
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Thank you for being sensible! I absolutely despise people who are young (no offense to you or your boyfriend) and say "I love you" after a month of going out.
Kudos to you for not saying it when you don't mean it. Really, you're a smart girl.
And I'd just tell him, "We've been going out for 6 weeks. I really like you, but love is sucha strong word, I'm not comfortable using it yet."
If he really "loves" you, he'll understand.
Good Luck! =]
-Laura. (15-f)
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First of all- I am happy that you are not going to say you love him just becuase he said it. I would tell him that "I really like you, but we are not far enough in the relationship for me to see if I really do love you"
Good luck:]
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Kudos to you for realizing you can't be in love when you first start going out. Not many people on this site seem to realize that.
If you don't feel it, don't say it. If you explain to him that you aren't ready to start throwing around the "l" word yet, I'm sure he'll understand. If he freaks out about it, he really isn't worth your time.
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You can tell him [nicely] that you guys are moving to fast with the love word!
Guys usually just say it because they think thats what us girls like to hear =] They dont usually mean it right away, so i dont think he'll be hurt if you say your not ready to say it yet - and when the time is right to say it you'll both know!
Goodluck!
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Your only 13 and if you dont know how you feel right now..you have to tell this guy. dont let him hang- tell him the truth and he'll understand- send a note or email if it helps- just tell him that when he says "i love you" your not sure if you feel 100% like that- and it makes u feel this way-he'll totally understand if he loves you like he says. those are really powerful words and you dont want to waste them on just anyone you dont truely love.
good luck
~Claire Deploy~
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hey,
wow, i've now learned that its not only in my case, that guys tend to say 'i love you' very quickly.
i honest to god don't know if it's because they develop feelings more quickly, or because they expect something from us, but i know this much:
don't say i love you, if you don't love him. and don't try to force it on yourself. this will end up distorting your view of the real thing, when the day comes where someone you really love, too, says it to yu, and you can say it back.
just, next time he says it, say "sorry i can't say it back.. i dont move as quickly, i guess." i mean, phrase it how you want it, but just apologize, and be truthful. then tell him that you still like him and all, but girls take a long time to be able to say that, because we get very committed. ask if he understands that it's not personal. he should understand completly.
if not, then he's probably trying to press things on you that you dont need to worry about at your age. if he seems to get bad about that, let him know your points, and why it's dumb for him to get mad.
if it hurts his feelings, tha's understandable, but once again, just explain why. it's an understandable, reasonable logic. :)
best of luck, and i hope i've been able to hlep out!
xoxo
kat!
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tell him you aren't ready to say it yet. if he gets mad and breaks up with you over it, he obviously couldn't wait for you to say "i love you" long enough so he wasnt the right one.
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