Hi, Im Callie, and im considered the Go-to-Girl. I might not give perfect advice, But i do try my best. Im really bad at spelling, so please, bare with me threw it. I love to read and write. Poems most of the time. Sometimes songs. I play select soccer and im pretty darn good. I love to laugh and have fun. But belivie it or not, Alot of people consider me emo. And thats mostly because i like black, piercings. But i dont see how that makes me emo. But who cares. I cant say i have a perfect easy life. But i wouldnt trade it for the world. Even tho im good at giveing advice, I need advice. Alot. Because i Question many things that most people wouldnt think twice about. Also i know alot of useless information. And i Still have NO idea how i know it. haha. So if you need advice, Ill try my hardest to give you what you need.
Hope i have help, Hope i will help you in some way. And if you have a Question you want to ask, but dont want alot of people to see, You can email me on one of my email accounts. You can email me on Soccer_cheka_11@yahoo.com, or Lost_in_the_music@ymail.com. I check both almost everyday.
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I like this guy, i know i do. But like sometimes i sit and think to myselp "why"...I can never answer it. All i get is he makes me feel...and thats it. I dont know i just cant explain it. And i dont know why. All i got is He makes me feel...
I cant debate my feelings, i have so many times there is nothing left. Matter of fact thats how i got "he makes me feel..." So please help me because i dont know. (link)
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I know how you feel. You cant put your finger on it, you you know you like them. They have this kind of vibe that just draws you to them. And if someone asked you why you like them you couldnt tell them. So your question is what do i do. First figure out what makes you feel what you do about him. Is it his vibe, his attitude(sp?), or is it something like you two connect over something. Have you ever tryed talking to him about girlfriends, or if he has one? Because the only way you will find out your "real true feelings" is you explore and try it. And if it doesnt work? Then at least you cant think back and wish you did.
Hope i helped =]
-Callie =]
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i wanna give my boyfriend a hickey but i don't know if he'd be okay with it, i dont wanna ask him thats awkward...so my question is how do i give a hickey and do most guys like it? thankss (link)
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Well if you want to make sure your boyfriend wants one, just one day be like, So what do you think of girls giving guys hickeys. And then, if he says no, just be like ok. and if he says yes, well then i think you know what to do from there.
hope i helped =]
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I'm 24 years old, going on 25 and I've never had a boyfriend, I've been on dates, if you want to call taking me to McDonald's as a date...anyway, everytime I see my friends or even relatives smooching or cuddling with their significant other it puts me down, it's like a slap in the face. I've never even experienced my first kiss yet. Everyone knows how I feel and everytime they say again and again "Don't worry, you're turn will come", I am so fed up with hearing that! Any advice you can give me? (link)
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Put your self out there. Maybe even go onto a Dateing site. I know alot of people have. Or maybe get out more. Go to the movies with just ur girlfriends. Or dancing.
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okay- so every anniversary me and my amazing boyfriend switch who makes the plans..and well this month, it's all on me. any ideas excluding movies/zoo/picnic/dinner? (link)
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You could take a walk in the park and have like a romanic dinner or lunch there. Go the like a local dinner for breakfast. And just spend the whole day together doing simple things. Like going to an Art Musism(sp?) a fun one.
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My bf (18) does the cutest things for me. during school, he filled my locker with a bunch of balloons and chocolate and stuffed animals and confetti and when I opened it, everything came pouring out and a sign popped out that said i love you. Another thing he did was write cute little messages on a million rose petals that led to my front door. I constantly find little love notes in random places whenever he comes over or in my car. one time he wrote all over his body, supposedly to support his sister's soccer game and there was ink alllll over him and then at midnight we rode our tandem 2-seat bike to the lake and we swam and when he got out of the water, everything washed off except for I love you on his abs. He wrote everything but that in washable marker. The first two months we went going out, we climbed into a treehouse in his friends neighborhood and he took out his guitar and sang to me. He does cute things like this all the time and it just makes me feel so special and all i do is cook him food and give him back rubs sometimes. I love him so much and I feel bad like he does so much for me and i can't think of anything creative and cute and I really want to. I really wanna show him I care as much as he shows me. Nothing sexual, either. Any ideas?? (link)
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maybe you could invite him over, just to hang out and have a really romanic dinner there. then follow it by a walk together. but at the dinner, have like i love you written on a piece of cake or brownie in like chocolate. that would be really cute.
