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Is he too old??
So I like this guy and I think that he likes me back but I'm 16 and he is 18 about to turn 19. I have never dated an older guy before so I don't know if that is weird or not. We know each other pretty well. I was a freshman and he was a senior last year. He is really cute and nice and I really like him but I don't know if the age difference is weird or not. Is it?
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As a parent and grandparent I do not see a big deal here. Yes there is a maturity gap her but as solidadvice4teens advised, bring him over to meet your parents. IF they are okay with you dating him then I say go ahead.
There is a legal hurdle you need to check into for his safety. At 16 you are under the age of consent in just about every state. At his age he is considered an adult which brings in the problem of statutory rape. This charge has nothing to do with sex and everything to do with age and you being under age. Most states have an age differential clause though some states have tightened or eliminate this clause. This clause if active and having a 3 or four year differential would allow for you two to date without violating the law.
This is one area of the law that could ruin him for life and have him registering as a sex offender and predator for life. The fact that your parent may approve does not make for an exclusion. All it takes is one jealous person to say something to the police and they must investigate.
So for his safety talk to a lawyer, the police or a legal aid representative before you two get too involved. I would suggest you have his or your parents do this.
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If I were you I would talk to your parents about it. I know you probably don't want to but if you tell them about this boy and the connection you have and bring him around the house first they'll probably give you heir blessing.
You're 16 and he's 18. That's not that big an age gap or a problem with maturity and ability to handle things. I don't know how the legal system in the U.S. works but can't fathom how he could get in trouble over age when it's 2 years separating you. That's why you talk to parents. They can enlighten you on whether this is acceptable or legal.
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Hi, well think of it like this. You're 16, would you date a guy who is 13? 14? Once you realize that, consider that your maturity level is much different than his . He has 3 more years of life experience than you do. Also, he is an adult, you are a minor. With that being said, he has to be careful about what he says and does to you. Do what you feel is right. Hopefully he is a nice, respectful, gentleman. ,good luck and god bless
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Love is love. The age difference may seem a little odd now, but imagine if you were 20 and he is 22. People now a days make age such a big deal, but it is just a number, and the older a couple gets, the less age matters. If you like him and he likes you, GO FOR IT! :) Best of luck!
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