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Okay so this guy (Spencer) word got around that I thought he was awesome, and he randomly asked me out over myspace right when school got out. We've gone to dinner and a Gaming zone with his friends over a period of 1 1/2 weeks, and talked lots over myspace. He seems shy, but then again I think his friends pressured him into asking me out. His friends talk to me more than he does >.< and they're all still complete strangers to me.
we had an awkward momment when getting a ride home, it was just me and him alone in the back of a car in the dark. and like... he wouldnt even make eye contact. and truthfully. I wanna kiss him so bad. but Im afraid of what he'll do, and Im extremely shy myself! but does it sound like he's shy? and if he is, what do I do?!
~thanks (link)
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well maybe he is shy. and alot of people would be like, "tell him how you feel..blah blah blah." well i can tell you right now, thats hard to do. So maybe you should try and ease the truth out. just one night be like, are you a shy guy? and if he says yes, then you might need to make the first move. because he may think that you are just going out with him because of what all the rumors said. and if he says no, then ask him why he hasnt really shown any sign that he likes you. also, he may not want you to think hes a fast person, so he wants to make sure hes not coming on too strong. i had the same problem with my boyfriend. i just had my friends text him and tell him how i felt because im a shy girl around guys. maube have then talk to him. but not gang up on him and corner him. just you know, nice and easy.
Hope i help =]
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ok so imn going out with a really great guy but...... last night i found out that he has gotten drunk like 5 times and hes gotten high like 2 times. and im not sure if i need to freak or not, he said he woudnt get high again because he said he likes me alot. and my friend asked him the farthest hes gone with a girl and he wouldnt answer... so should i be worryed. and my friend told him to kiss me( This is my best friend. Who gets in my love life.) well he said ok and then later i asked him about it and he said he wanted to. only problem is that iv only kissed one guy...(i know, loser right? lol) and idk, its kinda scary for me....
please, guys, girls, older people, anyone.
please tell me what i should do..... (link)
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im 13/f and hes 14/m and everyone around here gets drunk, so its not a huge deal
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What do girls like to get as a gift?
(only girls answer!!!!!) (link)
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take her out to dinner, get her roses, or a stuffed animal.
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Okay, do you want to no who i like now?!?!?!? Well, i'll tell you if you promise not to tell no one that i like him, and then you'll stop being mad @ me.
(and if yo uare reading this on her page, i no this chick personally.) (link)
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no.thats not gonna fix everything. you have to stopwith all the stupid hurtful jokes. cause im tired of all this crap. ok.
now tell me who you like.
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why do a lot guys deal with their problems by partying, sleeping with lots of girls and doing drugs? (link)
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well when guys have problems in there life alot of time they just want to forget about them. Partying, sleeping with girls and drugs are there way of dealing. they do those things cause those are things they think they can control.
if u have any other questions, please ask.
hope i hlped =]
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Okay I aready wrote this question, but im giving more infomation, and needing more advice and sorry its so long. So im a freshman in high school, and over the summer i met a Junior that goes to my school. We had a thing over the summer (2007), and well into the school year. We would hang out and hook up and everything seemed great. Before him i was in very serious relationship for about a year 1/2. When i met this other guy he was about the only one who i let myself open up to. Well at homecoming everything changed and he told me he didn't want to fool around anymore and that since we wern't even dating it wasn't like we were breaking up. I got really hurt and cryed all night. After that night me and him never talked, and eventually never talked... ever and would occasionally would see each other in the hallways. Well its been that way for about 3 or 4 months. I eventually became really good friends with his best friend, and he likes me and i kinda like him, but i dont have all the feelings im looking for. He asked me to prom, and we went 2 days ago. Well my "he" was there, and we all danced and everything, i had a lot of fun and we talked a WHOLE lot. We have been texting a lot and he told me that my hair looked good, and we should go shopping, and today a bunch of our friends went to lunch including me and him, and he said that being in the car with me and everyone and how nice it was today that it reminded him of summer and how we all hung out. Last saturday me and a bunch of mine and his friends went and played this game late at night where you have a few people hide, and some drive and the people who are driving look and if you are seen by the people driving you have to get in and help them by looking for the people who are still hiding, well anyways we had like a group of people hiding and all of them got caught except me and him, so we start out hiding and its just me and him, and we are just talking more and more and actually looking at each other, and than he becomes really thoughtful, like when we have to run and hop fenses he askes me if im okay, and he i need help, and he grabs my hands to help me a lot. Well we finally get back to where were all suposta meet, and he follows me around, and when were in the car we take a big corner and he grabed my hand, but i pulled away too fast to see if it was ment like that. Now we text all the time, talk at lunch and are going to play the game this coming saturday.... I dont know really what to say, but i mean it kinda seems like he likes me again, but im not sure. i feel blindsided cause i like him so much that i might not be seeing the signs of how much he does or does not like me. Its complicated. and i REALLY REALLY REALLY need advice. i need someone to tell me the truth cause im nervous and dont want false hope. so if anyone can help me understand this, please help me cause your my last hope.
Thanks :] (link)
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Well it seems as though he liked you, and then he thought he didnt like you. and then when he saw you again and started hanging with you, he liked you again. or it could just be that hes looking for some fun. guys are hard to predict. so if i were u i wouldnt try. he may like you. if it where me, i wouldnt get to hopeful, or anything. because if he broke your heart once, whats going to stop him from a second time.
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This is a bit long, but you have to understand the entire deal...
I was with living with this guy for 4 years. From the very beginning, we had problems getting along. I was in love with him at first, but over time, frustration built up, and my feelings began to die, and I finally built up the courage to tell him how I really felt (after months of what I thought were obvious hints.)
I finally kicked him out of my house a couple months ago, and at first, I said I wish we could be friends again. But, the moment I was nice to him, he assumed we're getting back together. So I started ignoring him. Then the text messages started. So I told him one day, that I wanted him to leave me alone, I had no interest in getting back together with him, and that it was time for him to move on. I just didn't feel the same for him anymore.
But the texts continued, and then the desperate, sad voicemails, then the emails all saying the same thing (I've changed! Give me another chance! I need you! I love you! What did I do wrong?). He's even gotten his sister and her boyfriend to bug me about it! And over the past month or two, he's just dropped by unannounced 4 times, one time coming in the back door when I didn't answer the front door. I thought if I just ignored him he'd go away, but things are just getting worse.
Aside from him calling me 5 times a day, his sister left me a text saying I had to talk to him because she was worried he was going to kill himself. And now, I think he started reading my email! (I've already changed my password) I never told him the name of a guy I was chatting with online, and I never called him a stalker to his face, but he's brought up both of those things in voicemails. Then, today, I got a notification that I requested my password on paypal, when I never did. That may not have been him, but it wouldn't surprise me if it were.
I'm starting to get really irritated, and a little concerned. I don't want to get a restraining order, because I don't think I'm in physical harm, but it's getting bad and I don't know how to deal with this anymore. Please help! (link)
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im sorry about all this. its kinda scary.
well first off. you need to then his sister to but out. this has nothing to do with her. and as for the guy, hes going way overboard. how many people have you told about this whole problem? what are there ideas on it. and if you think hes getting your passwords for everthing, then you need to call the police, because that can be a crime. and if his sister thinks hes going to kill himself, then she needs to get help for him. and if hes reading your emails, then you need to change your password. alot. and also, check your account settings to make sure that everytime u change your password, that he doesnt get an email saying that you did and the new password. and how do you know he wont hurt you? did you think he could be a stalker or that he could be this way? a restraining order does help. you could and maybe should call the police, or tell him that if he doesnt stop, you are going to have to contact the police. because he may be dangerous.
ps. maybe you should also tell the police if u think he may kill himself. cause that may be a sign of a mental illness and it could just be getting worse. and the reason for all this.
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Why do you keep tellin everyone about what me and Brett do at his kitchen table?!?!?!? (link)
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because you are being a real mean person and calling me a hoe and a bitch and a slut and stuff. so maybe you should quit with all the mean comments and then maybe ill leave you and brett slot with thwe kitchen table.
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I'm 15 so i guess I'm not in "love" but I have really strong feelings for this guy whos a bit of a bad boy.
Hes ll months younger than me and the little brother of one of my best friends. I thought he was gross and not worth my time for the past 3 years that I've known him until now because I've gotten to know him. Hes white. I'm black. I have straight As and am about to skip a grade. Hes failed once or twice and is still in the 8th grade [im in the llth].
I'm a virgin and have never touched a drug or drink in my life. He isnt a virgin and used to have a habit of being under the influence. He seems to be quitting and has treated me better than any other guy I've dated or liked and he doesnt try to push anything on me like sex or drugs or anything.
Hes actually looking to me to help him stop. Both of us have strong feelings for each other. Should I be with him or am I wasting my time with this bad boy? (link)
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Well if you think hes worth your time then your not wasteing it. and i know how you feel. Im mixed and i git pretty good grades and im dateing a guy that isnt all that good. but i like him and he likes me and hes yonger. So if you like him and he likes you. Everything else doesnt matter because hes straighing up.
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ill be 15 in a week and im with this guy and im kinda prude. i dont really no how to not be prude like i just feel akward soometimes when he like feels me up and stuff. and his friend asked me today why i went to his house last nite and no one was there and we didnt do n e thing then he called me prude. i feel so akward now. and idk what he ment by doing nothing but we couldnt have sex or n e thing cuz im on my period but he doesnt no that. ahhhhh this suckss. i would appricate some advicee =] (link)
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well first off its not bad to be prude. it just means that you dont want to be doing nasty things like that. Second if you feel akward tell him. because if you keep letting him do it then its giveing him the wrong idea that you might want to do anymore.
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Ok so I do love my girlfriend, I know it will sound weird given the title of my question, but I do love her. She's my best friend and we've been together 15 months, I see her almost everyday and when I don't see her I miss her. We do loads together, we have dinner together almost every evening, go out socialising and have a really good time. However, since my 18th birthday I've found myself more and ore attracted to one of her friends. To be honest I've fancied her since before I even first met my girlfriend and recently we've been spending more time together, hanging out, going to pubs etc. and now we work together. I feel horrible for liking her the way I do. I have a massive thing against cheating in relationships and yet whenever I'm with her I never even think about my girlfriend. My girlfriend have had troubles in the past, she cheated on me and there's always been a worry she could do it again. I know she wouldn't and trust her, but I have an over active imagination. Anyway i'm really starting to like this other girl. She's cute (really hot), she's funny and we get on. She split up from her bf recently and she's talking about getting back with him which kinda pisses me off. Basically I don't know what to do. I love my gf but find that we're starting to grow a litte bit apart and i feel awful for liking another girl. anyone help Thanks. (link)
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well first off what ever you do. dont cheat. but if you like this other girl then maybe you should ask your girlfriend for a brake or a little space. nothing big but you just need time to figure things out. and then you would have time to think things threw without anyone to interupt. it will help alot. because i know its hard and you will feel bad but you will feel worse if something happens between you and this girl.
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I am an 18 yr old girl w/ a bf who i have been dating on & off for about a year now. He asked me back out recently & i really didnt want to say yes but felt obligated to. so we're currently dating. recently, another guy has started to show interest in me. we hung out a few times recently & he actually kissed me. i feel awful because i dont think the guy knows about my bf & i know my bf doesnt know about the guy [they go to different schools] i know i need to make a choice but i dont know what to do... i have more fun with the other guy, but i know my bf is the better 'boyfriend' in the sitatuion. im so stuck! (link)
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Well im younger than you so i bet it would be harder. but i have been where you are. (kinda) but what i can say is go out with the one that makes you feel good. the one that makes you happy. If the other guy makes you happy then thats the one you should go with. because you cant say he isnt the "best boyfriend" because you havent went out with him...yet. sometimes guys treat girls that are friend and Girlfriend differently. if you get what im saying. guys will treat the girlfriend differently. but with your boyfriend, dont go out with him because you feel obilgated. thats not helping anyone. not even him. but really its up to you.
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I'm really sorry this is long but its a kinda long story and i gave an example. Ahh. okay so there is this guy and i really like him a LOT. he is 3 years older than me and is my best friends older brother. they don't get along at all so i talk to each of them without the other knowing. the thing is i really like her bro now. i talk to him on the internet all the time and text him every once in a while but then when it comes to talking to him face to face i'm an idiot. Like tonight i was at this thing for the school. He was there too and there were a lot of people.. i was alone and he was coming over to talk to me but i had no idea what to say. he was with his friends and gave me the nod and then i attempted to talk to him later when i was with my friends too.. but i seriously do not know what to say. i go blank. my cousins always tell him that i have a crush on him but when he asks me about it i say that their lying.. nobody knows that i like him.. i feel like i can't tell anyone. what do i do? (link)
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well first off, r u willing to risk the friendship over something that might not work? second do what u think is right. next time he asks you if you like him just tell him the truth. theres no need to lie about it. no one has to know you like him but him. and for all you know he likes you to. and for the talking thing just forget you like him. try to forget bout the butterflys in your tummy. when you talk to him dont talk about anything that would take alot of thinking or you might not know what to say.
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I really hate reading all of these questions on advicenators, but I'm stuck here, and I have no clue whats going on!
So this guy, my close friends ex, and I have been friends for like a year. Before they went out, him and I would talk online everyday. (we went to different schools, we go to the same school now)
So I sort of like him when we first met, and now I really like him. Problem is, I don't know if he feels the same way.
Now about two months ago, I got really mad at him for being a jerk to one of my friends a few years back. My current friends don't talk to him, and they don't particularly care for him either. Prior to this, he had told me he liked me. But he didn't come out and say it, he would just keep asking me "who i was into". One of my friends actually told him I liked him.
But now him and I talk online a lot, we made up and are close friends again. Heres where I need your help, I can't tell if he likes me still, or not. He says the sweetest things to me, like you're beautiful and you are amazing. He also keeps asking me "who i am into".
I don't want to tell him I like him...but I do.. So I'm stuck here.
Can anyone help? I'm sorry its long and annoying to read these. Thanks
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well to me it sounds like he likes you. because most of the time guys ask what kind of guy your into to see if you say anything that might match them. because its a way of seeing if you like them without coming out and saying it. alot of guys do this when they arent sure of things. so why dont you just tell him you like him.
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Everyone in my french class seems to think my teacher's daughter likes me. Im starting to think so too... One day, a week or so ago, she sat by me in class when she used to sit on the other side of the room, but one day she decided to sit next to ME. Not any one else in the class, cause there was plenty of seats to sit in, but ME.
she is pretty good looking, but im not the greatest looking guy in the world. But i think it would be awkward dating my teachers daughter.. Should i feel this way? if not, then why do i?
Help? (link)
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Well first off, i dont think it matters if its a teachers daughter. because if you like her you like her.and if she likes you then there isnt a problem. second, maybe she does like you but shes not sure if you like her. why dont you talk to her and maybe get to know her before you go and listen to the "he said, she said" because that could also just ruin any chances you have with her now or any other time.
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